Senior three, altruistic, always worried about others, but what about myself needing to take the college entrance examination?

Hello, I'm Gu Daoxi, aka Fengshou Skinny Donkey, your Heart Exploration Coach.

The college entrance exam is a pretty fair way to compete. It's not about comparing with other students or the question owner's classmates. It's about comparing with the score line of the school you want to go to. The question owner's classmates can't get into their chosen school just because the question owner is nice and gives up their chance. So, the question owner's sacrifice might not be meaningful.

The book "Courage to Be Disliked" says that whoever is responsible for the final result is the subject. The other person's learning style and educational environment are not caused by the subject, so the subject shouldn't feel guilty. This requires the other person to obtain various supports!

The thing about competition is that everyone just needs to do their best, without feeling sorry for others. This isn't just a waste of time for you, it's also meaningless to the other person. After all, each of you is not the only competitor, and it will only make both of you lose out.

Learning and caring are two different things. You can care about the other person's emotions, but that doesn't mean you have to accommodate them in every way. And if the other person is in a bad state, any concessions or help from you may make them feel that you are pitying them, which will make their emotions worse.

Try to focus on your most important goals in the present. Ask yourself, if you fail the college entrance exam, what's the point of the other person's sympathy? If the answer is no, maybe the questioner's sympathy is also meaningless to the other person.

Ask yourself where you and the other person stand in the grade and class. Could the other person really suffer irreversible harm because you've surpassed them?

Sometimes, looking at the big picture can help you feel less guilty.

We all have limited human energy, and it's tough to juggle everything at once. Try to focus on your most important goals in the present, and take the risk after decision-making, which will make the questioner less anxious. Give and take, give and get, both want and want, will make us get nothing.

Try to give the other person a bit of positive encouragement to get them motivated. When we want to do something from the inside out, it's not easy to generate very negative emotions.

If you look at the present from the future, you can weigh up the pros and cons better. It's best to focus on one age and one stage, and do what's right for you. That way, you'll have fewer regrets in the future.

I'd also suggest reading "The Courage to Be Disliked" and "A Thought Turned."

Wishing you the best!

Hello, I'm Xin Tan, Coach Fei Yun here. Life is a beautiful journey, not for appreciation, but for blooming.

You're always worried about your classmate. She's not doing so well in school and can't run to the cafeteria to eat. So, every time you think about her eating alone with her poor grades while you're studying hard, you feel guilty. Let's take a look at why something happens and what you should do:

1. You really value the friendship between classmates.

We all know relationships are an important part of life. It's natural to want to maintain close, equal relationships with your classmates and preserve your sincere friendships.

This is a good thing, but if you view relationships as the be-all and end-all, to the extent that they affect your studies, work, and life, then the disadvantages outweigh the advantages.

It's important to remember that relationships serve our lives, not the other way around. This means you should take a proper view of the role that interpersonal relationships play in your current studies.

2. You don't have a lot of influence on your classmates.

As good friends, it's only natural to make comparisons. You even thought in advance that your good grades would, to some extent, put pressure on your best friend.

You also feel guilty about this, and think that your leading the way is a kind of betrayal and "abandonment" of your classmates. This is completely unnecessary, though, because without you, there will be other classmates in the lead.

You may think you have a big influence on her, but it's not that simple. There are lots of factors that affect the learning gap, like how hard you're trying, how good you are at understanding things, how good you are at thinking, whether you're interested in learning, how motivated you are to learn, and how you're feeling in exams.

Put another way, you're just one of many factors.

Competition exists whether or not someone has a competitive mindset. If maintaining a balance in one's studies is the basis for maintaining a friendship, then that friendship is fragile and could easily end.

3. Let go of your concerns and focus on yourself again.

We're not saviors. If we can only care for one person, it's got to be ourselves.

This isn't selfishness, it's selflessness. Taking care of yourself and not causing trouble for others is a good quality.

You have to take responsibility for yourself. If you take care of your health and your studies, your teachers will be relieved and your parents will feel at ease.

Taking care of yourself and not causing trouble for others is what matters most. You don't have to be a hero to help your classmates succeed.

You're not in a position to sacrifice your studies for your best friend's grades. As we mentioned earlier, there are many factors at play.

If you can't control it and these thoughts come up again, take a deep breath, let go of your attention, and focus on your breathing. Feel each breath in and out, and then refocus on your studies.

I hope this is helpful to you. Have a great day!

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Hello, question asker!

After reading your question, I can tell you're feeling the pressure as you approach the college entrance exam in less than 100 days. It's because you're feeling nervous that you've given up things you don't want to, like eating with your old classmates and changing your study rhythm. As a result, you've fallen into a new imbalance and have new internal struggles. I'm here to tell you that you can do this!

You say you have an altruistic personality. If you do well in your studies, you feel sorry for your peers. Several of your peers have fallen into depression because of their studies, and it's quite serious. I feel the same way as you do, because I'm also someone who shares your frequency. When I walk, I always want to walk in the back, where I feel at ease. I remember thinking this way when I was young. I got into college, and my younger brother had to get in too, otherwise, my younger brother would be doing the work at home while I went to work, and I would feel really bad about it.

And there's the issue of my child and my younger brother's child. They're in the same grade, and I expect my younger brother's child to do well. I've told my child to be considerate of his feelings and not to show off his advantages or that he is a good student. My child became a bit inferior, and he said, "If I am worse than my cousin, are you happy? Don't you think that other people have much better material things than I do?"

Everyone else uses nice things and eats well, so why can't I?

I've come to see that this is a bad personality trait. It's not good for me to be torn up inside, and it's not good for the people around me either. There's no reason to be like that. My colleague was right: my brother's kids are under my brother's care. I take responsibility for my brother's children doing well in school. I always take responsibility for myself. No one else feels my good intentions. I'm just making myself feel bad.

I've gone on and on about all this to tell you that over the years, I've come to realize the disadvantages of my independent personality. Everyone has their own abilities, and everyone has their own karma. We shouldn't get involved in other people's karma. We should just work hard and be responsible for our own affairs. No one else can control us.

Take your case as an example. You are taking the college entrance exam, which is a national event. You and your original companion are just a tiny part of the whole. Even if you don't study, your classmate is not going to do better because of it. Even if your classmate does get better at studying, do you think he will be grateful to you? I don't think so.

After all, we had dinner with that classmate. Now, we feel uncomfortable when we are apart, especially when we see him going to dinner alone. This separation is also for his own good. Their different rhythms make neither of them feel comfortable. Besides, it's not conducive to his studies. It disrupts his rhythm and is even more detrimental to his learning. It's clear that it's better for both of them to be apart.

You may see him as lonely, but that's not the whole story. For him, it may be even more difficult when he can't keep up with your rhythm. He's at peace with it, and he may not feel as bad as you think.

You have realized that you have an altruistic personality type and that it is causing you pain. This is a positive step. In psychology, those who are suffering seek help and change. You have become aware of your own suffering and have come here to ask questions. You can change through your own efforts.

You will get through this difficult time. You are good at observing and thinking, and you will use your wisdom to make the next three months of your life rich and colorful, despite the stress. I believe in you.

I am certain that your dream university will extend an olive branch to you as expected. The world and I love you!

Dear Question Asker,

From your description, I can see your empathetic side, and I understand the thoughts that may be in your heart.

1. You wish to maintain the friendship between yourselves, but you also perceive a discrepancy in academic performance between you, which may exert considerable pressure on your friend. This could result in her experiencing feelings of inadequacy and increasing self-doubt. In light of this, you begin to feel guilty about studying hard and unconsciously allow yourself to relax a little.

2. The college entrance exam is imminent, and this is a pivotal moment in everyone's long-term development. It is not an appropriate time to exercise leniency. You must first take responsibility for yourself and meet your parents' expectations. However, this self-serving concept, when combined with the above psychology, makes you feel that you are cold-blooded, heartless, and selfish, and you feel that you have violated the moral standards you have set for yourself.

It is important to recognize that everyone in this society has both selfish and altruistic tendencies. The rules governing the operation of the world are not always clear-cut. While engaging in unethical behavior, it is possible to inadvertently contribute to positive outcomes.

It is recommended that the following suggestions be considered:

1. You can provide your friend with comfort and companionship, but it is essential to exercise moderation. You are her friend, not her parents, and you are not her. You cannot overstep the line and interfere with her thoughts and actions. What you can do is offer the most honest advice you believe is appropriate, and provide constructive reminders. Whether she chooses to listen or what she does is her own business. Excessive assistance may hinder her progress and impede her self-transformation.

2. Showing her moderate care is a kind gesture from you as a friend. However, this is already sufficient to maintain a friendship. It is not necessary to pay attention to her constantly or take care of her emotions. This line of thinking will instead create pressure and unintentionally cause you to distance yourself from her.

3. You can inform her of your thoughts and feelings. From an objective standpoint, these sentiments are not something to be ashamed of and can be shared openly. I am confident that when she hears your sincere words, she will be able to perceive your sincerity as a friend, which will eliminate some possible misunderstandings, making your relationship more harmonious and open. You will not have to be suspicious of each other, and you can both better focus on your studies.

Best regards,

Dear child, Good afternoon.

My name is Kelly.

I was profoundly moved by your inquiry, and I discerned a profound sense of kindness and compassion in your consideration of others.

Let us collaborate to find a solution.

[Regarding boundaries]

We are currently in our third year of high school, and we are prone to worrying about others. At the same time, we are also required to prepare for our own college entrance examinations.

It is reasonable to assume that at this juncture, the respondent is experiencing a considerable degree of anxiety and a sense of powerlessness.

In light of the imminent college entrance examination, which will take place over the next three months, it is understandable that anxiety levels may be elevated. It is, therefore, advisable to focus on one's own abilities and the present moment.

We can write a card to our friend to encourage her to study together. Given the limited time frame, it is crucial to prioritize the college entrance examination.

It is important to recognize that we are all individuals with unique experiences and perspectives. Your approach in supporting your friend is commendable. It is also essential to acknowledge that our friends have the capacity to share their personal experiences when they are ready and willing to do so.

The friend's poor academic performance may be attributed to a combination of factors, including her own responsibility and that of her parents as her nurturers. This is a matter that requires the attention of the entire family.

It has been demonstrated that the establishment of boundaries serves to safeguard the individual while simultaneously facilitating the development of autonomy and self-reliance in others.

Boundaries facilitate the differentiation between one's own concerns and those of others.

It is possible that if one is experiencing negative emotions, this may also result in feelings of guilt in a friend. It is also possible that the friend may perceive the situation as an additional burden.

While empathy is a valuable quality, it is also important to maintain a sense of self-awareness. Over-involvement in the emotional lives of others can be detrimental to one's own well-being.

[Regarding emotional transmission]

Additionally, during adolescence, individuals tend to be more sensitive and eager for friendship, which is a crucial aspect of their development.

In the event that a friend is experiencing depression as a result of the stress associated with the college entrance examination, it is recommended that they seek the assistance of a qualified counselor, in addition to their parents.

As friends, we lack the training and expertise to navigate these situations effectively, making it easy for our emotions to become enmeshed in the situation.

Providing your friend with appropriate counsel may also be an effective means of assistance.

It would be advisable for her to identify a more professional source of assistance.

As a result of your emotional involvement with her, you will experience a sense of empathy and compassion for her, which will inevitably affect your emotional state. The deeper you engage with her, the more your emotions will be transferred to her. Our attention can be a source of encouragement, a gesture of goodwill, or a motivational speech before an examination.

Individuals experiencing depressive disorders tend to exhibit heightened sensitivity, necessitating a greater degree of engagement to facilitate empathic understanding. It is therefore essential for these individuals to cultivate a deeper understanding of their own experiences and to prioritize the cultivation of a focused state of mind in preparation for the impending college entrance examination.

It is imperative that good friends be honest with each other. It is essential to be sincere and to strive to do one's best.

A genuine friend will comprehend each other's perspectives and also recognize the challenges you are facing.

[Regarding options]

If we have a plethora of concerns, they may simply be our own concerns. It is possible that the other person is not as fragile as we perceive, and the fear of hurting someone else and breaking their heart is merely an internal thought.

Ultimately, it is essential to remain authentic. With only three months remaining, it is crucial to focus one's energy, maintain a clear goal, and integrate rest into one's routine.

We endeavor to allocate each minute of each day to the pursuit of knowledge. This is a commendable objective. It is not advisable to attempt to exert control over the process, but rather to strive for excellence.

There are numerous individuals who support you and anticipate your success. We will encounter students in need of assistance at both the secondary and post-secondary levels. We possess the capacity to assist ourselves, and in the future, we will also be able to help more people.

The individuals to whom we are beholden are ourselves, followed by our parents and so forth. In light of the expectations and love that surround us, it is imperative to trust oneself.

Individuals who are empathetic and loving consider the needs of others in every situation. Currently, we are merely temporarily returning to ourselves. It is not possible to care excessively about the feelings of others if one is unable to care for oneself. In such instances, one can attempt to write in the following manner: first, allow oneself to "always" fail, thank this kind and lovely self, and also remember to encourage and affirm this self every day. Additionally, one must believe that this self will fight for itself in these final three months and that its desire to live solely for itself will be fulfilled.

The notion that self-love is the foundation for loving others is a common one. Just as we choose to help ourselves learn and prepare for the college entrance exam, this is also an exercise in wisdom and choice.

Your willingness to share with us is indicative of your strength and courage in facing yourself.

I admire your fortitude and resilience. I am eager to hear the outcome of your college entrance examination in three months.

Should you experience stress, you are encouraged to pose further questions.

Persevere; the world and I support you.

Hello! I'm Jiang 61.

I'm glad I can answer your question. You ask, "I'm in my last year of high school, always worried about others, but I also have to take the college entrance exam."

"I've read your introduction, understand your feelings, and want to discuss them with you.

1. Introduction

1⃣ Empathy

You say, "I'm a senior in high school, and the college entrance exam is in three months. I feel bad when I see my friends' poor grades. I feel guilty when I compare my own good grades, so I don't study hard for the exam."

You know the college entrance exam is important and you can't slack off.

You are a high school senior taking the college entrance exam. You worry about hurting others' feelings if you do well.

You are a high school senior. In three months, you will take the college entrance exam. You don't want to excel because you're afraid of hurting others' feelings.

But you can't slack off. You're torn between these two emotions.

Compassion

You feel bad when you see others do worse than you. You feel guilty because you do better than others.

2. Example

A friend of mine has been depressed because of the pressure of the college entrance exam. I used to eat with her, but after the third year of high school, I went to the cafeteria because we ate separately. I ate with another fast runner, and she ate alone.

I avoid communicating with her because I don't want to feel sorry for her and get involved. I also don't want to study hard in case it makes her depression worse. She has tried hard in her studies without results, so she tends to be negative. Her grades are not very good now.

I'm afraid to go and talk to her after class to comfort her. There's just not enough time. There are only three months left, and I have to study. When I eat with another classmate, I feel sorry for her when I see her sitting alone, but there's nothing I can do. Senior year is intense, and I have to go back early to finish my homework.

"

Separately

One of your friends is depressed. She works hard but her grades haven't improved much.

You used to eat together a lot, but you drifted apart because you had to run to eat, which your friend couldn't do.

Control yourself.

You worry that if you hang out with your friend a lot, she will be ashamed of her poor grades and become depressed. So, during class breaks, you don't approach her or comfort her. You feel sorry for her, but you have to focus on yourself and get good grades.

3⃣️, conflict

You think, "Should I stay away from her? I want good grades. People expect me to do well. I can't let them down or myself."

I know I shouldn't care about other people's feelings, but I just can't do it. I want to fight for myself in these last three months.

"

Conflicts

To get good results on the college entrance exam, you'll think about how your friends feel.

and

You want to live for yourself, not for others. You have a lot of expectations, so you want to work hard for yourself and for others.

You're torn between emotions.

2. The cause of the conflict

1⃣️, Compassion

Compassion

Compassion is an emotion that involves feeling for others who are suffering.

Conflicting emotions

Compassion has limits. It can lead to excessive sympathy, which affects decision-making. You feel guilty about sticking to your decision because you sympathize with the weak.

You feel guilty because you sympathize with the weak.

2. Sense of responsibility

Responsibility

Responsibility means caring about yourself and others, as well as the cause, country, and society. If your own interests and those of the country, society, and others conflict, you should put the interests of the country, society, and others first.

Selfish

You have a strong sense of responsibility. At a crossroads in life, you know what choice to make. The other person is just someone other than your friend.

You take responsibility for yourself and your actions. You have the courage to work hard for the college entrance exam. You feel guilty when you give up on others.

3⃣, due to personality

Altruistic personality

Altruistic personalities are hardworking, sensitive, caring, and considerate. They serve others and society, not themselves.

They listen to others, help them, and value helping others.

Selfish personality

A self-interested person is focused on themselves. They pursue their own interests and happiness, and don't care about others.

A self-interested person may be selfish, self-interested, or competitive.

A paradox.

Everyone is a mix of different personalities, and the questioner is no exception. From the questioner's introduction, I feel that the questioner has both altruistic and selfish traits.

It's a paradox. When the altruistic personality takes over, the questioner feels guilty about leaving their friends. When the egoistic personality takes over, the questioner feels they should think more about themselves.

Your character is to blame, and there is no right or wrong.

3. What to do

1. Take responsibility.

Life's crossroads

Life's crossroads are times when you make big decisions. Different choices lead to different lives. There are many crossroads in life. These crossroads are important.

For example, school, work, marriage.

I am responsible for myself.

It is rare for the questioner to make decisions about themselves and take responsibility for their own destiny.

From an altruistic perspective, we can only help others if we are strong. This is a strong sense of responsibility. So, there is no need to feel guilty if others lag behind.

2. Achieve yourself.

Have a clear goal.

The questioner knows what he wants and has a clear goal. He should not hesitate or be uncertain about this.

Achieve yourself.

Know yourself. Do what you're good at. Achieve your goals.

3. Care about others.

Care about others.

We don't have to be together every day to show we care. Just say hello every day to show we care and think of her, and keep in touch.

Encourage her.

Friends need encouragement when they're struggling. We can encourage them by celebrating their progress.

For high school students, how to get through the important gaokao juncture is a major topic. First, know yourself.

I wish the questioner the best!

During this pivotal period of senior year, students are confronted with considerable pressure, particularly those who possess altruistic personality traits. These individuals are naturally inclined to prioritize the feelings and needs of others, at times even placing these above their own needs.

While this quality is laudable, it can become a burden if not properly balanced, particularly in a critical juncture such as the college entrance exam. This is precisely what occurred in your case. In addition to the pressure of your own studies, you were also responsible for caring for and supporting your friend, which undoubtedly increased your psychological burden.

First, it is necessary to reconsider the concept of altruism. Genuine altruism is not about negating one's own needs and focusing exclusively on the welfare of others. Instead, it entails maintaining self-care while assisting others to the greatest extent possible.

This equilibrium is vital for long-term psychological stability and consistency in one's actions. It is therefore essential to recognize that in order to provide effective assistance to others, it is first necessary to ensure that one's own state is healthy and stable.

An increase in self-awareness represents a crucial step in the pursuit of this objective. By undertaking a more profound exploration of one's inner realm, individuals can gain enhanced insight into their own needs and constraints.

This self-awareness will assist in achieving a more balanced approach to care for others and self-care. For instance, one may explore and express feelings through journaling, meditation, or talking to a trusted individual.

In terms of managing expectations, it is essential to recognize that perfection is unattainable, whether in oneself or in others. Each individual is constrained by unique limitations and challenges, and it is not feasible to assume the role of a determiner of another's destiny.

It is important to recognize that while one can offer support and care to friends, the ultimate decision-making authority lies with the individual in question. It is therefore essential to encourage friends to seek professional help and to clarify the scope of support that can be provided, in order to ensure that the support offered does not become a burden to the individual in question.

One may take a creative and efficient approach to providing support. For example, one may express concern and encouragement through the medium of written correspondence, digital communication, or audio recording, which saves time and provides a sense of support to the recipient.

Furthermore, the establishment of a study group or participation in online discussions can facilitate not only enhanced individual learning efficiency but also the creation of a constructive learning environment for peers.

It is crucial to arrange one's time effectively when creating a study plan. One should divide their day into three distinct segments: study, rest and socialization, and set specific goals and time limits for each.

This arrangement can facilitate the maintenance of an efficient learning state while also allowing for sufficient time to care for friends and to attend to one's physical and mental health.

It is essential to engage in self-care practices as part of this process. Obtaining sufficient sleep, maintaining a balanced diet, and incorporating regular exercise are crucial for maintaining physical and mental health.

Furthermore, participation in activities and interests that are personally enjoyable, such as reading, painting, or sports, can facilitate relaxation and reduce stress.

Furthermore, it is essential to accept imperfections as a fundamental aspect of psychological adaptation. It is unattainable to attain absolute perfection in either academic performance or interpersonal relationships.

Such recognition can facilitate greater tolerance of oneself and others, as well as a reduction in unnecessary anxiety and stress.

In conclusion, as an altruistic high school student navigating this pivotal period, by reframing altruism, enhancing self-awareness, managing expectations, providing creative support, rationally organizing your study plan, establishing a support network, practicing self-care, and accepting imperfection, you can achieve a balance of effectively caring for yourself and others while preparing for the college entrance exam. It is essential to recognize that only when you are in a healthy and stable state can you better support others and achieve your goals and aspirations.

The individual experiences a conflict between self-oriented and other-oriented perspectives. While pursuing excellence for oneself and prioritizing one's own well-being, there is a sense of guilt associated with this approach. The process of self-growth and change entails learning to genuinely care for others and to manage or alleviate negative emotions.

To truly love others is to wish and facilitate their happiness, and to mentally accept, forgive, and forgive everyone, including the exceptional, the ordinary people, and the weak. If mistakes or shortcomings exist, they can be corrected. Everyone has the right to happiness, regardless of the nature or proximity of the relationship, the perceived correctness or incorrectness of the relationship, or the perceived gain or loss. We all hope that others can be happy and improve. People can provide mutual comfort and joy to each other. It is beneficial to love and accept others and oneself, to tolerate shortcomings and lack of ability, and to be kind at heart. This is to be beneficial to others or society, not to dislike or reject ordinary people, not to be jealous or intolerant of exceptional people.

If one does not get along with most people, it can result in the accumulation of negative energy and the emergence of negative emotional problems. In order to truly love others and adapt to people and things, it is necessary to correct one's energy field, thereby increasing the likelihood of finding and maintaining a loving and suitable relationship and career. Additionally, sharing and exchanging what one sees, hears, thinks, feels, or is interested in—including books, movies, music, and so forth—with others in real life and on the Internet, such as Douban communities, can facilitate the formation of loving and suitable relationships and careers.

Furthermore, it is important to cultivate a positive attitude towards one's romantic life and to appreciate the smaller, more mundane aspects of life.

Negative energy can affect one's physical health. Maintaining bodily comfort and health can provide a full-body massage. The head massage includes the forehead and face, which also have meridians. The head should be massaged with deep, firm strokes, and the stomach should be massaged with a firm massage brush. It is inadvisable to massage the stomach on an empty stomach and then engage in physical exertion.

Individuals who experience negative emotions, thoughts, or behaviors may perceive their physical and mental comfort to be compromised. They may also encounter unhappy people and circumstances, interpersonal conflicts, relationship and marriage issues (which can affect one's magnetic field), and even challenges in their academic or professional lives. This is because when individuals prioritize self-interest, they tend to accumulate a significant amount of negative energy. The more self-centered an individual is, the more their magnetic field may become misaligned with the energy fields of others. To correct this, individuals must learn to love others and adapt to their surroundings. This can help to resolve conflicts, improve interpersonal relationships, and address the aforementioned challenges. Additionally, when individuals learn to truly love the people and things in their lives, they may experience less attachment to love and a reduction in negative emotions such as separation anxiety and pain. They may also feel a sense of inner fulfillment and meaning.

If necessary, they can also facilitate growth and change in those around them.

The manifestations of excessive self-centeredness vary from person to person. They include the following psychological motivations: pursuing self-satisfaction, striving for the self or repressing self-deprecation to please others, blindly giving in order to gain, being afraid of losing, or disregarding the gains and losses of self-interest and emotions. Other manifestations include being too narcissistic or inferior, paying too much attention to oneself, generating stress and worry, social phobia, being caught up in one's own emotions and thoughts, attaching too much importance to what others think of oneself, not accepting one's own shortcomings and deficiencies, forcing oneself to be perfect, being obsessive, controlling, possessing others or forcing others to satisfy oneself, otherwise resenting and being discontent, being unable to let go of oneself to forgive and forgive, and brooding.

Those who prioritize self-interest may experience anxiety, depression, and fatigue, potentially leading to difficulties in adapting to the social and environmental dynamics of academic and professional settings. Conversely, individuals who prioritize the well-being of others and adapt to these environments may naturally displace self-preoccupation, thereby fostering positive energy.

In conclusion, it is imperative to act in a manner that is beneficial to oneself and others, and to refrain from actions that could cause harm or distress to others, as nobody desires to experience suffering.

Hello, Topic Master!

From your description, I can tell you're a kind and confused person, but you're also very good at understanding these difficult emotions. It's great that you're facing this head-on!

You're taking the college entrance exam soon, and you're an altruistic person. You're worried about your classmates' grades and emotions, which makes you feel conflicted. On the one hand, you want to care about and help your classmates. On the other hand, you're worried that helping them will affect your own grades. After all, you also feel guilty when others do poorly. It's great that you've come here to be aware of this. However, the psychological activities within you, this conflict and entanglement within you, affect you and make you feel unsure about studying. I'm not sure if I'm right, but I'm excited to help you figure it out!

All problems are our resources. We are experts at solving our own problems! Based on your description, I have some suggestions for you. I really hope they can help!

First, seek help from external resources!

If you want to get good grades, you must focus on your studies. But now you are experiencing internal conflict. The good news is that I can help! I personally suggest that you seek help from the school's psychological counselor, or you can talk to your parents and let them help you adjust your state, so that you can adjust yourself early.

Second, accept and allow yourself to be different!

There's no such thing as a perfect person in life, and that's a good thing! When we encounter this uncomfortable state, we should try to learn to accept and allow ourselves some emotions, so as not to cause mental depletion. We should also give ourselves some psychological hints from time to time.

Then, go for it and do what you want to do!

I know how you feel inside, and I'm here to tell you that you're not alone. If this matter affects you, I actually suggest respecting your feelings and doing what you want to do, so that you won't regret it. When you are happy inside, you may learn better. At the same time, you can try to express your feelings, just like telling that classmate your innermost thoughts and giving him some encouragement, because you are a kind person who likes to help others. If you don't do it, you won't feel good inside. But if you do, you'll feel great!

And there's more! When you're in a bad mood, exercising is a great way to let it all out. Plus, exercise also secretes dopamine, which makes us feel happy. So, it can also help us relieve this anxiety.

The most important thing you can do is adjust your mentality, adjust your psychology, reduce conflicts and contradictions, and talk to your teachers and parents more often. I would say thank them for their help!

I appreciate your mixed feelings. I can see that you are concerned about upsetting your friend, which is a common concern when we see our friends facing challenges.

It is clear that you want to help him improve and believe that you can support your friends. These are all positive goals. I also see that you want to make the most of your time and prepare for the college entrance exam.

I believe this is an extremely positive and responsible approach to life.

You may be uncertain about whether to prioritize your studies over the next three months or maintain your social connections. It seems you are considering distancing yourself from your friends to ensure you meet the expectations of your teachers and parents.

Both the fear of losing friends and the fear of not doing well on an exam are rooted in the concern of being envious or disheartened by friends when one achieves a higher level of success.

I empathize with the internal conflict between striving for self-improvement and the concern of appearing envious or undermining the confidence of colleagues. It is a reality that we are frequently unable to control our own actions.

There are many factors outside of our control. How others perceive us, whether we retain a particular asset, or achieve a desired outcome—these are all common occurrences. In the current climate, we may have friends today, but tomorrow we may lose them. Even when we are with friends, we may also lose them.

I believe we should simply follow our hearts. In this world, we have to accept that we cannot force some things and that we can only do as much as we can. We have to accept that we will feel sad and reluctant, and that even if we try hard, things may not turn out as we would like.

I believe there is no such thing as an absolute black and white. This is also true in the context of learning and relationships. If you do your best, you will have fewer regrets. If you are sincere about your actions, even if the outcome is not what you expected, there is no point in dwelling on it.

Perhaps the difficulties will pass, and the friendship will be valued for its genuine investment. Learning can accept varying outcomes. An open mind allows for greater freedom and happiness. I hope you can accept the impermanence of life, and sincerely wish you well.

Hello, classmate! I see the confusion you are facing right now, and I'm here to help!

You say, "You have a friend who is depressed, and you want to help her too!"

But even if you really help your friend, will she necessarily accept your help?

I don't think so!

Because her friend is suffering from depression, she is stuck in her own little world.

And even if you want to help this friend because she is your classmate, there's still a chance she may not accept your help!

And that's okay! Even if she is your friend, she has the right to choose not to accept your help.

It doesn't mean that if you are willing to help her, she has to accept your help.

The book A Thought Turned has some great advice! It says that we only need to know three things in this world in our lifetime: our own affairs, other people's affairs, and the affairs of heaven.

And now for the fun part! It's time to do your part and work hard to prepare yourself fully for the college entrance exam.

In that case, no matter what the final result is, you'll be so happy you gave it your all!

When you've done your best, even if you don't get the result you wanted, your parents will understand.

As for your depressed friend, I'm sure you'll be able to help her out!

If you stay with such a classmate for a long time, you will easily be caught up in her negative emotions. But don't worry! There are ways to avoid this.

I'm sure there is a school psychologist at your high school! If there is, you can definitely seek help from her.

The great news is that the psychological counselor's services are free of charge!

I really hope you can find a great solution to the problem you're facing soon!

I really hope these tips help! I'm thinking of a few more things, but I'm not sure what they are yet.

I really hope my answers are helpful and inspiring to you! I am the answer, and I study hard every day!

Here at Yixinli, the world and I love you! Best wishes!

Yes!

Hello, Thank you for your thoughtful question. I am ZQ, a heart exploration coach from the Yixinli platform. As I mentioned at the beginning, [rejecting internal conflict is the only way to continuously improve productivity]. Currently, because your personality is relatively optimistic and prosocial, you may be more influenced by the opinions of others.

It would be beneficial to consider the emotional well-being of others, such as a friend who is struggling with depression and facing challenges in their learning environment. Even with their best efforts, they may not achieve the results they desire. Given the characteristics of high school students, it's understandable that they might compare themselves to others.

It is also possible that, in the process of comparison, friendships may be hurt. One solution could be to try to communicate with her as little as possible, which may be a way of conforming to the current characteristics of your time. Given the college entrance examination, your time is also relatively pressing, so there is not much time to communicate.

In fact, apart from the necessities of life, the only thing that is left to do is study. I can understand your situation, Sister. For a student who is not doing well in her studies and is feeling depressed, it might be helpful to consider seeking professional support.

If I may make a suggestion, perhaps she could benefit from seeking guidance from students who are more experienced in studying, such as yourself or other students and teachers. If she is experiencing depression, it would be advisable for her to seek professional medical or psychological assistance.

It is important to recognize that each of us has our own unique destiny. Just because someone has a kind personality does not mean they are obligated to protect or help others. We all have the responsibility to chart our own path in life.

In other words, regardless of how she performs in the exam or what emotional state she may be in, she is ultimately responsible for herself. It is not necessary to concern yourself with her state of mind and allow it to affect you. To illustrate this point more clearly, let us consider an analogy.

For instance, you might have the potential to gain admission to Tsinghua University, but due to unforeseen circumstances, you ultimately opted to pursue your studies at Fudan University in Shanghai or another leading institution. While this may have been a challenging decision, it's important to recognize the significance of the college entrance examination and the importance of maintaining a strong focus and determination.

It might be helpful to try to avoid communicating with other students as much as possible. It's also worth noting that whether other people are sad or not depends on them. With only three precious months left, it's important to maintain motivation, focus on your own goals, and keep fighting for your college aspirations. It's natural to feel a range of emotions, and it's important to be understanding of each other's experiences.

Could I just check with you about ZQ?

Dear Student, My name is Duo Duo Lian, and it is my hope that my reply will prove supportive to you.

From your statements, it is evident that you are exerting considerable effort in your final year of high school. You are progressing at a pace that is comfortable for you. In the past, the majority of individuals also navigated this period in a similar manner. It is clear that the college entrance examination has a significant impact on one's life trajectory. Life is a prolonged journey, and it is possible to experience it at a leisurely pace.

Do you recall the junior high school third-year entrance exam? What has become of your classmates? How are they faring? Life is a marathon. Some individuals maintain a consistent pace, while others vary their speed. Some achieve victory with a swift sprint, while others experience periods of success and failure. What suits you is optimal.

It is uncommon to observe such benevolence and elevated emotional intelligence, coupled with a dedication to achieving one's objectives and maintaining boundaries with one's classmates. You exemplify a collaborative disposition and a promising future. Many individuals excel in the college entrance examination but subsequently lose their way in pursuit of a higher position.

In the pursuit of knowledge and professional advancement, we engage in a competitive struggle, striving to excel and concerned that others may surpass us. We devise strategies and calculations that result in personal distress and the suffering of others. You express concern for your classmates, and they perceive your benevolence. They do not require pity, but rather companionship to alleviate their stress.

Each individual possesses their own destiny and original family, which exert a significant influence. Given your capacity for love and light, your willingness to give, and your importance at this critical juncture, you also bear the expectations of your family and strive for your ideals.

Upon observing the distress of one's classmates, one may feel inclined to offer assistance, yet as merely a fellow student and a minor in one's own right, one is constrained by limitations. Nevertheless, it is commendable to possess such a disposition. The university environment offers a unique opportunity to fully actualize one's abilities and extend support to others. It is, therefore, plausible to hypothesize that one can exert a considerable influence over numerous individuals.

With only a few months remaining before the college entrance examination, it is evident that students are under considerable pressure. It is important to remember to return to one's own heart, accept what happens, and to recognize that success in this examination is not guaranteed. Some individuals may even gain enlightenment and awakening as a result of this examination, leading them to assume responsibility for the fate of others. Ultimately, each individual must take responsibility for their own choices.

Regardless of one's level of activity, it is imperative to maintain a healthy diet and adequate rest. Each individual possesses intrinsic value and should strive to achieve their personal ideals. By doing so, they can lead a fulfilling life. Additionally, one's social circle can offer support and encouragement.

Hello there!

It's so hard, isn't it? You're a senior in high school, and the depression-of-the-upcoming-college-entrance-examination-how-to-cope-with-it-3138.html" target="_blank">college entrance exam is just three months away. We can all imagine the pressure on a senior in high school who is about to face the college entrance exam.

It's totally normal to feel some anxiety. We all get nervous when facing the college entrance exam! Some anxiety is actually good because it can motivate you to study with spirit and efficiency.

It's totally normal to feel bad when you see your friends' poor grades. We've all been there! And it's natural to feel guilty when you compare your good grades with theirs. It's only human to worry about disappointing them. But you're doing great! You really do consider your friends' feelings in everything. And that's a wonderful quality. After all, the college entrance exam is a major life choice. It's important to consider not only your friends' feelings, but also your own.

I really hope you can work hard with your friends and make progress together. It's so important to remember that the college entrance exam is a competition between all the candidates in the province, not just between a few of your close friends.

So, whether you get good or bad results, it won't have a big impact on them, but it will have a big impact on you.

A friend of yours has been struggling with depression because of the pressure of the college entrance exam. You used to eat with her and often comforted her.

It's totally understandable that you'd want to avoid communicating with her. It's so hard when you're feeling depressed, and it's natural to want to protect yourself from feeling sad for others. But it's important to remember that depression, like anxiety, is an emotion that is easily contagious.

The college entrance exam is coming up, and those emotions can really slow you down. If you don't perform up to your standards because of them, you might let yourself, your family, and your parents down. On the other hand, you're also worried that her depression will worsen if she's saddened by your ambition.

Your worries are totally valid. It's clear you care about your friend a lot and want what's best for her. It's natural to be concerned about her well-being, especially when you're close. It's possible that she might feel inferior or ashamed when compared to you, which could potentially worsen her depression.

The college entrance exam is coming up soon, and you're studying really hard! You're even studying when you eat, trying to make the most of every minute.

You're so full of energy and have a strong sense of initiative, which shows me that you're working hard to get a good result. Please also take care of yourself, combining work with rest, and learn to relax and rest properly in order to better cope with the pressure of a heavy academic workload. You've got this!

Take care of yourself and be ready to take on the college entrance exam with confidence!

You feel sorry for her when you see her all alone, and this is your kind, altruistic personality at work. In fact, she also has her own resources. She will actively treat her depression and at the same time insist on learning in a relaxed manner.

You believe in yourself, and you also believe in your friends. You don't eat and chat together as often as you used to, but you look at each other from afar and inspire each other.

You really want to get good grades, and that's totally understandable! You've made some great practical efforts to make that happen, too. You're doing great!

There are still so many people behind you who are waiting for you, and you really don't want to let them down or yourself down, do you? You really want to fight for yourself in the last three months and just live for yourself.

You're absolutely right! A famous psychologist, Wu Zhihong, says in her book Thank Yourself for Your Imperfections that it's not about being strict with yourself and lenient with others, but about being lenient with yourself so that you can be lenient with others.

Your actions put his theory into practice. You're showing us all how it's done! Only by being tolerant of yourself can you be tolerant of others.

With a forgiving heart, you'll be able to forgive everyone, including yourself.

I just wanted to send you a little message to say I'm really happy for you and your friends as you start this exciting journey of getting into the university of your choice. I'm sending you all my love and best wishes for the future.

I appreciate your situation and feelings. It is understandable that with the college entrance exam approaching, you may feel stressed and anxious.

At the same time, you are also someone who cares deeply about the feelings of others, which reflects your kind and altruistic personality.

However, at this critical juncture of the college entrance examination, it would be beneficial to focus your attention on yourself and do your best to fight for your future. This does not mean that you should completely ignore the feelings of others, but rather learn to balance your own needs with the needs of others.

Regarding your friend, she is facing some challenges, including depression and academic difficulties. It's a complex situation. While it's natural to want to support her, it's important to recognize that you can't bear these difficulties for her or help her by sacrificing your own study time.

It might be helpful to encourage her to face difficulties in a positive way and to seek professional help and support, such as from teachers, parents, or a counselor.

Regarding your decision to distance yourself from her, it is not a matter of right or wrong. You may wish to consider whether this will help you focus better on your studies and not cause her more harm.

If you feel that staying away from her will allow you to focus more on your studies and not make her feel more lonely and helpless, then it may be beneficial to do so. However, it is important to communicate with her with care and respect, so that she knows that your decision is not due to a lack of concern or indifference towards her.

It is also important to remember that although the college entrance examination is an important milestone, it is not the be-all and end-all of your life. While you are working hard to achieve your goals, it is also valuable to invest time and energy into your physical and mental health, as well as your relationships with others.

I believe that the best way forward is to focus on developing yourself in a comprehensive and balanced way. This will help you to progress more steadily on the road ahead.

I hope these suggestions will be of some help to you in coping with the current situation. I wish you the very best of luck with the college entrance exam!

Dear questioner,

I'm Liu, a listening coach.

I can see what you're saying and I empathize with your situation. You're a kind and gentle person at heart. You're worried about your classmates and their mental health. It seems like you've taken on a lot of responsibility for your classmates. You've become their "caregiver." And when our needs conflict with theirs, we often put our own demands second. If we choose our own needs, we may even feel guilty and self-blame.

It seems like "selfish" and "altruistic" are two completely opposite concepts. "Altruism" is seen as a complete sacrifice of self-interest, while "selfishness" is seen as a decision that makes you a "bad person."

In fact, when we talk about the pros and cons of self-interest and altruism, we often end up on opposite sides of the spectrum. At one end is complete surrender of one's own rights and interests to satisfy others, while at the other end is complete consideration of oneself and even the need for others to accommodate oneself.

Both of these can lead to problems. For example, we might become overly self-sacrificing, which can lead to self-attack and self-suppression. We might also become overly focused on pleasing others, which can result in the other person becoming a constant source of exploitation. This can be very painful, as it requires a lot of self-energy. On the other hand, we might become overly self-centered, which can cause conflicts and contradictions in various relationships.

There's also an "in-between" state, which is the balanced and virtuous relationship we're talking about. To make that happen, we need to set our own limits, understand our own energy, and respect social boundaries.

Use this as a way to decide when to help others.

Let me give you an example. On an airplane, before the flight, the flight attendants will give a safety briefing. There's a safety slogan that basically says to put on your survival equipment first and then think about helping the people around you.

2. I get the sense that there might be some psychological issues at play here. Maybe we can work through them together and find some answers.

(1) We're always aware of other people's feelings. This makes you worry about their troubles without even thinking about it.

Studying is important to you right now, but you can't focus or devote yourself fully because you're worried about yourself more than you are about them. You're worried about their inferiority complex and you'll even choose not to brag about your high grades because you're afraid to make an effort, thinking that your efforts will also be a blow to your friends. We are constantly concerned about the feelings of our friends and get involved in the roles of others.

(2) We all have to go through the stage of object separation in our growth, and why this stage is missing is related to our past experiences.

It's important to understand that we're all in a subject-object relationship with each other, and that there can be boundaries. You and your classmates are not the same person. They have their own issues, such as psychological, interpersonal, and academic issues.

Their issues are their own, and we can't make decisions for them or live their lives for them. At the same time, we can't meet the needs of others by denying ourselves the right to learn. This is unfair to you.

We need to think about what caused it and whether this pattern of sacrificial relationships is related to our growth experiences and the people around us who are important to us.

(3) Going back to the study part, we're having trouble focusing on the learning state. Is there something holding us back?

I know you want to study, but you can't let go of these things and you're not studying properly. If this goes on, our learning efficiency will suffer. I can tell you're uncomfortable, even though time is short.

But the more anxious we get, the more anxious we feel, and we end up avoiding schoolwork. This makes us focus on thinking about our classmates.

3. Given your situation, I'd like to make a few suggestions:

(1) Keep pushing yourself and focus on the positives to get your mind back on track.

We're running out of time, with only three months left, so we need to focus on preparing for the exam. As you said, you also have goals and expectations, and you don't want to let down the people who expect you to do well, nor do you want to let yourself down.

This is the bottom line. If we keep giving up on our studies because we're afraid our classmates will feel inferior if we excel, we'll pay a big price. Protect yourself first. Only if you have the energy to spare can you help others.

We're all just ordinary people. Every day, we all have to deal with difficulties and make choices. It's not selfish to follow your own desires, because you don't have to. So, with limited energy and time, it's enough for us to get our daily tasks done, prepare for exams seriously, and take care of ourselves.

(2) Learn to face things independently. This applies to you as well as your classmate. Being overly helpful can lead to a sense of being a savior and cause self-restraint.

In psychology, there's a concept called the "superego," which is our highest level of moral standards for ourselves. When we assume we're almost perfect, we'll feel guilty even if we just want to finish cooking dinner early.

Your classmate is in a tough spot, and without realizing it, you've become her "savior." It seems like we're expected to look out for her mental well-being, but you're also a student. How are you holding up? You're also facing a lot of academic pressure.

We can't be our classmate's caretaker forever. How long can we keep doing that? If her situation is really serious, she needs more professional and systematic treatment.

This is beyond your scope of abilities.

(3) It's important to pay attention to your own emotional state, find ways to relieve stress, and take care of your mental health. At the same time, make sure you're preparing for the exam in a reasonable way.

We're feeling a little unstable mentally right now. During our middle school years, we always wanted to be good friends first, which seems to have weakened our role as students with goals. On the bright side, you're good at seeing your own needs, realizing that your college entrance exam is the most important thing, and adjusting your behavior accordingly, starting to study actively.

If this situation continues to affect us, try not to suppress your true feelings. Talk to a professional mental health practitioner to relieve stress, adjust your mindset, reduce anxiety, and organize your thoughts through writing. Of course, there will be an adjustment process as we go from being afraid to try in the past to being eager to try harder now. So, try to re-evaluate your learning progress and fill in the gaps in the shortest possible time.

What matters most to you is what you want.

I encourage you to have a little confidence in yourself.

Live for yourself!

That's all I have to say on the matter.

Thanks for reading!

I'm a listening therapist at Yixinli.

Please don't hesitate to reach out if you have any questions or need any support.

Good morning, my name is Qu Huidong, and I am a psychotherapist who specializes in using imagery to facilitate healing.

With less than 100 days remaining until the college entrance exam, I empathize with the questioner's nervous state of learning. While the questioner is racing against time, our thoughts often turn to another classmate who is depressed due to stress. Distraction can cause distress, and it is understandable to question whether it is appropriate to maintain distance from this individual.

When you say you want to live for yourself during the final sprint before the college entrance exam, I may have to suggest an alternative approach, because you are not a robot for studying and exams. As a living person, emotions are also part of you. Living for yourself not only involves total dedication to your studies, but also the need to take care of your emotional feelings.

When you are attempting to transition from altruism to egoism, moving from one extreme to the other, this is not an accurate representation of your true self. I would view the act of distancing yourself as a form of self-protection.

The college entrance exam is currently your primary objective, and the associated pressure is significant. When you observe your classmates becoming depressed due to the pressure, you may experience concern about your own emotions and the potential for emotional contagion. There is nothing inherently wrong with seeking positive influences, but it is important to recognize that your emotions are within your control.

It is beneficial to surround yourself with positive individuals, but it is important to recognize that your emotions are your own. It is not realistic to maintain a consistently high level of stress for an extended period. Engaging in appropriate relaxation techniques can provide the body and mind with a much-needed break. Listening to music, engaging in light exercise, engaging in conversation with colleagues, and expressing your concerns are all effective ways to relax.

It is important to note that nervous and tired feelings can trigger negative emotions. However, if you can adjust yourself to a state of moderate tension, you will be less affected by the emotions of your depressed classmates.

As the adage goes, "sharpening the knife does not delay the chopping of firewood." You have come to the platform to write about your difficulties. Do you feel guilty for "wasting" time writing these words? In fact, this behavior is an effective way to manage your emotions. You may also choose to seek psychological counseling to obtain professional support more efficiently.

Best regards,

Dear questioner,

From what I've read, it seems you may have some familiarity with psychology, particularly social psychology. It's possible that you've come across the concept of the altruistic personality in the context of social psychology. I must admit, I haven't personally read many books on social psychology.

I must admit that my knowledge of social psychology is rather limited.

I recently looked up the term "altruistic personality" online and found that there is a measurement tool called MBTI that can help us understand this concept better. According to the MBTI test results, people can be divided into 16 different personality types, some of which are called "altruistic personality."

Could I ask you to consider whether you might have an altruistic personality? If you have taken a test, or heard an assessment from a psychology teacher, or learned about it from a psychology book, then it might be the case that you have an altruistic personality.

From my perspective, the qualities of a helpful personality are closely linked to sensitivity, love, consideration, and responsibility. Sensitivity, empathy, and a nuanced understanding of the emotions of others are also important. For instance, if you observe your classmate eating alone, it's natural to feel a sense of loneliness.

It's possible that your original family education may have influenced this. It seems that you place a high value on helping others.

One potential drawback of altruism is that it can sometimes result in an excessive focus on the feelings of others, which might lead to some degree of conflict and confusion, and a possible neglect of one's own emotional experience.

Given your current status as a high school senior, it is important to prioritize your studies, prepare for the college entrance exam, and strive to gain admission to your desired university. It is not necessary to dwell on the situation or feel regret for the impact on others.

It's important to recognize that everyone has their own needs and priorities. While it's admirable to be selfless and considerate, it's also crucial to prioritize your own well-being.

It is interesting to note that, in my opinion, the altruistic personality shares some similarities with the pleasing personality. Both can be characterised by a tendency to be overly compassionate, to prioritise the needs of others, and to frequently find themselves in challenging situations.

There are certain advantages to altruistic behavior in real-life interpersonal interactions. It is possible that altruistic behavior may earn the praise or admiration of others in reality, and you may also be respected by others, which may give you a sense of self-pride and pride.

However, there may be instances when the recipient of help may feel that their self-esteem has been hurt. If the individual in question has a strong sense of self-esteem, they may perceive your sympathy as pity. They may feel that they are not a normal person because of your sympathy and resent you.

It might be helpful to try to maintain a balance in your feelings towards others. Treat her as you would any other person, with kindness and respect, but don't feel the need to get too involved.

If you are concerned that you may be susceptible to depression from others, I would like to reassure you that depression is not contagious. It is not an infectious disease, but it can be emotionally contagious.

One way to avoid being affected by other people's emotions, or to not worry too much about other people, is

It may be helpful to maintain inner peace by looking at things calmly and objectively, from a third-person perspective. This could involve analyzing a situation from the perspective of a bystander, which might help to avoid being infected by other people's emotions. Deep breathing and meditation are also effective methods.

It would be helpful to be aware of which emotions you are affected by, what emotional reactions you have, and which people's emotions will affect you. Learning to restrain and control your emotions, and learning to soothe yourself, could be beneficial.

It would be beneficial to set boundaries and guard your beliefs and core values. It is important to remember that you have the power to decide what affects your goal of going to college. While it is natural to be influenced by the attitudes and emotions of others, it is essential to recognize that other people's emotions are their responsibility, not yours.

It would be beneficial to pay attention to your own needs. It is important to learn to take responsibility for your own needs and to put your own needs first.

It might be helpful to distract yourself by listening to music, changing the subject, exercising, or watching a movie. This can help you avoid being distracted by other people's negative emotions.

From a psychological perspective, there is nothing wrong with the motivation to prepare for the college entrance exam and get into the ideal university. There is nothing wrong with a little self-interest, as long as it does not violate social morality or the law. It is all permitted and recognized by society. It is important to remember that there is no need to feel any psychological burden, and to prepare for the college entrance exam with all your heart!

I wish you the best of luck in the college entrance exam!