The longer you spend time together, the stronger the urge to control. Why does your partner keep asking questions?

Kiss, seeing you open up, I feel your emotions and questions. You expected the closer the relationship, the deeper the mutual affection, and the more comfortable the state.

Answer your boyfriend's questions. Think about whether he's becoming insecure because you've been improving while he hasn't. Look at the deeper reasons.

In the TV series "Happiness in a Million Homes," Zhao Liying's husband was also anxious because he couldn't keep up with his wife in the city.

Second, he'll want more control over time. Watch for this in yourself. If his past relationships were affected, take steps to prevent it.

However, a relationship is about feeling secure. You can reassure him by sharing little things about you, like your mood or food.

Communication is key in relationships. If you communicate well, you will find the answer. Thank you for reading.

Hello, question asker.

Hi, I'm Kelly. It looks like you've started looking for answers to some questions you had when you wrote down these confusions.

Since I don't have enough info to know more about you, how long you've been together, or the other person's background, the advice I've given might not be totally helpful. It's just a reference for you.

[Lack of security]

If your partner likes to ask these questions, you can probably tell that he's feeling insecure. Maybe it has something to do with how he was raised. You can have a chat with him about it. People who are insecure need to feel like they have control. Their distrust of others comes from within. If you don't find out why, it'll be tough to get along with him and you'll feel like you don't have any personal space.

[What love looks like]

If you've only known each other for a short time and he cares about you a lot, or if he loves you more, it's said that love makes people dizzy and infatuated. He's probably more nervous about you because you haven't known each other for long.

Maybe things will get better over time. You can give him a sense of security by telling him about your schedule for the day if your relationship is stable or certain.

This is probably more ideal, and it can be changed with time and patience. You have to love him enough to be tolerant.

[Regarding controlling desires]

If the questioner feels controlled, just communicate with him directly. You don't like this feeling, and you feel like you're not being trusted or respected. At the same time, you use his method of asking him about his daily routine every time and then asking him how he feels. If you don't allow it from the beginning, he'll slowly understand you.

He'll get to know you better over time.

Trust is the foundation of love. It can also be really painful when you don't trust others or when they don't trust you, so the questioner wants to express this.

I wish you all the best.

Hello! I really hope my answer can help you in some way.

It's so important to understand that when someone wants to control you, it's often because they're feeling insecure and afraid of losing you. They need to feel secure in the relationship, and they'll do whatever it takes to gain that sense of security. So, they'll ask you lots of questions, like what you're doing, who you're with, where you are, and so on. They might even seem annoying, but they're really just trying to show you that they care and that they want to know you're safe.

So, if you want to stay with him and build a long-term, stable relationship, it's really important to understand the reasons behind his behavior, to understand him, and to meet his needs. I promise you, if you do that, his behavior will change!

I really want to help you, so here's my advice:

1. Try to understand his behavior by seeing that behind the control is care and insecurity.

It's totally normal for a person to want to control because they feel insecure and don't have enough confidence in themselves. It's a way for them to gain inner peace by controlling the situation.

This is actually related to his upbringing. In his relationships during his upbringing, he had some tough experiences. So, when he encounters some unstable situations, he will become nervous and anxious, afraid of losing the relationships and people he values.

So you'll see that the more he wants to control you, the more he cares about you.

Give him all the love and support he needs, and let him know how much you trust and appreciate him.

Now that we've identified the needs behind his behavior, we can work together to promote the development of the relationship and maintain its stability. There are ways we can meet some of these needs to help the relationship grow even stronger.

You can often tell him, "You can trust me, I love you the most, I am the only one for you..."

After a while, when he feels secure and grounded in your relationship, he'll stop being so controlling.

3. When you really listen to each other and share your true feelings, it helps your relationship grow and develop.

Communication is so important in relationships! It's really effective when you both express your deeper needs and feelings, rather than getting into those superficial arguments and accusations.

For example, you could say something like, "I don't feel very comfortable when you keep asking me where I am today. I really need your trust. In the future, when I'm busy, could we contact each other every two hours or so? You could also invite him to express his feelings and needs.

This will help you both understand each other better, which is great for your relationship! Every little disagreement is an opportunity for your relationship to grow stronger.

I hope this is helpful for you! Wishing you all the best!