Recalling the embarrassing dormitory experience, it's hard to feel sad, but should sadness be accepted?

Hello, classmate. I see you're confused. Hugs!

You're having some interpersonal problems. Give yourself a warm hug.

Your family of origin may have influenced you.

Your parents didn't like it when you cried as a child, so you think crying is wrong.

It's normal to think about bad things or want to cry.

Don't stop crying.

Sometimes crying is good for you.

Talk to your inner child.

Tell your inner child from childhood: "Your parents didn't know it was wrong to stop you from crying."

Tell your inner child you are an adult and can live your life without your parents' influence.

If you have a pillow in the room, use it to represent your inner child.

Then, after talking to your 22-year-old "inner child," you can hug the little child inside you.

If you cry while doing this, let it happen.

You can also ask the university psychologist for help.

If there is no psychology teacher at the university, you can also seek help from a counselor. Just fill out a form and submit a school certificate.

I hope you find a solution soon.

That's all I can think of.

I hope my answers help and inspire you. I am here for you.

Yixinli loves you! Best wishes!

Dear Question Asker,

I am unaware of the temporal proximity of the distressing incident in the dormitory you referenced. However, I inquire as to whether you continue to reside in that dormitory.

It is undoubtedly distressing and disheartening when challenges arise within the dormitory setting. However, it is crucial to acknowledge that these issues have already occurred and to direct our attention towards devising effective strategies for their resolution.

The act of crying in response to distressing circumstances is a rational and conventional method of emotional expression. It serves as a cathartic release of negative emotions, which is crucial for maintaining psychological well-being.

There is no shame in this action.

It is not uncommon for individuals to desire privacy when experiencing distress. There is no inherent problem with avoiding public displays of vulnerability.

If one is averse to displaying one's emotions in the presence of others, it is perfectly acceptable to refrain from doing so. However, it is prudent to ensure the availability of tissues in such instances, as a runny nose can lead to embarrassing situations.

It is important to recognize that parents, like any other individuals, have their own cognitive limitations. Their beliefs and expectations may not always align with reality, and this is equally true of their demands on their children.

It is imperative to discern between these demands. The most efficacious method for doing so is to engage in introspection.

One may choose to either comply or decline based on one's own comfort level.

One's own thoughts and feelings are of paramount importance when attempting to accept oneself. It is therefore crucial to ascertain one's own preferences in terms of personality traits and characteristics.

It would be beneficial to consider this question in the absence of the influence of parents and other individuals. How would you characterize your perception of crying in such a context?

Once an individual has a clear understanding of their identity and aspirations, they are better equipped to accept themselves.

For example, if one permits oneself to weep, then this is not tantamount to a lack of self-acceptance.

For example, if an individual is unable to accept that they are prone to emotional distress, the subsequent objective may be to identify the underlying reasons for this inability to accept themselves.

Ultimately, after one has explored and identified the underlying cause, a decision can be made as to whether a change is necessary. To illustrate, the tendency to cry frequently may be attributed to a lack of inner strength.

In the event that an individual does not perceive a necessity for change, it is recommended that they accept themselves as they are. Conversely, if an individual identifies a need for change, it is advised that they consider potential strategies for enhancing their inner strength.

Therefore, even if one is unable to fully accept oneself at the conclusion of this process, it is possible to recognize a self that is consistently striving to do so.

The process of breaking down a complex emotional state into a more specific and concrete form can facilitate a deeper understanding and acceptance of oneself.

The following represents my current line of thinking on the matter.

Hello, question asker!

I saw your question and I totally get where you're coming from! You brought up that time you had in your dorm and it made you feel pretty bummed. I know you were feeling down and afraid that people wouldn't like you if they saw you sad and crying. So, I've got a great idea! Let me give you a big, warm hug! ?

How can I adjust my mindset to accept myself?

1. It's clear you're a kind and sincere person. It's admirable that you consider others' feelings when you're feeling sad or upset. Your mind is sensitive, and you care deeply about what others think and say about you. You have a vivid imagination and are emotionally sensitive, which makes you an interesting person!

2. You mentioned your family of origin. Since you were young, your parents didn't like to see you cry, which caused you to develop a skewed perception. You always felt that when you were sad and upset, other people wouldn't like you and would choose to stay away from you. This shows that you grew up in such a state of anxiety and helplessness, and your family of origin did not give you a sufficient sense of security. But you can change all of that!

3. Break free from the influence of your past family of origin! Give your inner child a big hug, accept your own imperfections, learn to view your own strengths and weaknesses in a positive light, read more books related to psychology, strengthen your inner self, and slowly adjust your state of mind. Don't let yourself stay in a constant state of negativity!

4. When it comes to relationships, communication is key! Treat people with sincerity, be true to yourself, do your best, and let time do the rest. We all face challenges and contradictions, but with a positive mindset, you can overcome them and move forward. Embrace the journey and enjoy the process!

I really hope my answer helps! The world and I love you ♥

Hello, I'm Gu Yi, and I'm always humble and modest.

Because bad experiences can make you wonder if you should accept yourself as you are.

Some people are lucky enough to heal their whole lives with their childhood, while others are unfortunate enough to have to heal their childhood with their whole lives.

Past experiences will become the foundation of how we face the world. I know it can be tough when your parents don't like it when you cry. It's totally normal to hide your true emotions and feel afraid to express and face them properly.

A bad experience in the dormitory made you feel uneasy and afraid inside, so you wrapped yourself up and kept others out, and you were afraid to face yourself. We've all been there!

We all have our own unique characters!

Let me tell you how you can let yourself come out.

It's so important to have a good understanding of yourself and to be able to recognize your own issues. Once you've done that, you can start to work on making positive changes!

No matter what we went through as children, we can make a difference now that we have the power to control our lives. And that's something to be really proud of!

Give yourself a goal, a vision of what you want to become, and work towards that goal. You can do it! The future can be wonderful, no matter what the past may have been.

Read more to enrich your life! There are many people who are luckier than you and less unfortunate than you. We are not the worst, and we're here for you if you need us!

Wishing you all the best!

Let go of your attachments.

Your suffering stems from clinging to the past, and your worries originate from fearing the future.

The past is gone, empty, and unattainable. Don't make things difficult for yourself.

The embarrassment of the past is forever fixed in that era, but you are constantly changing in the present moment. You must grow constantly in this change so that your entire being can continue to improve.

Human beings come to this world with one purpose: to increase the degree of freedom of their own consciousness energy. You must break through the confusion in front of you and put it under your feet. When you encounter the same kind of problem again, you will no longer be bothered by it, and your level of consciousness will have increased. Of course, you will definitely encounter even greater confusion, but you will break through again and once again increase, which is the process of spiritual practice and growth.

Break through confusion by letting it go. Don't dwell on how to break through it. Otherwise, the more you think about it, the stronger it becomes, and you'll never find relief.

Live in the present.

You must live in the present to let go of the past and not be attached to the future.

The power of the present can overcome everything. It allows you to transcend all the pain of the past and resist all the fears of the future.

You must live in the present. This means feeling the presence and sensation of doing this very thing at this very moment. For example, if you are walking, feel the sensation of walking, the spring breeze on your face, the noise of people walking by on the street. Immerse yourself in it. You can eat, sleep, work, etc., by feeling the most direct sensations of the present. By exercising this ability to be present, your mind will become more and more peaceful.

Inner peace leads to concentration, and concentration leads to wisdom.

Wisdom will grow, and troubles and confusion will have nowhere to hide. The darkness in the heart will be illuminated by the light of wisdom.

Bless you!