Recently, work pressure has been relatively high, and I have no patience with my child. What should I do?

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I'm feeling really stressed at work and it's making it hard for me to stay calm with my kids. I know it's wrong to scold and hit them, but I'm struggling to stop.

I hope you find this sharing helpful and it gives you a few new ideas.

1. It's important to recognize that "lack of patience with children" is often a result of not effectively managing work-related stress.

As adults, we have to deal with stress from all angles. A promotion and a pay rise are also really important for adults because they affect their quality of life and level of self-achievement.

When this part feels hopeless, it can lead to internal anxiety. If there aren't any good ways to relieve it, it can affect other aspects of the individual.

So, "lack of patience with children" isn't a personal problem. But when stress can't be relieved, it can affect the people around you, especially children. When we understand the root cause of the influencing factors, we'll have more understanding for our inability to stop being "impatient" with our children, and thus be better able to find corresponding coping strategies.

2. Find a healthy way to reduce stress, starting with improving your inner mode of getting along with yourself, and thus improving the way you treat your children.

"Losing patience with children and even starting to scold them" is basically caused by not being able to handle stress. So, as we said earlier, the main issue is finding ways to relieve stress to help you cope with it.

There are lots of ways to reduce stress, like mindfulness meditation and psychological counseling. The questioner can look into these professional services. We've also included a simple stress-reduction technique for the questioner to try on their own.

Here are some breathing exercises that can help you deal with stress:

The first step is to become aware.

Bring your attention back to your surroundings, to your feelings and thoughts. It's okay if your inner experience isn't very clear and precise. No need to make any special effort, just try to experience it lightly in your mind.

Step 2: Focus

Next, focus on your lower abdomen, about two fingers below your belly button. With each inhale and exhale, notice the slight bulge and contraction of your lower abdomen. During each inhale, repeat the word "inhale" in your mind, and during each exhale, repeat the word "exhale." Just gently focus on inhaling and exhaling, and lower your abdomen. Don't worry about changing the depth, process, or rhythm of your breathing.

Step 3: Think big!

Take a moment to focus on your entire body. Notice how it feels as a whole, and you'll probably find it's a bit tricky to tune into all the different sensations at once. If you're not there yet, start with a few body parts that are easier to feel.

If the above self-help methods don't help with anxiety and tension, and stress is affecting your work, daily life, and physical health, please see a doctor or get professional help right away.

3. Develop your professional skills or explore new career options.

If you focus too much on anxiety when trying to get a promotion and a pay raise, it can easily turn this motivation to succeed in your career into a bad thing. However, if you can effectively use "anxiety," it can help you move to a better platform or develop more adaptable vocational skills.

So, if you work hard to improve yourself, you can deal with the impact of career development bottlenecks and improve your parent-child relationship.

I hope this sharing is inspiring for you.

I'm a clinical psychologist, not a human behaviorist. I'm here to help you with your emotional well-being. Best of luck to you.