She is about to enter her senior year of high school, and she hopes they can both get into the university they like. But is it realistic to hope that she likes him back?

Dear Question Asker,

The green and tender age is destined to be a rich book. Despite the current ambiguity surrounding the feelings of proximity and distance, there is an abundance of potential in this unique era. It is essential to provide yourself with support initially, and then together we will identify the resources to address it.

[Regarding your current anxiety]

1. There has been a decline in academic performance.

You have indicated that your academic performance has declined, which is likely a result of the challenging relationship you are currently experiencing. As you prepare to enter your senior year of high school, it is understandable that you are eager to successfully complete your studies and gain admission to your preferred university. This situation is likely causing you significant distress and impatience.

Please attempt to refrain from resisting your current anxiety.

Emotional instability at this time will undoubtedly impact learning efficiency. Rather than attempting to concentrate and improve efficiency in the face of anxiety, it is more productive to accept that you may have to manage negative emotions for a period, acknowledge your anxiety, and then adjust your plan accordingly.

As an example, you can initially focus on tasks such as planning and note-taking.

As an example, you may wish to consider setting slightly lower standards for short-term goals.

For instance, concentrate on your achievements rather than dwelling on your shortcomings.

Please resume your learning process by accepting your current level of knowledge.

2. What if she and another classmate have mutual interest?

In light of the circumstances, I empathize with your overwhelming desire for this sentiment. It is a profoundly impactful experience that will undoubtedly leave an imprint on your life. I encourage you to reflect on the following questions:

❔Can you confirm whether she has a positive sentiment towards you?

❔You believe she has expressed interest in another classmate, but this individual's efforts were unsuccessful. What factors may have contributed to this outcome?

❔Do you believe it is possible to exert significant effort to facilitate a positive relationship between them, or is this a realistic expectation?

❔Is it possible to obtain a definitive response to the aforementioned queries?

It is possible that you will not receive a definitive response. What will you take away from that?

It is your prerogative to determine whether you like her. It is also her prerogative to determine who she likes and who she does not like. We can only control our own actions and learn to compartmentalize issues.

[Regarding love and the future]

I am aware that at your age, you have a natural desire for relationships that are innocent and beautiful. This is a particularly beautiful time, but only by cherishing it can beauty become an eternal quality.

There are numerous potential sudden, unexpected developments in the present, but few long-term commitments.

Some of you are still in the process of maturing, while others are overwhelmed by the demands of academic studies. As a result, you may have the capacity to experience the full spectrum of emotions associated with romantic relationships, including the highs and lows of infatuation and the frustration of being unable to achieve your desired outcomes. However, you seem to lack the ability to form expectations for the future. How should we respond to this challenge?

It is important to appreciate the experience in the moment and avoid overcomplicating it. If you find it enjoyable, take what you like with you. This is not an era that requires immediate results.

The future version of yourself will undoubtedly want to align with your current desires. Therefore, it is essential to proceed gradually and work towards becoming a better version of yourself.

It is not uncommon for adults to experience apprehension in the context of intimate relationships. Individuals may express concern about the potential for rejection, the durability of the relationship, or the risk of becoming overwhelmed.

It is worth noting that individuals tend to gravitate towards those who exude confidence and stability, rather than those who are constantly anxious.

It is therefore advisable to avoid worrying and instead focus on becoming the best version of yourself. When you have achieved this, you will naturally attract people who can resonate with you, which will lead to positive outcomes.

I would like to take this opportunity to express my love and admiration for you, my child. I am confident that you will continue to love yourself and the world around you for a long time to come.