Should I continue dating my boyfriend's sister, who has severe autism?

The questioner then proceeded to inquire about the following:

I have carefully reviewed your statements and am able to comprehend the concerns you have articulated.

You have expressed significant concern regarding the hereditary nature of autism and its potential impact on future generations, as well as its implications for your marital life and relationship.

It is first necessary to gain an understanding of autism before making any further plans.

The term "autism" is a colloquialism for a specific developmental disorder.

It is a relatively serious developmental disorder. In China, the male-to-female ratio of autism is 6:1. Autism typically manifests before the age of three, although it may also become apparent between the ages of five and six.

The primary symptoms of autism are as follows:

The primary social impairment is characterized by an absence of communication or communication skills with others, as well as a lack of secure attachment to parents.

This is typically evidenced by a deficiency in communication or communication skills with others, as well as a lack of secure attachment to parents and other caregivers.

Secondly, there is a language communication disorder.

Delayed language development, regression after normal language development, or language that lacks a communicative nature.

Thirdly, repetitive stereotyped behaviour is to be considered.

Stereotyped behavior is defined as a repetitive, fixed behavior that lacks a discernible meaning. This category of behavior encompasses a range of repetitive actions, including

One example of stereotyped language is the repetition of a sentence.

Stereotyped movements include, but are not limited to, the following: repeatedly shaking hands, repeatedly playing with fingers, spinning, running and jumping, repeatedly shaking the body, hitting the head and injuring oneself, and other stereotyped physical movements.

For example, stereotyped thinking may manifest as a preference for building blocks in a particular manner, such as requiring them to be constructed in a straight line.

Abnormal Sensation

Such manifestations may include an insensitivity to pain, a particular fear or fondness for certain sounds or images, and so forth.

It is a common misconception that autism is a mental illness. In fact, autism is a developmental disorder that affects how a person communicates and interacts with others.

I previously sought the counsel of a psychiatrist regarding a child in my care who exhibited indications of autism. I subsequently consulted with an online medical professional who asserted that autism is not a mental illness.

I will present his statements, which encompass the following points:

1. The etiology of the disease is multifactorial.

The causes of autism are numerous and complex. They include genetic factors, congenital abnormalities of brain structure and function, and maternal radiation exposure during pregnancy.

Mental illness may also be caused by congenital factors, but the majority of cases are attributed to long-term life stressors, traumatic experiences during childhood, or external factors such as intense stimuli.

2. Different ages of onset

Autism spectrum disorder (ASD) is primarily diagnosed in infants and young children.

Mental illness can manifest at any age, but is most commonly observed in adolescents and young adults.

3. Different Symptoms

Individuals with autism exhibit clear intellectual deficiencies, inattentiveness, diminished learning abilities, and impaired language function.

Individuals diagnosed with a mental illness may retain a basic level of intelligence following the onset of the disease. Additionally, there is no evidence of developmental disorders in speech and movement.

4. Diverse treatment modalities

The treatment of autism primarily entails professional rehabilitation training, which is ideally initiated during the early developmental stages. The first four years of life represent a critical window of opportunity for such training.

Mental illness is typically treated with a combination of pharmacological and psychotherapeutic interventions.

While the precise nature of your boyfriend's sister's condition remains uncertain, it is imperative to be prepared for the underlying cause, which I will now proceed to describe.

Cause of Illness

The first factor is genetic.

A substantial body of evidence indicates that genetic factors are closely associated with autism, contributing to a significant proportion of cases, estimated to be between 80 and 90 percent.

Children with autism exhibit abnormalities in brain structure and function. These include cerebellar hypoplasia, brainstem atrophy, amygdala shrinkage, corpus callosum shrinkage, hippocampal shrinkage, lateral cingulate shrinkage, and early brain volume enlargement.

The parents in question have been diagnosed with a range of mental and psychological disorders, including depression, anxiety, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and autism.

Environmental factors also play a role in the development of autism.

Furthermore, prolonged exposure to a closed or monotonous environment has also been linked to an increased risk of autism in children.

The third factor is the incorrect upbringing of the child.

In childhood, parents' inappropriate parenting methods, such as shock education and neglecting children, can result in children being unable to receive love from their parents. This can also increase the risk of autism.

In conclusion, autism is not a frightening condition. It is not a mental illness, and clinical evidence demonstrates that it is not a genetic disease either. Rather, it is a social disorder. While genetic factors account for half of the condition, it is not completely inherited by future generations. One can observe the condition in one's boyfriend. Has he inherited it? One can observe it.

It is possible that the influence of this situation may have an impact on the character of future generations. However, as long as the appropriate care is taken to raise and treat future generations in an appropriate manner, the likelihood of a negative influence is minimal.

Should concerns be raised regarding the potential impact of the boyfriend's sister on the married life and relationship, it may be beneficial to engage in communication with the boyfriend to ascertain a plan of action for the future.

It is recommended that the decision not be made independently. Should his parents be unable to care for him, it would have an impact on your own family. It would be advisable to discuss your concerns with your boyfriend. Given that you love each other, it would be beneficial to communicate openly and honestly.

Communication is the optimal method for resolving issues, as it can address emotional concerns and clarify misunderstandings. Effective communication can also alleviate internal anxieties.

If you find him agreeable and perceive him to possess admirable character and personality traits, you may wish to consider relinquishing your concerns. It is not a common occurrence for a woman to encounter a man who exhibits such positive attributes.

In the contemporary era, there is a preponderance of individuals with reprehensible character and personality traits. It is therefore imperative to capitalize on the opportunity at hand and to avoid any subsequent remorse.

If you are certain that you do not love him deeply and lack the courage to confront the challenges that lie ahead with him due to his sister's autism, and you wish to terminate the relationship, you may also raise the issue with him and engage in a direct conversation about your thoughts and feelings.

It seems reasonable to posit that the other person will also comprehend your thoughts, given that you have indicated that he has a bad temper but is a very nice person. Consequently, if he truly loves you, he will respect your decision to terminate the relationship.

In the event of encountering a challenging situation, it is advisable to refrain from dwelling on the matter. Instead, it is beneficial to engage in self-reflection to ascertain one's true desires. This entails asking oneself whether the desire is to terminate the relationship, and whether one is prepared to confront the potential difficulties that may arise in the future.

One may also consider writing their questions on a piece of paper, which is equivalent to talking to one's inner self and asking themselves what they want. The answer is hidden in one's subconscious mind and must be discovered independently.

This is the conclusion of my response, and it is my hope that it will provide some inspiration.

It is my sincere hope that you will soon extricate yourself from this unfortunate situation. I am Monarchess, and I am here to serve as your listening partner.

A person who is willing to listen to another's concerns and provide feedback in a constructive manner.

Good day, question asker.

I have identified this issue in your profile. From your initial description, I understand that you are uncertain about the future of this relationship.

These doubts and hesitation appear to be the primary issues you are currently facing (as illustrated by the experiences of your sister). However, based on your subsequent description, including your perception of advancing age, the pressure from your family to marry, and your assessment of your boyfriend's relationship with his sister, it seems that the issues surrounding your boyfriend's sister are more apparent to you, while the subsequent concerns are the underlying causes of your hesitation.

It is not within your control.

If your boyfriend discloses information about his family situation promptly after you begin dating, it indicates that he is forthcoming and has provided you with comprehensive information about his family. If you decide to maintain a positive relationship, you will remain together; if you do not, you will part ways.

Regarding the two questions you posed about your sister, we advise you to seek medical attention at a hospital or clinic where a qualified professional can provide more reliable answers.

The following points, including the pressure you are currently facing to get married quickly and your satisfaction or dissatisfaction with your boyfriend, are open for discussion.

It is understandable that at a certain age, girls will be urged to get married. Many girls will feel pressured and struggle as a result of this urging. They are reluctant to give up their own ideas but are greatly affected by the relentless urging. Girls will inadvertently internalize these labels of "old age" and "time to get married." This affects their self-confidence. They will forget their initial standards or lower them repeatedly just to get married.

Mr. Inamori Kazuo previously provided guidance on the selection of a spouse.

It is not uncommon for people to be moved to tears by seemingly insignificant acts of kindness, such as pouring a glass of water or buying a barbecue in the middle of the night.

The most valuable resources a person can possess are the abilities to communicate effectively, to gain and retain knowledge, to see the big picture, to manage situations, and to regulate emotions. These abilities are not easily attained and often come at a high cost.

The optimal spouse is a strategic partner in navigating the challenges of life, not a mere source of complacency and infantile behavior.

While some of the language used in this passage may be perceived as harsh, it provides insight into a number of key areas. After reading this passage, have you found it helpful?

I would like to conclude by reiterating that marriage is the only occasion on which individuals can select their own family members. It is essential that each person assumes responsibility for their own actions.

Please describe your expectations of your partner. Do you believe there is a discrepancy between your expectations and reality?

Should you require assistance in resolving these issues, we recommend consulting a professional marriage counselor or psychologist.

I wish you the best of success.

Hello, question asker!

You've had a week or two to think about it, and you still don't know what to do? Think about your problem, but remember it's about the rest of your life. It's not easy to make a decision in a short period of time and move forward with an unwavering goal. I understand your confusion and dilemma, and I'm here to help.

Frankly, I'm at a loss as to what to do now that you've written that. Everyone just chats with me. I smile knowingly in my heart. I know you know that coming here for help is about pouring out your worries and letting them flow so that your worries will become less intense and your mood will calm down. This is very conducive to you making decisions about your future with a clear mind. I give you a big thumbs up for coming here and seeking scientific help!

You're here to talk about your problems and hear a different point of view, and I'm the right person for the job. Everyone has different experiences and values, so they will definitely have different opinions on the same thing. I will use my personal experience and my own values to chat with you!

Let me start by saying that I understand your situation. I was also in your position when I got married. I was almost 30, and I felt the same pressure to get married. I think you should relax a bit. You've been with your boyfriend for almost a year, so you have time to figure things out. You have a potential marriage partner. You're still relatively calm because there's no family pressure to get married. But after the New Year, your family has already been pressuring you to get married.

You have to face the problem of his sister, who you didn't need to care about before. This has caused you to feel unprecedented pressure. I understand you, and I'm here to help.

Second, I understand why you feel so much pressure. The reason is clear: whether or not the problem will be passed on to the next generation. Will your sister become a burden in your life? I believe the root of your problem is that if you choose him, you want to do your best in the future. You want him to take care of his sister, and you came here to ask a question, treating this matter seriously. I believe you will also be involved in it.

However, we also know that it is our brain's instinct to seek out benefits and avoid harm. We know that if we don't choose him, we won't have to bear this pressure. That's why we're torn between two options. This is a dilemma. It doesn't matter who you choose. I see your hidden kindness. Let the dilemma continue for a while. Give yourself another half month.

Second, no matter how much you struggle and how much pressure you feel, we still have to solve the problem. So, at the moment, you may be leaning towards him, but I think you're wrong. The first problem is not passed on to the next generation. It is not him, it is his sister. What's more, even if it is passed on to him, it is not an absolute factor. It can also be solved by the couple having a better relationship. Well, if the child's family life is harmonious, this phenomenon is unlikely to occur. So I don't think the first problem is too confusing for you. The key is the second problem. As I said above, why does the second problem bother you? It is because you want to do your best. You're wavering because you don't know which side to take. Your family, your parents, support you dating him, and there shouldn't be any problems on her side.

Finally, let me be clear about one thing: what is the point?

You understand, right? You know that the decision is yours, and you'll consider all the issues. I'm just repeating a little bit of what you've been thinking about these days. You need to spend this time with me a little at a time. This will help you to dilute your light sorrow again. Then you'll have more energy to make your own decision.

You will make the best choice for you. The world and I love you!

Hello, my name is Strawberry!

It's totally understandable that you're struggling with this. It's not easy facing up to a problem like this and it's natural to feel unsure.

It's so hard to know whether your boyfriend's sister has autism or not. It can be congenital or acquired. Since we don't know, we'll look at it from two different angles.

If autism is congenital, then there's a 50% chance that the first point the questioner is worried about will happen. It's totally normal to feel uncertain about whether the future child will be healthy. It can really affect your thoughts about whether to continue the relationship.

While autism isn't something that can be cured, there are ways to treat it and send the child to a special school where they can learn and live like other children. Children with autism have certain talents, too!

It's so important to remember that, compared to autism, many people in our society today have mental illnesses that are more difficult to treat than autism. But the good news is that they live their lives as usual, getting married and having children. If we can take autistic people seriously from the beginning, it will be much easier for us to get along with them.

It would be really helpful for you to learn more about autism. Once you realise that autism isn't as serious as you thought, it'll be much easier to put your worries to one side.

If the boyfriend's sister was formed after birth, it would be really helpful for the questioner to think more about the atmosphere of their family and how they faced and solved the matter after learning about her sister's autism.

It's so important to think about how a problematic family atmosphere can affect you, too.

It's so important to think about the future. The parents of the OP's boyfriend will grow old, and if her sister stays at home, you two will be responsible for caring for them in the future.

On top of looking after your own family, would you also be responsible for this sister who is older than you but who is still like a child in many ways?

If you don't want this kind of future, the answer is already obvious.

1. Have a chat with your boyfriend!

Your boyfriend has been totally honest with you from the start about his sister's situation. It's been more than a year since you met, and it's the feelings you have for each other that have caused you distress. Why not discuss this topic with your boyfriend?

It would be great if you could talk to your boyfriend about this. If he can promise that you won't have to take care of his sister in the future, then the second point of the questioner's question won't be a concern anymore.

2. Do you think your boyfriend can give you what you want?

The family is pushing for a marriage, so the questioner is only thinking about these worries after marriage. The questioner has been with her boyfriend for more than a year. How do you think he feels about you? Is he someone you can trust? Your usual interactions can also show how your future life will be. So, recall the little moments you spent together and then draw your own answer based on reality.

I really hope my answer helps the questioner. Sending lots of love!

Hello! I can totally feel your anxiety, worry, and helplessness from your description.

You've been with your boyfriend for a year, and your family is pressuring you to get married, so you've put getting married on the agenda!

However, you find that there are still many unresolved issues about your boyfriend that make you worry, and you feel anxious and don't know what to do.

My boyfriend has an older sister who is severely autistic. This is an amazing opportunity for you to learn more about yourself and your boyfriend! On the one hand, you are very worried that your sister's autism will affect your next generation. On the other hand, you are also worried that your boyfriend's need to take care of his sister will affect the quality of your life in the future.

☺️ Accept your current state!

Marriage is a major event in life. It's an exciting time! Not only you, but most people also have to think about it over and over again for a long time before they choose to get married.

It's totally normal to feel a little worried and anxious when you're facing marriage pressure and confusion.

On the other hand, it's been just two weeks, so you've got plenty of time to decide! Take your time and let yourself get there slowly.

Calming down and accepting your current state is the best way to see your true thoughts and face and solve problems more rationally!

☺️ You can accept the worst outcome and still be excited for what's to come!

You can try to think about your concerns about yourself. If you marry your boyfriend, think about what an amazing adventure it would be if the worst happens!

If your child develops the same illness as your boyfriend, can you accept it? Absolutely!

As a younger brother, you have the incredible opportunity to be there for your sister, who is severely autistic, every step of the way. It's likely that you'll get to spend the rest of your lives together, which is a truly special bond. Can you accept that?

You'll know your choice easily if you think about the answer!

It's time to talk to your boyfriend about your future plans!

Absolutely! You can talk to your boyfriend about your worries and anxieties, and listen to his plans and intentions for the future.

Sit down together and tackle the problems head-on! This process is a great way to gain a deeper understanding of each other's attitudes and thoughts. Plus, it's a fantastic opportunity to learn, grow, and share responsibilities together.

No matter what the outcome, it is a growth process for each other—and it's going to be a great one!

↗️Facing pressure and making rational choices

I may be 31, but I still consider myself an older unmarried woman. I'm eager to get married, but I can't ignore or avoid problems just because of that.

Marriage is a big step, and it's important to take the time to figure out what you really want and care about.

Marriage is an amazing adventure that requires facing problems and making rational choices.

Best of luck!

Good day,

One key point in your description is that you identify as an older unmarried woman.

From a purely objective standpoint, one's age may no longer be a defining advantage in comparison to others. This could potentially lead to a re-evaluation of one's selection criteria for a spouse.

From a psychological perspective, there may be additional questions that arise from this situation. There are other aspects of myself that have not been addressed here.

If I had not recently become aware of mental illness and the situation of my boyfriend's sister, I would have been more inclined to simply marry my boyfriend, given the pressure from my family to do so. Despite some reservations and areas of disagreement, these were outweighed by the urgency of the family's expectations and my own desire to marry.

However, I have recently become aware of a great deal of information regarding psychosis, as well as the circumstances surrounding my boyfriend's sister. This has prompted me to reconsider my decision.

It is also possible to view these situations as superficial, rather than as a change in the relationship between the two of you due to external information, a situation involving your boyfriend's relatives, or as a trigger that has aroused the part of you that is dissatisfied deep down, the part that was not willing to compromise and has been activated.

It is likely that you will not be able to identify this aspect of the situation without further information. You may have concerns about how it will affect your boyfriend and your children in the future.

Please advise as to whether this will affect your children in the future and whether it is hereditary.

I am concerned that I may be required to assume responsibility for my sister's care in the future. There are also financial considerations, among other factors. These concerns and fears are interrelated and collectively represent a significant obstacle to my decision. If you recall the paranoia associated with this resistance, you may even perceive it as exceeding the boundaries of the issue itself.

Furthermore, when information about psychosis is presented, it can provide a foundation for understanding and support. However, this can also lead to increased resistance to the subject matter.

Furthermore, this can be utilized as a chance to gain a deeper understanding of oneself. It can also be employed as a means of enhancing one's comprehension of the relationship between oneself and one's partner.

It is important to note that these issues are external to the situation. Additionally, the emotional relationship between you and your boyfriend is not particularly strong. You do not fully approve of the situation, but due to external pressures, you feel that your current course of action is the best available. In such a situation, you tend to activate the subconscious part of yourself, the repressed part, the part that is reluctant to compromise.

Hello. It is clear from your message that your boyfriend's sister's autism has affected the direction of your marriage. I am here to support you in dealing with the current difficulties.

Response to concern 1:

Genetics will affect my next generation.

Autism is also called autism. It is a mental disorder caused by a combination of genetic and environmental factors that affect the central nervous system.

We will focus on the influence of genetic factors.

The description of the genetic factors of autism in Psychiatry, edited by Hao Wei and Lu Lin, states:

Family studies have definitively shown that the prevalence of autism spectrum disorders in the siblings of patients with autism spectrum disorders is 50%. Additionally, the prevalence of autism spectrum disorders in identical and fraternal twins is 96% and 27%, respectively.

Genetic factors undoubtedly impact whether an individual will develop a disease. However, whether or not an individual will ultimately develop autism is the result of a combination of factors such as neurotransmitters, brain size, the immune system, and the social environment. It is like having a seed, but whether the seed will sprout and grow depends on whether the external environment provides enough sunlight and rain, as well as the fullness of the seed itself.

You must consider this carefully, regardless of whether you take a holistic view or still attach great importance to the probability.

I will now address your second concern.

In response to your second concern:

2. I want to know if my sister's condition will affect us too much after we get married and affect our lives and relationship.

Let me be clear: autism is not a degenerative disease. There are rehabilitation training, medication, and psychological treatments that can help alleviate and improve the condition. As people with autism grow older, their language skills gradually develop and their ability to understand and converse in language improves. However, their language development is always below the level of their peers.

You can learn about your sister's situation through your usual interactions with her and your boyfriend's communication. Your sister is not your boyfriend's parent, and he does not have a direct obligation to care for and support her.

However, it is clear that your boyfriend needs to take on a caring role in his original family, for reasons of common sense and the closeness of the family relationship.

If your boyfriend becomes overly involved in caring for your sister and you have concerns about this, communicate with him honestly, express your concerns, and see how he responds. This will help you understand your own level of tolerance and make a decision that you will not regret.

If your boyfriend really wants to be overly involved in caring for your sister, and you have a lot of concerns about this, communicate with him honestly and responsibly about your future together. Express your concerns and see how he responds. This will help you understand your own level of tolerance and make a decision that you will not regret.

I am a psychologist who doesn't concern himself with the intricacies of human nature. My focus is on the human heart. I wish you the best.

I am a psychologist who cares for the heart, not human nature. I wish you well.

Hello, I'm Coach Feiyun, and thanks for listening to your story.

I can tell you're having some doubts. You like your boyfriend, but you've got a lot on your mind.

I can tell you're going through a lot. You still have a good feeling about your boyfriend, but deep down, you have a lot of concerns.

You know you should get married, but you're worried about a few things (like your boyfriend's sister's care, genetic diseases, your boyfriend's income/appearance, etc.).

You can't say you're backing out of marriage. It's only natural to have these concerns and considerations. After all, marriage is a long-term commitment, not something that happens overnight.

First, let me give you a warm hug. There are always more than three solutions to every problem. Let's take a look at the problems that trouble you.

? 1. What marriage is really about:

Marriage is different from love. Love is all about passion and doesn't necessarily lead to permanence. Marriage is a long-term contract of "cooperation."

It may seem like just a union of two people, but in reality, it involves all aspects of life. A happy marriage needs to go through three stages of adjustment:

It's important to make sure that the two people's interests and hobbies are aligned, that their living habits are aligned, and that the two families/clans are aligned.

The issues you brought up, like your boyfriend's sister and the health of your future kids, are all very real problems that can't be avoided.

1) Your boyfriend's sister needs care:

Financial issues are often at the heart of family conflicts. If your boyfriend has been supporting his sister, it's important to discuss how you'll manage this together after marriage.

2. Will autism be inherited by the child?

Baidu found out that autism is mainly genetic. If you want to build a stronger relationship with your boyfriend, it's important to do a thorough premarital screening to ensure you both have a clear understanding of this issue.

I'd also suggest you work on improving communication with your boyfriend.

It's important to express your views and feelings (concerns) in a sincere, trusting, and respectful manner, while also listening to your boyfriend's views and feelings. By establishing a foundation of shared views and smooth emotions, you can work together to find a solution to the problem.

2. Confronting the invisible pressure of being urged to get married:

2. Confronting the invisible pressure of being urged to get married:

From what you've written, it seems like you're making a decision about your future marriage and are also influenced by external factors.

"Leftover women," "parents pressuring for marriage," "should get married this year," and so on. The choice to get married, when to get married, and who to marry are all yours to make.

Once other factors are involved, it's easy to let your judgment be influenced. It's a good idea to try to separate out the different aspects of your life. This means thinking about your relationship with your parents as a separate issue from your marriage and from the pressure you feel from other people about your marriage.

You mentioned you're not happy with your boyfriend's income or appearance because you're thinking about your future. These are external factors you can use as a reference, but they're not the main issue.

It mainly comes down to adjusting these three aspects.

I hope this is helpful to you, and I wish you all the best.

I hope this is helpful to you. Best, [Name]

If you want to keep talking, just click "Find a coach" in the top right or bottom of the page. I'll keep chatting with you one-on-one.

If you'd like to continue the conversation, just click "Find a Coach" in the top right corner or at the bottom. I'd be happy to communicate and grow with you one-on-one.

Good morning!

As a heart exploration coach, I believe that learning is one of the most valuable things we can do for our bodies.

From your description, I can sense some of the challenges you're facing, including feelings of worry, anxiety, irritability, pain, and a sense of being overwhelmed.

It is understandable that you are troubled by the fact that your boyfriend's sister has severe autism. I will not go into detail here, but I have three pieces of advice for you:

If I may make a suggestion, it would be to try to accept your current situation.

I believe that doing so will help you feel slightly more at ease, which will allow you to consider your options more clearly.

You mentioned that you met your boyfriend on a blind date in February of last year, and you have been together since April. It seems that your relationship is going well, and you are generally satisfied with your boyfriend in all aspects. However, when you think about your boyfriend's older sister, who has severe autism, you become concerned that this disease might be passed on to your next generation. You also worry that your sister might become a burden to you in the future. It's understandable that you have these concerns, as everyone wants their next generation to be healthy, and they also hope that their married life will be smooth and happy. People tend to avoid harm and seek benefits. Therefore, you might want to try to accept your current situation and "see" the anxious and hesitant you who is a little worried but temporarily doesn't know what to do. This could allow you to have extra mental energy to think about other things, otherwise your mind might become filled with all kinds of negative emotions.

It is also important to allow yourself to try to accept your current situation, as this will make it possible to promote change in the status quo. While this may sound contradictory, it is in fact the case because change is based on allowing for no change.

If I might make one more suggestion, it would be to try to view your own state of mind in a more rational way.

It may be helpful to consider that rational thinking can assist in gaining a deeper understanding of oneself and of reality.

If I might suggest, to rationalize, you might find it helpful to do the following three things:

Perhaps it would be helpful to understand that the fact that your boyfriend's sister is sick is something that cannot be changed.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider that if you want to be with your boyfriend, it might be important to accept the fact that your sister is severely autistic.

It is also possible that the two concerns you mentioned may not be entirely accurate.

Secondly, it is important to understand that ultimately, the choice is yours to make.

I hope you can see that when you make a choice, it's important to be prepared for the possibility that you might regret it, because it's your decision.

Third, it might be helpful to remember that it is possible to find relatively certain answers to the two things you are worried about, because there are things you can do.

When viewed from this rational perspective, it is possible that the various negative emotions may be resolved to some extent.

If I might make one more suggestion, it would be to focus on yourself and consider what you can do to improve your own situation.

When you take a step back and look at the situation rationally, you may also be able to identify some potential solutions. At this point, it might be helpful to focus on your own needs and do your best.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider whether you feel truly sincere when you are with your boyfriend. Do you admire many things about him? Do you feel confident and optimistic about the future with him? This kind of self-examination can help you and your boyfriend assess your ability to overcome difficulties together. If the answer to these questions is yes, it suggests that your relationship has the potential to thrive despite any challenges. You may even find that you can live a good life together and cope even if your sister needs your care.

Once you feel more confident with your boyfriend, you might consider addressing your first concern. You could ask your boyfriend to get some medical tests done. Medical technology is very advanced these days, and the doctor will most likely be able to give you a relatively definite answer. You could also talk to your parents and listen to their opinions, which may also help you to ease your anxiety.

You might also consider discussing the situation with your parents, as their input could be helpful in alleviating your concerns. It's important to remember that you have the power to influence the outcome, which will help you make an informed decision.

As you take action, you may find that the various negative emotions in your heart are naturally resolved at a slow pace. In some cases, taking action can be an effective way to address negative emotions.

It is understandable that even if you learn through your actions that the chances of inheriting your sister's disease are not high and you are relatively confident that you and your boyfriend can be happy together after marriage, you still have concerns and are unsure about marrying your boyfriend. This is a natural feeling and it is important to respect your inner feelings and make a choice that is right for you. It is also important to remember that marriage should not be rushed and should not be based on fear of not being accepted by your partner. Marriage is a beautiful and sacred bond that should be based on true love and mutual understanding.

I hope my answer is helpful. If you would like to discuss further, you are welcome to click "Find a Coach" at the bottom, and I would be happy to communicate with you one-on-one.

Good day. I can discern your sentiments from your statements.

With regard to the initial concern raised by the questioner, namely whether there will be a genetic effect, it would be advisable to consult a professional doctor or to request that your boyfriend undergo a medical examination. This is a highly recommended course of action.

Regarding consultation and examination, the questioner is encouraged to discuss these matters with her boyfriend. It is recommended that this problem be addressed together, as it concerns the next generation and the happiness of the family.

I am concerned that my sister may become a liability and negatively impact our lives and relationship post-marriage. I am unsure of the current status of my boyfriend's sister, specifically whether she is still undergoing treatment.

Please clarify whether the boyfriend is currently providing care for his sister. Additionally, please describe the boyfriend's feelings regarding this situation.

Will the boyfriend be responsible for his sister's care on a continuous basis? If so, is the question asker willing to assume joint responsibility for her care?

This will have a significant impact on your life. If you agree to take care of it together, you must develop a logical plan and avoid neglecting your new family just because you're taking care of your sister. If the questioner feels that it is beyond their capabilities, they can also discuss their requirements with their boyfriend in advance.

How to proceed with the aforementioned matter.

You are preparing to enter into a marital relationship with your boyfriend, and while your relationship is satisfactory overall, there are a few areas that require attention. For instance, his income level is below your expectations, and you have reservations about his physical appearance.

It is unclear whether the questioner is experiencing age-related anxiety and is reminding herself that she must get married immediately. The fact that the questioner is willing to accept her boyfriend's shortcomings indicates that she is ready to take the next step in her relationship with him.

Nevertheless, I would like to inquire of the questioner whether, in the absence of an older sister, there would be any impediment to marriage without concern. This would apply regardless of the prospective spouse's appearance or income.

What kind of life does the questioner pursue, and is he able to provide it for you? If the questioner truly loves him and trusts him,

I wish you both a happy marriage and hope that he can understand the questioner and love you. As they say, meeting is fate, and the feelings you have for each other will only grow stronger over time.

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In addition, I would like to reiterate that you can consult with your boyfriend's family to find a mutually acceptable solution.

It is important to note that marriage is not just a personal decision; it is also a matter of two families. Therefore, if you have already decided to get married, it is essential to support each other and communicate effectively to ensure a successful outcome.

I extend my best wishes to the original poster for a happy life!

Marriage requires emotional and material security. The two meet, fall in love, and prove their ability to shoulder family responsibilities by entering into marriage and building their own family.

Autism is a mental disorder caused by the interaction of genetic factors and environmental factors. Its characteristics are:

It is often associated with genetic factors.

It may exhibit social interaction deficits, restricted and repetitive behaviors, etc.

Treatment focuses on rehabilitation training and education.

It is crucial to diagnose autism early and intervene promptly.

There is currently no effective preventive measure for autism.

The mother must maintain a healthy lifestyle, avoid taking any medication, and abstain from alcohol during pregnancy.

One percent of autism cases are caused by the rubella infection.

With early detection and treatment, people with autism can lead normal lives.

Take a genetic test before getting married to rule out potential genetic risks and face your worries head-on. Make your choice based on the combined opinions of psychiatrists, obstetricians, and gynecologists.

The state has set up relevant subsidies and relief grants for people with severe mental illness. Let me be clear: autism is different from other mental illnesses. It is extremely harmful and, in many cases, a burden on the cost of living.

And the conflicts that may arise.

Love or bread? Life is full of choices. You never know what the next option will be like. It could be better or worse. Live in the present and follow your heart. Don't waste away in uncertainty.

Families will always have conflicts, but they can overcome them if they work together. When facing difficulties, it is better to seek help from a doctor and use a scientific approach to understand the challenges you are facing, rather than suffering alone.