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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello,
I can see how you're feeling when I read your message, and I'm concerned about you.
Your child is seven months old, and not only does he need a lot of care, but you are also very tired. You've just recovered from childbirth, and your body's hormone secretion is affected, which can lead to mood swings.
Right now, all kinds of conflicts and contradictions will make you feel powerless, helpless, and depressed.
If I gave you a lot of advice right now, it wouldn't help much. I have a few suggestions for you, hoping they'll help you feel better and improve your situation gradually.
It might help to talk to someone.
There are people in your life who can understand and support you, so you can talk to them about how you're feeling. You can also find a psychological counselor or professional consultant to help you.
Treat yourself kindly when you're feeling low.
Try focusing on your breathing for 10 breaths a day.
Remind yourself that things will get better with time. This is based on my own experience.
I also felt helpless after giving birth, but now that my child is growing up, things are getting better.
Let your husband know what you need and how you're feeling.
You might want to try using the method of non-violent communication, which involves using a sentence structure like "what facts I have seen + how I feel + what I need + what I hope for." It might feel a little strange at first, but if you do it often, you can get to know yourself better and take care of your own needs.
This approach will help you and your partner communicate better and improve your relationship.
It's also a good idea to exercise and listen to music when you can.
Your body might not be fully recovered after giving birth. Try starting with 10 minutes of simple yoga stretches every day.
There's a book called "High Energy Postures" that uses real-life success stories and experiments to show how certain stretching postures can really boost your energy levels, which in turn improves your mood and helps you deal with whatever life throws at you.
You might also try playing some soothing music for yourself, which can be good for your child's intellectual development.
I'm a psychological counselor, and I'll be here to support and care for you!
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I can't even imagine how tough this must be for you, going through all these challenges since your pregnancy. It's heartbreaking to feel so unsupported by those closest to you. You've been carrying this heavy burden alone for too long.
It sounds like you're experiencing a lot of emotional pain from feeling abandoned and misunderstood. The lack of support from your husband and motherinlaw has really affected you. It's important to find someone you trust to talk to, maybe a friend or a counselor who can offer some relief.
Feeling trapped between your family and your inlaws is exhausting. Your parents tried to step in to help but it seems that only created more distance. You deserve support and understanding, not isolation. Maybe reaching out to a community group could provide the comfort you need.
You've faced so many difficulties, from health issues during pregnancy to financial stress and now dealing with postpartum depression. It's completely understandable why you feel overwhelmed. Finding professional help might be crucial to start healing and feeling better.
The situation with your husband not being as involved as you'd hope makes everything harder. I wish there was a way to bridge that gap and have him see how much you need his support right now. Perhaps having an open and honest conversation could make a difference.