Reality makes me dare not lie flat, how to reasonably deal with the anxiety brought by involution?

Hello! Thanks for your question. I'm the panda student from Yixinli, and I'm excited to help you! First, I can feel your anxiety, nervousness, and a little bit of worry about the future. I can feel your mood, and I know it's affecting you every day. You must be very uncomfortable. But don't worry! I'm here to help. Let me answer your question and help you find inner peace again. Return to a state of complete security, full of stability and calm, and feelings of anticipation.

First of all, you're in good company! Most people in real life are in a state of anxiety. Yesterday I read an article called "The more we try, the more anxious we become." Reality doesn't let you lie down, so you will work hard. First of all, praise your hard work! Your hard work must be meaningful. It makes you constantly get better, at least better than in the past. At the same time, it will also bring you anxiety. The more we try, the more anxious we become, because what we want to get is always on the way. So let's sort it out. What brings you anxiety?

Is it money, status, fame, or time management? We often feel anxious about our achievements or results, but there's no need to worry! We can solve this problem by making a few simple changes.

We can adjust our state of mind. Don't you also want to do a lot of things every day? To get the results you want as quickly as possible, we can completely slow down and do a few things every day. You don't have to do too much. Doing three to five things every day is already very good. The more you want to do too much, the more anxious you will be, which not only affects the quality of things, but also your mood when doing things. In this way, you spend every day in torment. But there's a better way!

Have you heard of the amazing concept of flow? It's when we're fully engaged in doing something and it feels incredible! Unfortunately, if you're feeling anxious, you can't feel this way at all. But there is a way to effectively reduce anxiety: by reducing the number of things we do every day. We set an upper limit for ourselves and when we reach it, we rest, sleep well, and eat well. It's also positive and progressive! If we don't even ensure good sleep and meals, our body will not be able to bear it, and it will also affect our efficiency and our state of mind. So the first thing to do is to sleep well, eat regularly, and keep exercising. It can also improve our mood, enhance our efficiency, and allow us to live in a harmonious, comfortable, and relaxed environment. So, set aside some time every day to do nothing, just daydream, relax, and lie down for a while. This is also very helpful and can greatly reduce anxiety. I'll leave you with a mindfulness meditation method. Try it a few times a day. When inhaling, silently chant peace; when exhaling, silently chant relaxation. Try this exercise when you have nothing to do every day. It will definitely help!

At the same time, the feeling of anxiety will be alleviated a little bit by little bit, and it will not disappear all at once. So you need

I've got a few more apps for you! Fan Deng Reading, One Book, One Lesson, and Meditation Planet are all excellent psychology and philosophy apps. If you listen to and study them every day, they'll be really helpful. I wish you a happy life and good mood, and I hope you can return to a peaceful, stable, safe, and relaxed state as soon as possible. The world and I love you!

Hello, my name is Yunshan.

I have seen your question for a few days, and I have hesitated to answer because what you said is not just your feeling. Many people should have the same confusion. This is not just a problem for one person, but for an entire generation. So I am actually very hesitant: Do I have the ability to answer this question? Will my answer help you or more people?

I decided to speak up. I didn't bring theories or long-winded speeches. This isn't an answer, but a glimpse into life I want to share with you.

What is reality? The answer is simple: 1.5 billion people on the planet. The vast majority of them are aiming for so-called career success. They work hard from primary school to work, and even into old age, for the purpose of money, status, and power.

Everyone is draining their energy, whether they realize it or not. Children study and adults work. We are all like machines, and machines that lack maintenance. There is only so much money, status, and power, and if you don't work hard, someone else will take it from you. So you have to work hard even if you don't want to!

You simply can't take care of anything else. Family, hobbies, leisure—they're luxuries. This is reality.

People withdraw because there are too many people and not enough resources. Everyone wants the same thing, so they have to work hard to improve themselves in order to be qualified and able to compete.

We must view introspection in a new light. There is a well-known law of conservation of energy that can be verified in physics experiments. It must be verified in life.

I'll say it: there are 24 hours in a day, 8 hours are spent sleeping, and the rest is spent working, studying, and doing other things. In terms of time allocation, there is nothing but a trade-off: if you are afraid of being kicked out by mainstream social values, you have to spend time on introspection and neglect everything else. But is this really the only way to live? How can we define success?

Or is success in the eyes of others not part of the happiness we seek? Is life ever over?

I've found the way. My teacher was right. When solving problems, we should learn to look at the problem from a different perspective.

You're caught in a dilemma. You want to lie down but you're not willing to. You want to withdraw inwardly but you're anxious. You need to jump out of this problem and think bigger. You can't live on like this. You need to do this task. You need to do this work. You need to live this life. You need to do something.

And what do you want to do? If you really follow your heart, you'll get the result you want.

Is this the result you wanted?

Human beings are just a small particle in the world. These hasty few decades may be meaningful to the whole of history, but what about the entire material world? We have changed it.

Changed the genes? Changed the matter?

Or what?

I often wonder: if we only exist because of an accident, can we turn that accident into a surprise? Of course we can! We can do something to make ourselves happy and be a happy person.

Dear Sir/Madam, I hope my answer proves helpful to you.

Given the considerable pressure you face daily due to your introverted nature and the need to suppress yourself, it is evident that you are a highly positive and motivated individual, determined not to settle for mediocrity.

Please accept this gesture of support and encouragement.

Furthermore, you have identified that this introspection has resulted in the emergence of negative emotions, and you are motivated to address them. I commend you for this insight.

I have some suggestions for your questions that I hope will be helpful.

Firstly, it is important to recognise that internal pressure is a common experience from an early age. From studying to gaining admission to university, it is a constant challenge. However, with resilience and determination, we can achieve our goals and feel a sense of accomplishment. It is a continuous process of exceeding expectations.

Secondly, maintain a positive outlook and strive for continuous improvement on a daily basis.

This is an incremental process. It may not be as immediately apparent as the inner development that occurs from studying, and you may not perceive a notable change in your results. However, by consistently studying daily, you can create a significant gap that will be challenging for others to close.

Third: To achieve a better sense of life value. We constantly learn and improve our self-awareness in the process of self-reflection, equipping us to better handle the relationships around us.

I recommend that you set a challenging but achievable goal and then break it down into smaller, more manageable steps. By making incremental progress daily, you will eventually achieve your goal and reap the rewards.

I wish you all the best for the future, and I extend my best wishes to you all.

Dear host, I must say that your text has had a profound effect on me. I am experiencing a sense of emotional turmoil as a result of reading it.

1. What modifications to my mentality would be most beneficial?

Anxiety is a basic human emotion that stems from the fear of the unknown, such as changes in the social environment, increasing economic pressure, and the restructuring of the national population structure, which require individuals to adapt rapidly.

Anxiety is defined as a feeling of irritation caused by excessive worry. Lying flat seems to be a product of excessive anxiety. Anxiety can lead to mental pain and a low sense of self-efficacy. As a result, lying flat appears. No one or nothing can stir up the slightest ripple in oneself. It reduces people's motivation to do things, their sensitivity to things, and their confidence in being able to succeed at something.

It is therefore important to note that excessive reliance on lying down is not a socially adaptive choice. Rather, it is a product of pathological emotions resulting from excessive anxiety.

Anxiety can arise for a number of reasons, one of which is worthy of particular attention. It can result from a discrepancy between one's own expectations and those of others. Consequently, it is important to recognise that a significant proportion of anxiety is caused by an individual's own elevated expectations of themselves or their anxiety about how they appear to others. This may also be a contributing factor to the current trend of individuals focusing on their own concerns. The over-development of the internet has led to the "three minutes of glory" of anyone being broadcast to a global audience, and unconsciously, individuals compare themselves to others. This gap between individuals and others is evident.

The fear of one's own incompetence, powerlessness, and the fear of being left behind are common human emotions. Despite our individual circumstances, we tend to pursue these fears, which can lead to outcomes that are not necessarily beneficial. In an introverted environment, our bodies and minds may manifest various discomforts, which can then give rise to anxiety, perpetuating a vicious cycle.

Once the origin of anxiety is understood, it is possible to circumvent the subsequent consequences. It is neither feasible nor advisable to simply lie down and do nothing, nor is it productive to become inwardly withdrawn.

(1) Initially, it is recommended to lie down for a period of time to facilitate a sense of calm and clarity. During this period, it is essential to focus on one's internal thoughts and questions, rather than external stimuli. It is crucial to recognize that anxiety is a normal human emotion and should not be feared.

It is imperative to confront anxiety directly and address it in a systematic manner, taking each step in a deliberate and methodical fashion.

(2) Adopt a rational and introverted approach, and pursue positive growth.

Once the experience of lying flat has been undergone, it is then possible to ascertain what is required. At this point, action must be taken. It is important not to simply curl up inside oneself, nor to magnify this act of self-retreat. Instead, it is vital to identify a goal of self-acceptance and to pursue it with determination. This process can serve as a source of motivation, preventing one from succumbing to the anxiety associated with self-rejection.

2. Is there a viable method for alleviating this sense of disunity?

Indeed, when one compares oneself to one's past self, rather than to others, this sense of disunity may also exist, but it is undoubtedly less pronounced than when one compares oneself to the more than six billion people in the world, or the 1.4 billion people in China, which can be distressing.

The optimal time to plant a tree was 10 years ago; the next best time is now. It is imperative to take action. When one is preoccupied with the outcomes of their actions, they have no time to dwell on other concerns.

One should begin by accepting oneself and viewing oneself as the center.

I have no further comments to add, host. I hope you will succeed in finding your true identity.

You are thoughtful, motivated, and self-reflective because you can feel introverted.

I feel your pain. You are fighting against the wind and trying to climb upwards, but you are being held back. Don't look at other people. Think with me about how you have overcome difficulties in the past.

You had a test and didn't have enough time to prepare. You studied for a few days with a stiff neck, and you aced it.

You have a project that is problematic in terms of resources and time, and no one can help you. You accept the challenge, grit your teeth, work a few extra days, research a lot, and finally complete the task well.

You are stronger than you think.

You can do this.

1. Accept the pain.

You can perceive the pain and describe it clearly, which proves you are paying attention to yourself.

You want to get rid of these painful emotions. But you can't. They're part of you, along with your joy and happiness. They're a family of emotions.

You can't just leave the painful emotions behind. They're a part of you, just like your happy ones.

We must accept these anxieties, rejections, and inferiorities, just as we accept happiness.

We can and should embrace ourselves, give ourselves a pat on the shoulder, and tell ourselves, "You've tried your best, and you've done your best."

You have to accept that you are not perfect.

2. Accepting inadequacy

When we see people who are better than us, we often feel a sense of urgency and inferiority in the comparison. We will feel that in whatever aspect, and we need to accept that others can do well and that we can do well too.

The world is unfair. We lack resources, we are not as talented as others, and we don't have luck.

Life is never fair. You don't get back what you put in. We have to accept it, resign ourselves to it, and lower our expectations. We just can't do it that well.

You have done your best, and you have already done right by yourself, even if you have only achieved a little.

You have to accept that you can't do everything.

3. Transform your dislike into like.

You feel torn because you're struggling with your inner demons. You have clear-cut likes and dislikes, so doing something you don't like hurts.

You need to turn your dislike into liking.

Tell me why you started doing this. What reasons did you have for choosing this direction?

Tell me what your aspirations and expectations were when you first entered this field.

Take 30 seconds to think back.

You can find your initial aspirations and rekindle your passion.

If you still can't accept it, take a different path. Don't do something you don't like and be unhappy. Think about what you like and find other opportunities.

Life is about constantly being reborn through change. Don't refuse to step outside your comfort zone. The outside world has infinite possibilities.

All feelings of disunity stem from dissatisfaction with reality. Your heart rejects your current situation.

Find what truly belongs to you and compare it with your heart. This will bring you the comfort and tranquility that truly matches your heart.

Hello, dear questioner!

I am sunshine, and I am so grateful to have met you on Yixinli!

Let's dive into the question the questioner asked for help: "Reality makes me afraid to lie down. How can I reasonably deal with the anxiety caused by introversion?"

Thank the questioner for their self-awareness and realization that they dare not lie down flat! Or is it that once we lie down flat, we cannot complete or account for the "hopeless pressure/burdened expectations/assumed responsibilities" in our real lives, and we are forced to "carry it all"—and that's okay!

Because withdrawing is the perfect way to reassure ourselves about the expectations within our own responsibilities!

Otherwise, if we don't fulfill our mission or don't withdraw inwardly, we'll feel "anxious and restless." But there's a solution! As the questioner has discovered, moderately lowering expectations and maintaining a certain level of anxiety is the perfect way to start making cognitive adjustments.

Let's dive right in and sort out the specific confusion described by the questioner! We're going to understand and analyze it together.

In the general environment of introversion, it is easy to associate one's sense of value with the gap with others. But here's the good news! If one can surpass the other, it can lead to feelings of confidence, self-esteem, and even self-empowerment.

—— The questioner is absolutely right! In the current environment, everyone seems to be forced/driven by the environment to be "withdrawn." Because we live among people, we cannot escape the reality/pressure, and the invisible comparison makes us "lose our true selves."

Once we cannot truly be ourselves and are always forced to move forward while being overdrawn, we will naturally be caught in the "tide of withdrawal." This is the only way to make us feel "at ease." Otherwise, the conflict between reality and our true self will entangle our hearts and feelings such as self-denial, depreciation, low self-esteem, anxiety, and self-paralysis will arise spontaneously.

❓Retreating inwardly is a challenge for me, but I'm learning to embrace it. I'm working on managing my frustration and negative emotions. I'm aware that realistic factors prevent me from lying flat, but I'm excited to find ways to stay active and engaged. I'm learning to let go of the things I don't want to do and focus on the things I do want to do.

Everyone who is forced to withdraw inwardly feels this pain, especially when reality's frustrations/disappointments/negative emotions hit. On the one hand, we don't want to withdraw inwardly/overconsume; on the other hand, we are burdened with reality's "pressure/responsibilities/anxiety...". So, we are always caught in the conflict between reality and our own expectations? At the same time, we are taught not to be idle, but the cruel reality drives us to do things against our will/reluctantly. Over time, we are caught in the conflict between "the self" and "the superego", unable to extricate ourselves and suffering. But, we can change this!

It's in our nature to seek out benefits and avoid harm. We all desire comfort, to lie down, and to not be withdrawn. But here's the exciting part: we can actually coexist with moderate "lying down" and "withdrawal"! All we have to do is make a satisfactory adjustment between the two.

I'm excited to learn how I can adjust my mindset and find a way to relieve this sense of being torn apart!

Let's dive in and explore this together!

In view of the actual situation of the questioner, we can definitely try to deal with it like this: Oh —

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Embrace the current situation, including the internal conflict between "lying flat" and "withdrawing." This is the gateway to changing your cognition and action! You'll then be able to recognize the source of your "anxiety" emotions and learn to manage them like a pro.

[1] We can't change the fact that we retreat into ourselves in a large environment. But we can change our expectations of reality! Let's reduce our "comparative/judgmental mind" a little!

Because everyone is a different individual, it's so important to remember that we don't necessarily have to have what others have. It's enough to just take back what makes us happy!

[2] Embrace your own "responsibility/pressure/withdrawal" within a range you can handle! That means you can moderately lower your goals and expectations. For example, instead of being 100% perfect, it's OK to just be 80% satisfied with yourself. This allows you to embrace your own imperfections!

[3] Cognitively, we understand the conflict between our "withdrawal" and "reality." And that's a great start! Now, let's move on to the next thing we can try to deal with, which is "unity of knowledge and action." First, we must acknowledge the existence of the conflict, and then turn the big conflict into smaller ones, until we can fully withstand it later. In other words, we should set less demanding goals and withdraw less.

[4] We're all human, and nobody's perfect. We all have our own challenges and burdens, but that's what makes life so interesting! When anxiety or pain strikes, it's an opportunity to accept it and see what it's trying to tell us.

Absolutely! We should go slowly and expect less. We should have less pain!

Or...? Absolutely! When we understand that we can "combine work and rest" and that we can reasonably match "withdrawal and lying down," we can make ourselves more comfortable, right?

When we get tired, we seek relaxation; when we get too laid back, we moderate our anxiety. This is the true meaning of the self-game of life!

[5] And there's more! We can also learn to recognize and manage our emotions through reading and learning. Here are some recommended books: "Embrace Imperfection," "Hello, Anxious," "A Thought Away," "Controlling Anxiety," etc. You can also seek help from a professional psychologist to sort things out and find a good solution as soon as possible!

I'm so excited to share my understanding and response to the questioner's question! I truly hope I can bring some positive and helpful inspiration and help to the questioner. I wish the questioner will be a wise person who lies flat moderately in the real environment!

I am sunshine, the world, and I love you! ??

Hello, dear question asker!

After reading your question, I really understand how you're feeling. Let me give you a warm hug first, my friend!

It's so easy to link our sense of value with how we measure up to others in a reclusive environment. When we can't surpass the other person, it can lead to anxiety, self-negation, inferiority, and even self-paralysis. I know how miserable it makes me feel to be reclusive, and it's so hard to deal with the negative emotions that come with setbacks.

It's totally normal to feel this way! Realistic factors make me afraid to lie down, and I don't want to be idle either. But forcing myself to do something I don't want to do will be very tearing. How should I adjust my mentality? Is there any good way to relieve this feeling of tearing?

I can see you're facing a few challenges, and I'm here to help! The problem you're facing is:

1. It's totally normal to feel a bit down when you're on your own and you start to think about how you measure up to others. It's only natural to feel a little bit of negativity when you can't quite match up to someone else.

2. Deep down, you want to be a useful person, but you don't want to force yourself to do things you don't like. I totally get it!

Let's take a moment to analyze the problem together.

It's only natural to compare ourselves to others, but it's not always a good thing. Some people have a better start in life, with better conditions and more support from their parents than most of us. Others have a higher starting point, and when we make comparisons, it can lead to feelings of frustration or inadequacy.

If you don't get what you want, you'll be miserable; if you do, you'll be bored. It's best to focus on the present, be your best self, and be better today than you were yesterday. That's our value, and it's something we can all strive for!

2. You have a strong desire to live an extraordinary life, and you want to avoid doing things you don't want to do. The questioner is rejecting not a specific thing, but the strong feeling of self.

You know, you might as well think of the things you don't want to do as a way to build your character and mental strength. Then, when you get the chance to do the things you like, it'll go more smoothly!

3. The questioner has a lot on their mind, thinks a lot, and is sensitive and vulnerable.

I'm so happy to share the following analysis and solution with you!

(1) Accept yourself, warts and all. Celebrate your past achievements and don't fret about the gap with others.

(2) You've got this! Position yourself correctly, be clear that your efforts are worthwhile, plan your day well, and don't deliberately compare yourself to others.

(3) Try to stop the daily internal conflict with yourself, think less and act more.

(4) Stop comparing yourself to others and focus on your own growth. You've got this! Everyone blooms at a different time. Just because you haven't achieved much now doesn't mean you'll be mediocre in the future.

(5) Try to see the good in things you don't like. You might be surprised at how you can connect with everything, and you already have the potential to become a successful person.

(6) Find a way to release your stress that suits you! You could try running, camping, or escape rooms.

I really hope my answer helps you out! I love you so much, the world and I! ?

Good day to the individual who posed the question. It is a pleasure to make your acquaintance.

"We had aspired to external validation, only to recognize that the world is a subjective construct and that one's sense of self is independent of external influences."

- Yang Jiang

The contemporary era is developing at a rapid pace, with individuals engaged in strenuous work. Some individuals experienced elation upon the release of their postgraduate entrance exam results this year, yet this joy was swiftly replaced by disappointment when the national line was announced. Additionally, there have been instances of Tsinghua and Peking University graduates assuming teaching roles in elementary schools.

The perception is that if one does not work assiduously, one will be overtaken by others. It is assumed that regardless of one's efforts, one cannot keep pace with others and will never attain the pinnacle of success.

One might posit that it is unnecessary to compare oneself to others, but rather, it is more beneficial to compare oneself to one's past self. It is possible to be satisfied with any progress made. Life will continue to be about each individual living their own life, each facing their own unique challenges.

It is a fallacy to assume that all growth is accompanied by confidence and sunshine. One must be prepared to accept failure and to acknowledge that one may not always be the most successful. We are not Guo Ailing, nor are we destitute. We are members of this busy world, and we are also unique.

One must ask oneself why one must endure such suffering.

Inwardness is an inevitable trend, and setbacks are also inevitable. Given the decision to engage in a fight, one should be determined from the outset. To see the light, one must first walk through the darkness. To pick the rose, one must cut through the thorns.

The specific activities that the original poster (OP) is reluctant to engage in remain unclear. It is possible that these activities relate to academic pursuits or professional obligations. When faced with such reluctance, it is common to experience a sense of internal conflict, as if one's entire being is in opposition to the task at hand. In such instances, it may be beneficial to take a step back and reflect on one's initial motivations for undertaking these activities.

What efforts have been made towards this goal, and are the plans feasible? If the conviction exists that the path is indeed the right one and that the goal is being achieved, then perhaps the fatigue is merely a desire for a temporary respite from the competitive environment.

Subsequently, it is recommended that one allows one's mind to be quiet for a while, whether by reading a favorite book or going for a walk.

The arrival of spring should not be accompanied by a sense of wasted opportunity. It is also important to recognise the value of one's own efforts and to treat oneself accordingly.

It is my sincere hope that all goes well for you and that you enjoy a happy life.

Regardless of an individual's level of introversion, their fundamental objectives may remain consistent. Human nature tends to gravitate towards pleasure and repose. Even when confronted with circumstances that instill fear, the subsequent challenges and fluctuations in fortune often lead to a state of repose.

One might inquire as to the rationale behind the exertion of such considerable effort. The answer, it would seem, is to enable oneself to live a good life. Is it not agreeable to repose at home, comfortably situated on the sofa, watching television or checking one's mobile phone? Why, then, rise early and work late, entering data and preparing reports? Why work later than one's superior?

Such an introverted individual may therefore find themselves at odds with their employer, who may be inclined to dismiss them. It is important to recognise that not everyone has to engage in competitive behaviour. Those who wish to embrace an introverted lifestyle can do so without fear of adverse consequences.

If one's sense of value is linked to the perceived gap with others, it is ultimately a comparison with others. However, it is not possible to make a comparison with others, as the genetic makeup of another individual's child is already established at the embryonic stage. From a genetic perspective, these children are already better than everyone else.

One might inquire whether there is a necessity to be introverted or to compare oneself to others. It would be preferable to simply engage in one's own pursuits without exhibiting either arrogance or humility. The labels "introverted" and "laid-back" are merely new terms that society has introduced to redefine everyone's attitude towards work, without fundamentally altering its underlying meaning.

If one is not inclined to be mediocre, it is important to identify one's preferences and aspirations. It is essential to recognize that one's actions should align with one's values and goals. It is crucial to maintain emotional stability, ensure one's basic needs are met, and prioritize the well-being of one's family and friends. While pursuing materialistic desires may offer a transient sense of fulfillment, it is important to recognize that an ordinary life, characterized by stability and contentment, is a more fulfilling alternative.

Please clarify the meaning of ZQ.