This year in senior high three, feeling that life has nothing to look forward to, just want to escape what should I do?

Dear Question Asker,

It is evident that a strong desire for recognition and appreciation exists within the subject, which simultaneously produces feelings of happiness and immense pressure when confronted with the expectations of family members and educators.

In the eyes of your family and teachers, you are perceived as a diligent and dedicated student, striving to improve your academic performance. Despite not being considered particularly gifted, you demonstrate resilience and a willingness to work hard. You are the kind of student who requires encouragement and motivation to realize their potential.

In the presence of educators and parents, you endeavor to maintain a favorable image and strive to align your actions with the expectations of your parents and teachers. From an early age, you have become accustomed to seeking recognition and appreciation through this means. Over time, you have developed an ego that is visible to others, and you perceive the evaluations and attitudes of others towards you as a reflection of your self-image, which is essentially the "projected self."

This "projected self" is in significant conflict with one's "real self," resulting in considerable distress and psychological burden. The intense pressure and anxiety that accompany this conflict often lead to feelings of exhaustion.

The teacher's words during the initial consultation placed considerable pressure on the subject. The subconscious mind regarded the examination as a significant assessment, while the subject viewed it as the ultimate judgment of their previous efforts. Failure would result in the complete undoing of all previous endeavors.

The failure of the outcome has demonstrated the collapse of the "projected self." The individual experiences an inability to tolerate the collapse of this persona and a desire to escape and eliminate the psychological burden associated with the "projected self." This is manifested as resistance and shame directed towards the "projected self" by the "real self," which is based on comprehensive perception of the actual situation and actual behavior.

In light of the limited information provided, the above analysis hypothesis is offered for reference.

Good morning! I extend my warmest regards from afar.

The upcoming college entrance exam is a significant source of pressure, particularly the concern about the potential consequences of failing to meet the expectations set by the exam.

It is evident that the stress you are experiencing is not solely a result of your internal judgment and emphasis on the college entrance examination. It is also influenced by the expectations of teachers and parents to a certain extent. In particular, when a teacher states that you are only permitted to succeed and not fail, it instills a profound sense of powerlessness. This leads you to believe that your affirmation and acceptance by the teacher is contingent upon achieving good grades. Otherwise, you may perceive yourself as inadequate.

The source of your distress is that you have largely identified with and internalized the teacher's expectations. This has led to an inability to face and accept yourself for not achieving the desired grades. It is important to acknowledge and stay with the uncomfortable emotional feelings you are experiencing in the moment. This will help you become aware of your uncomfortable emotions. It is then possible to identify the hidden need behind them. For example, the need to be accepted, supported, affirmed, encouraged, and so on.

Once you have identified the underlying needs driving your emotions, you will be better equipped to accept and understand yourself. When faced with the verbal behavior of a teacher under excessive pressure, it is important to express your feelings and needs in a confident and assertive manner.

Additionally, maintaining an emotional diary in which you record your emotional feelings over a period of time can assist you in better perceiving and understanding your emotions and exploring the hidden needs behind them.

My name is Lily, and I am the Q&A Museum's resident expert on all things audio. I extend my warmest regards to you and the world.