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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Dear Questioner, I am Strawberry.
From the questioner's disclosures and confusion, it can be surmised that this is a problem that many people will encounter. In the past, the questioner would resolutely sever ties with their former partner because they had loved each other, which made it challenging to calmly become friends again.
Following the experience of her former spouse's near-suicidal response to their separation, the subject no longer adheres to the belief that severing contact is necessary after a relationship's dissolution. This is due to the concern that such actions may inflict emotional distress upon the other individual. However, the decision to terminate contact is ultimately at the subject's discretion, and the acceptance of this decision is also within the other person's prerogative. It is not feasible for the subject to persist in their desired actions and to force themselves to cooperate with the other person, merely because they are unable to accept the termination of contact.
The decision to terminate contact is not indicative of heartlessness. It can be argued that the act of disengaging from the relationship allows for a more expedient process of emotional detachment. Prolonged attachment can impede the ability to navigate the dissolution of the relationship. The cessation of communication also permits the gradual dissolution of the emotional attachment and the dissolution of the tangible aspects of the relationship.
In the previous confession, the questioner stated that she terminated her romantic relationship with her partner. Despite the fact that the other party did not delete her contact information, they did not allow her access to their social circle. The individual in question would provide her with updates regarding their recent situation. Ultimately, the question remains whether it is advisable to continue waiting for them.
In this case, it seems reasonable to posit that the man in question is the one who initiated the separation. However, without further information regarding the nature of the relationship between the two parties, it is impossible to ascertain the precise circumstances that led to the dissolution of the partnership. Nevertheless, the man's actions can be perceived as somewhat immature. He is attempting to convey to you that he is currently thriving despite the fact that you have ended the relationship.
He informed you of his desire to remain friends and to collaborate in business. He is aware of your strengths and abilities and requires your assistance, which is why he is hesitant to block or delete you.
In lieu of questioning whether he should continue to wait for her, the questioner might instead consider the following:
The rationale behind the dissolution of the relationship
The two individuals initially attracted to each other and, upon getting along with each other, encountered a series of challenges that could not be resolved, ultimately resulting in the dissolution of the relationship. Only the two parties involved possess the insight necessary to fully comprehend the underlying reasons for the separation.
Should a reconciliation occur, it is essential to ascertain whether the underlying issues can be addressed and resolved. Failure to do so may result in the perpetuation of conflict and contention.
2. The mutual decision regarding this relationship
If your former partner indicates that he is intending to marry, it is possible that he is attempting to terminate the relationship in order to pursue another romantic interest. Regardless of whether he ultimately decides to marry, initiating a new relationship before addressing the previous one is unfair to both parties and demonstrates a lack of consideration on the part of the man.
He is unable to manage every relationship effectively and has the option of not blocking or deleting it. The questioner is similarly able to choose. If one is willing to wait for him for a future without an answer, that is one's prerogative. If one wishes to simply let go, one will become aware of the appropriate course of action.
3. It is essential to gain an understanding of one's own desires and aspirations.
In relationships, there are periods of both growth and decline. It seems that the questioner has experienced a considerable number of these fluctuations. In the context of these relationships, have you reached any conclusions regarding your future aspirations and the underlying causes of the dissolution of these relationships?
Only by identifying one's preferences and then investing in a relationship can one avoid confusion about one's initial decision. Once one has made a decision, one should proceed with determination, addressing and resolving any issues that arise.
It is my hope that this response will prove beneficial to the original poster.
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I understand your concerns deeply. It's tough to balance kindness with the need for personal boundaries, especially when past relationships have such emotional weight. I've been in a place where I wanted to be friends after everything ended, but sometimes it's healthier to create distance. Now that things with your recent boyfriend have ended, you might need some time to figure out what's best for you.
It's really challenging to navigate these waters, especially given your exhusband's intense reaction to your separation. It seems like you're caught between wanting to be compassionate and fearing the consequences of staying connected. Perhaps this is a moment to reflect on what truly serves your wellbeing. With your most recent breakup, maybe this is an opportunity to set clearer boundaries that protect your heart.
Balancing empathy with selfcare is so important. Your exhusband's prolonged waiting and your exboyfriend's reluctance to open up on social media can make maintaining friendships postrelationship quite complex. Since you've recently gone through another breakup, it might be wise to prioritize your own healing and decide later if and how you want to maintain connections with expartners.