The pressure to get a job title, wanting to be a positive and progressive person, but the pressure is so great

Hello, I am a heart exploration coach. I will be your supportive and attentive listener as you share your story with me.

I can sense your distress. As the annual title review approaches, you feel isolated and uncertain because you are not eligible to participate. You have always striven to make progress, but the outcomes have not met your expectations, and you even experience self-negation and self-doubt. This sense of pressure has also affected your family and life.

Let's start by offering you a warm embrace and taking a moment to understand the issue at hand.

Perhaps it's worth noting that there is not just one standard for judging things.

As you mentioned, you're interested in making positive progress. Could you please share your thoughts on what you consider to be positive progress? Is it passing the title evaluation and becoming a team leader?

In a class, there are often multiple teachers, but only one class teacher. In today's business world, the employment process is becoming more flexible, with companies looking beyond traditional hiring practices to find the best talent.

Your judgment of "positive progress" is based on standards within your own understanding, and there will undoubtedly be deviations as long as there is judgment. Having your own values means having standards, and having standards means having judgments.

It is beneficial to make judgments because they can provide direction and guidance. However, if judgments become rigid, they can lead to a narrow perspective and potentially hinder relationships.

It would be beneficial to avoid creating "limiting beliefs" in yourself. This will allow you to stand at a wider/higher perspective and see more truths about the issue, which will in turn give you more choices. For example, you could consider broadening your understanding of "positive progress." This could involve bringing your expertise to the extreme and becoming "irreplaceable" in a certain area.

For instance, with regard to the assessment of professional titles, it is simply a periodic evaluation of one's abilities, and you are classified as an "exempt unit." It could be said that the most valuable experience is being well-liked by students.

In essence, it is only when you have a positive self-image, a sense of your own worth and self-assurance that you will be able to look to the future with confidence.

2. While stress is not the root of the problem, how we deal with it is an important aspect to consider.

It's important to remember that things themselves are never the problem. Rather, it's our interpretation of things that can lead to negative emotions. The ABC theory of emotions offers a helpful perspective on this. It suggests that it's not the event itself, but our beliefs about the event, that can cause us to feel a certain way.

It is important to remember that work is only one part of life. There are many other aspects to consider, such as family, health and so on. While we work hard and earn money every day, it is ultimately to enjoy the happiness and joy of life.

It may be helpful to consider that the answer to the question of how to balance family and work is to realize that "work is only a part of life." Could this be an area where you might benefit from some reflection?

Each moment in life is important, and if we are not happy in the present, it may affect our future happiness. We could say that work is just one method, tool, or means to help us achieve our goals at a certain stage of life.

Given that it is "staged" and is only a tool/method, it may be helpful to consider that there is no need to obsess over title evaluation qualifications.

It is worth noting that seeking outside of ourselves may result in disappointment. It may be beneficial to consider cultivating ourselves inwardly. When a person is rich inside, it is likely that the outside will also flourish.

One possible way to cultivate oneself is to identify one's own value and mission. For instance, one might aspire to become irreplaceable in a particular area.

Your value is something that you determine for yourself, rather than something that is determined by others. If you have not yet done so, it is worth asking yourself when you might be ready to do so.

If you have confidence in yourself, it will encourage others to have confidence in you too.

I hope these words are helpful to you, and I wish you well in all your endeavors.

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