There is always the pressure of fear of not being able to repay it. Is it really difficult to repay a favor?

Hello, questioner.

You're afraid of relationships and undervalue yourself. You worry about repaying favors, right? Life is interesting. You'll find that those who help you will always help you. This is a benefactor. We'll also pay for specific people, willingly and without expecting anything in return. This is "every action has its cause."

Believe in yourself.

Believe in yourself. Be nice, promising, and blessed. When others are in need, help them. Know your industry and have your own connections. You are valuable.

People who are pleasing and have a low sense of self-worth give too much to others. They give away everything they have, but not what others really need. Don't underestimate yourself. Everyone is a rich mine. Give what others need, not what you have. When you feel rich inside, you will never worry about not being able to repay others.

[Interaction ritual chains]

In 2003, the American sociologist R. Collins proposed the theory of "interaction ritual chains." This theory says that social dynamics come from interactions (rituals) and that each person's image in society is formed through social interactions. Users generate emotional resonance during rituals, which helps groups and individuals integrate their emotions. This forms emotional symbols and moral standards within the group.

People in rituals can share emotions and identities. This creates new social positions and images.

Take an honest look at your emotional energy and symbolic capital, and you'll see your own value. People are social animals, and social activities are your greatest value.

I'm Zhang Huili, a psychological counselor. I hope my answer helps. Your questions show you're interested in psychology, which is valuable.

It seems to be the social etiquette, the give-and-take, and the golden rule in social interactions.

Humanity and worldly wisdom are all about the methods, principles, and experiences that help us get along in the world.

Reciprocity is about mutual exchange in etiquette, which is mostly used in interpersonal relationships. It can also be used metaphorically to describe behaviour that is reciprocated.

"Returning a favor with ten times the value" means repaying a favor with ten times the value. It's a way of showing eternal friendship.

The Golden Rule is to treat others the way you'd like to be treated.

They show us how to build relationships with others, how to keep them going, what's appropriate and reasonable in social situations, and how to have better, more supportive relationships with people.

Because they're recognized and approved by the public, they'll also become social customs, social culture, and social rules.

Let's get back to your expression.

Let's get back to your point.

Absolutely. We're all in this together. We need the support and help of others in many situations of our lives. They're our elders, professional doctors, teachers, lawyers, and kind people who lend a helping hand when we're in trouble.

We got help from them and showed our gratitude by following the principles above.

This expression of gratitude is an expression of our inner emotions. It's also a sign of recognition, respect, and gratitude towards the other person.

This is just how the world works. It also makes us seem sensible, reasonable, polite, and grateful.

This process is a strong emotional link. It involves being helped, being grateful, and being thankful. There is positive feedback.

This is how we build good social relationships.

Right, back to what you said about repaying kindness with kindness. This is an emotional state within you.

You feel like you can't repay it, that you're in a state of debt, and the other person is the creditor. You're the debtor?

Because of this way of thinking, you feel like you can never do enough, like you're always behind, and like you're constantly in debt. It's also a kind of moral trap or an emotional pitfall.

This is an inner pressure. You need to let it go, both emotionally and cognitively.

On an emotional level, it can feel like a loss and even a sense of guilt.

Cognitive level: You owe someone a favor. It's a debt you have to repay.

Spiritual level: Be honest and straightforward.

I'd like to share one more story with you.

Towards the end of the 19th century, in a rural area of Scotland, an elderly farmer was guiding his teenage son as they worked in the fields.

Out of nowhere, one of the kids fell into the cesspool. The old farmer and his son worked hard to rescue the teenager.

The next day, the father of the rescued teenager came by to thank him and, in return, took the old farmer's son to London to get an education.

The person saved was none other than the famous former British Prime Minister Winston Churchill. His father was an old farmer, and his son was none other than Fleming, the discoverer of penicillin.

The story doesn't end there. During World War II, Churchill got pneumonia in Africa, and Fleming went to Africa to save him with penicillin again.

As the Chinese say, good fortune follows those who are kind. So, help others.

It's also something we're wired to do. When we accept help and then pass it on, it benefits the whole human race.