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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello! I'm so happy I got to read your request for help. I really hope that I can give you a little bit of support and help.
I admire you for not complaining after your wife suggested staying at her parents' home. It's great that you're trying to reflect on your own actions and realize what you could have done better in the past two years of marriage. It's so important to recognize your shortcomings and how you can grow and change as much as possible. Having a good understanding of yourself is the first step to making positive changes.
It would be really lovely if you could tell your wife how you really feel after she's finished explaining why she wants to stay at her parents' house. Let her know that you care about her and love her, and tell her what you'd like to do to make up for the hard work of looking after the kids and doing the housework over the past two years. At the same time, it would be great if your wife could tell you what she'd like you to do, so that she knows you're there for her and you're supporting, understanding, caring, considerate and loving.
So, what you really need is better communication and a better exchange of feelings. With lots of love for each other, try to tell your wife how you really feel. That way, she'll feel understood, accepted, supported, and loved.
From what you've told me, it seems like you're not the best at expressing your feelings. Have you ever tried writing a love letter to your wife? It can be a great way to get your thoughts and feelings out there. You can express your true feelings and expectations for your marriage in a letter. There are five different ways you can write about your emotions: sadness, anger, remorse, fear, and love. This can help you sort out your feelings and thoughts about your marriage over the past two years. It can also help you understand yourself better.
Hi, I'm Lily, the little ear of the Q&A Museum. I just wanted to say that I love you and the world loves you too!
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I can see how challenging this situation must be for you. It sounds like your intentions were always good, but sometimes what we think is best for someone else might not align with their own desires and needs. Communication seems to have broken down between you two, and rebuilding that trust and understanding is crucial. Maybe start by acknowledging her feelings and the sacrifices she's made. Let her know that you recognize the effort it takes to manage a home and raise a child. Offer her support in making decisions about her life, showing that you respect her choices and are willing to adapt to create a happier environment for both of you.
It's heartbreaking to hear about your struggle. The fact that you're reflecting on your actions and trying to understand her perspective shows how much you care. Perhaps reaching out to her with an open heart and without any expectations could help. Tell her that you've learned from this experience and that you want to work together to find a solution that benefits everyone, including your child. Emphasize that you're committed to listening and supporting whatever path she chooses, whether that means finding a balance between work and home life or exploring other options that make her feel valued and happy.
Your dedication to your family is evident, but it seems like there's been a misunderstanding about what makes your wife feel fulfilled. Reconnecting with her on a deeper level might require some professional guidance, even if it's free community resources or online forums where couples share similar experiences. Try to address the issue of feeling undervalued and isolated, which might be at the core of her decision to stay away. Propose having an honest conversation where both of you can express your fears and hopes for the future. Assure her that you're ready to listen and that you're both on the same team, aiming to build a better life together.