Sixteen, especially sensitive and suspicious, how to overcome the feeling of loss?

Hello, question asker!

From what you've said, I can see that you're really aware of yourself and what you're going through. I can also see how anxious and uneasy you are, as well as your desire to change things. I think you're great for facing your own problems head-on. You're a role model for many people who would rather avoid them than face them.

You've noticed that your current situation is making you feel pretty uncomfortable. So I'm wondering, when did this start? Was there something that triggered it?

The questioner said you're sensitive and suspicious. This could mean you lack a sense of security. Being sensitive and suspicious is often caused by a lack of confidence and a sense of security.

I'd like to ask the questioner to think about how they get along with their parents at home. Where does their insecurity come from? Only when you find the root of the problem can you get along with yourself.

I don't know the specifics of the questioner's situation, but I want to tell them not to be afraid. It's okay. We all have our own inferiority complex. It's just that we don't have the strength to show it because it's not obvious. People who have the strength inside are hiding it. I'm 32 now, but when I was 16, I was also sensitive and suspicious. I was always troubled by other people's emotions and always trying to please them. This doesn't mean we are bad, but we care too much about other people and want to make them like us by being nice to them. What do you think, questioner?

If you're aware of the situation, your expectations are met, you're no longer sensitive or suspicious, but relaxed and at ease, what will be different about your life? What will be different about you? What have you done to make you relaxed and at ease? Who will be the first to notice your transformation?

First of all, I suggest that the questioner look into getting some help from a professional counselor.

Psychological counselors can help you figure out what's really going on for you. They use techniques like hypnosis (which lets you address past issues and move forward), focus solution therapy (which helps you focus on your strengths, tap into resources, and boost your confidence), and cognitive behavioral therapy (which changes how you think about things).

Second, the questioner can start with their interests and hobbies, work on improving themselves, and look for successful experiences to boost their confidence.

It's a good idea to specialize in a specific field. That way, you can find hobbies you're interested in and actively learn and enhance the skills of those hobbies. This can help you improve your self-confidence. When you're confident, you'll have the strength within you and won't be swayed by other people's comments.

I can speak with particular authority on this point. As mentioned above, when I was 16 years old, I felt the same way as the OP. I kept looking for answers. In 2020, I learned hypnosis, and when I successfully hypnotized someone in class for the first time, I felt such an exciting feeling that I still remember it vividly. After the successful hypnosis, I spoke on the podium for the first time, knowing what I wanted, and I also dared to speak in front of a crowd for the first time. So the OP can find their area of interest, study hard, and increase their self-confidence.

Once you're ready to make a change, you can start using positive psychology to your advantage. For instance, before bed at night, try to stay positive and remind yourself that it's a new day, you can do great things, and you should trust your instincts and not let others get in your way. This is also about creating a self-fulfilling prophecy: if you believe you can do something, you're more likely to succeed. So, think positively and you'll be amazed at what you can achieve.

Finally, the questioner can let off steam through sports, running, etc., or they can find someone to talk to.

I'd also suggest two books: "The Courage to Be Disliked" can help you get out of uncomfortable relationships.

The book "Mr. Toad Goes to the Psychologist" is a great source of inspiration, and it really speaks to the idea that all relationships are shaped by our childhood experiences with our parents. Toad, like many of us, had some interpersonal challenges, but he was able to find healing.

To wrap things up, I'd like to share the golden rule of psychology: You are your own psychological expert. Psychology can only help people who are proactive and ready to make changes.

When you get here, it's the start of the change process.

You've got a lot of people in your corner, including uncles, aunts, and older siblings.