The grievances from work have passed, but was it worth it for myself?

I just wanted to say that the original poster is great!

It can feel like the old boss is like an old man fighting a monster, and after winning, he needs everyone around him to applaud. It's like he's still a child at heart.

As a subordinate, it can be really tough to deal with a boss like that all day long. It's only natural to feel distressed and worried.

From what you've told me, you worked under him for a long time. You have so much to admire in terms of your self-adjustment!

You said, "Now it's in the past," but I'm not sure if you meant you've changed companies and environments.

You also mentioned someone who doesn't want to face the past and feels like they haven't let go of it. Don't worry, this can be done slowly, without being too hard on yourself and putting extra pressure on yourself.

It's so important to have friends to support you through this process.

Looking back, it seems like you've been held back a bit, sweetie.

But isn't the awakening of consciousness the best thing to celebrate? You can learn so much from your mistakes!

Life is a marathon, and it's so important to remember that it's not worth comparing yourself to others. We all have our own unique journey and path to follow, and focusing on the inconsistencies in others' lives and work can be a waste of precious time.

But here's the good news! Negative emotions can actually help us figure out what we need to work on in our lives and help us avoid getting stuck in a negative loop.

You did it! You made your emotions your own best teacher.

In just nine lines of text, you can read about all the wonderful things you've experienced, the amazing resources you've accumulated, and your strong psychological resilience.

I really hope you can learn from your strengths and weaknesses, overcome the difficulties you have experienced, and make your life path smoother and smoother in the future.

Good day!

From what you've shared, it seems you're feeling a sense of injustice and sadness about the challenges you've faced. I'm sending you a warm embrace in support.

It may seem like a long time has passed since these events occurred, but when you encounter individuals from the past in their familiar surroundings, it still evokes the same feelings you experienced in the past.

Let's first examine the circumstances at the time. Given that you had another career and didn't devote all your energy and hopes to your work, you may have felt a certain degree of disdain for this leader who liked to dream up things and lecture, telling you to learn from him and work hard, because you could probably see more fields and have more insight. However, you still cared about your own self-appreciation, even though you were constrained in terms of time and energy. Despite a friend later suggesting that you could simply use this place as a springboard and not care, it seems you may have let go of this matter. However, I believe that you may have also invested a great deal of energy, expectations, and dreams in this job, which may be the reason why you feel so aggrieved and lost after being let down.

It is also possible that such a dream-creating leader has prompted an interaction pattern between you and an important nurturer in your growth process, which could be a more profound underlying reason for how you feel.

It is understandable to feel this way. There is some truth in the saying that if you use this as a springboard, you shouldn't care. However, this is a kind of self-comforting psychological compensation after the event. It cannot completely make up for your inner regrets and grievances. You may find it helpful to accept such an outcome and also accept your own feelings of grievance.

The path of life is full of unknowns. We cannot know what kind of people and things we will encounter, what kind of problems and choices we will face. Sometimes we need to make choices and trade-offs, because after all, human energy, abilities, and time are limited. Some results we cannot control will always lead to some regrets in life. When we can accept them, they will become part of our life experience and gradually achieve spiritual harmony.

It might be helpful to accept this emotion as a way of releasing it. This could help you feel like you have let go of a burden. If you look at it over a longer period of time, you might see that life is a one-way journey and that all experiences are valuable. At that time, your hard work and dedication could be seen as an experience in itself, and you might feel that everything is worthwhile.

You may find that you are able to look forward, move forward, re-plan your life, and start a new journey.

I hope that Hongyu's reply will be of some assistance to you. Thank you for your question!

Hello!

You say you've met a leader who wants praise.

The leader is an ordinary person who wants to be affirmed. There's nothing wrong with what he said.

Second, the leader "didn't expect it. Look how amazing I am. I've worked hard, and if you work hard too, you'll be just like me."

The leader is saying two things: first, to become a leader, you have to be special; second, the leader appreciates you. "This requires awareness, and if you work hard, you can do it too."

This sentence shows he has high hopes for you.

If your leader behaves in a narcissistic manner in front of everyone, it means he grew up using this motivational approach. He applies incentives to his life and work.

He means no harm. Praising someone is generally shown between peers or superiors and subordinates.

Your leader treats you as an equal.

We should be tolerant of others as long as they don't break social rules. We all have different backgrounds and ways of thinking.

We can accept different opinions if we recognize that everyone is different.

You stayed here for financial reasons and because others enlightened you. After many years, your knot of leadership has not been untied. You have just let time pass and chosen to let go or forget.

When you see a familiar scene, you feel negative emotions.

"The past is the past, but when you meet old friends again, you'll remember the bad times and feel you stayed too long. You'll feel worthless because you didn't recognize your own worth." You're still growing as a person. It's good you have problems and know how to face them.

You can gain understanding by experiencing things for yourself. As the saying goes, "traveling ten thousand miles is better than reading ten thousand books."

We gain insight and grow through personal experience.

I hope I can help. I wish you happiness!

I'm Chu Mingdeng. I love you.