Should I accept the recommendation of the school counselor to seek professional help off-campus?

Take the school counselor's advice. Going to the counselor's office shows you're brave. It's the first step towards change.

You are afraid to go off campus because you trust your school counselor and don't want to leave him. Trust is important in counseling. It can help you, and changing counselors is uncertain. You are worried that you won't like the new counselor.

Think about it. You were also unsure when you first met your current counselor. You built trust and got to where you are now, so you can do it again. Not every counselor can solve everyone's problems. He realized that there are more suitable counselors who can help you better. My advice is:

You can trust the outside counselor your school counselor introduces because he is a professional.

(2) If you don't like the new counselor, you can ask the school counselor to find another one.

(3) The school counselor wants you to be better. If you have any questions, you can go back to the school.

If you want to solve your problems, finding a counselor is a good first step. You'll get through this.

Hello. I am honored to answer your questions and I am confident that my suggestions will be helpful.

I can see you're afraid and worried. In a foreign country, if something goes wrong, you don't know how to make a decision.

I strongly recommend that you seek out off-campus psychological counseling. A Chinese counselor or someone who understands Chinese can help you mediate systematically.

First, we must grasp the nature of psychology and its theoretical development. It shares similarities with medicine, but it also has differences. Medicine studies human medicine and the body systems of each individual. This means that medicine has no boundaries. Doctors from any country can go to any country to treat people because the human body is the same.

Psychological science is borderless at one level because it studies the human mind. However, it is also bordered at another level because psychology has a field called social psychology. Society is linked to folklore, and every country has different characteristics, as does every region. The environment shapes people, and it all affects our entire psychological state. In fact, some underlying thought logic is different.

The psychological society makes it clear that local psychology is of the utmost importance. Freud's psychoanalysis is the one we are all familiar with. However, in the eyes of Chinese people, it can only be applied to Chinese people through embellishment. For Westerners, the psychoanalysis they learn is also more suitable for the theories or treatment systems of people in their country.

If our situation is more serious or more special, we should seek help from a native speaker for psychological counseling.

The process of psychological counseling will undoubtedly involve a great deal of communication and a plethora of proper nouns and terminology. Attempting to communicate in a foreign language during this process will undoubtedly result in significant communication challenges. An hour of time can allow you to express yourself freely and express your feelings and thoughts, but it will waste ten minutes of time to understand the terminology.

For this reason, it is clear that communicating in a language we are familiar with is the best option for our counseling process.

Secondly, it is important to understand the distinction between a school mental health teacher and a psychological counselor.

A mental health teacher is a practitioner who holds both a teaching certificate and a counseling certificate. (I don't know about the situation abroad.) Counseling can be divided into many main areas.

There are different types of psychology: adolescent, child, adult, and mental illness. Some people specialize in depression, others in anxiety disorders, and so on.

The school's mental health teachers are experts in adolescent psychology, student psychology, learning psychology, and more. In this case, outside psychological counseling is the best option for us. They are more adept at solving some of the psychological problems, especially when some of our problems are not limited to learning.

I don't know what difficulties you're currently facing, but I do know that the advice given by professionals is that we find an outside school counselor who is more suitable for us. This method is definitely feasible at this stage.

The teachers have already solved our problems, whether in terms of cost or distance. This shows that the teachers' referral is not because they are unwilling to help us or because our problems are too big. It is because they are looking for the best way to help us adjust as soon as possible.

If you have any concerns or questions about why your teacher is suggesting an outside counselor, feel free to ask them. You can then decide whether or not to make a referral.

You will find the right psychological counseling for you through self-reflection or the teacher's answers.

I love you, world!

From your description, it is evident that you are experiencing a anxiety/a-22-year-old-girl-why-has-she-been-extremely-afraid-of-conflict-and-arguing-scenes-in-the-past-six-months-6100.html" target="_blank">conflict and a sense of helplessness.

As a psychologist, I would like to offer my understanding from a psychological perspective.

Your query pertains to the university counseling you received while studying abroad. After the university counselor identified your specific concerns, she recommended formal off-campus counseling, the cost of which was already covered upon enrollment. Additionally, the counselor is bilingual in Chinese and her workplace is less than 15 minutes away from our school, with the option of online consultation. You have articulated the problem with clarity, accepted your own state, and established a stable counseling alliance with your university counselor.

The counselor indicated that I exhibit a multitude of fears and that I am experiencing a form of anxiety, which may or may not be a diagnosable condition. This anxiety requires a more in-depth exploration, and formal off-campus counseling may be a more efficacious intervention. Your counselor is highly professional. Through your assessment and initial interview, she aims to provide you with better assistance. Through discussions with you, she hopes to refer you to a more professional psychological institution to provide you with better assistance.

However, I am suddenly overcome with fear. I am afraid that I will always have this problem, and even more afraid that change will be painful. You experience anxiety about your own emotions and separation anxiety when facing a university counselor with whom you have already established a good relationship.

The capacity to recognize and comprehend one's emotional experiences.

She explained that she would compose a referral to the Chinese school counselor the following day and inquire as to my preference. While I was apprehensive about the prospect of change and the perceived gravity of being referred by a professional, I was also motivated by the desire to mature. Many individuals have successfully overcome more significant psychological challenges. She did it. Counseling respects your autonomy and affords you the opportunity to make informed decisions. It also presents a multitude of options. Conflicts are pervasive in this context. On the one hand, there is the anxiety associated with separating from the teacher, and on the other, there is the adjustment to a new counselor. Can a productive relationship be re-established? Additionally, there is a novel and uncertain conflict regarding your own condition: is your condition serious?

Such states can be expressed in the counseling process with the teacher, which can relieve anxiety. This is part of the relationship that must be established at the conclusion of counseling, even in the face of separation.

The decision of whether to pursue formal external counseling is a personal choice that should be made after thorough discussion. This is an important juncture in one's personal growth and development.

The process of analysis, as described in psychoanalytic dynamic therapy, is a means of resolving internal conflicts and gaining insight into one's own emotions.

How do you adapt to new circumstances?

The initial step is to gain an understanding of one's own character. What are the defining traits that shape one's personality?

What is the nature of the relationship between you and your parents? Are you aware of the various fears you experience when abroad? Do these fears represent a preexisting state of mind, or do they emerge only after studying abroad?

If this is a recurring phenomenon, it indicates that this is the pattern of behavior you employ when confronted with challenges or conflicts. It is imperative to engage in profound self-reflection to gain insight into your inner workings. If this phenomenon manifests exclusively when you are abroad, it is possible that a recent, unanticipated event has triggered an internal conflict, which necessitates further exploration and ongoing counseling.

Secondly, it is important to accept oneself. What are one's strengths and weaknesses?

You demonstrate a remarkable aptitude for learning and a high degree of autonomy. Your ability to pursue studies and live independently abroad is a testament to your remarkable capabilities. You also exhibit a noteworthy capacity for social relationships. Through our counseling relationship, I have observed your sincerity, kindness, and positive motivation, which have fostered a willingness on your counselor's part to provide you with better assistance.

The disadvantages include neglecting one's own needs, being overly sensitive and suspicious of external influences, and a lack of security. Accepting oneself, developing better communication skills, seeking resources and assistance, can enhance one's ability to adapt and accept limitations.

Thirdly, it is imperative to cultivate self-love. This entails paying attention to one's internal experiences, shifting one's external focus towards the self, engaging in activities that bring joy, allowing oneself to rest when needed, and accepting personal limitations. Engaging in activities such as listening to music, basking in the sun, or recording one's mood on a daily basis can facilitate this process. On the one hand, one can be mindful of one's inner experiences, and on the other hand, express and confide in a counselor any issues that are beyond one's capacity to resolve alone. Ultimately, this approach can lead to the development of a strong and stable sense of self.

The world and I love you. It is imperative that you learn to love yourself. You must endeavor to do so.

Good morning, I hope this message finds you well. I just wanted to drop you a quick line to ask how you are doing. I am writing because I noticed you posted a question on the forum. I wanted to reach out and offer my support if you would

I feel very privileged to have been able to see your problem.

I can understand why you might have been taken aback when the counselor said you had too much fear and anxiety. I believe that feeling is real.

I can understand why you might feel that way. It's natural to feel anxious about the prospect of change, especially when you're already experiencing discomfort. It's understandable to worry that the change will be painful or that it cannot be changed.

You say that while you are afraid of the pain of change, you also hope to succeed in walking away from it. Then you ask if you should seek counseling outside of school. I believe you already have the answer within you, but perhaps you are hesitant to pursue it. It's understandable to feel afraid and timid, and to worry that you will not be able to persevere. That's why you've come here to ask.

I imagine you've been feeling anxious for quite some time. How have you managed to cope? People who are in a state of constant anxiety can often feel very draining to be around. They may find it more difficult to recharge their batteries than others.

I'm curious to know how you ended up in school counseling, given the challenges you've faced.

You are aware that the path to change will undoubtedly present challenges. Have you considered how you might navigate these difficulties?

It can be challenging to maintain a positive outlook when facing persistent anxiety. However, with the right support and guidance, there are opportunities for positive changes and feedback along the way.

When the treatment enters a positive cycle, you may find yourself grateful for having taken the first step towards change.

Anxiety can be a challenging experience, and if we persist in it for too long, we may become accustomed to the familiar feeling of discomfort. It may be helpful to consider letting go of this sense of familiarity.

I understand that you feel this is a serious matter and that it has come to professional off-campus counseling for treatment.

It's possible, though, that this isn't the case. The school counselor may have referred you because she felt she couldn't help you, but that doesn't necessarily mean you're not serious about wanting to change.

It would be beneficial for you to listen to the diagnosis of a professional.

So, I wonder if you might be open to considering the possibility of change?

Thank you for choosing to be here. I truly believe you have the potential to succeed. While things may seem challenging at the moment, I am confident that with time and effort, you will find the light at the end of the tunnel.

I know it's tough, but I'm here to support you. Stay strong and believe in yourself.