What do you do when you are faced with something you cannot solve?

Hello, I'm Yong Jing, a psychological counselor. Thanks so much for your question!

From your question, I can sense that you're feeling frustrated on two fronts: unable to accept the situation and unable to solve the problem yourself. I'd love to hear your thoughts and feelings about it. Is it anxiety, or is it a sense of powerlessness and depression, or is it a combination of both? I feel both, but I'm not sure if that's the right way to look at it.

Anxiety can be a tricky thing. It can make us feel a little anxious and at a loss for what to do. But, we're all determined to do something, to solve the problem at hand. This feeling is something we all encounter. For example, when you think about doing something, but your abilities or resources are limited, you may feel this way.

It's okay to say you're not sure you can solve it. We all have different abilities and external circumstances that affect our lives. So, ask yourself: What can you do to make a solution possible? Plan a time for yourself, take action, and gradually meet the conditions for a solution. Remember, achieving anything also requires a combination of circumstances. Your ideas can only be completed with the cooperation of external conditions, and even more so with your own efforts. The way to let go of anxiety is to take planned and practical actions. Anxiety is the direction and also the clarion call to action. Just get started!

I think there's another layer to the questioner's question, which is about difficulty in accepting things. Is that right? When faced with all the things in the world, it's inevitable that there will be many things that are not as you wish. Everyone will encounter this, so I'd love to ask the questioner how you view this difficulty in accepting things, and what kind of feelings you have. Do you feel powerless and frustrated, or is there something else?

It's okay to feel attacked from within when you're trying to accept something hard. We all go through this in life. We grow and evolve by conquering and accepting things. When it's tough to accept, just allow yourself to be where you are. I know it's hard for me too, but I'm doing other things in the meantime. I'll wait for the right time and then I'll face it head on.

You've already got the answer, my friend. All you have to do is choose between solving the problem and accepting it. One is to face it head on, and the other is to put it aside for the time being, accept it, and let go of your emotions. Do what you can do right now, work hard on the part you can do, and leave the result to God. Accompany yourself in the feeling of powerlessness and frustration. We are only ordinary people, not omnipotent or perfect. When you can't do it well, you can say to yourself: "Although I can't do it well, I still love myself as I always have."

I really hope my answer is helpful!

Dear Sir/Madam, I hope my answer can be of some help to you. Best regards,

How should one proceed when confronted with challenges that are seemingly insurmountable? It is crucial to first ascertain whether these obstacles are truly beyond our control. We must categorize these challenges and determine which ones are unchangeable, which can be partially influenced, and which can be fully addressed. Once these distinctions are made, we can then focus on making the necessary adjustments to what can be changed and accepting what cannot.

My specific recommendation is as follows:

1. It is important to recognize that while some challenges may appear insurmountable, there are often still steps we can take to influence the outcome. By focusing on the tasks within our control, we can gradually build our capacity to address and resolve issues effectively.

For instance, when difficulties arise in a relationship and communication with the other party becomes challenging, it may be helpful to consider ways to adapt and accept the situation. This could involve focusing on self-care and addressing one's own needs and feelings within the relationship. Additionally, learning about the psychology of marriage can provide insights for personal growth. If communication remains an obstacle, it may be beneficial to try to understand the other person's perspective, identify their needs, and then find an appropriate time to express them.

For example, we may aspire to achieve success in our professional endeavors, yet we may still be a considerable distance from attaining that objective. We may feel constrained by our current circumstances and unable to accept the reality that we have not yet reached our desired level of success. At this juncture, it is essential to adopt a realistic outlook, recognize the need for time to grow and develop, and identify achievable milestones that can be attained in the near term. This approach will gradually bring us closer to our ideal self. As we accomplish these milestones, we will naturally gain confidence and resilience, enabling us to make necessary changes. Over time, we will gradually move closer to and achieve our desired outcomes.

2. You may wish to consider seeking assistance from your social support system. There are some situations that are beyond your control, but for others, there may be ways to make a difference. We can leverage the power of others to make a positive impact.

Indeed, attempting to resolve issues independently can lead to a sense of helplessness. During such instances, it is beneficial to seek assistance from external resources, including social support networks and individuals with expertise in the relevant field. This can provide invaluable emotional and professional guidance.

A few days ago, the kitchen drain in our house became obstructed. As a result, the kitchen would leak whenever I washed dishes, and the entire floor was affected. Initially, I believed the issue was with the pipe under the sink, but upon further inspection, I discovered that the pipe leading outside was the source of the problem. My husband was away on business, and I lacked the necessary resources to resolve the issue independently. I promptly contacted my husband for guidance and he advised me to contact the property management company and request the assistance of a plumber to resolve the issue.

I contacted the property management company to request the assistance of a plumber. The plumber determined that the water outlet in my residence was too distant from the sink and had undergone numerous bends over time, resulting in significant blockage. He advised that I consult a professional plumber equipped with the necessary machinery to unblock the pipes. I proceeded to call 96345 to schedule an appointment. Upon further discussion, I was informed that the plumber would arrive with the necessary equipment to assess the situation. He proceeded to unblock the pipes, which took a considerable amount of time. Following this, I was able to resume normal dishwashing operations.

It is evident that some challenges may be too complex for us to address independently. However, by leveraging external resources, we can effectively resolve these issues. Seeking assistance from others is also an effective strategy for driving change.

3. If there is no feasible method of change, then choosing to let go or adopting a different perspective is an effective solution and a demonstration of wisdom.

If there is no viable course of action to alter a situation, it is more efficient to let it go. Attempting to resolve an issue that will not be resolved is a futile exercise that diverts energy and time. When you let it go, you can make new choices, choose a better life, or a state that makes you feel more comfortable.

Furthermore, it is not always necessary to alter the situation itself; rather, it is often sufficient to adjust one's perspective and perception of it. This can lead to a significant shift in emotions and overall state. The emotional ABC theory posits that our emotional responses are not solely determined by the situation itself, but rather by our interpretation of it. When our perception changes, our emotions and state also undergo a transformation.

Therefore, adopting a perspective of strength will lead to greater comfort. The same half glass of water can be viewed in two contrasting ways: as a source of sadness, or as a reminder of the possibilities for happiness.

It is therefore possible to select one's own perspective and thoughts on the matter in question. Altering one's thoughts will also result in a change of state.

Please refer to the above for your information. Best regards,

Good day. I am a person of advanced age and below average height.

It is an irrefutable fact that in the course of our lives, we will encounter situations that are beyond our control. The most memorable experience I have had recently was when my colleague approached me after I had become unwell. I attempted to muster the strength to resolve his issue, but after a brief period of effort, I was compelled to abandon the task, deferring it to my partner, and then continued to experience dizziness.

Similarly, there are aspects of life and work that are beyond our control. Some issues may be akin to illness, which cannot be resolved immediately but can be addressed subsequently or with the assistance of others. Others are analogous to death, which is unavoidable and cannot be prevented.

It may be possible to divide these unresolvable issues and the accompanying difficulties in acceptance into distinct categories, allowing for the implementation of tailored solutions.

1. At that juncture, you were unable to resolve the issue, but you could postpone its resolution. The impact is not significant, so you can decelerate somewhat and reflect on your experience while postponing the solution. You will be more at ease the next time you encounter it.

"2" At that juncture, I was unable to resolve the issue independently, but I could solicit assistance. We can leverage the capabilities of others to achieve our objectives.

One cannot indefinitely persist in attempting to solve a problem without ultimately failing. Similarly, one cannot indefinitely persist in merely accepting a problem without ultimately failing to accept it. One must therefore attempt to face the problem and accept it.

It is important to acknowledge the imperfections of life and the limitations of humanity. Even the most accomplished individuals have experienced regret and have striven for heights that they could not attain. The pursuit of immortality and the desire to rival the heavens are aspirations that have been held by kings and rulers throughout history, yet they have ultimately fallen short.

Given the brevity of life, excessive concern about issues that are beyond one's control is likely to result in feelings of frustration and a sense of inadequacy. Furthermore, such preoccupation can be mentally exhausting. It may, therefore, be more beneficial to focus on one's strengths and resources, which can enhance happiness and motivation to work hard.

First and foremost, the individual in question may learn to accept themselves. By accepting one's own shortcomings and appreciating one's own strengths, it becomes possible to leverage one's strengths and avoid one's weaknesses.

Secondly, it is important to acknowledge one's own limitations. I previously held ambitious aspirations, hoping to make a significant impact, but after encountering unexpected challenges, I experienced a sense of disillusionment, despondency, and a loss of interest in various pursuits.

Subsequently, I came to recognize my own ordinariness and experienced a notable increase in ease and composure, accompanied by a renewed sense of resilience.

Third, in the case of circumstances that are beyond one's control, it is advisable to seek out opportunities and breakthroughs that can be leveraged to obtain assistance. This is analogous to the experience of a child who is unable to reach a table; in such a situation, the child would likely resort to using a stool to facilitate the task. Similarly, if one is unable to open a bottle cap, it is natural to seek assistance from one's parents. In the case of academic challenges, it is not uncommon for students to stay up late to complete their homework. These are all examples of strategies that individuals employ to cope with and overcome adversity.

Fourth, learning from the solutions of others enables the acquisition of the capacity to solve similar problems independently in the future.

Fifth, it is important to accept imperfection. One should acknowledge that life is full of disappointments and that it is necessary to learn to accept and face them. Time is an effective remedy for healing wounds, and regardless of how significant the sense of powerlessness may be, it will eventually dissipate.

The aforementioned represents my personal opinion, which I offer for your consideration. Best wishes!

Hello, questioner!

From your brief description, I can tell that you are ready to take control and make a change. It's clear that you have a good sense of awareness and the courage to face this challenge head-on. This is fantastic!

I'm so excited to hear what happened to make you feel that way!

It would be great if you could let me know the age you first felt this way. I'd also love to know what happened at that time!

I'd love to know how you adjusted later!

And what kind of strength supports you? What makes you keep looking for a breakthrough in such an uncomfortable situation?

All problems are our resources! We are experts at solving our own problems. We just need to keep being aware and find the root cause of the problem to help us clarify what we want. And we can do this! Ultimately, we achieve reconciliation with ourselves, constantly improve ourselves, and grow ourselves.

You're not alone! Life isn't always smooth sailing, and it's totally normal to encounter problems of one kind or another. When you become aware of this, you're already on the path to change!

If a miracle happens and your uncomfortable feelings disappear, what difference will it make to your state of life and work? What have you done to make the miracle happen?

Who will notice your change? It's going to be amazing when they do!

I don't know your specific situation, but based on your description, I'm excited to give you some advice. I really hope it can help you!

First, be more aware and clarify!

In life, we will always encounter a lot of confusion, which is totally normal. It is because of these confusions that we can continue to awaken and grow, and that we can gain the ability to create a happy life for ourselves!

But when we encounter such confusion, we are definitely feeling powerless and lost inside. The good news is that we can be more aware of when these feelings arise. We can also be aware of the underlying reasons.

So, what are our needs? And what do we really want? By being aware of these things and clarifying them, we can avoid a lot of misunderstandings. This will help us adjust our mindset and it will definitely help us in some way!

Second, accept and allow this situation to happen!

As I said, nothing is ever easy. But we can do it! We will always encounter confusion of one kind or another. This is normal. We must allow and accept ourselves, and allow these negative emotions to exist. To reconcile with him is to reconcile with oneself. When we do, we will not experience internal conflict, but will understand what we need to do. At this time, you will feel a little more powerful inside.

When we feel powerless and unable to accept things, this is actually a kind of internal conflict. But there's a way out!

And then, look for the positive experiences!

But when we feel bound by our emotions, we can try to find positive experiences! Things that make us happy, that make us feel good, that we like. Remember, experiencing can counteract negative emotions, give us some inner strength, and enable us to adjust our mindset and face the confusion in life bravely!

I highly recommend the book The Brain Code of Happiness! It teaches us how to find our own experiences so that we can cultivate our brains and weed out the bad.

Next, believe in the incredible power of accumulation!

When we encounter these kinds of confusion, we should not be defeated by them. What we need to do is believe in ourselves and the power of accumulation! We will make progress every day, adjust our mentality, and one day we will become confident and more and more capable of adjusting ourselves. We will believe in ourselves and firmly believe that we can rely on the power of accumulation. We should not compare ourselves with others, but only focus on our own progress every day. With time and accumulation, we will become different—and better!

And then, get ready to release those negative emotions!

When you don't feel powerless and confused, you can learn to let go of these emotions! You can do this by exercising more, talking to people, and keeping a diary. This will help you release those emotions and feel at peace. During exercise, the brain secretes dopamine, which makes you feel happy and not afraid anymore!

And don't forget to find hobbies that will help you improve yourself!

When we have negative feelings in our lives and work, it is actually when we are not very satisfied with the situation. But don't worry! At this time, we should find our own interests and hobbies, do the things we like, constantly improve ourselves, and constantly expand our energy. This allows us to do the things we like well, and it is also a major guarantee and weapon for us.

And finally, if you want to, you can also seek help from a professional counselor! They will use their professional skills to delve into the roots of the subconscious and create a safe and inclusive environment for you so that you can grow with strength in this environment.

And there's more! You can also join a psychology study, which will help you recognize and face your emotions in a whole new way.

Hello, question asker! You asked, "What do I do when I'm powerless to solve something?"

"First of all, I applaud you for thinking about a problem that needs to be solved but you are unable to solve it. Thinking is taking brave steps towards growth. The fact that you can think about this problem actively shows that you are growing, that you are seeking more ways to solve problems, and that you will have more ideas when you encounter problems in the future that need to be solved. Ideas determine the way out. As long as we have ideas to solve problems, then we will have a way out of them. Don't you agree?

In work, life, and study, we encounter problems that we feel powerless to solve. This is something you mentioned, and it's true. No one is a superman, and it's impossible to successfully solve every problem. When we encounter problems that we feel powerless to solve, we have two options. We can either accept our current state of being unable to solve them, or we can temporarily not solve them. But we cannot do both. So, what should we do?

I don't know what specific things you encounter at work or in life, but I can tell you this: I'm going to answer from a few angles that I can think of, and I'm going to inspire you to solve the things you encounter.

If you encounter something at work that you can't solve, ask for help.

Job titles are a training ground. Everyone works in an organization for a common purpose: to get the job done. However, colleagues may sometimes compete with each other for certain interests.

In other words, everyone has a common interest, which is why they work together in the same unit. However, there may also be conflicts of interest, and at this time, it is necessary to weigh and make certain choices. Therefore, in terms of work, the best relationship with colleagues is "developing competition and cooperation." This means that there is both a competitive relationship and a cooperative relationship between everyone.

If you encounter something at work that you cannot solve or accept, you can take the initiative to seek help from your colleagues. There is nothing weak about taking the initiative to raise problems and ask for help. In fact, this is the behavior of a strong person.

A person who takes the initiative to seek help from their colleagues is not weak. They are strong. They know that there are many people in the unit and that just because you encounter a problem that you feel you cannot solve does not mean that no one else has a solution. This brainstorming method will provide a good solution strategy for your problem.

If you encounter an unsolvable problem in life, you can seek help from family members or friends.

As the saying goes, "Unity is strength." When you encounter a situation in life that you cannot solve on your own and cannot accept internally, you can and should take the initiative to seek help from your family or friends. Who hasn't encountered problems in life?

If you actively seek their help when you encounter problems, they will seek yours in return. It's a simple matter of reciprocity. Only when you trouble others will others be embarrassed to trouble you. If you are always embarrassed to trouble others, your friends and family will definitely be embarrassed to trouble you from time to time.

There's no doubt about it: trouble is mutual. The more you and your family and friends interact, the more you'll understand each other and the stronger your bond will become.

When you encounter an unsolvable problem, categorize it first.

In work, life, and study, we will encounter all kinds of things that we are temporarily unable to solve. At this time, we must categorize the things we encounter according to their urgency and importance. If the unsolvable thing we encounter is urgent and important, then we must think of every possible way to solve it. If we really can't solve it, we should seek help from others.

If you encounter an unsolvable problem that is important but not urgent, adjust your mindset. Tell yourself to put it aside for now and let it brew in your mind. You may find a solution one day. If you encounter an unsolvable problem that is urgent but not important, solve it. It's not very important, and you can solve it however you choose.

If the problem we encounter is not important and urgent, we can let it exist and work and live with it. It will not have a big impact on us. When you learn this method of classifying things, you will find that we only need to be anxious about the things that we encounter that are both urgent and important. We don't need to be anxious about the other three types of things. We won't have too many things in our work and life that are too urgent and important.

Once you truly understand and grasp this concept, you will realize that when you encounter a problem you cannot solve, your heart will not forbid its existence.

I wish you the best, and I know my answer will be helpful to you!

The world and I love you!

Good day, questioner. I am Xiaoxu. You have previously indicated that, in your professional and personal lives, you encounter situations that you are unable to resolve and that you find challenging to accept.

The following views are offered in the hope that they will prove helpful.

It would be beneficial to ascertain precisely what is challenging to accept.

Does the issue pertain to an external event?

Alternatively, the difficulty may lie in the feelings that the event evokes.

Alternatively, the issue may pertain to potential consequences.

Alternatively, is the issue a feeling about a potential future outcome?

These may be distinguished from one another, and the appropriate approach will vary accordingly.

In the event that the issue in question is an external occurrence that has already transpired, it is not possible to implement a solution that will alter the outcome.

It may be necessary to engage in cognitive or psychological processes to alleviate emotional distress.

To illustrate, an individual may have been terminated from a position due to circumstances beyond their control. In such a case, the event has already occurred and cannot be undone. Consequently, it may be necessary to adjust one's emotional state and pursue alternative employment or avenues for self-sufficiency.

If this feeling is a consequence of this event, it may not be solely attributable to the event itself.

Additionally, these feelings may arise from one's perception of the situation. This aspect is subject to change.

For example, the pain experienced may be attributed to the termination of employment. The source of this pain may be attributed to the perception that the termination was a result of inadequate performance, incompetence, and deficiencies in various capacities.

It may be necessary to clarify that the individual in question is not inherently flawed in every respect. Rather, the situation may be an isolated incident or the result of other factors. It is important to avoid perceiving oneself as irredeemably flawed.

It is important to note that the potential consequences of this event are not guaranteed and may not occur with certainty.

For example, an individual may be fired from a job and subsequently unable to secure alternative employment, resulting in financial instability. It is important to note that being fired from a job and experiencing difficulties in securing new employment are not necessarily a definitive and absolute correlation. Rather, they represent a potential outcome within a broader range of possibilities. These possibilities may include identifying comparable or superior employment opportunities, enhancing one's earning capacity, or exploring alternative avenues for financial sustenance.

The potential ramifications of these circumstances on future prospects evoke a range of sentiments.

For example, an individual may be fired from a job due to circumstances beyond their control, which can lead to significant concerns about future employment prospects. In the absence of a stable income, individuals may experience feelings of worthlessness and desperation.

Once the conflict in question has been elucidated, it is likely that a more nuanced understanding of the current situation will emerge.

Adequate comprehension is a prerequisite for accurate judgment.

It is my hope that this perspective will prove beneficial to you.

Give a hug to the person who is tired and frustrated. How should they deal with this?

First, work-related.

Frustration at work and the inability to face it.

1. If you feel frustrated at work, think your goals cannot be achieved, or feel very frustrated when blamed or criticized by your leader,

Work is also a learning process. You gain experience. If a senior colleague or leader helps you with problems at work, you learn how to handle things. This process may be painful because the "university of society" is different from school.

Be open-minded and receptive. Improve yourself. Someone who teaches and guides you knows you have room to grow.

2. Interpersonal relationships at work

Do more work, speak less, and study hard.

Be careful with money. There is a difference between entertainment, appreciation, and everyday fun.

3. Having trouble finding a job or at work?

We are born with a purpose.

Gold shines wherever it is.

We may have to keep learning, improving, and enriching ourselves to turn sand into gold.

Second, in life

The questioner feels overwhelmed in life. It is about relationships.

Parents' relationship: What parents say and think may not be good for you.

What should I do?

First, listen to your parents. Do you want them to come home because you haven't been close for a long time? Or is there something else?

When talking to your parents, don't be harsh. Say something nice. People who can be spoiled are the luckiest. This applies everywhere.

Know your limits. Know what you can and can't do.

You can comfort them, but don't do these things.

And cry, and talk to your parents about your problems. Let them help you.

Pay attention to how much control your parents have over you.

Marriage: Many problems need to be resolved through negotiation. Learn to communicate. Don't let your opinions or guesses determine the course of the marriage.

If you can handle your marriage and your relationship with your parents, you'll be fine with friends.

Finally

Exercise for at least 30 minutes a day. It makes you happier.

Find something you enjoy doing to take your mind off things.

Have fun!

I've been in your shoes. Most people go through this at some point. You haven't said what your problem is, so I can only suggest some common approaches:

Mindfulness is a way of facing problems by being more aware of yourself. You can do this through meditation or breathing exercises.

Dr. Joe Kabat-Zinn has written many books on mindfulness.

2. Cognitive behavioral therapy: This method changes emotions and behaviors by changing the way you think and behave. You can change your thinking with a psychologist.

Read "Cognitive Therapy: Basic and Applied" (2nd Edition) to learn more about cognitive behavioral therapy.

3. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy: This method helps you cope with stress by accepting reality. You can learn more about it in Steven C. Hayes's book.

4. Emotion regulation strategies: These are methods of changing emotions by changing your behavior and attitude. For example, reducing stress through exercise, meditation, journaling, etc.

We hope these methods help you find a solution that suits you and make you happier at work and in life.

Dear questioner, I am honored to have the opportunity to address your question and hope that my response can be of some assistance to you.

I am Duo Duo Lian, and I would like to share some thoughts on how we can navigate the challenges and choices that arise in our work and lives. It is important to recognize that there are many factors beyond our personal control. To maintain a healthy balance, it is essential to consider the interests of others and to cultivate the courage and adaptability to face difficulties head-on.

People are shaped by their relationships and rely on each other in these connections. It is an ability to make oneself happy. There are many unpredictable things in work and life that also require collaboration. Everyone has different opinions because of their different positions. Cooperation is also needed. Personal abilities are limited and will be affected by many factors.

It's like a farmer planting crops, fertilizing, weeding, and turning the soil. If a weather disaster strikes, all the hard work will unfortunately be for naught. It's important to do a good job of prevention to minimize disasters and reduce losses.

In dealing with various interpersonal relationships, it is important to remember that the attitude of others is not necessarily a reflection of how you treat them. They have their own choices, and you cannot force them. You can only do what you can with a clear conscience. It is not your place to interfere with others, and you should not expect anything. Otherwise, you may find yourself getting angry, and the loss may outweigh the gain.

It is important to have faith in yourself and, even more importantly, in the law. Many things in life are beyond our control, such as the blooming and falling of flowers, the setting sun and the waning moon, birth, old age, sickness and death. It is helpful to respect and accept these things, regardless of the outcome. It is also beneficial to be aware of what is going on in your heart, to be able to see its value and the meaning of existence, to face it without evading it, and to become responsible.

It is not easy to live in this world. We face many challenges, including competition and pressure, the judgment of others and our own judgment, the handling of various relationships, the transformation of identity, moral constraints, and a lot of emotions within. We are not made of money, and being loved by others will limit us. Without failure, there is no success.

A bystander may be able to see more clearly. Being in the thick of it, it's hard to be confused. It doesn't matter what others say. Responding positively and keeping your emotions calm may be helpful. The three-year pandemic has also taught us that no matter how rich or poor you are, you cannot escape the erosion of the virus, and you cannot fight against nature. Accepting what is happening now, being on early warning, and avoiding complaining and blaming may be beneficial. Only responding positively and dealing with it rationally may be helpful.

It is commendable to be true to yourself, return to your roots, listen to the advice of others, and draw on the wisdom of all sides. Similarly, acknowledging your own limitations and showing weakness can be a sign of inner strength. Maintaining a calm state of mind and letting go can help you move forward with ease.

Hello, dear questioner! My name is Zaijian Qingxin, and I'm so happy to have seen your question. I'd love to share my thoughts with you.

It's okay to feel frustrated when things are out of our control. We can't change everything, like a grumpy boss or high housing prices. But we can choose how we respond to these challenges. By adjusting our mindset, we can prevent these things from affecting our emotions.

Do your best, and don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it!

When you're faced with something you can't solve, try stepping outside the problem itself and see what you can do yourself. You might not be able to change a grumpy boss, but you can do your job to the best of your ability and keep improving yourself.

As we grow stronger, even the toughest problems can become easier to solve.

Every problem has two sides, A and B. And you know what? A different perspective might just lead to a different discovery!

Let's keep using work as an example. We all know that a leader who pays particular attention to detail can sometimes drive us crazy at work. But it also makes us meticulous and rigorous! And a particularly difficult project can make us work tirelessly overtime to think of solutions. But in the process, it will also allow our abilities and experience to develop rapidly. So when you face something that you can't solve and can't accept, you might as well look at its B side from a different perspective.

Wishing you all the best!

Hi, I'm Zhang Xianli, a psychological counselor with over 10 years of experience. I hope my answer helps you.

The size of a problem is determined by the size of your abilities.

How easy or difficult a problem is depends on your ability, the methods you use, and the resources you have at your disposal.

Example 1: It's tough for a recent clinical student to find a well-paid job. It's pretty easy for an experienced associate chief physician with more than 10 years of experience to find a well-paid job.

Example 2: People who aren't happy with their current job, who are confident, experienced, and have a wide range of contacts, are more likely to look for a new one. Those who lack confidence, limited resources, and ability are more likely to stick it out.

[Solving problems during development is more powerful]

Self-development and growth is the magic solution to most problems! But before you can solve the problem, you'll need to put in the work to grow and develop yourself.

This means you need to be patient and put in the work during this period. How can you be patient?

If you set a clear vision for yourself, you'll see that everything you experience now is worthwhile. For example, if you plan to jump to another company in five years and earn a higher annual salary, it's worth putting in the work now to build something in your current position.

If you can stick it out through the tough times, the success will be all the sweeter!

[Cognitive adjustment, resource-oriented perspective sees difficulties]

It's not easy to accept things you have to accept, but you have to do it. The idea is that you expand the scope of things you can accept so that what you can't accept can become something you can accept.

It's a process of tempering and upgrading the mind!

How can we make this happen? One way is to think about everything that happens to us as a resource. Even bad things can teach us something, and we can learn and grow from them.

For instance, being sick can make us think about our lifestyle, what life is all about, and our relationships with others. Being unemployed can make us realize that we shouldn't put all our eggs in one basket, that we should avoid comfort, and that hard work is a constant.

I hope my answer is helpful to you. I'm Zhang Xianli, and I'd like to welcome everyone who's visiting the website!

Hello, dear questioner!

I'm a healer, and I'm here to give you a big hug! From a psychological perspective, we all have problems when we're faced with things we can't solve. Nobody is born knowing everything. Even if we're really good at something, there's still a lot we don't know or understand. Just as we know that the more we learn, the more we realize how much we don't know, it's hard to say whether we're good or not. This is only relative to other people. The greatest achievement in this world comes from learning from people who are better than us. So, when it comes to feelings of powerlessness, whether they come from a lack of ability, a bad attitude, or even circumstances that don't allow you to do anything, everyone has different personality traits, ways of dealing with problems, and values brought up in their family of origin. The way you solve problems and the extent to which you solve them becomes the gap between people. When you're unable to face problems, I'm afraid that there's not just a lack of solutions, but more importantly, perseverance. The final solution is just a little bit of luck in addition to planning, execution, supervision, and feedback.

We all face challenges at work or in life that we can't solve on our own and find hard to accept. It's okay to feel this way! We're social animals, and we can work together to find solutions. Whether it's work responsibilities or life and emotions, marriage and family show overt behavior, and the role in work and family should not be underestimated.

It's totally normal to feel this way! When we don't get what we want, it can make us feel lost and sad. And when we do get it, we might not know how to cherish it. This kind of back-and-forth swinging of the mind can make it hard to figure out what we really want and what we really need.

I've put together a few suggestions based on your situation, which I hope you'll find helpful!

If you look for external causes in everything, you'll probably stay the same for about ten years. But if you look for internal causes in everything, every day will be a brand new adventure! It's so important to follow our hearts, learn to talk to our souls, and find the purpose of another self. And we should never stop reflecting, but we should also constantly review.

2. We all feel powerless sometimes, but it often comes from our original family. We are all born with low self-esteem, but we can change that! Yielding to reality will only make us miss opportunities. The world is yours if you are willing to step out into it, but it will remain the world even if you stay.

3. There's no such thing as a quiet life with plenty of time. There's only the burden of moving forward. You either carry the burden or someone else carries it for you. The good news is that you can face it bravely and take a chance. And you know what? The brave win when they meet in a narrow road, and the wise win when brave people meet.

4. There are all kinds of birds in the forest, but only if you become a big bird will you not be afraid of anything in the forest. It's okay to have hopes and dreams, but don't rely on other people to make them come true. You are the master of your own destiny! Keep learning new skills and focus on becoming the person you want to be.

5. These suggestions are just that — suggestions! The world is a big, beautiful place that connects us all. Sending you all the love and best wishes in the world!

Dear Problem Owner, We hope the following suggestions will be of assistance to you.

When confronted with challenges that appear insurmountable, it is not uncommon to experience feelings of disappointment, anxiety, frustration, and helplessness. To navigate these emotions effectively, it is crucial to identify strategies that can help you cope.

It is important to accept that some problems are simply unresolvable.

This does not imply a lack of commitment to change. It simply acknowledges the reality that some problems cannot be solved immediately and that it takes time and effort to address them.

It is possible to alter one's attitude and perspective in order to reduce stress and anxiety.

It may be helpful to consider positive aspects and to identify sources of happiness and contentment.

Seek assistance from other parties. It is possible to request help from others in order to gain advice and assistance in order to better face problems.

This may include seeking professional assistance, such as psychotherapy or counseling.

One solution is to break down the problem into smaller, more manageable parts. This can help to make it easier to face and solve.

This can assist in developing a more comprehensive understanding of the issue and facilitate more effective decision-making.

It is important to prioritize self-care when facing challenges that seem insurmountable. These situations can often lead to feelings of anxiety, nervousness, or depression.

It is therefore important to learn to relax, for example through activities such as yoga, meditation or walking. It is also essential to maintain physical and mental health by avoiding fatigue and stress.

When confronted with intractable problems, it is essential to confront them head-on and take appropriate action. It is crucial to acknowledge limitations while maintaining an optimistic and positive outlook to better cope with difficulties.

Hello, Your feelings of powerlessness and difficulty in accepting sound painful and anxious.

You mentioned feeling powerless to solve your problem. Try lying down for a while.

Some people think lying down and giving up is lazy, but it's not. If you're facing a difficult situation, try lying down. It helps you relax and think more clearly.

You're anxious about facing this issue because you can't accept it. You can choose not to accept it if it goes against your values. If you have to lose something to accept it, you have to decide which is more important. By upholding your values, it may be easier to make a choice.

I'm not sure what you're facing. These are some suggestions. I hope they help. Anyway, hang in there. When you have too many thoughts, go for a walk, listen to music, do yoga. It can help you relax.

Hello,

From what you've said, it seems like you're feeling a bit powerless in some of your current work-related situations. It's like you can't solve the problem, but you also have to end the situation. I've been there too. We all have needs that are tough to accept but impossible to solve in the workplace. So it's normal to feel powerless and helpless. I get where you're coming from.

Here's how to solve it:

If you can't solve a problem, you can choose to accept it.

Acceptance doesn't mean approval. We can tell ourselves that the current outcome is something we can't change. There are some things we can't find other ways to solve, so we choose to accept it. Of course, we need to solve things that violate some of our rights.

[2] Take a moment to think about why you can't accept it.

If we can't accept something, it's probably because we have our own ideas and concepts. If others can accept it, what's the reason? Maybe by comparing the two, we can figure out whether we should accept certain things in the workplace.

[3] Boost your self-confidence and do your own thing.

I think the most important thing we can do in this situation is to boost our self-confidence and do our own thing. We can't change other people's lives, and we don't have the right to control them. So for ourselves, we can just take charge of our own area. For things we can't change, maybe we shouldn't be obsessed with changing them and just let them be. Let's see what kind of thoughts we come up with.

I hope these thoughts are helpful to you.

Hello!

From the brief description of the problem, it is evident that there is a lot going on here.

Here is my analysis and advice:

Reality is unchangeable.

When the questioner "faces things that are impossible to solve," it is a certainty that your construction of reality is limited to the problem.

You believe that what has happened to you is inevitable and cannot be changed. You may even indulge in fatalism and believe that this is how it should be.

This inevitably leads to a complete cessation of efforts and the development of a profound sense of helplessness.

[Emotions influence hope]

When you are overwhelmed by a sense of helplessness and completely controlled by negative emotions, your perception is undoubtedly biased.

You see no hope for change, yet you find it difficult to accept this.

Do not let your emotions get the better of you when you try to analyze the problem. If you do, you will lose hope and become increasingly powerless.

Hope is a basic driving force for a person. Losing hope means losing the driving force to move forward.

[Emotional stability first]

The more unacceptable the issue is to the questioner, the more anxious they will feel, and the more difficult it will be to see reality and the truth.

The questioner should first stabilize their emotions. Take a deep breath to calm your mind.

Then focus on the problem and analyze its essence.

Your emotions and mind will be clear and you will be able to see the essence of the problem, no matter what situation you are in, as long as you keep your emotions stable.

[Objective and calm analysis]

In work and life, there are many things behind the scenes that are beyond our control. Don't waste your time worrying about them.

The key is for the questioner to actively seek out the controllable factors.

You can discover solutions and ways to solve the problem by breaking through these controllable factors.

You will gradually lose your sense of helplessness when you find a method and a way.

[Change the way you attribute things]

A sense of helplessness is an emotion-led form of incorrect attribution.

You can only form a correct way of attributing on the basis of stabilizing emotions and calm analysis. This is how you can completely shake off the feeling of helplessness.

Reverse the erroneous perception that "you can't change anything, no one will help you, and no one is worth relying on." Believe that through your efforts, you can get the results you want.

I hope this is helpful to you.