There is no goal, and the opposite is the result. Are you afraid of the wolf in front and the tiger behind?

Good day, host.

I empathize with the poster's predicament and aim to provide a constructive response to their account, with the hope of offering some measure of assistance.

After a thorough examination of your account, it has become evident that you lack any discernible objectives in life. Your expressed sentiments indicate a desire to simply exist, without any aspiration to pursue meaningful endeavors. Furthermore, you have revealed the depth of your innermost desires and aspirations.

The desire for a sense of achievement and self-confidence serves to offset the frustration and sense of powerlessness that arise from the absence of clearly defined goals. In this regard, it is notable that you have already made an effort to pursue this objective independently.

The individual attempts to establish objectives without a reference point, with the aim of attaining a sense of accomplishment and self-assurance within the context of the game.

However, when establishing objectives, individuals tend to set them at a level that is excessively challenging to attain. They are aware of this tendency, yet they have attempted to divide these objectives into more attainable components. Nevertheless, they have ultimately abandoned this approach due to the perceived lack of sufficient accomplishment.

It is not that individuals lack goals; rather, they have been unable to identify a realistic objective that is both attainable and aligns with their aspirations for accomplishment and self-assurance.

This predisposes individuals to a greater proclivity for self-release within the context of the game, yet upon its conclusion, they are unable to identify a comparable avenue for self-release in reality. This can result in feelings of confusion, sadness, and distress.

Individuals seek perfection in reality, yet they often ignore the iron law that no one is perfect and the reality that, as humans, they will have flaws. Games provide an illusion of perfection, which offers temporary satisfaction.

Upon recognizing that this gratification is ephemeral and illusory, one begins to identify shortcomings in oneself. This realization signifies a desire for change, which is a commendable initial step. I would then like to suggest that:

"It is imperative to recognize that no individual is without flaws. It is crucial to cultivate an ability to embrace one's own imperfections. This is not a cause for shame; it is a common human experience. When one has a deeper understanding of oneself, one is better equipped to confront one's authentic self. This, in turn, fosters a sense of motivation to live and a reduction in fear of the future."

In conclusion, it can be stated that the presence or absence of a goal is not the most significant factor. What is of greater consequence is the lack of motivation in life, the tendency to avoid it by pursuing perfection, and the inability to accept one's shortcomings.

It is hoped that the above responses will prove useful to the individual seeking guidance.

Good morning, host!

Your text evokes the desire to read a stream-of-consciousness novel, as you eloquently describe the thoughts in your head.

It seems you may feel you lack goals at the moment, are unsure how to work hard, and struggle to find motivation. You may be uncertain about how to change and whether it will lead to a better or worse outcome.

It seems that you are feeling afraid of the wolf in front of you and the tiger behind you.

If I may, I would like to discuss some ways to facilitate change.

First, it might be helpful to accept your current situation. I feel that when we feel inadequate, we often try to escape from this bad self of ours. The more we escape, the less we can find ourselves. It can feel like we want to get caught up in a whirlpool. So, the first step to getting out of the whirlpool might be to accept that you are in a bad situation and that there is a gap between your current self and your ideal self.

It might be helpful to accept your own ordinariness and the idea that we are just supporting actors like most people.

Secondly, it would be beneficial to take some time to reflect on your own personal values, interests and aspirations. It is often the case that societal expectations and external influences play a role in determining our goals. However, it is important to recognise that there is no single, universal goal that applies to everyone. Instead, it is essential to identify what truly matters to you and align your goals with your genuine interests and aspirations.

Third, it may be helpful to split the goal. According to the ice cream rule, it's often best to not set too many goals at once, no more than three, and then refine each goal.

You might find it helpful to complete a little bit every day. Perhaps you could start with exercise. It could be beneficial to get your body moving before considering other verbs.

It can sometimes seem as though there are numerous ways to approach a situation, yet they may not be particularly robust. As long as there is a desire for change, it is likely that it will occur gradually and unnoticeably.

I believe that the world and I have a lot to offer each other.

Good day, landlord. I hope my response can be of some assistance to you.

From what you have shared, I can appreciate the challenges you are facing. It seems that you feel most comfortable in environments where you are the best, such as online or at home when you were a child. It's understandable that you might feel ill-suited to playing a supporting role, as there are many things you find difficult to do and are reluctant to face and accept. This has led you to describe yourself as "afraid of the wolf in front and the tiger behind". It's similar to how you approach goals: you find it difficult to achieve something that's too challenging, while something that's too easy holds little appeal. This has led you to live a somewhat passive life, not wanting to do much. However, I sense that you are not truly content with this way of living. While you find satisfaction in playing games, you seem to struggle with facing your shortcomings and interacting with others in a more constructive manner. This way of life seems to offer a sense of comfort, where only positive experiences are allowed to surface. You indulge in the good things and tend to avoid the negative aspects. However, this is not the reality of life, and it's likely that your current way of living will eventually change.

If I might offer you a suggestion, it would be this:

Perhaps it would be helpful to accept yourself and learn to surrender.

From your description, it seems that your ideal self is very perfect and can take the lead everywhere. So, when you set goals for yourself, you tend to set goals that are not achievable by ordinary people, is that correct?

If you cannot do it, you may experience frustration. Many of us have high expectations of ourselves, which can lead to a desire to be a perfect being, either by avoiding the task entirely or by doing it very well.

This may result in the situation you describe (the goal is too high to achieve). It can be challenging to achieve it slowly, and you may feel reluctant to do so because the goal is not yet aligned with your current sense of accomplishment. In such cases, it's understandable that you might look for alternative ways to achieve these things. One such way could be through the lens of a game. In a game, you can easily and quickly gain the benefits of life, live in a state of perfection every day, and only praise yourself.

If we cannot accept our shortcomings and are only seeking praise, it can be challenging to navigate setbacks and criticism in the real world. It's important to recognize that not everyone will accept us unconditionally, especially in the professional setting. When we don't meet expectations, it's natural to receive feedback and even criticism.

If we cannot accept our own shortcomings, we may be more sensitive to criticism from others. However, if we can accept ourselves as imperfect and flawed, we can also accept criticism from others.

Many things in the world are governed by objective laws. Nature does not change according to our wishes. It would be beneficial for us to learn to submit to these laws. It would be helpful for us to understand many natural laws and the laws of human interaction in order to help ourselves adapt to these laws and live a better life.

Perhaps it would be helpful to understand that there are some things we can control and some we cannot. It can be difficult to change the thoughts and actions of others, and it's not always possible to change the various laws that exist objectively. Once we understand what we can and cannot change, we can accept what we cannot change and work on changing what we can.

Games offer us many benefits.

Could I ask you why you think it's a good idea to play games every day?

Games are designed in such a way that players can receive positive feedback with just a few clicks, which can lead to feelings of accomplishment, pleasure, and a sense of achievement.

I do not deny that games do have a positive side, as they can temporarily relax us and satisfy certain needs. However, if life is dominated by games, the disadvantages may outweigh the advantages, and it could affect our normal lives, and in serious cases, even affect our eating and sleeping. In fact, if we want to avoid being controlled by games, we can look at what we want to get from games. If it is a sense of accomplishment, then you can actually make yourself feel a sense of accomplishment in real life, so that you can become confident and happy in real life.

3. How might one go about experiencing a sense of play in real life and achieving the sense of achievement and happiness they desire?

Games are designed according to three principles: a clear goal, a level of difficulty that matches one's abilities, and timely feedback. It could be said that it is precisely because of these three characteristics that when we play games, we enter a state of deep concentration, experience a sense of achievement and pleasure, and are happy to try this state again.

We can apply the characteristics of games that make them so attractive to our own lives, such as work, study, and sports. Perhaps we can make these things as attractive as games!

If you are passionate about work, study, and sports, would you still have concerns about your abilities in these areas?

How might we go about doing this? Let us consider learning as an example.

If I might suggest, it would be helpful to have a clear goal.

It would be beneficial to set goals that are not too abstract, although it is also important to have a goal in mind. Without a goal, it can be challenging to find direction and motivation to move forward.

Perhaps it would be helpful to ask yourself what your goal is. Is it to read every day, or to pass a certain exam?

From what we know about the characteristics of play, it seems that the goals we set for ourselves should be clear and specific. If you say you will read every day, for example, that may be a bit abstract. You might want to consider setting a goal of reading for half an hour every day, or reading one book a month, or ten books a year. This could be a more targeted and focused approach.

Secondly, it would be beneficial to ensure that the goal aligns with your abilities.

It would seem that, according to the second characteristic of games, the goals we set for ourselves should ideally match our abilities.

It is important to set goals that are neither too ambitious nor too easy. Setting overly ambitious goals can lead to feelings of incompetence and discouragement, while setting goals that are too easy can result in a lack of achievement and a sense of frustration.

It would be beneficial to set goals that are moderately difficult, as research suggests that only moderately difficult goals can best stimulate our internal motivation. Perhaps setting goals that you can "reach with your toes" would be a good approach.

This may help you to feel a sense of achievement and self-confidence throughout the learning process, which could in turn motivate you to continue learning.

Thirdly, it would be beneficial to pay attention to timely feedback.

You might consider making a daily study list, writing down all the study tasks you need to complete each day. Once you have completed a task, you could mark it as complete. After you have marked it as complete, it might be beneficial to take a moment to reflect on your achievements. You could give yourself a mental pat on the back and affirm your commitment to your studies.

You might also consider offering yourself a well-deserved reward for achieving a significant goal, such as going on a trip, enjoying a special meal, or purchasing something you've been wanting. These positive reinforcements can be beneficial for your studies.

If learning, work, sports, etc. are also as enjoyable as playing games, it may be beneficial to consider exploring these activities further.

I hope these suggestions are helpful to you. Wishing you the best!