The pre-job training at the private school is torturing me. Should I give up this job?

Hello! I really hope my answer can help you in some way.

From your description, it seems like you've had some challenges during the pre-job training period. It's not easy to adjust to a new environment, especially when you're living with roommates and working with colleagues. It's also not easy when you're the target of some leaders who say you need to know a little about interpersonal relationships. It's a learning curve for everyone! The contract has not yet been stamped, and you will not know the result until the end of August. This makes you feel a bit stuck, and you're wondering whether you should give up this job and find another one. I hug you and hope that you can feel some warmth and support.

I'm sure you'll think of more, but here are a few things that come to mind:

You can look back on similar experiences in your life and think about how you got through them. You can use what you learned then to help you now! You were able to do it before, and you can definitely help yourself get out of this predicament now.

From your overall description, it seems that you are mainly troubled by the interpersonal relationships in your new workplace. It seems that your colleagues and leaders do not understand you enough, which makes you feel very uncomfortable. Then, in your previous life experiences, have you ever encountered a time when you were not understood? What did you do at that time? Let's explore this together!

I'd love to hear what methods and behaviors you've used to help yourself out of a difficult situation!

I remember when I was in primary school, I had a falling out with a good friend of mine. I didn't speak to her for a long time, but I really wanted to make up with her and continue to hang out with her! I wrote her a long letter expressing my true feelings and needs, hoping that we could make up and continue to be good friends. She wrote me back a letter, and after that, our relationship was like it was before, even better than before! We would hug when we met. Although, later, as we grew older, our lives became more and more different, and now we rarely contact each other, but this experience taught me that when there are conflicts and contradictions in a relationship, it doesn't mean that it will always be like this. If we can do something, communicate with kindness and express goodwill, it will be even better than before!

2. Take a look at what your needs are and what you want to get out of your work. This job could be the perfect fit for you!

The great thing is, we don't need a job to meet all our needs. We just need to ask ourselves what we need from this job!

Or maybe it's the income you're after? Or the stability?

Or maybe you're looking for a job with a higher social status? Ask yourself what you want from your work, and ask yourself if the job can provide you with these matching needs. You'll soon know if you should give up or persevere!

At one time, I was also confused about my work. I had flexible hours, got along well with my colleagues, received a lot of support and nourishment at work, and could always grow personally. But my salary was very low and irregular. When I always focused on the salary, I often felt uncomfortable and wondered if it was worth doing such work. But then I clarified my needs for work and saw that I actually valued freedom of time, harmonious relationships at work, and the growth I could bring to myself more. This work could provide it to me! And for the income part, I could secure myself from other aspects, rather than from this work. In this way, I achieved inner balance and could enjoy the fun of work more!

Similarly, you can also ask yourself which are more important to you and which are not so important. Think about things like interpersonal relationships, salary, job stability, social status, working hours, and so on. If your core needs match this job, then of course you can continue to choose! As for the less perfect parts, we can balance them through other means. We can also solve them by improving our own mind and abilities. For example, we can get our needs for recognition and support from other relationships, or learn some effective communication methods to improve our interpersonal skills and relationships with colleagues.

3. Learn to separate issues and see what kind of result you are more willing to bear, and then make that choice!

When faced with a choice, it's important to see what result you're more willing to bear and then make a choice accordingly. Now, the choice before you is to give up or persevere. For these two choices, it's essential to see what result you're more willing to bear.

If you choose to give up, then you get to experience the pressure of finding another job, losing such a job opportunity, and other consequences. If you choose to persevere, you get to face the leader who has criticized you, deal with the interpersonal relationships with colleagues, and be able to do this job, etc.

Find out which outcome you are more willing to bear, and then make your own willing choice! There is no perfect choice in this world, just as there is no perfect person. So, it's time to look at our own needs, see what we are more willing to bear, what we are more willing to let go of, and what part we are more willing to grow!

I hope this is helpful for you! Best wishes!