Unemployed, with no skills and unable to find a job that you like and are good at?

Hello! I just wanted to give you a big, warm hug!

I can tell from your question that you're feeling pretty anxious about your current situation. It seems like you've fallen into a bit of a rut, and I totally get it.

From the outside looking in, it seems like a woman in her 30s who is supported by her family can choose not to work if she doesn't want to. For many people who work long hours, this is probably the dream life!

So, even though your current life might feel a little uncomfortable, you're really doing your best to make it work.

For example, if you say you're not interested in your job, then you can go back to your old life.

For example, you say you have no ability and no connections, and then you go back to your old life.

For example, if you say you don't want to work as a laborer but you don't like it, you can always go back to your old life.

It's so great that you're being supported by someone in your current life! That means you can always return to your old life if you want to. It also seems like your family is really understanding, even if you don't want to work and have no income. Or maybe they do, but you don't say anything.

I have to be honest, if I had a life like that, I think I'd probably just lie down and die.

I can see that you're struggling to figure out what you want and what you're interested in. I don't think you're quite sure about the purpose of this question either.

It's what you're hoping to achieve by asking this question, and what kind of solution you're hoping others will give you. I guess you yourself probably don't know.

I'm just wondering, what do you probably want? Is it to find a job and earn some money?

Or maybe he found a job he really likes? Or is it that I'm just living my life as it is, but I don't have such a struggle?

There's a really funny joke about psychological counseling that's been going around.

A person is so self-conscious about bedwetting that they are afraid to meet people.

And then, he finally got better!

The friend asked, "How did it get better?"

He said he'd found a counselor, which was great news!

The friend was surprised and asked, "Does a psychological counselor also treat bedwetting?"

The man said, "No, I just accepted the fact that I wet the bed, and I'm okay with it now."

So, if you set a goal of, "I'm just going to lie down like this and accept it," that's also a goal, and you should definitely give yourself a lot of credit for that!

What are your goals? What do you want? With that in mind, you can then talk about how to go about it.

You can also chat with a counselor if you like.

I'm often a Buddhist and sometimes a positive counselor. I love the world and I love you!

First, accept your current state.

Accept your obsessive thoughts. They come and go, and you never know when they might return.

If this has become the norm, accept it. You say, "If I'm in a good mood, I want to have a job..." But you have to live and work whether you're in a good mood or not.

You are no different from any other normal person apart from your obsessive thoughts. Learn to live in harmony with them and they will become easier to control.

You must accept your current state of not knowing anything. It is not your fault that you have no knowledge, skills, or interests. This is only due to the effects of the illness.

You can learn knowledge and skills and cultivate hobbies if you want to. Allow yourself to be in the moment, to be unable to do anything, and to be uninterested in anything.

Second, get out there and experience life.

I don't know what to study, so I'm not interested in anything. When I'm not suffering from obsessive thoughts, I lie around at home on my phone watching videos.

You are so preoccupied with obsessive thoughts that you are constantly fighting them. This means you have less experience of other things. As a result, you don't know what to learn, and you don't know what you are interested in.

You have to experience it to develop an interest.

You've been to the beach or a swimming pool before and loved floating on the water. That experience was incredible, so you became interested in water sports like swimming or skateboarding.

You went to watch a talk show and found it fascinating to see people on stage telling jokes and getting a big round of applause. That experience was so good, you knew you had to learn how to do it.

...

You need more experience to gain more interests. You said you spend your time at home playing with your phone and watching videos when you're not thinking compulsively. This is not the way to gain more good experiences.

I strongly suggest you go out of the house. You will naturally have goals, even if it's just going to the movies, listening to a talk show, or going to the gym. Interests are discovered slowly in life.

Third, you must learn to persevere after choosing an interest. Obsessive thinking is not an excuse forever.

You must be prepared to invest time in learning new things and developing your skills. It is only through perseverance that you will succeed in acquiring new knowledge and abilities.

You are an ordinary, normal person, apart from obsessive-compulsive thinking. Your IQ is within the normal range, and your learning ability is no worse than others. You can do the same things as others.

You might think you're just a little slower because of your obsessive thinking, but you can do it.

When you can live and think normally, always remember to persevere in the direction of your chosen interests.

We all know the story of the tortoise and the hare. The tortoise is naturally slower than the hare, but that is no excuse for not starting to run. You have to start running and keep running to reach the finish line. And you never know what the outcome will be.

Good day, landlord. I hope my response proves helpful to you.

It seems that the host is still searching for a job that he can enjoy and excel in. It's understandable that he doesn't want to rely on his parents forever. It appears that he's uncertain about his abilities and potential for growth. When he's not preoccupied with thoughts, he tends to spend time at home, engaging in leisure activities like playing with his phone and watching videos.

Perhaps we feel that we must first identify an area of interest before pursuing a particular career path. However, without fully immersing ourselves in a field, it can be challenging to ascertain whether it aligns with our personal preferences or if we possess the necessary skills to excel in it.

I would venture to say that, prior to my introduction to the field of psychology, I was not fully aware of the extent to which I would come to value and appreciate it. Indeed, it was not until I reached the age of 30 and embarked upon the second-level certificate in psychological counseling that I truly discovered my love and passion for the subject. Prior to that, I must admit that I had little or no knowledge of psychology, and therefore no inkling as to whether I would find it appealing or not.

If I might offer you a suggestion, it would be this:

Perhaps we could try to do more work to explore our talents and interests.

It is worth noting that each of us possesses our own resources and unique advantages. However, without actively seeking to identify and explore our talents and interests, it can be challenging to fully recognize our individual uniqueness.

You might consider evaluating yourself, or you could invite your family and friends to evaluate you and ask them to name three of your strengths. You may find that there are some common characteristics in everyone's evaluation of you, which could be seen as your strengths and talents.

You may also find it helpful to identify the three people you admire most and note the three qualities you admire most in these individuals. This can provide insight into the kind of person you aspire to become, and the qualities you admire may also align with those you wish to cultivate in yourself.

Another way to explore this is to consider what work you find yourself doing when you are happy and engaged in the process. Do you find that you are more efficient at doing these things than other people? Do you feel less bored and more inclined to want to do them again after you finish? If so, these are likely things you like and are good at, as well as things you are interested in.

2. Engaging in activities that bring you a sense of accomplishment and enjoyment can be beneficial in enhancing your mood.

If our emotional quotient is low, it may have an impact on our mental state. You may be interested to know that

When we have no tasks at hand, especially when we are idle, we may find ourselves daydreaming. While relaxing on the couch with videos on your phone can be enjoyable, it may not be the most productive use of our time. It might be helpful to consider engaging in activities that allow us to experience a sense of achievement and pleasure.

You don't have to do something that is very difficult. You just need to do the little things that you can do, such as washing the family's dishes, sweeping the floor, walking 3,000 steps, cooking a dish... Think about what you used to do when you were happier and more fulfilled. Now, you can do these things, and you can even set yourself ten little tasks every day. If you don't complete a little task, just put a tick in the box, praise yourself for your efforts, and value what you have done. When you have completed all the little tasks for a week in a row, you can reward yourself with a big meal or a trip to the movies.

You may find that, with time and perseverance, you will gradually become more confident. As you work on these small tasks, you may also notice that your abilities are improving, and you are becoming more willing to try new things, which could make your life more colorful.

3. It might be helpful to remind yourself that learning to accept yourself is important.

It could be said that self-acceptance is the foundation of self-confidence and self-change. It may be the case that a lack of self-worth and feelings of shame caused by a lack of self-acceptance are at the heart of many anxieties, depressions, obsessive-compulsive disorders, personality disorders and many other negative experiences.

Self-acceptance can be defined as an individual's positive attitude towards oneself and one's own characteristics. This can be understood as the ability to accept one's current situation with joy, without feeling pride in one's own merits or inferiority due to perceived shortcomings. Additionally, self-acceptance can be viewed as a fundamental right inherent to all individuals.

It is not necessary for a person to have outstanding merits, achievements, or make changes that others want in order to be accepted.

According to psychologist Abraham Maslow, a healthy person should be able to accept themselves and human nature without being upset or complaining about it. We can live well with our shortcomings and flaws, just as one does not complain about why water is wet or why rocks are hard.

When you accept yourself in all your imperfections, see the real you, embrace her completely, understand her, encourage her, and support her, you may find that you have the power to change.

Each of us has the potential to grow. We will not always be in our current state. If we can accept our current state and our imperfect self, we can gradually become whole and grow into the person we want to be.

I wish you the best of luck and send my warmest regards!

Providing support and encouragement to the individual from a distance.

The questioner's description:

To the questioner:

The host has been experiencing these symptoms for an extended period, and they have persisted throughout this process. It has been challenging to reach this point.

It is encouraging to note that the questioner is contemplating a move that would bring him greater comfort.

This is a positive development. The questioner should avoid becoming overly anxious. It is advisable to proceed gradually, taking one step at a time.

Life will always present challenges and obstacles. If we are able to navigate these challenges and obstacles, they can become valuable learning experiences that contribute to our growth and development.

It is acceptable to stumble occasionally. It is not uncommon for individuals to experience setbacks in their journey.

The earth has provided us with sustenance, and we express our gratitude by embracing it.

In a sense, the presence of these obstacles also facilitates our genuine growth and development.

If circumstances are always calm, it is challenging for us to grow. We entered this world to experience it, to utilize our bodies to assess the scope of the world.

The key message to convey to the questioner is that they have the autonomy to select the lifestyle they desire. The pivotal issue is whether the questioner is content with their present circumstances.

Ultimately, the decision is ours alone.

When you are ready, you may proceed. Should you wish to take a break, you are free to do so.

There is no need to feel overwhelmed. Please be aware that growth is not something that happens overnight. Rather, it comes gradually, step by step.

When we take the time to walk at a leisurely pace, we are able to observe and appreciate the diverse landscapes that surround us. These landscapes serve as invaluable sources of inspiration and joy.

In the future, the things we see will provide the answers to the questions we ask in life.

Additionally, the questioner may utilize online resources to identify their interests, including gaming. There are no limitations to the options available.

Reading can also be cultivated as a hobby. Find a suitable location, prepare a beverage, select a book, and read in a quiet environment. This is an excellent use of time.

It is my sincere hope that the questioner will continue to improve and enjoy an increasingly comfortable lifestyle.

Hello, question asker!

They understand your mood and state of mind very well. It's clear from the question that the person is confused, helpless, and inferior. They also want to make a change. Let's look at this together:

I am a 30-something woman who lives with my parents.

The questioner displays self-negation and labels herself a "parasite." It is also important to note that she is 30 years old.

Women at every age have their own unique characteristics. Women in their 30s, for example, have rich experience, self-confidence, maturity, and rational judgment. They are the most shining age. (If I remember correctly, it is the line of a TV series, and TV dramas come from life.)

Furthermore, the questioner is not a "parasite generation." He has delayed his studies for a reason, which has made it difficult for him to find a job. However, he is still motivated and wants to have a job, earn his own money, and be independent.

"I had obsessive-compulsive disorder when I was a child, which delayed my studies. As a result, I don't have a high level of education, I don't know any skills, and I have low self-esteem."

You can't change what happened in the past, so focus on the present and future. Don't dwell on the past. Use this time to imagine your future and identify what you need to do to achieve your goals.

I'd like to know exactly what the original poster means by "obsessive thinking."

I'm going to show you the best ways to adjust.

Understand yourself fully.

You are worthy of happiness.

There are ups and downs in life, and no one is perfect. Accept your strengths and weaknesses, choose to accept them, abandon perfectionism, and allow yourself to be imperfect. Accept your inferiority and the fact that you are currently unemployed.

There are ups and downs in life, and no one is perfect. Accept your strengths and weaknesses, choose to accept them, abandon perfectionism, and allow yourself to be imperfect. Accept your inferiority, accept your current state of not having a job or interests, and accept the mental state of being good or bad at times.

Believe that you can do better and regain control of your life.

Believe that you can do better and regain a sense of control over your life.

Use the scale to find your interests and hobbies.

Use the scales to find your interests and hobbies.

Take the scales to help you find your interests and hobbies.

Take several scales, such as Holland's career interests, Edward's personal preference scale, MBTI, etc. The scales are just for reference. If you take several scales and find that you do have an advantage in a certain area, but you are not sure what you really love, you can go to understand the industry trends and prospects.

Take several scales, such as Holland's career interests, Edward's personal preference scale, MBTI, etc. These scales are just for reference. If you find that you do have an advantage in a certain area after taking several scales and you are not sure what you really love, it is a good idea to refer to the measurement results and develop yourself in that direction. First, understand the situation, including understanding the industry trends and prospects.

Try more.

You can do this.

If you still can't identify your interests after the above step, then just give it a try. It's likely that you'll find it really interesting and be willing to invest more time in it.

If you still can't identify your interests after the above step, then just give it a try. It's likely that you'll find it really interesting when you give it a try, and be willing to invest more time and energy in it.

You should also try to make more friends, get involved in more different fields, and participate in more activities. If you haven't done it before, you can definitely try it. It is often more fulfilling to write down your feelings during the process of trying.

You should also try to make more friends, get involved in more different fields, and participate in more activities. There's no limit to what you can do. It's often more fulfilling to write down your feelings during the process of trying.

Make a plan that suits you.

When you find your interests or something you can try, take action. Don't be impatient. Make a plan that takes your actual situation into account.

Include both short-term and long-term plans. These can be as specific as a plan for a day, week, or month, or as general as a plan for a year, three years, five years, or even longer. Be sure to take your weaknesses into account when making a plan. For example, if you procrastinate, plan in some time for it.

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to the questioner. Best regards!

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to the questioner. Best wishes!

Dear Question Asker,

From the description provided by the questioner, it is evident that confusion, helplessness, and feelings of being overwhelmed are prevalent. Additionally, a desire to change the current situation is discernible. It is this writer's hope that the ensuing analysis will prove to be an adequate response to the questioner's queries and a solution to the problems presented.

(1) I empathize with the sentiments expressed by the inquirer and express my regret for their circumstances. It is, however, imperative to recognize that the inquirer's actions, as they pertain to "biting the hand that feeds you," "lacking a high level of education," and "not being interested in work," are not the result of any inherent fault on their part.

It is evident that the questioner does not wish to pursue this course of action. Obsessive thinking is a challenging phenomenon to regulate. The current state of the questioner can be attributed to the inevitable consequences of obsessive thinking, which is often the result of a complex interplay of factors within the original family and the growing environment during childhood. The questioner's inability to identify the root cause of their obsessive thinking is understandable. It is therefore crucial to avoid self-blame.

(2) A focus on the absence of things is a state of emptiness; conversely, a focus on the things that one does possess is a state of motivation.

The questioner tends to fixate on their perceived deficiencies, overlooking the invaluable resources and opportunities they currently possess. For instance, having supportive parents can provide a foundation for gradual growth and improvement. Another example is the questioner's inherent strengths. Perhaps a high degree is not a prerequisite for achieving their goals. Even in the face of past limitations due to obsessive thinking, each step taken represents a form of progress. It is essential to shift focus towards one's existing resources. When faced with the urge to improve and the onset of obsessive thinking, it is crucial to remind oneself of one's contentment and wealth. There is no need for haste; a gradual approach is often more effective. With each step taken, new pathways emerge, leading to solutions and opportunities.

(3) Modifying the elements that can be controlled is an effective method for reinvigorating interest, even after considerable effort has been expended.

The ability to alter circumstances that are within our control, to detach from past events and to avoid becoming fixated on irreversible outcomes is a key factor in our ability to survive and thrive. Given the current level of interest, it may be advisable to refrain from making hasty decisions. Instead, one can adopt a more considered approach, exploring options with a view to identifying a course of action that aligns with one's preferences and allows for a gradual development of interest and positive associations. This may prove to be a more beneficial strategy in the long run.

With determination and patience, one can confront the challenges that may emerge in the future. It is essential to have self-belief, to value one's own capabilities, to identify one's motivational factors and sources of strength, and to pursue one's goals with determination.

It is my hope that this response will prove beneficial to the original questioner.

Hello, I'm Jingyi, a listening coach. From your description, it seems you may have some concerns about your abilities and confidence in your current job search.

It is understandable that you are feeling anxious about this situation.

Perhaps it would be helpful to take a moment to perceive the situation more clearly. You may feel that you have a low level of education and that you don't have any skills. This is the state of your self. You can see that you are not satisfied with this self, and although you are currently relying on your parents, you are not content with this. On the contrary, you feel anxious.

It seems that your heart is longing to achieve the life you desire on your own. It will only be possible to do so if you don't have a job due to certain circumstances.

Perhaps if you had a job instead of relying on your parents, your anxiety would be alleviated to some extent.

I imagine it would feel great to rely on yourself. I'm sure everyone has the experience of their first job.

With time, you will gradually mature and grow from your initial naivety. It is possible that the job you did when you were young may not be your favorite or most satisfying, but it is valuable to recognize the experience you gained from it.

It may not be the ideal choice, but by approaching an industry and a job on your own and growing with it,

Such an experience is valuable, and you will gain valuable experience in addition to the peace of mind that comes from relying on yourself.

How might you take that first step? Perhaps the first step would be to overcome your inferiority complex. If you don't have a good education, you might consider making up for it with a good attitude, hard work, and diligence.

If you do a job well, you will be the best. Why not give it a try?

If you do a good job, it will be well-received; if you don't do a good job, you will still have work experience, which will lay a foundation for the work life you really look forward to in the future. In my opinion, the questioner has at least a healthy body, a good understanding of himself, and is humble.

It's important to remember that not everyone has the courage to admit their own shortcomings. In this regard, I believe the questioner is quite courageous.

I believe you will try to get your first job and truly get rid of the current situation of relying on others. Could any work experience be a kind of growth and experience in your life?

I hope you will soon find inner peace and tranquility, and live the life you have been searching for. I wish you all the best in your endeavors.

Hello, question asker! I am Jia Ao, and I'm not looking for anything.

I can see that you're facing some challenges and uncertainty regarding your future career path. It seems that you're feeling a bit lost and confused at this stage in your life. You've mentioned that you're in your 30s and feel that your education and skills may not be as developed as you'd like. However, you're still driven to find a fulfilling job and become financially independent. It's understandable that you're uncertain about your next steps and feel stuck. I'm here to support you in exploring your options and finding a path that aligns with your goals.

? In order to address your concerns, I would like to help you analyze and sort them out:

Perhaps the first step would be to learn to accept yourself.

Could I ask how your current situation is?

I would describe myself as a 30-something-year-old who is currently exploring different options in life. When I was a child, I had some intense thoughts that I would describe as obsessive. I don't have much formal education, and I'm still developing my skills and self-esteem. My obsessive thoughts are still present to some extent. I'm not particularly interested in pursuing work at this time, as I don't feel I have the ability, connections, or desire to do manual labor. I'm still figuring out what I want to study, and I'm open to exploring different interests. I spend a lot of time on my phone and watching videos, which helps me relax. I'm still looking for something that truly resonates with me, and I often find myself daydreaming. I don't have any hobbies at the moment, but I'm open to trying new things.

From what you've shared, it seems like you're feeling a bit uncertain and stuck. It's understandable to feel limited by your current circumstances, but it's also important to recognize that you have the potential to make positive changes. It might be helpful to try accepting your current situation with an objective and calm attitude. This doesn't mean you have to like everything about it, but it does mean recognizing that you have strengths and weaknesses. You've expressed a willingness to make changes and use your shortcomings as motivation to grow. This is a great starting point. Your self-awareness is still very good!

Otherwise, you may find yourself remaining in a state of contemplation without taking concrete action. It's possible that your thoughts are running high, but your actions may not be as forthcoming.

I believe there may be a misunderstanding about what constitutes "old-age support." It's important to recognize that the concept of "old-age support" can vary significantly from person to person. For some, it may involve a passive reliance on parental support, while for others, it may entail a more active pursuit of self-sufficiency. It's understandable that you're currently not working due to special circumstances. However, it's crucial to acknowledge that this does not necessarily align with the traditional definition of "old-age support." It's not a reason to feel guilty, but rather an opportunity to reflect on your personal values and goals.

2. It would be beneficial to gain a deeper understanding of yourself in all aspects.

Perhaps it would be helpful to take some time to reflect on your own strengths and weaknesses.

To truly accept yourself, it would be helpful to learn to understand all aspects of your personal characteristics, including your strengths and weaknesses. You have expressed interest in doing something new and learning new things, but it seems that you may not yet fully understand your own capabilities. It would be beneficial to take some time to reflect on your interests and hobbies, as well as your strengths and weaknesses. This will help you to make informed decisions about your future career. The platform offers a range of helpful resources, including career assessments. You may find it useful to take a 360-degree career assessment, which can provide insights into your interests and abilities. This can then inform your decision about which career path to pursue.

You don't need to think about it now. Just do what you want to do, step by step. Find a job that you are interested in and not too complicated. Start with what you are interested in. Interest is a great teacher. No matter what you study or what kind of work you do, as long as you are interested in it, you will definitely be willing to persevere. So it might be helpful to look at yourself comprehensively and see what kind of industry you want to work in the future, what kind of career you want to persevere in, what kind of books you want to read, and what kind of friends you want to make. In fact, you make choices from your own perspective. Only when you know yourself well enough will you make choices that suit you. What suits you is the best.

3. It might be helpful to develop a career plan that suits you.

Have you considered creating a career plan?

From your description, I can sense the confusion and anxiety you feel about your future career development. It seems that you may not yet have a clear goal or direction for your future career. Have you considered developing a career plan that suits you?

It's natural to feel like you're in your 30s and it might seem too late to start a new career. However, there are still plenty of opportunities in your 30s. It's important not to worry or feel afraid. As the saying goes, there are 360 professions and a champion in every profession. Look at the current society as an example. In every profession, if you invest your time and energy and persevere, you can also succeed. Start by exploring your interests and finding a job that suits you. Take your time to learn and grow. Set a short-term goal for yourself and then, once you've achieved it, set a long-term goal and complete it step by step. This way, it will be manageable and you can also enhance your self-confidence.

4. Perseverance is the path to victory.

❓ Are you still feeling uncertain or anxious?

Instead of staying at home and letting your mind wander, it might be helpful to get out of the house and gain some experience. It could be beneficial to grow and learn through work or study rather than staying in your current state. It's not necessary to rush and set yourself difficult tasks right now. You might find it helpful to start with the easy things first and gradually build up your self-confidence.

I believe that if you keep doing this, you will definitely not be so confused or entangled anymore. You will slowly learn a lot of knowledge and skills in these things. Then perhaps you could try not to dwell on your obsessive thoughts. Maybe while you are busy working and studying, you will slowly forget about this matter, and slowly this problem will no longer be a problem. I sincerely hope that you will be more and more successful in your studies and work in the future, and that you will be able to achieve financial and ideological independence as soon as possible. You will be able to find things you like to do and books you like to read. I also hope that you can go out and make some reliable friends, and that you will be able to find happiness.

P.S. If you have any recommendations for books on career planning, I would be very grateful to hear them.

I wonder if I might suggest Richard Nelson Bolles's What Color Is Your Parachute?

This book may be helpful in helping you discover your interests and skills, set your ideal career goals, and most importantly, find your life's dreams and future. (This recommendation is from Baidu.)

I hope my answer will be of some help to you. I wish you well in all your future endeavours.

Hello. It's been many years now that you've been dealing with these obsessive thoughts, and they've been pretty persistent, sometimes getting better and sometimes worse. It's great that you still want to live an active life and work to earn your independence. However, due to the influence of these thoughts, your studies have been affected, your knowledge and abilities are not as high as they could be, you have a single hobby, and you're not sure what you can do.

This is actually pretty common for folks with obsessive-compulsive thinking.

As long as you're ready to make a change, your situation will gradually improve. Here are some suggestions on how to make that happen:

First, accept your current situation.

It's okay to accept your obsessive thoughts. They come and go, and you don't know when they might return.

If this has become the norm, then accept it. You said, "If I'm in a good mental state, I want to have a job..." The reality is that we all have to live and work, regardless of our mental state.

Except for your obsessive thoughts, you're basically just like any other regular person. Learn to live in harmony with your obsessive thoughts, and they'll be a lot easier to control.

It's okay to accept that you're unable to do anything right now. It's not your fault that you don't have any knowledge, skills, or interests. That's just a result of the illness.

But the good news is that you can always learn new things and develop new interests. Give yourself permission to be in the moment, and accept that you don't know everything and aren't interested in everything.

Second, get out of the house and experience life.

If you don't know what you want to learn, you won't be interested in anything. So when I'm not thinking compulsively, I can only lie around at home playing with my phone and watching videos to kill time.

If you're constantly battling obsessive thinking, you'll have less time for other experiences. This means you won't know what to learn and you won't know what you're interested in.

The first step in developing interests is to gain experience.

You've been to the beach or swimming pool before and enjoyed floating on the water. That experience was really good, so you became interested in water sports like swimming or skateboarding.

You went to see a stand-up comedy show and found it fascinating. You had a great experience and became interested in stand-up comedy.

...

As you mentioned, it's tough to gain more good experiences when you're just lying around at home playing with your phone and watching videos.

So, it'd be a good idea to get out of the house. Once you do, you'll probably have a goal in mind, even if it's just going to the movies, listening to a talk show, or going to the gym once. Interests are discovered slowly in life.

Third, once you've chosen an interest, you have to learn to stick with it. There's no use in making excuses.

Any learning, practice, or interest development takes time and requires persistence.

Apart from obsessive thinking, you are also an ordinary and normal person. Your IQ is unknown, but it's probably in the normal range. You're just as capable of learning as anyone else and can do the same things as others.

It's possible you're just a little slower to be affected by obsessive thoughts. That doesn't mean you can't do it, though.

So when you can live and think normally, always remember to stick with your chosen interests.

We all know the story of the Tortoise and the Hare. The Tortoise is naturally slower than the Hare, but that's no reason not to get started. If you just get going and keep going, you'll reach the finish line, and who knows what'll happen.

As long as your normal life isn't affected by obsessive thinking, just forget about it. You're just an ordinary, normal person.

I encourage you to go for it!

Honey, you say you are a "parasite," but I actually don't quite agree with that.

First of all, the "parasite generation" is a whole other ballgame. They're not the type to think about having a job and being self-reliant. They're laid back and have married their entire lives to their parents. They're not the ones who will go out of their way to see the world.

Second, you said yourself that you don't have any skills now. This problem didn't come about because you're lazy, but because of an illness you had before. It's not that you don't want to study, but because of the obsessive thinking back then, you were unable to complete your studies. But guess what? You can do this! You can study! You can complete your studies! You just need to let go of the obsessive thinking and embrace a new way of thinking.

It's not what we expect when we get sick, and sometimes we really can't do anything about it. But guess what? We can do something about it! We just have to face it ourselves.

You are actually very good, you know? You are actually very positive inside! You just haven't found your direction yet, but I know you will!

So, what should we do now?

If you like, you can try the following methods!

Just go out of the house and have some fun! Go to the mall, supermarket, street stalls, buy some snacks, watch a movie, drink some coffee, go to Toys R Us... You can do it! Don't go with any purpose, just walk around and enjoy yourself.

Go to the park, chat with the old ladies and gentlemen relaxing in the park, chat casually, and follow them around taking strolls and dancing in square dances. Have fun! Don't bring any purpose, just casually find someone to chat with.

Find a safe place on the roadside where you can't get sunburnt, sit there and watch the cars driving by, watch the people coming and going, and watch them hurry past you. It's so much fun! Don't bring any purpose, just sit there and watch the people come and go.

Join a local volunteer organization and get involved in whatever activities they have on offer. You don't need to have advanced skills to join a volunteer organization, and you don't need to be a 985/211 university graduate or a Harvard or Oxford graduate. As long as you have a caring heart, you can do a great job!

When we have a fire in our hearts but can't find a direction in real life, it's time to let yourself go! Get out there and see the sights of the world. Believe in yourself, and your interests and abilities will be discovered through interaction with others.

Come on!

I love you, world!