Seventeen-year-old girl, school anxiety, brain is chaotic, I don't know what I'm thinking.

Good day.

As an experienced educator, I am always concerned when I observe a student facing similar challenges to those you have described.

I am aware that emotional regulation is a personal challenge, but your failure to complete your homework is still a concern.

Over the course of my 20-year teaching career, I have observed numerous students grappling with similar challenges.

Some students are able to make the necessary changes to successfully gain admission to their desired university, while others may face long-term regret.

The individual in question is 17 years of age, has experienced an early romantic interest, has been in a relationship with an ex-partner, is currently involved with a new romantic interest, does not engage in physical exercise, and lacks motivation to pursue academic studies.

I would like to preface my remarks by stating that I do not wish to cause any distress to my colleagues. However, I feel compelled to share the following insights gleaned from our discussions.

It is evident that the student is not content with the status quo and is motivated to pursue a change.

It is important to be prepared for the challenges that change can bring. To make a change, one must be willing to end the old state of affairs and embrace new ways of doing things.

It is crucial to recognize that we are currently at a pivotal point in our lives. If we make the right choices, we will have the opportunity to experience a wealth of new and exciting things.

As we are still young, we have the opportunity to fulfill our dreams.

I am aware that we are currently experiencing some difficulties, and despite feeling anxious, we are still procrastinating and lacking self-control.

Self-control is a skill that must be developed through training in order to be acquired.

To train oneself to be self-disciplined, it is first necessary to have a clear goal.

Have you identified your preferred university? Have you considered how your ideal university experience would shape your lifestyle?

It is important to think in detail about our goals and to create a clear, detailed picture of what we want to achieve.

When faced with a lack of motivation to study, it is beneficial to engage in positive visualization techniques, such as imagining oneself in a university setting. This can help to enhance motivation and drive.

The reason many successful individuals achieve success is that they all have a clear vision and are willing to overcome obstacles to achieve it.

It is essential to learn to decline temptation and to delay gratification.

I recommend that students cease comparing themselves to their classmates, cease focusing on their former romantic partners, and cease engaging in any other activities that do not contribute to their academic success.

It is important to consider your aspirations for higher education and to visualise your future lifestyle as a student. Additionally, it is valuable to reflect on the academic workload you have completed today and to identify any areas where you require further guidance. Furthermore, it is beneficial to explore your career objectives and to identify the personal attributes you aspire to develop.

Let's proceed.

It is important to understand that we are capable of fostering growth and collaboration, much like how a sycamore tree can convene a phoenix.

I find the saying "The key to solving all problems is to make yourself better" particularly insightful.

As you continue to improve, you will find that positive circumstances and people will increasingly surround you.

I hope this information is useful to my colleagues.

Thank you for your time. I am Jiusi, from Yixinli, and I appreciate your attention.

In light of this text, I also perceive my mind to be in a state of considerable disarray, given the multitude of tasks and responsibilities that I am obliged to manage. I am disinclined to take action to reduce the number of tasks and responsibilities that I am required to juggle. Consequently, I am only able to recall these tasks and responsibilities intermittently through my conscious mind, as they hold significant personal value for me and I am reluctant to relinquish them.

The subject reports a tendency toward anxiety and low self-esteem. The observation of the subject's former romantic partner displaying affection for his new partner evokes a negative emotional response. Similarly, the subject experiences distress when observing former friends who have achieved success in life. During class, the subject finds himself preoccupied with observing the other students, which gives rise to concerns about their educational progress. The subject reports difficulty in controlling these concerns. These experiences contribute to a sense of inadequacy, with the subject perceiving himself as inferior to others.

Additionally, I am concerned about my ability to engage in social interactions. I often find myself at a loss for topics of conversation with my classmates, which can be discouraging. Even simple greetings can be challenging, as I tend to ruminate on whether I have made a misstep, whether I have lost the flow of the conversation, or what the other person might be thinking. I am also worried that my lack of social skills has been noticed by my classmates, leading them to avoid me or view me negatively.

It is challenging to maintain focus in academic settings. Despite my best efforts to concentrate, I frequently find myself distracted. I often experience difficulties in maintaining attention. I feel bored. I experience feelings of irritation. I feel the urge to cry. Regardless of how I attempt to relax, it is ineffective. It is exhausting... It is frustrating... Given the numerous concerns that the questioner has to "worry about," it is understandable that they find it difficult to concentrate on their studies.

However, I am unable to concentrate on my studies. On the one hand, I am annoyed with myself, and on the other hand, I feel powerless about my inability to succeed. Despite expending a considerable amount of mental energy, I am unable to make any progress. It is, therefore, a highly frustrating and exhausting experience.

At times, I experience a profound sense of depletion. I am unable to engage in physical activity, including exercise, and even writing becomes challenging. My capacity for self-control is severely limited. The questioner may perceive themselves as lacking the ability to alter the circumstances and, unconsciously, resort to this method to mitigate the intensity of their internal conflict. I am reluctant to contemplate the matter further and find myself unable to initiate action. I am simply lacking the requisite energy to do so.

"I'm in love again... I don't want to lose him." It would appear that the experience of being in love has imbued the questioner's "troubled life" with a certain degree of positivity. Despite the fact that the questioner does not typically engage in ruminative thinking about the object of their affection, nor do they hold a positive view of their romantic partner, nor do they believe their romantic partner's romantic words, nor do they feel inclined to share their thoughts with them, and nor do they believe that their romantic partner fully comprehends their feelings, the questioner still does not want to lose them. Should the questioner truly lose them, they will be left with a sense of worthlessness.

"I'm anxious about starting school tomorrow... What should I do?" Upon observing this, the questioner may inquire as to the source of their distress. It is possible that the questioner may benefit from taking some form of action. Attempting to resolve the issue through mere contemplation may prove ineffective, potentially exacerbating the anxiety.

In the event that there are an excessive number of tasks to be completed, the questioner may experience difficulty in determining the optimal starting point. It is therefore advised that the questioner compile a comprehensive list of their concerns and prioritize them according to their level of urgency. Once this has been done, the questioner should then focus their attention on the most pressing issue and defer the remainder for subsequent consideration.

I am sincerely convinced that my reply has been helpful, and I hope that it has been of some assistance. Best wishes!

Hello there! I can tell you're feeling a bit anxious and confused, so let me give you a warm hug first!

1.

I can see you're feeling anxious about school starting and not having finished your homework. I know how it is! You can try to transfer this anxiety to doing your homework. When you are fully engaged in your homework, you will find that this anxiety will disappear!

2. You said you were really upset when you saw your ex-boyfriend so happy. It's totally normal to feel that way! Maybe your heart ❤️ is just lonely and needs some new friends to fill the void. By stepping out of the pain and unhappiness of the past, you'll discover that life is actually pretty great!

3.

You say that your current friends don't want to talk to him much because he hasn't yet entered your heart. Don't worry, though! I'm sure that over time you will be surrounded by his warmth, and at that time you will have more sincerity and heartfelt words for him! The current state is because of the ex-boyfriend and the pressure of studying, which have made you feel worse, distracted, and unable to calm down!

4.

When you devote yourself to learning, you will feel much more at ease. I know it can be tough when the story with your ex-boyfriend keeps interfering with you and you can't forget it, or you can't help but compare, and you can't stop forgetting. But you can do it! Just accept it, accept everything from the past, accept your own imperfections, and when you have time, you can read the book "The Power of Self-Growth," or if you don't have much time, you can listen to it. You will change the way you think about yourself and the way you think about others, and you will be more at ease facing everything!

5.

If you're not doing anything, why not go out and take in the scenery, or go out and exercise? Exercise is the source of life and can give you more strength!

I really hope everything goes well for you! I'm so happy to be able to share with you and I really hope it helps and inspires you in some way!

Dear Question Asker, Thank you for your inquiry. Best regards, [Name] [Title]

After reviewing your account, I empathize with your situation. It appears that you are experiencing significant anxiety and a decline in your emotional well-being.

Please clarify whether this anxiety and powerlessness has only manifested in the past two days since the commencement of the academic year. Has it occurred previously?

1. "I seem to be prone to low self-esteem." It is important to note that low self-esteem is a common phenomenon, affecting almost everyone to varying degrees. This complex emotion arises from an inaccurate understanding of oneself and the underlying reasons for low self-esteem are also diverse. For instance, some individuals may have experienced an incomplete family structure or the loss of parental love at an early age, leading to heightened self-consciousness.

Some of it is due to physical defects, etc. Additionally, one's own personality can contribute to the development of an inferiority complex.

For example, individuals with introverted personalities tend to experience heightened levels of melancholy and a heightened sensitivity to external stimuli, particularly negative ones. If they are unable to effectively vent or resolve these emotions, they may develop a sense of inferiority over time. For instance, if they encounter repeated setbacks, they may lose confidence in their abilities, perceiving their intelligence as inferior to others.

I would like to recommend Adler's "Inferiority and Transcendence." In this book, he states, "Inferiority is not a negative quality. The key is to understand your own inferiority, overcome difficulties, and transcend yourself." As he notes, each of us has a different degree of inferiority because we all strive to improve ourselves and live better lives.

You may wish to read this book when you have the opportunity. It offers guidance on how to examine your inferiority complex.

2. It is not uncommon to experience a range of emotions when witnessing displays of affection from a romantic partner or observing a friend's success. When faced with such situations, it can be helpful to reflect on the thoughts and feelings that arise.

For example, if you believe that you are not as accomplished as your colleague, it is important to recognize that the circle of friends provides a platform for showcasing one's abilities. However, life is not defined by a single moment, but rather by a series of experiences. Therefore, if you perceive a particular moment to be representative of your entire life, you may be overlooking the broader context.

It is commonly held that everyone has positive experiences in life. However, it is inevitable that there will be periods when challenges arise. Attempting to focus on the experiences of others may not be the most effective approach for addressing personal difficulties. It is often more beneficial to take a reflective stance and identify the underlying issues.

What methods can be employed to improve one's mood? What are your thoughts on this matter?

We all face challenges in life, but with perseverance, we can overcome them.

3. Additionally, please describe the quality and duration of the subject's sleep. It is important to consider the possibility of depression in light of the initial complaint.

Depression has three low symptoms: low mood, reduced volitional activity, and slow responses and a low voice. In addition to feeling weak, slow to act, and crying easily, does the questioner also have symptoms such as loss of appetite, always feeling down, loss of interest, and a lack of hobbies? For most people, a few days of feeling down will improve on their own. However, depression is a persistent low mood, which is also a typical symptom.

It is recommended that the questioner seek assistance from the school counselor as soon as possible.

When a person develops depression or excessive anxiety, it can also have an impact on their family. In such cases, it may be beneficial to seek psychological counseling or family therapy, as these can provide valuable support.

I extend my support to you, and I am here to help.

The individual in question is unable to confront their own personal shortcomings or the way in which they are perceived by others.

It is human nature to persist in exerting oneself to the utmost, and to become once more attentive to the opinions of others, imitating their behaviour. The desire to be regarded as admirable and attractive by others leads to a tendency to prioritise the opinions of others over one's own, resulting in a lack of focus on one's own reality.

The process is characterized by a constant cycle of planning, hard work, giving up, and struggling. Ultimately, the expected result is achieved, and the individual then begins to complain about themselves once more.

Love is a multifaceted and intricate phenomenon. It is a subjective experience, yet it is also a dynamic interaction between two individuals.

Love can be defined as a kind of giving, a kind of restraint, and an effort not to have unrealistic expectations of others. It is not a transactional process; rather, it is an act of self-sacrifice with the intention of fostering a positive experience. Love can also be conceptualized as a chance encounter between two individuals who are mutually attracted to one another.

Adolescence is a period of significant change and personal growth, during which individuals begin to explore and develop their unique identities. However, with the passage of time, many adolescents find themselves adapting to the demands and expectations of their social environments, which can result in a loss of their authentic selves. It is essential to reflect on whether this is truly a desirable outcome or if it is merely a consequence of the influence of one's peers.

The decision to be in a relationship is not based on a single factor, such as mutual liking. Individuals are independent entities before they enter into a relationship and possess unique personalities. They may form a relationship based on a fleeting feeling, but this does not guarantee its long-term success. Many relationships end due to incompatibility, and this is a common occurrence. It is important to recognize that the decision to end a relationship is a joint one and that it will not necessarily end because of one person's decision.

Furthermore, the foundation of a relationship is acceptance of the positive and negative aspects of one's partner. It is possible that a momentary misjudgment due to positive attributes has led to the final decision not being the fault of either party, but rather that both individuals are simply incompatible.

It is erroneous to assume that if one relies on determination and works assiduously, one will inevitably reap rewards. In fact, if one does not work in the optimal direction, one's efforts may ultimately lead to adverse consequences.

The efficacy of one's efforts is contingent upon the foundation of one's situation and the extent to which one is imitating others. The depth of one's understanding of one's own situation is also a determining factor in the success of one's endeavors. Those who lack a clear understanding of their situation may find themselves adrift, expending their desire and motivation to learn in methods and atmospheres that are not conducive to their growth.

It is inadvisable to establish goals in a state of confusion and to pursue the aspirations of others. If everyone were identical, there would be no independent souls. When experiencing fatigue, it is beneficial to take a respite and reflect on one's positive and negative attributes, as well as one's authentic self.

It is not a matter of evading one's emotions; it is not possible to simply will away negative feelings and expect everything to become wonderful. The presence of both positive and negative emotions is an integral aspect of a complete self. Only by accepting the complete self can an effective change be made.

In a period of conceptual evolution, it is possible to confuse transient beauty with love. Love is not solely associated with positive outcomes; it can also exert negative influences. It is essential to adhere to one's deepest and most authentic thoughts to gain a comprehensive understanding of love. Love is not a tool for suppressing emotions; rather, it serves as the foundation for collaborative endeavors.

In the event that one believes the other party will not comprehend the situation, it is advisable to convey one's genuine sentiments. It is a fundamental principle of interpersonal communication that individuals perceive others based on their verbal and non-verbal cues.

An individual with an independent personality is unable to fully perceive another person. The only person who can be moved is oneself.

First, it is essential to gain a comprehensive understanding of one's own state, whether emotional or pertaining to learning difficulties. Without a thorough grasp of one's own situation, it is challenging to make meaningful improvements.

Secondly, with regard to one's learning status, it is advisable to communicate with one's own teacher in order to gain a more detailed understanding of one's current status. As a teacher who teaches group classes, he is unable to fully comprehend the nuances of each individual student's status. It is therefore essential to communicate with one's teacher in order to gain insight into the specific challenges one is facing and to develop effective strategies for addressing them.

A teacher must contend with the challenge of catering to the diverse needs of numerous students within a single classroom. Attempting to base one's learning on the imitation of others, rather than on one's own individual state, can potentially lead to a state of confusion and indecision.

Third, emotions require interaction. It is not possible to achieve a completely empathic experience merely by providing an explanation. If one is unhappy, it is advisable to communicate this to the relevant individual, so that they are aware of the situation and can learn to understand the emotional state of the person in question. Before doing so, however, it is important to consider whether this is truly the desired outcome, or whether it is merely a form of emotional comfort.

Fourth, it should be noted that the issue in question is not unique to the individual in question. The school's psychological counselor is better positioned to facilitate communication about the situation, engage in a face-to-face exchange, and collaborate with the individual to identify a solution that aligns with their needs.

It enables the individual to progress towards the life they envisage, rather than remaining in a state of indecision.

Hello! I'll give you a hug.

From what you said, I can tell you feel inferior, insecure, and helpless. You want to be accepted, understood, and cared for.

It's okay to feel anxious, panicky, uneasy, or irritable because of school. Even if you haven't finished your homework or done anything for yourself this holiday, it doesn't mean you're bad. You know this state isn't good, so you can change it. But the result might not be what you expect, so you ignore it and judge yourself harshly. What do you think?

People feel uncomfortable when they ignore their pain points.

If someone makes us feel uncomfortable, we should try to understand why. We may need to be accepted, approved of, valued, understood, or supported. When we understand our needs, we can respond in a way that meets them.

If you feel uncomfortable because of someone else's words or actions, express your true feelings and needs. Don't hide your emotions and wait for the other person to guess your response.

It's not others' responsibility to respond to your needs.

You are easily hurt and find it difficult to express your feelings because you lack self-confidence. When you reject yourself, you project that rejection onto others.

You become sensitive and easily hurt.

To improve your self-esteem, accept yourself, overcome your inferiority complex, and develop self-confidence. Make a list of your strengths and keep a gratitude journal.

You can see your own good and bad points. You can try to get along with your emotions by keeping a diary, and learn to be self-aware and care for yourself.

There is no such thing as good or bad emotions. Behind every emotion is an unmet need. Emotions need to be seen, accepted, and responded to. When you can learn to get along with your emotions, you will discover that all emotions are good.

What do you think?

I'm Lily, a Q&A Museum listener. Love you, world.

Hello, question asker! I'm thrilled to answer your question!

First, give the questioner a big hug and let them know you're there for them. It's totally normal to feel anxious when facing new challenges, and it's okay to feel a little overwhelmed. It's time to take back control! From the questioner's description, it seems that the questioner is not dealing with a mental illness, but is just prone to anxiety. This is something we can work through together! When did the questioner's anxiety begin, and has the questioner always been so worried?

If the questioner can handle things that he is familiar with well, will the anxiety be relieved? The great news is that anxiety is actually a self-defense mechanism. When facing pressure in life or study, the body will defend itself and produce anxiety.

So, is the anxiety that the questioner feels a common feeling or is it unique to them?

What I'm getting at is this: it's important to understand whether the anxiety or worry about the illness is something only the questioner thinks about.

When most people encounter a situation like the questioner's, for example, facing the pressure of the college entrance exam, do they feel different emotions than ordinary students? Absolutely! They feel a rush of excitement, a surge of energy, and a hint of nervousness. Or do they all feel worried and anxious when facing the college entrance exam? Not at all! They feel a sense of determination, a drive to succeed, and a little bit of pressure. Or is it that in the same situation, only the questioner feels anxious, while others don't feel any pressure? Nope! They feel a sense of unity, a bond of support, and a little bit of nervousness.

How do students deal with these pressures? How can teachers help everyone?

I don't know if the questioner has explored this aspect of the situation, or if they are just immersed in their own emotions. Either way, it's an exciting opportunity for the questioner to think about it!

In some cases, if students are all in the same situation, they will inevitably feel anxious. But that's okay! It's totally normal to feel this way when facing a big test or challenging coursework. The main thing about academic pressure is how the questioner should respond to these adverse situations.

The questioner can also ask the teacher how to deal with stress, or seek psychological intervention from a counselor. The great news is that as long as psychological intervention can be carried out at an early stage and timely adjustments can be made, the questioner's academic pressure will not be so great, and their emotions will not be so anxious!

I'm happy to be able to offer some simple advice on the questioner's anxiety since the question was asked on a platform.

Now for the fun part! Get comfortable, sit down, and write down the absolute worst possible outcome.

Many people feel very anxious about giving a public speech. But there's no need to worry! The list method is a great way to get those negative thoughts out of your mind and onto paper. Once you've written them out and made them explicit, you'll have a kind of independent third-party perspective. This allows you to look at your own affairs as if they were someone else's affairs. This is a great way to let go and feel at ease!

At that point, you'll see that the worst-case scenario isn't so bad after all!

The questioner is stressed about their current studies, has developed anxiety, and wants to find someone to share these pressures with, but they are unable to get a good response. Then the questioner can try writing down the worst possible outcome.

What could possibly go wrong? Is it something you can live with? If it happens, you'll be able to pick yourself up and try again!

I have a simple suggestion for you. What if you do badly in the college entrance exam and you don't have the opportunity to improve your education in the future? No matter what happens in the college entrance exam, as long as you go to college, you will have the opportunity to improve yourself! So what are you worried about?

And write them down!

Now for the fun part! It's time to list the problems that trouble you.

Now for the fun part! It's time to list the problems that trouble you. Be honest with yourself, and list the three problems that trouble you most at the moment. Then, write three solutions for each problem. You can even focus on the problem you want to solve the most at the moment. Try to solve it yourself, or ask someone else to help you solve it.

If you feel like you're unable to solve it, you can absolutely seek psychological intervention from a counselor! It will be of great help to you.

Embrace your emotions!

Anxiety is your friend! It's a self-protection mechanism that helps you stay alert and aware of potential dangers. But sometimes it gets the better of you, making you feel bad. If you're feeling anxious, try emptying your mind. Since you're already feeling it, you might as well dive deep into your emotions for a while. Let your mind empty, and don't think about anything else!

You should definitely learn to accept yourself, relax your emotions, and even eat some sweets if you want to feel happy! If you have a good grasp of the knowledge, you can even do something you are interested in the day before the exam, such as finding your own way to relax, so that you can face things the next day with a good attitude!

I really hope my answer helps the questioner!

Greetings, question asker. It is a pleasure to make your acquaintance.

I empathize with your current state of mind, as it is reminiscent of my own experiences during high school, during which I similarly found myself in a similar situation during almost every holiday.

It is not uncommon for students to leave their homework until the last day of the holiday period. Many people engage in similar practices. During this time, it is not unusual for students to feel uneasy and unmotivated to complete their assignments.

Your time was spent in a state of distraction, ruminating on a multitude of thoughts.

I empathize with your distress and anguish.

Therefore, my initial recommendation is to achieve a state of inner peace.

It seems reasonable to posit that you had set yourself a goal before the holiday, but were unable to complete it due to an inability to control your emotions. This is a common human weakness, and therefore not a cause for censure.

The subject reports feelings of anxiety and inferiority, as well as distress when observing displays of affection from their former romantic partner.

(It is unclear whether the departure of your boyfriend has resulted in a state of self-doubt.) It is evident that you still care about him. It is important to acknowledge that your actions at the age of 17 were naive and heartbreaking.

Given that he is a part of your past, it would be advisable to cease directing any further attention towards him. It is a widely held belief that all departures pave the way for the emergence of true love.

⭐⭐⭐

It is distressing to observe the success of former acquaintances who have ceased communication, prompting a surge of emotion. The inability to cease ruminating during class, frequently glancing at classmates to ascertain their learning, is indicative of an underlying anxiety.

It would be beneficial for you to relax and to address your own mentality in order to make the necessary adjustments.

Given your apprehension about allowing others to learn from you, it would be prudent to pursue your studies with greater rigor. This may foster a sense of admiration and envy among your peers.

This can be a motivating factor. When others are happy, one can also strive to achieve a similar state of contentment.

"Everyone is determined to be happy." It is also this writer's sincere hope that you may find happiness.

It is challenging to maintain focus on academic tasks when experiencing feelings of boredom, irritation, and emotional distress, even when attempting to relax. In such instances, it is beneficial to seek guidance from a school psychologist. Given the importance of academic pursuits at this stage, addressing emotional factors that may be impeding progress is crucial.

Do not succumb to fear.

You are currently in a relationship and are concerned about losing your partner. However, you do not typically think about them. First, it is unclear whether this is due to a lack of trust or insecurity.

Secondly, it would be beneficial to ascertain whether the individual in question provides sufficient security.

Has the relationship undergone growth and development, or has it become stagnant and unproductive?

The nature of high school love is relatively straightforward. The optimal outcome is for partners to enhance one another's abilities and motivate each other to pursue admission to a reputable institution of higher learning. This objective aligns with the aspirations of high school students.

The question is thus posed:

The commencement of the academic year is imminent. It is my sincere hope that you will be able to confront your true self and emerge from the experience with a greater sense of strength. It is not uncommon for individuals to experience difficulties in adapting to a new school environment during the initial stages.

It is my sincere hope that you will demonstrate courage and resilience.

The following narrative is presented for your consideration:

In the era of the ancient Romans, a knight was resolute in his determination to ascend a mountain and reach the kingdom of sports on the other side. To achieve this goal with the greatest possible haste, the knight opted to traverse the mountain directly, eschewing the more circuitous route.

At his command, the horse commenced forward movement. Abruptly, for reasons unknown, the horse altered its trajectory.

The rider attempts to control the horse by tugging on the reins, but the horse shows no inclination to proceed along the rugged mountain trail. After a brief struggle, the rider relinquishes his efforts and follows the horse's direction to an apple tree.

The question is whether the relationship has developed in a positive direction.

From this unsuccessful endeavor, the knight gleaned three key insights regarding travel: 1. It is prudent to devise a comprehensive itinerary. Traversing the mountain may enhance the likelihood of reaching the intended destination.

Secondly, the probability of the horse deviating from the intended direction can be reduced by selecting a route devoid of fruit trees.

Ultimately, the rider must control the horse. If the rider is able to tame the horse, they may have already achieved the pinnacle of success in the realm of sports.

This metaphor of the knight and his horse is inspired by an article by Professor of Psychology at Saarland University, Germany, Malte Fritz, which describes the conflict in our brains. When our intentions (the knight) are contrary to our impulses (the horse), although our intentions are clear—that is, our knight knows where he wants to go (the other side of the mountain) and how to get there (climb the mountain)—these intentions are contrary to the urge to satisfy the immediate desire (to eat the apple), and we deviate from the original plan.

It is a common experience to encounter situations in which one is unable to resist an impulse and instead chooses to exert control over one's actions.

It is my sincere hope that you will have a fulfilling high school experience.

I extend my best wishes to the young lady.

I extend my love and affection to the world and to you.

Dear Question Asker, I hope this message finds you well. I am writing to inquire about a matter that has come to my attention.

Given that you arrived at this forum at almost 11 p.m., the start of the academic year, and that you are still concerned about completing your winter vacation assignments, I am compelled to respond to your query. When I read your words, I was prompted to offer my perspective because they immediately brought to mind my own child. On the eve of the academic year, he had not yet finished his homework, and it was still past midnight. His demeanor was positive, and it often took him until two or three in the morning to complete his tasks. This is a common phenomenon among children as they prepare for the new academic year, and they often feel overwhelmed and unable to finish everything. I empathize with this sentiment, and I believe it is not exclusive to children but can also be experienced by adults. I extend my support and encouragement to you as you navigate this challenging period.

I recall advising my child at the time: there is no obligation to complete the task, as the instructor will not dismiss you. Once you arrive, particularly given the current epidemic, the instructor will not send you back at all. It is acceptable to simply go to bed early and not rush to complete the homework.

However, I am aware that this information will not be particularly helpful, as I have observed that your confusion is not about the unfinished homework, but rather about a larger, more complex issue that you are facing.

You indicate that you are 17 years of age, which would typically correspond to the second year of high school. The second year of high school is a period of adolescence and also marks the beginning of the period of budding youth. It is not uncommon for individuals to experience romantic attraction to the opposite sex, and thus it is not unusual for you to be in a relationship. The duration of your relationship with your former romantic partner, the circumstances surrounding its dissolution, and the length of time that elapsed between these events are unknown to me.

Nevertheless, it is evident that you have invested considerable emotional capital in this relationship. Otherwise, it is difficult to explain why you experience such fluctuations in your emotional state when he displays affection.

The emotions you have articulated may be related to the dissolution of your relationship with this former romantic partner.

It is inherent to teenage girls and boys that they are emotionally unstable. Therefore, it is to be expected that a relationship between two teenagers will be emotionally unstable and that the couple will break up and reconcile. Without further information about the specific situation, it is not possible to make specific recommendations. However, it can be argued that the relationship should be viewed as a process of growth for both parties. Failure is an inevitable part of this process and it is only through experiencing failure that individuals can learn and become more mature. Therefore, it is important for the couple to reflect on what went wrong in the relationship and to learn from these experiences in order to change themselves.

It would be prudent to ascertain whether your ex-boyfriend's public displays of affection are a permanent fixture in his relationship with you. It is plausible that he exhibited similar behavior at the outset of your relationship.

After reading your post, I am left with the impression that your ex-boyfriend may not possess the requisite maturity. If he lacks maturity, it is unclear why you are so invested in the situation. If your relationship with your ex-boyfriend impacts your relationship with your friends and you disseminate their negative emotions, it is evident that you will suffer more than you gain.

I am reluctant to divulge my true feelings, but I feel compelled to point out that you are currently a sophomore, and as such, you are still required to study. As students, studying is our primary responsibility. I can discern that you are discussing your concentration. You rely on your determination and are genuinely committed to listening attentively and studying assiduously. However, it is important to acknowledge the role of youthful emotions in your decision-making process. I recognize that you may occasionally allow these emotions to influence your actions, but I urge you to maintain your concentration and commitment to studying, even if you allow yourself to be swayed by these emotions for a few days. Over time, you should resume your studies with renewed focus and determination.

It is still possible to discuss the topic of love. It seems that you have not yet fully recovered from the previous relationship, which may be why you are reluctant to trust this one. This may be the reason why you have expressed doubt about his situation. It is possible to maintain a relationship with him in this way. If you get along with him in this way, the relationship may become somewhat more mundane. Over time, whether you get along better and better or become more and more distant, the impact on you will be less severe. Therefore, it is possible to get along with him in this way.

If feasible, it would be advantageous to schedule an appointment with him to leverage your experiences for academic benefit. It is my belief that when both parties utilize studies as a motivating factor, it fosters a more stable relationship. Ultimately, students are required to prioritize academic pursuits. If you consistently demonstrate dedication and progress, it can serve as a mutual source of inspiration. I believe you can rely on each other as you embark on a shared journey of learning. It is truly a remarkable phenomenon.

If you are unable to complete your homework assignment at this time, there is no cause for concern. You may proceed to school tomorrow with no difficulty. Thereafter, you may continue to maintain contact with this individual and endeavor to make learning your primary motivating factor.

I wish you success in your studies, good relationships, and excellent academic results this semester, as well as the olive branch of your dream university reaching out to you next year.

I extend my warmest regards to you and the world at large.