Surprisingly, these personalities also affect our relationship. Should we distance ourselves from her?

Hello! I'm thrilled to answer your question and I hope my suggestions will be helpful.

In this situation, there are two exciting directions to explore!

One is a change in our own state of mind, which is an exciting opportunity for growth and self-discovery!

For example, this person has always been like this, and before we met him, he was also like this, and when we first started a relationship with him, he was also like this. But in that situation, we could accept the way he handled things and the way he thought, and we loved him for it!

But as the relationship progresses and we grow and change as individuals, we may gradually become unwilling to accept his current situation.

This is where the magic happens! It's time to sort out our own system of values. If you have an intimate relationship with him, then it's also time to improve our views on marriage and love, and what kind of image or state we want our partner to be in. These standards for choosing a partner will change as we age and our experiences change.

For example, when we were 20 years old, we were totally open to accepting someone who was innocent and didn't want anything as our partner. We thought his mistakes were cute and simple at the time!

But when we turn 30, we may not want someone like that to become our partner. We will find his stupidity and selfishness unacceptable – and that's a good thing!

It's time to change our choice of partner or sort ourselves out!

The second situation is when the other person's actions become more and more extreme.

People will feel a sense of connection and belonging.

For example, we can fart in front of our parents, but we can't do it in front of a stranger. The same is true when we are in an intimate relationship—and it's a great thing that we can't!

When we first meet a friend or just start a relationship with our partner, we are not likely to behave in this way. But as our emotions become stronger and we get to know each other better, something amazing happens! We start to regard the other person as a family member or someone important to us, and we feel less of a sense of distance. We may even do something like take off our trousers in front of our partner!

However, such behavior may be considered normal from the perspective of the person doing it. I treat the other person as someone I can trust and rely on, so I don't think twice about it and don't restrain my actions. This is great! But from the other person's perspective, they may wonder why you've become this way. They may even think you've changed for the worse. But you know what? You're still the same person at your core. And that's something to be excited about!

In this case, it's important to remember that in a partner or in an ordinary social relationship, it's essential to have a sense of boundaries. And this sense of boundaries requires self-restraint and personal improvement, which are both great things to work on!

For example, in the process of social relationships, we have the amazing opportunity to give feedback to each other when we talk. The other person may not pay much attention to this and ignore some of our confessions, act as if they didn't see them, or give a response that is not as good as expected. At this time, we can reasonably express our demands and work towards a solution together!

For example, if you directly tell the other person, "I'm sharing something with you now," or "I've expressed my unhappiness, and I hope you can talk with me about what I've shared and give me your feelings," or "You can accompany me as I pour out my heart and pick up the emotions I've confided in you. For example, if I'm complaining about my colleague or boss and you even say with me, "How can he be like that?" I'll feel that you heard what I said, that you understand what I said, and that you're on my side, giving me positive emotional feedback. Then I'll feel very happy and comfortable, and I'll feel the importance I hold in your eyes.

I'd love to hear from you! If you don't reply or ignore this message, I'll be a little sad, but I'll be ok.

This method is a great way to get your feelings and thoughts across clearly, which helps the other person understand that their original way of processing things in the relationship was not the best or that they may have hurt you unintentionally. This then gives them the chance to realize that they have a problem and need to make adjustments, which is a great thing!

In short, in any relationship, we will have many problems because everyone's growth process and personality are different, and even the degree of sensitivity of each person's mind is also different. What may be important to us may not be important to others, so the other person will ignore it. However, the other person does not deliberately or sincerely want to make us unhappy. But here's the good news! We can work through these differences and find ways to connect and grow together.

It's so important to communicate and express ourselves, whether it's between friends or in an intimate relationship. It's the best way to let the other person know what we're thinking and to listen to their thoughts. And the great thing is, you can work things out together!

Once you've made your own adjustments, if you're still struggling to find consistency or mutual tolerance, it might be time to consider a fresh start. This doesn't mean you have to leave any regrets behind. It just means you'll have the chance to start anew and avoid any missed opportunities due to misunderstandings.

I really hope that through self-reflection or continuous communication and adjustment, you can find a way of getting along that suits you both!

The world and I love you!