Started playing Go at age 4 with great interest, but at 6, always losing online and unable to accept defeat?

Dear Sir/Madam, I hope you find this information useful.

As a mother, I am aware of your concerns. I have also gained experience through my child's growth. I have completed courses in child education and developmental psychology, as well as gained insights from working in psychology. I would like to share these with you:

It is essential to be mindful of our children's emotions, serve as a receptacle for them, and respond in a manner that facilitates transformation.

A child's brain is still developing, and the functions of the prefrontal lobe are not yet mature. This can result in emotional outbursts, which can be challenging to control. Rather than attempting to stop the child from losing their temper, it is more effective to acknowledge the child's emotions, understand their emotions, provide a safe space for them to express their emotions, and offer a response. For instance, when a child is angry, they can be allowed to lose their temper as long as they are safe. However, to avoid losses, valuable items such as the mouse or phone can be put away. Then, you can hug the child or stroke their back and shoulders and say, "I know you are very angry right now because you lost the game. You really wanted to win, but didn't, and that makes you feel sad and angry, right?"

Please describe the specific circumstances that elicit your anger.

It is recommended that you encourage your child to express his emotions in words, as this will result in a reduction in his agitation.

2. Assist your child in learning to express and release emotions in a manner that does not harm others or themselves.

When a child displays aggressive behavior such as throwing things after becoming angry, it is often because they are unaware of alternative ways to release their emotions and express their frustration. As a parent or caregiver, it is important to guide the child towards more constructive ways of expressing their emotions that do not harm themselves or others. One such method is verbal expression, which can provide significant emotional relief when the child is able to articulate their feelings. Another approach is to direct the child towards more physical outlets for their frustration, such as hitting a soft object like a sandbag, pillow, or unbreakable tumbler. Additionally, it is beneficial to assist the child in adjusting their perspective and developing a positive thinking pattern. For instance, it is important to emphasize that losing is not a personal failure, but rather an opportunity for growth and improvement.

3. Reading relevant picture books with your child can facilitate learning how to deal with such situations, while also enhancing the parent-child relationship.

There are several books on cultivating children's resilience that you can read with your child. Examples include It's Okay to Not Be First, It's Okay to Feel Feelings, It's Okay to Fail, and others. The stories in the picture books are highly engaging and well-illustrated, which will capture the child's interest in reading. During the reading process, they will gain valuable insights that are more effective than direct lectures. Additionally, reading together can strengthen the parent-child relationship.

Please find the above information for your reference. Best regards,