The work pressure is huge. You want to resign, but you are anxious about how you will survive without an income?

Good morning, my name is Gu Yi. I am modest and self-effacing, as I have always been.

In the context of the ongoing epidemic, we are all striving to maintain stability in our personal and professional lives. This has led to a sense of pressure in work environments that do not align with our values or preferences. The challenge does not lie in the work itself, but in the persistent doubts and concerns that arise in the face of these circumstances.

The supplier requires you to settle the debt, and you must motivate the supplier to work hard. It is challenging to be in this position, and I believe that if you are instructed to ignore the unpaid bills, you will be unable to do so. Therefore, the internal pressure you place on yourself when dealing with suppliers is significant.

It is evident that you are facing significant challenges in your current role. You are struggling to perform your duties in a way that aligns with your moral standards. Furthermore, you lack the courage and leverage to pursue a different course of action, and you are reluctant to exert maximum effort at work. You are grappling with a complex internal conflict between these two aspects.

Please find below a few tips.

It is important to resolve any internal conflicts that may arise. Working in an unhappy mood will not lead to positive outcomes. If we are unable to extricate ourselves from our own misery, it will prolong the adjustment period between us and the company. This is not beneficial for us or the company, as every company has its own way of doing things.

Embrace diversity, maintain your personal integrity, and adapt to change.

It is important to distinguish between your personal and professional lives. The current anxiety and pressure are due to the fact that the retention or resignation of this job will have a certain impact on our lives. Therefore, we are always uneasy, with reasons to leave but no determination to do so. It is crucial to remember that people who work to make a living are not easy. Therefore, it is essential to leave the pressure at work and solve it there, and bring the happy times in life out. Working hard is to allow our body and soul to enjoy and be warm for a moment.

It would be beneficial to switch roles at work. From the description, it seems that you are often talking about yourself, rather than the company. I am unsure if this is because you recently started or if there are differences in opinion regarding the company's corporate culture. Regardless, it is important to find a way to align your personal and professional lives.

Best regards,

You have work experience that lasted more than three years. This will impact your life because our lives are seen in a trajectory. You quit your previous job, so you had considerations in your mind when you quit.

Your new job will be stressful. You won't please either side, so it will be hard to survive. You might even wonder if you should stay.

This is also hard for you. If you can find a better job, you can quit. Pay attention to your feelings. You can do this stressful job, but slowly withdraw your attention from it.

You should reduce the amount of work you do because this job is not right for you. Look for a new job while you are waiting for things to improve.

You can search for jobs on job search software. Since your trend is low, you can also think about why you don't save enough. Is it because your original profession is special and pays less, or because the jobs you find are like this?

After struggling for so many years, we can think about our situation. Maybe working hard all the time is not a solution. We still need to find a way out that suits us better. We should also be able to save money in case of an epidemic or layoff.

This will also help you support yourself without anxiety. Many people are using this time to regroup and relax, so it's important to have savings.

Your work is stressful, so you need to relax. You can meditate or do mindfulness training.

Don't dwell on things outside your control. Just do what you can.

Take a career personality test to see what type of career suits you. Look at job search software and browse for other careers. Read "I Understand Your Workplace Anxiety," "The Minimalist Guide to Money Management," "The Magic of Organizing a Heartfelt Job," and "Work Happily" to find your professional identity and flow.

ZQ?

Dear Landlord, After reviewing your description, it is evident that there is a lack of clarity regarding job responsibilities and the division of labor. This has led to a loss of control in coordinating with colleagues, which in turn has caused anxiety and confusion.

The following suggestions may be helpful to the original poster.

1. Learn to decline requests.

The landlord is bound by a specific set of rights and responsibilities in the course of his work.

Due to the company's payment cycle, the landlord is required to provide support to the supplier, which increases the scope of his responsibilities. He can refer the supplier to the leadership team, but he is not obliged to assume liability for this matter.

Should this situation be reported to the leader, or should it be taken up with the finance department?

Should the finance department be consulted?

The landlord is responsible for operations and has the prerogative to determine the methods used to run the business. The designer's primary responsibility is design, and even if he has an understanding of operations, he does not have the authority to influence the way the business is run.

It is important to reclaim your rights and address his opinions and suggestions in a professional manner. You can say, "Your ideas are different from mine, and I will consider them."

2. Establish reasonable boundaries.

From the above, it is evident that the host is experiencing some ambiguity with regard to the delineation of boundaries. In order to ensure optimal performance and avoid potential conflicts, it is imperative to establish clear boundaries at work, delineating the scope of one's responsibilities and those of the other party.

Do not be afraid of making people uncomfortable. If you continue to accept, it will cause others to breach your boundaries, which will result in anxiety and pain for you.

It is important to remember that your body is your own and that you should not suffer for the sake of others. Therefore, it is essential to set clear boundaries and to refuse unreasonable demands when necessary.

3. Enhance your emotional awareness.

The host's performance at work is a microcosm of life. In your personal life, do you feel powerless at work? Who is that person?

Are they your parents or siblings?

Could you clarify whether this is a personal or professional relationship?

The host may have developed the habit of compromising in their daily lives, relinquishing their position, and making personal sacrifices to achieve a state of harmony.

In both personal and professional interactions, the principles of equality, respect, mutual benefit, and reciprocity guide behavior. Excessive suppression of needs can lead to numbness and suffering.

The host can identify and acknowledge their emotions by regularly monitoring their feelings. When they experience discomfort or distress, they should communicate their needs in a constructive manner to the other person. They can say directly, "I don't appreciate the way you speak to me. It makes me feel very uncomfortable."

If the other person makes an accusation or belittles you, you can also choose to say directly, "If you continue to speak to me in such a mean and sarcastic tone, then we have nothing to discuss. Please leave."

The host should utilize all five senses to fully experience the nuances of life. When one's rights are infringed upon, it is essential to assertively decline the other party's transgression. It is crucial to recognize that the other person will only treat you in this manner if you allow it. Therefore, it is vital to maintain a firm stance and avoid giving in to such behavior.

The host must be courageous and confident, trust their instincts, and have confidence in the facts. Do not be misled by individuals with malicious intent.

If the work environment is too harsh, you have the option of seeking a change. You can also choose to exercise your mind and discern any maliciousness or encroachment in the crowd.

Hello, question asker. I'm Evan.

I'll start by patting the questioner on the shoulder. The questioner is in a difficult situation at work and is suffering.

The questioner may not realize that work can be very stressful, especially in the current economy. Many companies are struggling, and many people are unemployed.

The questioner is more concerned about not finding a solution to their work problems and is dwelling on facing difficulties. When they feel overwhelmed, they wonder how their family members view their situation.

Have they given you any advice? I can't see any description of your family.

The questioner is having trouble finding a job and is unsure if they should leave their current job.

The questioner wants security and stability. Their current job makes them feel bad. This makes it hard for them to face the situation. Learn to spot and get rid of bad emotions.

What doesn't defeat the questioner will make the questioner braver in the future.

We can't communicate in detail about the question because it was asked on a platform. I can only give you advice on how to deal with negative emotions:

1. Find the cause of your anxiety.

What makes the questioner anxious? Is it work, the future, or problems at work?

The questioner must find what is causing their anxiety and write it down.

What makes the questioner anxious? Why? Is it because of their education or because they can't find a job?

The questioner said that at work, they face pressure from upper management and demands from suppliers. Why is that? It is not easy to find a job during the pandemic. So why does the questioner feel that they cannot handle the problems at work? Is it because of ideas that they or their family members have instilled in them?

If the questioner avoids trouble, it doesn't make them feel secure. It makes them anxious.

Is the questioner trying to achieve something, but can't find a way? Only by understanding the root cause of your anxiety can you develop a strategy to respond to it.

2. Focus on your main problem.

Workplace stress, a lack of security, and no plans for the future have left the questioner at a loss. Write down your problems on a piece of paper.

Then, rank the problems according to how you feel.

Next, find out if you can solve the problem yourself. If not, can someone help you? Look for resources that can help you solve the problem.

Discuss the matter with your family to see if you can help the person solve the problem. Don't dwell on anxiety. Say something positive. You'll get used to it.

There are more ways than there are difficulties.

3. List the worst possible outcomes.

List the worst possible outcomes. Then, think about how you can cope with them.

Instead of worrying, list the worst possible outcomes and come up with strategies to deal with them. For example, what will happen if you get a good job? When it happens, you will be able to deal with it. Then, will the questioner's anxiety be less severe?

There are always more ways than difficulties. A gentleman strives for self-improvement. To get a good result, you have to face the real you and pursue improvement.

4. Pay attention to your words.

When we face a bad situation, we often say negative things like "I'm so annoyed" or "I messed up again." These words make us feel worse.

The questioner should avoid using these types of words. Replace negative words with positive thoughts and praise. For example, "awful" can be replaced with "unfavorable" or "there is room for improvement."

5. Look for the positive.

Nobody's perfect. Don't demand perfection from yourself and allow bad times at work. When you start dwelling on negativity, stop and think of something positive.

For example, losing a game. This is unpleasant, but you can learn new ways to avoid making the same mistakes in future games.

6. Get help from someone else.

If the above methods don't work, seek help from a professional. Talk to them about your negative emotions. You can be honest because these sessions are confidential.

Describe how anxiety attacks make you feel, how they usually start, and how you respond to them. If necessary, keep communicating with these professionals until anxiety attacks no longer affect you.

I hope this helps.

Hello, question asker! I am Jia Ao, and I'm here to help.

I have carefully read through the problems and confusions you described on the platform, and I understand how you feel. Everyone has been deeply affected by the pandemic, and you have also had to find this job because your original travel plans have been disrupted due to the pandemic, which has had a significant financial impact.

The current work is so difficult that you want to leave, but the current environment makes you afraid to make any rash moves. You are now in a state of great anxiety. You must decide whether to leave or stay.

I will address your question by helping you analyze and sort it out in detail.

From your description, it's clear you have previous work experience. It's unlikely you'd impulsively resign over a temporary emotional problem. Tell me, did you encounter the same problems and difficulties in your previous job? How did you deal with and solve them? If you resign, how will you deal with the same problems in your new company?

I understand you're unhappy and don't fit in. You need to identify the specific reasons. Is it your leader? Your colleagues? Yourself?

I will help you identify the reasons why your current company is making you suffer.

The company's payment process is unacceptably slow. Suppliers keep demanding payment, but your leader only lets you do the appeasement work, so you bear all the pressure on your own.

The company is slow to pay but keeps asking you to hurry up the suppliers, and you are stuck in the middle, with no way out.

The work is chaotic and the designers constantly criticize your work, as if they were your superiors.

You are under a lot of pressure at work and want to leave. You are afraid that you will have problems surviving without an income, so you are hesitant to act rashly. This is causing your anxiety.

From a psychological perspective, stress is a cognitive and behavioral experience process jointly composed of stressors and stress responses (from Baidu). Your work pressure may come from the contradictions and conflicts you encounter at work, work pressure, work division issues, and anxiety caused by conflicts with company colleagues. You need to actively communicate with your company leaders. You can't solve these problems on your own. The company needs to step in and solve them.

Tell me, is your strong desire to resign caused by work pressure? Or is it that you have given feedback before, but have not received a response from the company, so you want to just leave?

You can check to see if you have the following work stressors (anxiety):

1) Heavy workloads, long working hours, and too many conflicts at work make you feel tense and anxious every day.

2) You're worried that there's no room for advancement, that your efforts aren't rewarded, and that you can't see a career future.

3) If you can't handle your relationship with your colleagues or your boss, if you're unhappy with your work, and if you go to work every day with negative emotions, you need to address these issues.

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If you have anxiety, it's serious. Eliminate your own internal factors: recklessness, daydreaming, and impulsiveness. Only resign after you've dealt with your own problems. If you still don't get a positive response from the company, quit and get a more suitable job. The pressure at work won't be so great, and you can change your work environment, which can relieve your anxiety. You need to be happy to work. No one wants to work in an unhappy environment.

My advice is simple: apply for jobs while still working and resign only after you have received a satisfactory offer. This way, you won't have to worry about suddenly losing your job and being unable to support yourself. You won't be under constant stress and anxiety. Many people nowadays switch jobs in this way to get to their dream company. You can do it too!

I am confident that my answer will be helpful. The world and I love you.

Hello!

I'm a heart exploration coach, and I believe learning is the body's greatest treasure.

From what you've said, I can tell you're feeling pretty anxious, worried, distressed, and overwhelmed.

You're thinking of leaving your job because you're under a lot of pressure, but you're worried about what will happen if you don't have an income. I won't go into the details here, but I have three suggestions for you:

First, think about the cost of quitting again and whether you can afford it.

You said you had three and a half years of work experience before you resigned in March. You wanted to travel but the pandemic happened, and not only did you not go, it also had a big impact on your finances because you don't have much savings. So you had to go back to work, but this job is stressful (it's difficult to be in the middle of the company and suppliers). But you don't want to resign easily because you're afraid it will be difficult to survive.

Think about whether you really can't live. Maybe you don't want to rely on your family. After all, you're an adult. It's also possible that your family members can't help you and you don't want to live by borrowing money. From your description, it seems you're reluctant to resign again. It can also be said that if you resign now, you're likely unable to bear the consequences.

If that's the case, then the issue becomes how to handle work-related matters.

Second, I suggest you try to change your mindset when it comes to work-related matters.

Changing your mindset means trying to see your work-related stress in a more positive light.

For instance, you can use the content of your current work as a way to improve yourself. Even if you change jobs, you may encounter the same situation—the leader doesn't help you solve problems or still blames you personally. Or maybe you'll encounter people who point fingers at you, even if they're not your leader.

Also, even if none of the above situations arise, there may still be new challenges and issues to navigate. After all, work is a series of problems, just like life.

On a positive note, we learn how to work and deal with different problems in life by solving them.

After thinking it through and changing your mind, you might want to think about how you can improve your abilities in all aspects of this job.

I'd say you should focus on yourself for a moment and think about what you can do now to improve yourself and feel better.

Once you've tried to change your mindset, you might think about facing the problem head-on instead of avoiding it by quitting. Plus, after improving your abilities in various aspects through this job, you'll probably find it easier to find a job in the future and do better.

First, you can try learning some communication skills. Ask your colleagues how they deal with this situation, or ask your leader what you should say. When you do, remember to ask with a learning attitude, not with emotions. You can also read some relevant books to see how to say it so that you don't feel so bad. You're trying your best to do a good job.

Second, if the designer is always bossing you around, you can try to learn to communicate with her in a "firm but non-hostile" manner. This means you can refuse her, do your own thing, and be firm in your attitude, but you don't have to be hostile.

If she "takes the lead" in front of you again, you can say something like, "Thanks for the reminder, but this is my business, and I know what to do."

After you've spoken to her like this a few times, she'll probably realize her approach is inappropriate and change it. She can tell from your tone that you're setting boundaries for yourself.

If you can't quit your job for now, try to change your mindset and improve at work so you can become a better person. This will make it easier for you to find a new job in the future, even if you want to quit, and you won't be as anxious.

Of course, you can also "do two things at once": while you're trying your best to improve in this job, you can also look for a better fit. This way, you can avoid the difficult situation of having no income and struggling to survive.

I hope this helps. If you want to talk more, just click on "Find a coach to interpret – online conversation" at the bottom and we can chat one-on-one.

Dear Question Asker,

Based on your description, your concerns can be attributed to a conflict between two motives and a lack of rationality.

1. The current workload is excessive. I am in a challenging position, caught between the expectations of my supervisor and the demands of the client. The designer is holding me accountable for the project's shortcomings.

2. I would like to take some time to relax and unwind. I hope to go for a walk outside.

From a rational perspective, you are hesitant to leave your position prematurely due to concerns about financial stability.

In essence, life is about making choices. The questioner demonstrates resilience under significant pressure, maintains composure, and considers future implications, which is highly commendable.

From a realistic standpoint, it is not advisable to abandon one's duties during the pandemic. Instead, the questioner should consider the potential consequences of such a decision. While it may initially provide a sense of relief, it is essential to evaluate whether the pressure on one's life and finances will be more manageable in the future.

From a psychological standpoint, the questioner is experiencing a high level of responsibility. By working excessively conscientiously, you have assumed both the pressure and the responsibility without realizing it. The desire to fulfill your duty and the ever-increasing pressure to resist it have intensified internal conflict. It can be said that this state of work is also incorrect and unsustainable.

The respondent believes that the most important thing for the questioner at the moment is to adjust his work attitude. It is advisable to avoid focusing too much on development possibilities outside of your responsibilities.

For instance, if your superior requests that you persuade a client to make a payment, concentrate on fulfilling this obligation. Should the superior require you to perform this task on a recurring basis, such as every three days or even daily, simply inform your superior of your actions and inform the client that you are merely following your superior's instructions. This approach allows you to deflect the pressure and avoid taking it out on yourself.

In the event that the customer's response is unclear, it is advisable to refrain from speculating about their future payment intentions and to adhere to the established process.

In other words, there is still the possibility of taking active steps to reduce your stress, even if you are considering leaving your position. Even if your supervisor notices a change in your work attitude, the worst that can happen is that you will "quit passively."

Regarding relaxation outside the home, there is no time limit for entertainment. There is no situation in which you will regret not doing it now, in the future. What are your thoughts on this matter?

The questioner is clearly suffering from anxiety caused by their work. They are tortured by it, yet they are afraid to quit because they are worried about not having an income and finding it difficult to survive.

I am confident that the following sharing will provide you with more support and ideas when facing this difficult topic.

I am certain that the following sharing will provide you with more support and ideas when facing this difficult topic.

1. Set aside a specific time for anxiety, and allow yourself to feel it. Outside of that time, find a solution.

1. Set aside a specific time for anxiety, and allow yourself to feel it. Outside of that time, find a solution.

The feeling that losing this job will affect your income and threaten your survival is one of the most important factors influencing anxiety.

You will feel less anxious if you have more options and possibilities besides this job.

If you are caught up in anxiety, you may find it difficult to discover more options and possibilities at the moment. It is therefore important to calm the anxiety first.

If you want to calm anxiety, you can learn many techniques and methods from psychology. The following "designated time for anxiety" is one of the most effective ways to deal with anxiety, and research has proven it to be so. For your reference:

Set aside 10-30 minutes 1-2 times a day as a dedicated time for anxiety.

During this time, the OP should focus on the part of the job that makes them anxious.

I want to know what I'm anxious about when it comes to work.

I want to know what the biggest worry is.

What is the absolute worst that could happen?

The questioner needs to be reminded that this part is about anxiety, or worries about the future. Avoid dwelling on what has already happened. For example:

My boss told me to hurry up the supplier to work faster without paying me. I told him I shouldn't say that. You can see that the supplier sent me a message that I was about to explode, and I can imagine the ugly look on his face.

and can focus more on:

The supplier is angry with me. I am not incompetent. I don't like this job, but I am not going to be fired.

Set an alarm clock, and when it goes off, stop worrying.

When the allotted 10 to 30 minutes are up, tell yourself that this period of anxiety is over. If you suddenly feel anxious again in the middle, remind yourself of the anxiety: "I know you're going to be anxious, but our next period of anxiety will soon be here, and I'll let you be anxious properly then."

3. Work on the problem outside of your anxiety episodes.

The questioner is under a lot of pressure. Focusing on anxiety alone will not help them deal with the impact of this issue on them.

The questioner should devote more time and energy to dealing with this real-life problem, in addition to the designated anxiety time.

2. Decide what you're good at, what you're interested in, and what you're willing to put up with at work. Then, go out and find a job that's right for you.

Once you have calmed your anxiety, you can start dealing with the practical aspects and take the initiative in your current unsatisfactory situation.

You have three and a half years of work experience. Use it to discover aspects of your career that you can develop. Focus on both the skills you have acquired on the job and your personal development of workplace competencies.

In addition to the above-mentioned ability point analysis, identifying your passion and interests will help you avoid burnout during job screening and later work progress, and look forward to work more.

Furthermore, combining this unpleasant work experience will also help you identify your limits and avoid certain forms of work when seeking your next opportunity.

I am confident that the above sharing will inspire you.

I am a clinical psychologist. I do not explore human nature. I only care for the human heart. Bless you.

The questioner is in a great position! It seems that the company's management is in a state of chaos, and the boss doesn't seem to think there is anything wrong with the company. This is an excellent opportunity for the questioner to take the initiative and make a change. In this situation, what can we do? I would love to share my thoughts, hoping that they will be of some use to the questioner:

1. It's time to move on from a company that doesn't offer the right opportunities for your future. Timing is everything!

1.1 Resigning without a new job lined up is a risky approach, but it's also an opportunity to embrace a new adventure! While it's true that the questioner is considering this option, there are so many possibilities out there. If you can't find a new job quickly, you may face financial difficulties. But this is also an opportunity to gain new skills and experience that will help you in your next role. And if you hastily enter the next job because of financial difficulties, you may fall into the same predicament. But this is also an opportunity to learn from your mistakes and grow as an individual.

1.2 Start preparing for your next big move now! The best way to do this is to start saving money, looking for a new job, developing a side business, etc.

First, save up enough money to support yourself for a while without a job. Estimate the time it will take you to find another job, and prepare enough savings to support yourself until then. This will ensure that you can find a satisfactory job and increase your sense of security—and it'll be worth it!

However, there is one thing you can't control. If something unexpected happens at work and you lose your cool, you might not be able to keep going. And if you don't have enough savings to support yourself while you look for a new job, you'll have to be creative.

So, it's a great idea to have a side business as well! That way, if your savings aren't enough to support you, you'll still have a decent income to fall back on while you look for a better job. And if you've got certain skills or interests, you can turn them into a side business!

If not, there are so many amazing temporary jobs in society that can support you! As long as you persevere, there is always a way.

And the most important thing is to also think about your career plan and what your future direction is. Because what kind of company you go to for your next job can really help your career development! And looking for new job opportunities with a goal is a great way to keep your career moving in the right direction.

1.3 I once heard a great saying: if a job is really bad, you should still do your best at it before leaving. This is the perfect way to show that you are the one who quit the job, not that you are not qualified for it!

I encourage you to draw on this way of thinking!

2. Your own state of mind is often the problem that we overlook most easily. But there's no need to worry! If you cannot leave your job in the short term, you can still take steps to improve your state of mind. With a little effort, you can prevent your state of mind from gradually deteriorating with the passage of time. Keeping a stable state of mind is very beneficial for your next job, so it is very important to adjust your state of mind.

2.1 It's important to know the difference between your own work and someone else's. When someone tries to shift their responsibilities onto us, it's our chance to shine! Be alert and return the work to them in an appropriate way.

Sometimes, we get to take on extra responsibilities that we wouldn't have imagined! While it's great to help out, it's also important to remember that we shouldn't take on more than we can handle. For example, when it comes to suppliers, I'm not quite sure about the responsibilities of the questioner's job. From my experience, chasing debts and suppliers to complete work are two different roles.

Right now, it's time to focus on what we can do in this situation and who is responsible for other things. Let's take back responsibility from others and let them face the consequences of their actions, including the boss!

Absolutely! There is a method to how to return responsibility, and this is a topic that we all need to think about and learn.

2.2 Maintaining a stable state of mind is arguably the most difficult thing to do, but it is also the most important. And it's totally doable! I haven't done a very good job at it either, so I can't just talk about it.

I've found that the first thing you need to do is be aware of maintaining a good attitude. It's also important to quickly realize when your attitude is affected after an emotional problem. The second thing is to find a way to restore your attitude. Everyone's method is different, and you need to find a method that suits you. This could include high-intensity exercise, reading, walking and sunbathing, listening to specific courses, doing the Wonder Woman pose (research shows that doing this movement for three minutes can effectively improve your emotional strength), meditation, keeping a diary, and so much more! You can try more methods to find the one that suits you best.

2.3 If you can, try to find a way to do your job well and leave as a winner! This is a great way to boost your self-confidence. Focus your goals on the work itself, not on your emotions.

Our work includes both the practical and the human aspects, which makes it really interesting! Find a way to resolve the problems with the people who are getting in your way. You'll be amazed at how much better you'll feel when you've done that. Resolving people's problems is also part of focusing on work, and it is different from getting involved in so-called interpersonal relationships.

One is a problem-solving approach, with the focus on the matter; the other is a so-called office politics approach, with the focus on people. When we go to work, we should think in terms of solving problems; and in life, we should think in terms of how to get along with people. It's so exciting to think about how we can use these two different approaches to make our work and our lives better!

If you reverse the two, you'll find that work and life are not done well.

I highly recommend reading the following books: "High Energy Posture," "Antifragile," and "Don't Let the Monkey Jump Back on Your Back."

Good day. I am Smiling Pumpkin.

It would be beneficial to extend a gesture of support and encouragement to the original poster.

The individual in question is confronted with a challenging situation at their place of employment.

Firstly, the traditional dichotomy between work and life has been a fundamental tenet of occupational theory for centuries. It is widely accepted that the two domains should remain distinct, with work not influencing personal life and vice versa. The questioner's actions have effectively blurred this boundary, integrating work into their personal life.

The anxiety experienced at work is now affecting the questioner's personal life.

Secondly, it is important to note that different units have disparate management styles. Therefore, it is essential for the questioner to first acclimate to the new unit and become acquainted with the personnel therein. This process entails both proactive engagement and passive acceptance.

The issues between the supplier and the company, as outlined by the questioner

The cooperation between suppliers and companies does not commence on the first day, nor is it the responsibility of the questioner. The rules and regulations that were modified subsequent to their arrival were acceptable in the past, and thus, there is no issue with them in the future.

It is to be expected that both the company and the supplier will issue reminders, as this is part of the established routine. It is also to be expected that both parties will hope to receive the goods and payment at an earlier date.

Therefore, the only remaining step for the questioner is to proceed with the mandatory reminder, which should then be completed successfully.

Secondly, the designer's boundaries are not clearly delineated, which may result in a perception of territorial infringement and a sense of being denied access to certain domains.

One might consider the following question: if one were a designer arriving at a new operation, would one desire to provide additional information, whether due to concerns about potential delays or a desire to clarify one's familiarity with the situation?

It is imperative that you are recognized for your work.

Thirdly, it would be prudent to consider the prevailing economic climate and the implications of rental costs. It would also be beneficial to reflect on one's emotional state when one's salary is deposited into one's account.

Hello, question asker.

It is challenging to provide comprehensive guidance on career development in such a limited space. However, I hope that my answer will offer some insights and support as you navigate your career journey.

[What are your primary considerations in a workplace?]

You find yourself in a challenging situation. On the one hand, you feel that your current job does not align with your expectations. You perceive the company to be poorly managed, and you are under significant pressure. On the other hand, you recognize the importance of a stable income to support your family. This has led you to a crossroads, where you are uncertain about your next steps. In this moment, it is crucial to take a step back and reflect on what truly matters to you in a job.

Could I ask you to consider whether it is the salary, the development of your abilities, or the stability and ease of the work that is most important to you when evaluating whether a job is suitable for you?

It can be challenging for any job to fully align with our expectations. Our willingness to continue working often depends on whether our most important needs are met.

[Complete your career plan]

Given that you have already had one period of time away from work, it would be advisable to consider that if you were to leave again after a short time, this may become an area that needs to be explained in detail when you look for work again. Therefore, it may be helpful to have a clear career plan for yourself, as this could help to clarify your direction.

For example, it might be helpful to consider whether the position in your previous job is similar to the position you are in now. It could also be beneficial to reflect on whether your work experience has been continuous, and whether your work skills have improved. Additionally, it might be insightful to think about whether you left your last job hoping to change industries or positions.

If you do decide to leave this time, you may wish to consider whether you would prefer to change industries or positions when you look for a new job next time. Many jobs require a certain amount of experience, so it may be helpful to have a plan in place to start accumulating relevant experience as soon as possible.

[Solve existing workplace challenges]

The company is experiencing some delays in its payments to suppliers, while also expecting them to work at a faster pace. You find yourself in a challenging position, facing significant pressure. You have reached out to your superior for guidance, but the response has not fully addressed your immediate concerns.

This may be a work-related challenge you are currently facing, involving supplier management and communication. It's not easy, but you might consider asking an experienced colleague for advice or learning some negotiation and cooperation skills online.

Naturally, regardless of what others may do, it is ultimately up to you to take practical action to address your workplace challenges. Should you successfully navigate this level, you will receive additional experience points.

I hope that the questioner will take one step at a time towards their ideal job and make their own way in the world.

Hello, question asker! I originally wanted to resign to go out and take a walk and clear my mind, but then the pandemic hit, which had a serious impact on my finances. It was really depressing. I had no choice but to return to the workplace, but I also had to deal with the enormous pressure from suppliers to pay their invoices. I understand your frustration, confusion, pain, and confusion.

Alfred Adler, an individual psychologist, said, "All human troubles come from interpersonal relationships!" There's no question about it. Intimate relationships, work relationships, friendships—all of these are affected by conflict in interpersonal relationships. The problem is that people don't separate topics well.

Adler said there are three major topics in life: work, love, and friendship. You must separate these topics or you will fail. You will either interfere in other people's topics or have your own topics interfered with by others. Distinguish clearly between your own affairs, other people's affairs, and the affairs of the gods.

The first pressure the questioner faces is that the company's settlement is too slow, and the supplier keeps pressing for payment. The questioner explains to the company, but it's not helpful. The company has its own payment process. What is your own business here? Dealing with the supplier is your own business. Build a good relationship with the supplier by having meals together in private and going out to play. It can increase the relationship and establish your interpersonal relationships.

The supplier felt embarrassed and kept pushing. I explained the company's payment process to the supplier in private, and the relationship was in place. The supplier could also understand your difficulties. He understood that the company was like that, and if he kept pushing you, he would be putting you in a difficult position. He would also express his understanding to you. When it comes to when to pay, it's the company's business. You do your own work and leave the rest to the company. If the company doesn't pay the supplier for a long time, there is a problem with the company's financial situation, and the questioner can consider it another way.

The second pressure the questioner faces is related to the first. The company is slow to pay bills, and the questioner is made to feel bad for constantly urging the supplier to get things done. This is a common problem with many companies. Suppliers rely on the company to survive, and while they hate the slow payments, they still need the company.

You need to urge the supplier to work as you should. There's no need to feel embarrassed. This is your responsibility. The company will settle the bill. The money is not in your pocket. Leave the rest to God. Do your best.

The third pressure the questioner faces is that colleagues give you advice on your work. This is someone else interfering with your own work. The questioner can and should tell the other person, "Thank you for your advice, but this is my job responsibility. I have my own considerations and plans. I hope you won't spend energy and time on me in the future. After all, you have a lot of work, too." You may be worried that the colleague will hate you for saying this, but you shouldn't be. You need to have the courage to be hated in order to break free from the constraints of others. Besides, the questioner is not responsible for the other person. You are responsible for the company and your job duties. It's nobody's business what she thinks.

You may be worried that your colleagues will hate you for saying this, but you need to have the courage to be hated in order to break free from the constraints of others. Besides, the question asker is not responsible for him; you are responsible for the company and your job duties. It's nobody's business what she thinks.

It's tough to find a job during the pandemic. The above is a way to survive without leaving your current company. You don't need to force yourself to endure it. The most important thing is to change your mindset. Remember what is your own business, what is other people's business, and what is God's business. Do your best to do what you can do, no matter what others do, and let things take their course if you can't change them.

This is not a long-term solution. The question owner should use the evenings and weekends to recharge their batteries, study, improve their abilities and skills, and read more books. This will be of great benefit.

Turn that hobby you like into a project for your future business. Put in the effort.

In short, do your own thing, mind your own business, and the business of the world. Don't waste your emotions on the things that are, and use your energy and time to improve yourself. You'll meet new opportunities soon! I wish you all the best!

Good day, my name is Heart's Home.

You are dissatisfied with your work, under pressure, and experiencing bullying. You are considering resignation but have concerns. You are anxious, confused, and may also feel a sense of powerlessness.

From your written account, it is evident that you are a rational, intelligent, assertive, and organized individual. You have already conducted a comprehensive analysis and reflection on your current situation.

Indeed, you already have the answer, and now you just want understanding and support, correct?

Please describe the circumstances surrounding your previous resignation. Was it due to challenging work conditions, personal dissatisfaction with your role, salary and benefits, or a desire for a change in environment?

It is undoubtedly challenging to secure employment during the ongoing pandemic. From your description, it appears that you are not particularly optimistic about your prospects of finding a new position after resigning.

The role is not an enjoyable one, and the working environment is not conducive to productivity.

Have you had the opportunity to communicate with your supervisor about work-related matters and express your difficulties?

Have you attempted to establish a collaborative relationship with your suppliers?

This is undoubtedly a challenging situation. However, if you do not attempt to resolve it, there is no guarantee that a solution will emerge.

Have you had the opportunity to communicate with your family?

If you have, please describe their reaction.

If not, what are the reasons? Do you wish to avoid causing concern to your family?

Are you experiencing feelings of embarrassment? Do you believe that you can resolve the issue at hand?

For whatever reason, I believe it is reasonable, normal, and understandable for you to take this stance in the present moment.

You have provided a comprehensive list of the reasons for and against.

It may be advisable to temporarily set aside any distractions, take a step back from the situation, and ask yourself a few key questions: What are my true objectives? What do I need most in this current context?

Ultimately, the choice of life is always in your hands. When you are willing to face your true heart with courage, the answer will appear. When the answer appears, it is important to act with conviction and without hesitation or doubt.

I encourage you to believe in yourself. I wish you the best of luck.

As someone who's been in management consulting for 22 years, I'll give you a quick answer to the question from the original poster.

I get where the original poster is coming from. Anxiety is an emotion. It's basically a problem with our hearts.

We can't change the times or what others think, but we can change ourselves by adjusting our frequency.

First, it's important to be self-aware to understand where anxiety comes from.

"Where does my anxiety come from?" "Why am I anxious?"

Then ask yourself, "What can I do to avoid anxiety?" Try using spiritual healing methods like yoga and meditation to listen to your inner voice and figure out what you truly want.

2. Make sure you know what your own personal development plan is and don't compare yourself to others.

Don't let the achievements of others dictate your goals. We only see the glamorous side of others, so there are many dimensions to life. Don't just focus on "success."

Someone earning a million dollars a year might be successful at work, but that doesn't mean their family is any happier than yours.

Don't view your classmates, colleagues, or fellow villagers as your imaginary rivals. Take a moment to reflect on your own goals and aspirations. Five or ten years from now, what kind of life do you want to lead?

What do I need to do now to live this kind of life? What new skills can I learn to improve my professional abilities?

Take a step back and break your big goals down into smaller, more manageable steps. Each time you complete a smaller goal, you'll have the motivation to keep going until you reach your final destination.

3. Know your limits and embrace your flaws.

Out of the 5.7 billion people in the world, a few will become billionaires, scientific giants, best-selling authors, and celebrities, while some will grow up with a silver spoon in their mouths.

But only a few people can stand at the top of the pyramid. Most people have to accept that they're just ordinary members of the crowd.

You make 100,000 yuan a year, he makes 500,000; you went to a two-year college, he went to Tsinghua or Peking University; you work for an Internet company, he works for a Fortune 500 company... If you compare these things to the universe and the long river of history, they are all just clouds.

If you think you're not good enough, you'll feel like there's a big gap between you and others who are more successful. But if you believe in yourself, that gap will seem smaller.

4. Focus on the present.

Take a step back and observe the growth of flowers and plants in nature more often, and work on developing your powers of observation and awareness.

Spend more time with your family. Have fun together and work together to fulfill a family member's wish.

If you care about helping the disadvantaged and feel the difficulty of life, you'll appreciate your current happiness even more.

Given that we can't predict the future, it makes sense to focus on the present and enjoy the journey.

5. Think differently.

People who are anxious tend to view the world as a complicated place and will magnify their fear of the unknown indefinitely.

To avoid anxiety, it's important to examine our own thinking patterns and emotional habits, especially the conditioned reflexes formed during childhood. We should avoid extreme thinking of all or nothing.

It's important to experience more challenges, gain more knowledge, and understand that one cause can have multiple outcomes. This helps us avoid getting stuck in a rut. For instance, sayings like "Where there's a will, there's a way," "Hard work pays off," and "Good deeds will be rewarded" aren't always true. Sometimes, it just takes time—the timing isn't right—and other times, it requires other conditions to align.

6. Explore the many possibilities of life.

The term "slash youth" has been gaining traction over the past two years. It's derived from the English word "slash," which comes from the book "Double Career" by New York Times columnist Ma Rike·'er Bo. It describes a group of people who are seeking a more diverse lifestyle with multiple occupations and identities, beyond the traditional "single occupation" lifestyle.

It encourages people to develop their other interests and abilities outside their regular work. For example, a software company coder might become an online writer after work, or an accountant might actually be a game host on a live streaming platform during business hours. Similarly, a receptionist with a monthly salary of 3,000-4,000 yuan might earn 5-6 times that amount as a personal shopper.

Try different fields to expand your abilities and see what else you're capable of. Find what you really like and are good at.

When a crisis hits the workplace, we'll be ready because we'll know we can handle it.

Wishing you the best!

Hello, question asker. I see that you are torn between resigning and staying. The pandemic has introduced too much uncertainty into the workplace.

I may not be able to give you an answer, but I can stay with you for a while and talk about some of my thoughts, which you can use as a reference.

You have three years of work experience and an understanding of the rules and even the unspoken rules of the workplace. You deserve a suitable job that meets several basic conditions: first, whether the company's development direction matches your career orientation; second, whether there is room for your technical skills to develop and whether there is expected income; and third, whether the working environment and atmosphere provide opportunities and possibilities for your future development.

Given the pandemic, it's likely that some basic conditions will be difficult to meet. We'll need to make some adjustments and identify your current priorities, needs, and achievable goals.

You said the pandemic has had a significant financial impact on you and you don't have much savings. I think we should temporarily adjust our strategy and respond to the problem with a fine-tuned approach.

This company is torturous to work for. I've considered the issues you mentioned, and they all point to one thing: cash flow.

Cash flow problems are a common challenge faced by most companies at the moment. This company is no exception. When you leave, other companies will still face endless pressure and problems as a result.

The ripple effects of a lack of liquidity are the same everywhere, and you are just one link in the chain. You say, "The company's payment process is very slow, and many suppliers have come to me to collect their debts. Some suppliers say they have been owed for months. I have also told my superior about this, and my superior explained that the company has its own payment cycle. I am going to reassure the suppliers."

"In the end, I have to bear all the pressure alone." This is the most difficult problem for you to deal with.

You're the first one to take the blame, and it's infuriating. Not only that, but you're also the one who has to pay the bills and hurry the suppliers to get things done. You're caught in the middle, and it's difficult to know what to do.

This is a real dilemma that you cannot solve alone. Be more tolerant. Observe how the leadership handles it.

— Regarding the management chaos that is causing you trouble, you must learn to accept it rather than confront it. "The work is assigned in a chaotic manner here. The designer blames me for things that are not related to design, and she also tells me how to run the business, as if she were my boss.

This kind of situation is very common. Business management is always developing through constantly emerging new problems and solving them. You just need to learn to be responsible and fulfill your duties. If you exceed your duties, you can and should refuse—it's not a bad option.

My friend, you say, "For someone who is just learning to swim, they should master the skills before choosing a pool." Good luck.

This is it. Close.

It's time to take control of your career, manage your stress, and avoid burnout.

Hello, question asker!

I can relate to your situation. After reading your account, I can feel your anxiety, worries, and struggles.

You originally wanted to quit your job to find a better one, but then the pandemic happened and ruined your plans. You had no choice but to take the job you have now to survive...

You're really struggling with your current job, and it's taking a toll on you! The workflow, management system, etc. are all very unscientific, making it very difficult for you to do your job, and you are therefore very anxious...

Let's figure this out together, given your current situation...

1⃣️We have to keep working to survive, so we can't quit our jobs yet. We'll just have to stick it out for now...

2⃣️You can build on your expertise or keep learning after work to set yourself up for a better job in the future.

3⃣️ Ride a donkey and look for a horse. In the meantime, while you're working, look for a job that's a better fit for you. When you're ready, you can always resign.

4⃣️It's not easy to have a job during the current pandemic. Even though work is tough, we still have an income. Compared to many unemployed or bankrupt companies, we're considered lucky, right?

Given all this, I think you should have also thought about it. It's just that we are feeling pretty anxious right now, and this is something we need to deal with.

There's a type of therapy called ABC, which stands for "emotion-based therapy." The ABC theory of emotions was created by an American psychologist named Ellis. In the ABC theory of emotions, "A" represents the triggering event, "B" represents the individual's beliefs about this triggering event, and "C" represents the result of the emotions and behaviors that one generates.

Ellis thinks that it's our irrational beliefs that cause us emotional distress. If these beliefs stick around for a while, they can also cause emotional disorders.

In your case, A is your work environment, C is your current anxiety, and B is your dissatisfaction with the current workflow and management system.

So let's think about it differently now. No company's workflow or management system is perfect. They're always changing and improving. Maybe your current company is at this stage. You can think about it differently. Maybe you can become the change agent who helps the company improve. Wouldn't that be very fulfilling? Of course, this will take time. Don't rush. Take your time... If you can think this way, won't your emotions change and become less anxious?

That's all I've got for now, but I hope it's given you some food for thought.

Best wishes! The world and I are rooting for you!