Relationships are caught in a vicious cycle, and there are internal conflicts. How can they be resolved?

Good relationships are a treasure. If you don't have one, you can't force it.

If you can't work due to emotional disorders, it will affect you.

Poor interpersonal relationships require hard work, and you must be willing to put in the effort to improve them.

Different people will have different views on the same thing, and they will come up with different strategies.

Take the initiative to understand others, reduce the cost of communication for others, and don't expect those who communicate with you to have rich conversation skills.

If someone is quick to point the finger of blame and demand things of others, they will be treated differently by those around them.

You always avoid him. If you are normally very serious, people will choose to communicate with someone who can make them feel relaxed and happy. If you are particularly difficult for people to communicate with, it will be a real test of the communication strategy of the person speaking to you. They will think of what words you will like to hear and what you won't.

It costs more to communicate with you than with others.

If you don't like what someone says, you naturally want to rebel. You choose self-respect in interpersonal relationships, not the simple joy of playing around.

2. Accept the facts.

It's clear you're angry because others won't play with you socially. You resist others' attempts to contact you.

It doesn't matter how angry you are. You have to give the other person the chance to understand you, and they have to give you the chance to understand them.

Let's be real, nobody wants to communicate with you if it's not necessary. It's not like you have to take the initiative to understand them either.

For others, mobile phones are also fun, as are playing football. They have no need to expend time and energy to communicate with you because they see no benefit in it. However, they will undoubtedly be happy after spending time and energy on other pursuits, such as mobile phones or football.

Happiness is one of the benefits. People do things for a reason, and reading and learning can also improve people, which is also one of the benefits. People are willing to read, spend time, and spend energy learning.

You can't guarantee that anyone will be happy after spending time with you or playing with you.

Even children, who don't care about the time cost for the sake of happiness, expect to be able to play happily with adults when they come into contact with them. It is important to accept the fact that everyone has an agenda.

Treat others as equals.

You need energy and time to care about others, and you don't want to communicate with others. This makes it time-consuming for others to care about you. You are unwilling to take the initiative to understand and expend energy. Others are unwilling to take the initiative either. This creates a mutual circle of indifference.

If you ask someone for time to communicate with you, you will inevitably face resistance.

4. Don't force it.

There's no easy way to fit in with the group. Good interpersonal relationships require sacrifice, and you have to use your intelligence to solve interpersonal problems and contribute to the group.

This process tests the balance between handling your own affairs and dealing with interpersonal relationships. The fact is, whether someone has friends or not depends on fate. If there are no friends in your circle, then there are none.

It's fine if you have friends. If you've offended anyone, you need to reflect on your mistakes and apologize.

5. Decide whether or not to interact with others based on your personal situation.

As you get older, the people around you and your friends will inevitably change and change again. You will replace them with a new group. Having friends is not essential to a fulfilling life.

Having friends or a relationship with other groups or individuals where there is mutual giving and trust is a good protection for mental health. However, if your life is not so difficult that you need stable relationships to maintain your mental health, then having friends or not does not really matter.

Good day, question asker.

I am Yao, a counselor on this platform, and I employ a dynamic approach to counseling.

It appears that you are experiencing difficulties in your interpersonal relationships, indicating a lack of understanding of how to interact with others effectively. On the one hand, you appear to desire connection with others,

Conversely, they unwittingly impair interpersonal connections and seek to isolate themselves, yet are unable to do so.

Consequently, they experience a profound sense of self-blame, frustration, and sadness.

First, we will discuss the emotional disorder that was previously mentioned. If this symptom is diagnosed through a medical assessment, it may

This could indeed become a significant obstacle to the development of harmonious interpersonal relationships.

A patient with an emotional disorder is also prone to emotional outbursts and being easily provoked.

This type of individual displays impulsivity, a lack of emotional control, and a high level of sensitivity and suspicion.

Furthermore, a joke from another individual may be perceived as an expression of intense contempt and hostility. This may result in a loss of control.

The individual in question displays a proclivity for reacting in a highly stressful manner. Over time, others have become reluctant to engage in playful activities with this person, as they may be perceived as a potential source of instability.

A seemingly innocuous remark can elicit a strong emotional response.

Another patient with emotional disorders is in a constant state of readiness for conflict. His high degree of sensitivity makes him

Those with an overly vigilant awareness tend to take in and process every utterance, even the seemingly inconsequential ones.

Such individuals may adopt a pessimistic and catastrophic interpretation of events or overestimate the occurrence of catastrophic events.

In conclusion, the dynamic explanation posits that an individual with an emotional disorder is someone who is unable to form intimate relationships with others.

As a result of the tendency to express needs through emotional means, the individual may exhibit behaviors and attitudes that are characteristic of an infantile state.

By engaging in a tantrum to garner attention from his mother, he is able to achieve his desired outcome.

The following section will present a methodology for resolving the aforementioned impasse.

The initial step is to identify the underlying factors that contribute to the emotional challenges being faced.

If the underlying cause is physiological, it is likely related to an endocrine disorder caused by hormones in the body, which can lead to dysfunction of the autonomic nervous system.

This is related to dysfunction, and it is recommended that one first consider medication.

In the event that the issue is a suppressed knot in the subconscious, the cause may be a childhood trauma suffered during early childhood.

It may be advisable to consider psychoanalytic therapy or dynamic analysis as potential avenues for addressing the underlying issues. These approaches could facilitate the dissolution of the knots and the subsequent removal of the impediments.

Such a response is then triggered.

Let me elucidate further. If an individual was raised in an early childhood in a primary family and suffered

Domestic violence can result in the formation of a traumatic point. In adulthood, when encountering a similar situation, it is easy to form a trigger.

Such a response may be triggered by any stimulus. To illustrate, consider a scenario in which a child is subjected to criticism from a parent. When that individual becomes an adult,

The individual in question was also subjected to similar criticism during their formative years, which has resulted in a heightened sensitivity to such remarks in adulthood.

Furthermore, they were compelled to suppress these emotions without offering any resistance. However, when they reached adulthood, the same harsh words may suddenly evoke a strong emotional response.

One should begin to experience feelings of anger towards the individual who is uttering these words.

In the field of dynamics, this phenomenon is referred to as "transference."

To elucidate further, it can be defined as the projection of feelings of love and hatred towards the individual who raised the subject in their formative years onto a third party in the context of the current situation.

A significant aspect of interpersonal conflict is the phenomenon of empathy.

Should more effective assistance be required with minimal delay, it may be advisable to seek the guidance of a qualified professional counselor.

An effective mirror reflects the subject accurately.

Please describe your cognitive characteristics.

Please describe your communication style with others.

What contradictions are revealed by an examination of your personality structure?

Such processes may also be observed in other contexts.

It is possible that, following the resolution of these issues, a greater understanding of oneself will be achieved, which in turn will facilitate more harmonious relationships with others.

Furthermore, the capacity to establish intimate relationships may be developed.

Ultimately, the responsibility for navigating this cycle falls upon the individual. Through this process, individuals may gain insight into their own awareness and inner strength, recognizing these qualities with clarity.

The internal conflict that arises from one's interpersonal sensitivity and the subsequent closed loop.

Subsequently, in order to achieve more effective healing, it may be beneficial to consider methods of disrupting this vicious cycle.

The aforementioned cycle.

Good day. I extend a warm greeting from afar.

I am pleased to see that you have sought assistance and hope that my input will provide you with support and guidance. I also commend you for your awareness of your interpersonal relationships and for seeking help.

Firstly, I would like to advise against self-labelling with an emotional disorder. You may lack passion in your interactions with others, particularly emotional investment, not because you are unwilling, but more likely due to your emotional state at that moment. When you are in a state of optimal nourishment, you may be able to approach your relationships with a positive attitude, and express and respond to emotions in relationships with a greater range of emotions. What are your thoughts on this?

It is important to recognize that everyone experiences different emotional states at different times of the day. When we have a clear understanding of our emotional state, we can use this awareness to adapt our emotional state and respond effectively to the needs of the situation. Everyone has the capacity for subjective initiative, and the desire and need to be kind and contribute positively to the situation.

It is possible to demonstrate our best qualities in relationships. In particular, the ability to provide others with emotional and emotional responses and support in the process of getting along with others is contingent upon our ability to take care of ourselves. This entails learning to respond to our emotions and maintaining a state of nourishment. Otherwise, we are unable to demonstrate our full potential in relationships.

It is therefore important to be aware of the underlying needs that may manifest as evasive, passive, or unenthusiastic behavior when interacting with others. These needs may include a desire for respect, acceptance, recognition, affirmation, encouragement, or support. Conversely, they may also stem from a fear of rejection or disliking. By recognizing these underlying needs, individuals can gain a deeper understanding of their own behavior in relationships.

Then, remove the emotional obstacle you have placed on yourself and attempt to express yourself and be yourself in the relationship despite your fears. Remind yourself that your nervousness and fear are driven by the desire to be accepted and recognized, as well as the fear of being disliked and rejected. Breathe deeply to relieve your nervous, anxious, and restless emotional state.

It is also important to understand that our relationships with others are influenced by our inner selves. It is not possible to be completely honest and open with others if we are not honest and open with ourselves. This is because we may feel inferior or lack self-confidence, which can prevent us from being our true selves.

This is an area that requires personal development and growth. When you can fully accept yourself and believe in your abilities, you will be less concerned with external opinions and more able to be yourself in a relationship.

I suggest you read "How to Overcome Social Anxiety" and "Embrace Your Imperfect Self."

My name is Lily, and I am a regular listener of the Q&A Pavilion. I am passionate about the world and about you.