What if a 19-year-old sophomore girl feels too lonely when she returns to China to play?

Hello, question asker!

It's tough to give advice on relationships in just a few words, but I'm excited to chat with you about it! I'll help you explore new possibilities when you feel lonely or bored.

[Blend in and bring it out]

You said you want to go out but you don't know what to do, which is totally normal! I'm not sure how long you'll be staying in China this time, but if it's a long time, you can absolutely make a small plan related to interpersonal interactions during your vacation to enrich your vacation life. You may already have a stable circle of friends at university abroad, but you may feel a little uncomfortable when you come back, which is totally understandable!

It's totally normal to become estranged from old classmates or neighbors after a period of time. But don't worry! There are plenty of ways to re-integrate into your old circle of acquaintances. Look for appropriate opportunities to reconnect, such as reunions with old classmates, someone's birthday, or specific holidays.

Or, you can also try to participate in some offline activities in your favorite circles, so as to expand your circle of friends! Think anime exhibitions, meet-and-greets, talent shows, and more. Interpersonal skills are also a kind of skill. If you invest time in this area, you will reap a lot!

[Go out, invite in]

We've already covered some great ways to get out and about, but we'd love to hear your ideas too! Write down all the ideas you can think of, and then pick the one you are most excited to try and start practicing it tomorrow.

In addition, you also say in the article, "staying at home all day playing games" and "the house is too big." If you usually like the feeling of staying at home, and it's also relatively hot outside, you can also invite classmates or relatives and friends you used to know to your house to play games, watch movies, chat, eat, etc. Of course, if you feel awkward about such things, or are worried that your invitation will be rejected, which is only natural, you can try inviting peers with the characteristics of a champion first.

Sometimes, just taking a small step forward can make all the difference!

[Fill in what is missing]

We often say that it is not the problem itself that is important, but the goal behind it. Today, you have the opportunity to turn your problem, "What if I'm too lonely?" into a goal that will help you to develop your interpersonal skills, expand your real circle of friends, and have someone to hang out with during the holidays!

You can do it! All you need is a little courage to take the first step. Start by making a list of old friends you still want to keep in touch with and their contact details. Then, think about the exciting new circles you want to join. Once you've done that, it's time to pick up the phone and start contacting them!

Fill in what is missing. For adolescents, friends are really indispensable — and an absolute must!

I really hope the questioner has a fantastic time with his friends during the holidays in China and successfully completes his thesis!

The questioner wants to socialize but is nervous. They have money and ability but worry they can't make friends. They don't know what to do first or how to maintain a relationship. The more they think about it, the more afraid they are to go out.

Consider the hero mindset method of psychological capital. H is for hope. E is for efficacy, confidence.

R is for resilience, and O is for optimism.

Hope: find friends.

You have to think of ways to find someone, such as searching online, contacting old friends, or finding someone through friends of friends. Be flexible. It's like a GPS: it can only give you a general idea.

Confidence: an estimate of success. Practice makes perfect. Nothing is new.

Just do it. Failure is not scary. Take the first step and take small steps forward.

Failure is natural.

It's like getting a vaccination. First, you practice with simple relationships. Later, it will be easier to adapt to more intimate relationships.

Optimism: Think positively. Look it up online or watch my video on the ABCDE cognitive adjustment method.

I hope the original poster will open up and have a rich social life.

Everyone is a beacon of light. Ask a question or answer one. Your words will illuminate the hearts of many people. This is our shared energy.

Hello. I am a mindfulness coach. I can tell you want to be cared for and to have company. You are bored and have things to do, but lack the motivation to get them done.

Let's take a look at the problems that trouble you from a distance, hugging.

Everyone needs to connect with others.

This is the martial arts movie trope of "the lone warrior who seeks no rival." A person who is accomplished, successful, and wealthy still feels empty inside.

Everyone longs to be seen, noticed, and accepted. This requires connection with others.

Connecting with others is a skill. When we are born, our parents' unconditional acceptance of us and our importance is the most important thing. It provides us with the ability to connect with others and love.

When needs are not met, emotions naturally arise, and you feel frustrated. You must remain aware, see your loneliness, and understand the emotional cause of your need to meet your needs.

It can be changed and improved through acquired learning and training. Meditation practice, for example, cultivates the ability to perceive, connect with yourself, and love yourself and others.

2. I'd like to know how loneliness arises.

Loneliness is a subjective feeling. It is the experience of feeling isolated or alienated from others or society. If you feel this way, it is not because you lack money. It is because you lack friends and you cannot get along with people.

It is self-isolation, cutting off the connection with the outside world. It is a kind of escape, and isolating yourself from others brings you painful feelings, a kind of passive isolation.

You feel lonely because you cannot connect with yourself. Connect with yourself, and you will be able to connect with others and give yourself a good evaluation.

This is related to a person's self-worth. For more details, see my article "The Root of Psychological Problems is It" on my personal homepage.

If you constantly give yourself a bad review, your interpersonal relationships will suffer. You simply won't be able to enjoy the pleasure of being with other people. Of course, you'll cut off the connection and sever the relationship.

3. How do you get rid of the feeling of loneliness?

Some people say, "Money attracts people, but people scatter when money is gone." This is not the solution. Imagine if you lose contact with the outside world. Even if everyone is circling you, once the crowd disperses, you will once again fall into a deep sense of loneliness.

1) Stay aware. Seeing gives you choices, and seeing gives you positive feedback. Start with the simplest things: give yourself positive feedback and appreciate three aspects of yourself every day.

2) Change from passive to active. When you feel lonely, tell yourself, "I chose to be alone, and I have every right to do so." Take back your right to choose and reclaim your initiative.

I am confident that the above will be helpful to you. The world and I love you. ?

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