Severe social anxiety disorder, the holidays are coming, I can't take a bus, I can't go home, what should I do?

Hello! I'm Nian Ci.

The questioner has views on how his character affects his ability to adapt. What are the advantages of his character and what needs to be improved?

There's no such thing as a good or bad personality. It depends on the work.

The questioner's personality has advantages. It allows him to be cautious and observant. This helps him understand problems better. He can also think more deeply about things.

The questioner and his colleagues have problems because the other person is too fastidious and impulsive. The questioner prefers prudence and stability, which makes it difficult for him to approve of the other person's practices. If the questioner doesn't follow the other person's pace, the other person's desire for control may affect the other person's work speed, which affects the relationship between colleagues. The questioner grew up in a strict family environment and is not very good at expressing his feelings.

I don't know how to get along with my colleagues.

Family members are strict but often understand and tolerate you. Colleagues often cannot be as demanding and tolerant as family members. Therefore, the questioner can communicate with the other party seriously and patiently, so that they can understand each other, cooperate with each other, work together to improve efficiency, and complete their work conscientiously.

I think the other person will understand and the questioner will work well with them.

Hello, my dear friend! I'll give you a warm hug from afar first.

It's totally normal to feel insecure inside, longing to be understood, accepted, and supported.

You're an adult in terms of age, but you still depend on your family a lot when it comes to life and emotions. This is partly because you lack confidence and don't believe you can take responsibility for your current life. It's also likely that it's the way you were raised. Your parents always interfered too much and unconsciously controlled you. Being treated this way by your parents from an early age has gradually made you dependent on them in terms of life and emotions. Everyone has an instinctive need to be cared for and considerate.

So, just try to be aware. You particularly care about your parents being able to give you more support in life, for example, like helping you buy train tickets and pick you up. What inner needs of yours will be well met if you long for your parents to do this? Then can you respond to and satisfy this part of your needs in a better way through other means? In other words, have you thought about whether you can respond to and satisfy this part of your needs through your own efforts?

For example, it can be tough to take responsibility for your own life and make choices. You might feel a lot of inner insecurity and fear, but it's okay to allow yourself to feel this way. Take your inner fear and dread with you and try to do it bravely. In this world, no one is obliged or responsible for always accompanying you and supporting you, and no one knows you better than yourself. Your life belongs to you, so try to face it head on. If you don't do it well, what is the worst that can happen?

If it won't have a catastrophic impact on your life, then just go for it!

Hi, I'm Lily, the little ear of the Q&A Museum. The world and I love you!

Hello, dear host!

Hug you, dear, you need a warm hug and encouragement, and be brave and strong from the heart.

The world is a big, beautiful place with lots of people, but we also have another world—our inner world.

When we take care of our inner world, we'll be brimming with curiosity and longing for the outside world.

I know you'll get there! You'll slowly start to feel less afraid of the outside world and you'll want to go out and explore.

The thing is, the host isn't really worried about people in the outside world being scary or treacherous.

It's okay, sweetheart. Your inner world is just full of fear and unease.

I totally get it. I know that this state of mind probably stems from the original family, the parents' lack of understanding, coupled with swearing.

Let's give the host another hug and try to help her feel more at ease.

It can be really tough to fix the inner world that you've built up since childhood. There might be some gaps, like a lack of love and a sense of insecurity.

If you want to fix these problems, you'll need more than just simple comfort and encouragement from others.

You've got this! You just need to use your own willpower, coupled with reading books about healing the inner child, to slowly heal your wounded heart.

Please don't hesitate to reach out to a professional counselor if you need help.

The outside world is full of wonders and also has a dark side. So, the big question is: should you go out and see for yourself?

It all depends on whether your inner world is ready to come out and play!

I really hope the host will go out and see the world! It's a big, beautiful place, and I'm sure they'll love it.

I'm Warm June, and I just wanted to say that I love you, world!