What if I become more and more anxious because of the psychological shadow of the death of a family member?

At some point, we all have to face death and think about it. We all also have to go through a process of fear, resistance, understanding, and acceptance. There's no doubt that this is something we all have to go through.

Our minds just can't wrap around the concepts of the unknown, the infinite, and eternity. It's pretty scary to think that we're out there in the vastness of space, in the darkness without an end, without a definite boundary, in an unreachable realm, even if it's just in our imagination.

When it's an unexpected and unimaginable separation from a loved one, it's a powerful emotion that's also painful and helpless.

As we grow older, we're all living a process of dying and moving towards death. It's only natural to feel fear and anxiety when we first face death head-on. But after that, we also start to appreciate the value and beauty of being alive.

It's like happiness only becomes clear after experiencing pain, and light only becomes precious after experiencing darkness.

Maybe the passing of our elders and loved ones, apart from passing on life, is also a reminder to future generations to cherish the time they have been given. Just as they taught us in the past, they have carefully reminded us.

The truth is, whether you're alive or dead is just a human construct. When you really think about it, it's just a different stage of life, not that being alive is life and being dead is death. In fact, death is just an unknown stage. You can imagine any state of existence in life without feeling that it's a loss and no longer exists.

You won't be afraid. You'll understand and accept. Nobody knows what's on the other side of death, but it'll make us more aware of the value of being alive and the value of being together.

And these deep, unbreakable emotions and real experiences are surely the most beautiful things about being alive. They're also the most important reason to embrace life.

We'll all die one day, and there's no way of knowing when. But we're not afraid because we know we'll be surrounded by family, friends, and loved ones. It's the memories we make while we're alive that make death not scary. Your grandmother was no exception. She wasn't afraid to leave, but she was reluctant to do so because she knew she'd be leaving you behind.

I wish you all the best.

Dear Question Asker,

The deaths of your grandmother, uncle, and puppy evoked a profound sense of sadness and distress.

In particular, during the final days of providing care for my grandmother, it was evident that she was experiencing significant distress and difficulty coping with the aging process. This can also lead to a sense of helplessness and vulnerability among those who are left behind, potentially leading to feelings of overwhelming helplessness and despair.

Aging and death are the most fundamental laws of nature that all individuals must inevitably confront. It is widely believed that the majority of people are apprehrehensive about the prospect of death.

Upon the advent of one's demise, individuals are typically overwhelmed with trepidation, helplessness, and desolation. I, for one, am particularly apprehrehensive about death.

To illustrate, the initial outbreak of the coronavirus pandemic in 2020 prompted a profound sense of fear. Similarly, the plane crash in 2022 evoked a similarly intense feeling of terror, given that I had also been on a plane at the beginning of the year.

In August, during the Mid-Autumn Festival, a person with whom I was intimately acquainted passed away as a result of a motorcycle collision. This occurrence has instilled a sense of trepidation within me.

While I am fearful of death, I am also aware that the processes of aging, death, and even accidents are beyond our control and cannot be prevented with great effort. Therefore, I choose to direct my energy toward each day, striving to live in a manner that aligns with my values. In doing so, I hope to avoid any regrets in the event of my immediate demise.

I also simplify my daily routine. I plan each day in advance, including time for work, spending time with my son, spending time with my parents, and exercising. I plan these activities and the people I want to do them with into my daily life.

Furthermore, I do not make plans for anything else that will have a significant impact on my life. It should be noted, however, that this does not preclude the possibility of encountering other people and circumstances in one's daily life. Regardless of the outcome, whether positive or negative, it is important to treat these individuals and situations with kindness and tolerance.

Indeed, the objective is to treat oneself with kindness, to be tolerant of oneself, and to allow oneself to relax.

It is my hope that the advice I have provided will prove to be of some value to you.

It is my sincere hope that your life will continue to improve in the future.

Hello!

The good news is that the psychological shadow cast by the death of a family member may be a consequence of untreated post-traumatic stress disorder.

If you didn't have any psychological problems before the death of a family member, it's only post-traumatic stress!

If you had been experiencing certain emotions or symptoms such as anxiety, fear, or depression before, then the death of a family member will exacerbate your suffering. But don't worry! The root cause is still in the previous problems, which you can easily overcome.

The great news is that most people can accept birth, aging, illness, and death in a normal way.

They may be reluctant about aging and death, but not to the extent that they fear it and indulge in suffering.

You have an above-average fear of aging and death, which is totally normal!

This fear is something you cannot bear or change, but you can accept it!

During that time, you experienced the loss of your loved ones and the puppy. If you were still a child or an adult whose mind was not strong enough to bear these bad endings, you may have had a fear of loss and abandonment.

Maybe the pain and helplessness of caring for your grandmother has left an amazing, indelible mark on you!

If you have a very strong bond with your grandmother, you will feel her pain as your own, which is a wonderful thing!

When Grandma died, it was like a part of you was given a new lease on life!

At first, it seemed like nothing, but I became more and more withdrawn. I was excited to see my parents grow old or fall ill. I thought about aging and death every day, and it made me feel alive. I didn't want to establish any connections with anyone except my parents and a few old friends. I just felt that if I didn't have any emotions, I wouldn't get hurt.

The good news is that over time, some people gradually recover from the pain of bereavement.

Some people, unable to accept this fact, bury themselves along with them, isolating themselves from the emotions of those still living and avoiding contact with them, in a state of withdrawal.

People in this state should definitely do some grieving and healing!

It is so important to view and face birth, aging, illness, and death in the right light!

What is lost is their body, but what is left is their spirit! This spirit can live on in the hearts of the living relatives and serve as a driving force to support them going forward.

On the other hand, the aging and death of loved ones and the departure of a beloved pet can all symbolize the loss of certain emotions that one projects onto them—but what an opportunity for growth and transformation!

So, it's also a great idea to deal with your own emotional loss, fear of death, separation anxiety, etc.

The great news is that you can seek help from a professional psychologist in these areas!

But I still suffer every day, and often want to commit suicide. I'm afraid of causing harm to my parents, and I'm afraid of facing their aging and death. I want to pass on this pain to them. But I'm also excited to heal myself, live a quality life, and be able to accept all the causal changes and laws of nature.

If you feel that you cannot bear the pain and cannot control your urge to commit suicide, seek treatment as soon as possible at a psychiatric hospital to see if you need medication and psychological intervention. This is an amazing opportunity for you to get the help you need!

You don't want to hurt your parents! Otherwise, you wouldn't be afraid of their aging and departure.

But you are unable to face your parents' aging and death, and you want to pass this pain on to them.

This ambivalence shows that you consider yourself to be a child and incapable of facing this on your own, while your parents are adults and you want them to take responsibility.

When you live with pain, you are miserable. But you can be happy again! This is unimaginable suffering.

There's no better way to get through this than to find a way to heal yourself, live a quality life, and be able to accept all the causal changes and laws of nature!

If you are still a minor, tell your parents about your situation and let them take you to seek healing. They will be so happy to help you!

If you're already financially independent, you have so many more possibilities to find a way to heal!

Absolutely! There is always a way to reduce suffering!

We may not be able to control the length of our loved ones' and our own lives, but there are so many ways we can make the time we have together more fulfilling!

And the great news is that the key to this quality depends on the degree of psychological health!

Absolutely! Let's work towards this goal!

And that's a wrap!

I'm Yan Guilai, a psychological counselor, and I want to wish you and your family the very best! May you enjoy good health, peace, and happiness forever!

How old is the questioner? No one can remain unaffected by death, especially when the person who has passed away was close to us.

We don't have a place to belong without them.

"I go to the hospital every day to care for her. Seeing people struggle as they age and die has made me afraid." The care you gave your grandmother has helped you understand her pain. The questioner has been affected by this.

Maybe the "especially scared" part is about fear of death, pain, her grandmother's pain, guilt, and helplessness in the face of aging and death?

It's our fate. We can't escape it. We can only pray it will come later and more slowly.

Afraid.

"I don't want to connect with anyone except my parents and a few old friends. I just feel that if I don't have any feelings, I won't be hurt." This may be the author's way of protecting himself from being hurt, to keep his "health" and thus "indirectly" prolong his life.

The questioner has limited himself by making his parents and a few old friends his "entire world." This makes it more likely that external factors will harm and affect him.

The question owner says, "I'm in pain every day. I want to die, but I'm afraid of hurting my parents and of getting old and dying myself."

Death is something we can't control. Let's treat ourselves well so we can live our lives to the fullest.

I hope my reply helps. Best wishes!

Good day, my name is Evan.

Show the questioner some support and encouragement. It is to be expected that the questioner will experience negative emotions when faced with the death of a loved one or pet.

The loss of a close person is an unfortunate and unfair occurrence, both for the individual who has passed away and for those who remain. The continued absence of the departed can cause significant distress for the questioner, potentially leading to a challenging period of adjustment. From a psychological perspective, it is natural for people to have an instinct to die.

In the event of a multitude of distressing occurrences, and when the questioner is unable to process them internally, they may opt to disengage or even take their own life in order to relieve themselves of these overwhelming emotions, which is an understandable response.

It is not uncommon for the past to have a significant impact on the questioner, yet it is important to recognize that the questioner does not live in the past. In some instances, the questioner may find themselves overwhelmed by depressive emotions, making it challenging to navigate these feelings independently. In such cases, it is often beneficial to seek guidance from external resources, such as parents or professional counselors. Given the current circumstances, it is crucial to take stock of the intimate relationships in your life and identify the positive aspects you have gained from them. Instead of dwelling on what you have lost, it is essential to focus on self-care and self-love.

As the question was posed on this platform, I would also like to offer the author some brief advice.

Do not blame yourself; accept your current emotions.

It is not uncommon for the death of a loved one to be unrelated to the actions of the questioner. It is therefore unnecessary for the questioner to blame themselves for this event. When facing the end of an intimate relationship, the questioner will typically experience grief and depression, which are both normal reactions.

The conclusion of an intimate relationship will inevitably result in a range of negative emotions for the questioner, including grief, depression, and other challenging feelings. It is important to acknowledge these emotions and allow yourself to experience them fully.

It is important to acknowledge the challenges you have faced. It is not uncommon for individuals experiencing suicidal thoughts to be overwhelmed by negative emotions and an inability to cope. By learning to accept these emotions and recognize their presence, you can begin to address the underlying issues that may be contributing to suicidal thoughts.

Please review your feelings.

The successive deaths of loved ones have caused the questioner to experience significant emotional distress, including feelings of sadness and depression. It is important to understand the questioner's attitude towards intimate relationships and their expectations from such relationships.

The subject should attempt to summarize these questions. The previous intimate relationship has resulted in severe negative emotions, which the subject wishes to terminate by committing suicide.

It is recommended that the questioner record these feelings. While ending one's life may be an option, it is not a necessary one. The questioner must also consider the impact on their parents and the potential for their parents to experience pain after the questioner's passing. Therefore, it is important for the questioner to carefully review the gains and losses from past and current intimate relationships.

It would be beneficial to ascertain whether these losses can be compensated for in any way. There is a saying that may be relevant here.

The more apprehension there is, the greater the likelihood of failure. It may be beneficial for the questioner to share their feelings with their parents to gain insight into their perspective. It is possible that their feelings align with those of the questioner.

Take the time to consider your decision calmly and objectively.

The passing of a loved one inevitably causes grief among those who remain. Initially, it can be challenging to adjust to this change, but it is essential to move forward. Was the death of a loved one dignified, natural, or unexpected?

The departure of loved ones, although you may be in a state of grief, the questioner can assume that if they had not left, then the questioner would be what they are now. If they had the spirits in heaven, what would they say to the questioner? You can take a short trip for a few days. During these times alone, you can think about the impact of intimacy on you, whether your decision to commit suicide has relieved you of anything, what impact it will have on you, whether you can accept its impact, whether there is any way for you to release your depressed emotions other than suicide, whether suicide is painful, or painless?

To the best of my knowledge, there is no painless method of committing suicide in China.

Allow time to facilitate the healing process.

The death of a loved one has caused significant distress to the questioner, and it will take time for the questioner to recover. The healing of emotional trauma will not be rapid, and it will take a considerable length of time before the questioner can regain confidence and a positive outlook on life. Regardless of what the future holds, the loss of a loved one can evoke a range of intense emotions, and it may take a long time to return to a sense of normalcy.

In any case, the result of facing the death of a loved one is not a pleasant one. It is important to allow the questioner a long period of time to deal with the situation and work through any negative emotions.

It is therefore essential to be mentally prepared, to accept that life goes on, and to recognise that there may be few people who can support the questioner in moving forward. It is important to cherish the moment and to do so consistently.

It is important to accept yourself.

If circumstances have reached this point and the individual is unable to find hope in life, there are steps that can be taken to accept oneself. These include engaging in activities that bring enjoyment and nurturing oneself through these activities. It is important to recognize that everyone is deserving of love and care.

It is important to accept yourself as you are. When you are feeling down, it is beneficial to take action to improve your mood. Indulging in a sweet treat can have a positive effect on your emotional state.

It is crucial to prioritize your own happiness, provided you do not inflict harm on others. It is imperative to maintain control over your emotions and prevent them from taking over your life.

Please contact a professional hotline for assistance.

If the poster feels that relying on oneself does not alleviate suicidal thoughts, they are encouraged to call the national suicide intervention hotline for assistance. The suicide intervention hotline numbers are as follows: National Hotline 400-161-9995, Student Hotline: 400-161-9995, press 1, Depression Hotline: 400-161-9995, press 2, Life Hotline: 400-161-9995, press 3, China Psychological Crisis and Suicide Intervention Center Helpline: 010-62715275.

The questioner may contact these hotlines directly, where trained professionals will be able to assist in managing the questioner's emotions. They can help the questioner to release their emotions.

It is my hope that, in addition to addressing your negative emotions, you will also prioritize your physical well-being. It is possible that this challenging experience has left you feeling mentally and physically drained. However, regardless of the circumstances, it is essential to prioritize self-care. Life can be demanding, so it is crucial to find ways to nurture yourself.

It is my hope that this response will prove useful to the questioner.

It is my hope that this response will prove helpful to the questioner.

Dear questioner,

I'm Kelly.

I have read your question several times, and I can say with confidence that I understand how you feel.

You are not alone in feeling this way. Many people are afraid and anxious, and you are not alone in that.

Let's talk about this topic together.

I'm sure you remember the sentence we read.

"If you don't know how to live, you'll never know how to die."

The Analects of Confucius' view of life and death is clear: "Forget to eat out of indignation, forget worries in joy." I have experienced this firsthand in these years of the epidemic. Friends of decades have left because of the new crown, and some good friends have fallen ill.

I cherish life even more because of the loss of friends and health.

I also think about the meaning of life.

The fear of death is in our unconscious. Everyone needs to face it, and it is inevitable. I understand how you feel.

In the second year of the pandemic, I read Mr. Irwin Yalom's summary of the questions he has received throughout his life: loneliness, freedom, death, and meaninglessness.

Before that, I read a lot of Tao Yuanming's poetry, and he was undoubtedly the poet who liked to talk about death the most.

His open-minded and cheerful attitude has influenced me. There's no doubt about it. We can always read a childlike innocence and cuteness in his poems.

He accepts the inevitable and faces it with equanimity.

This is not a temporary issue. It is an eternal topic. The ending is always the same, regardless of who it is.

You are ready to talk about death, share your thoughts, and face your fears. You are thinking about it, facing it, and will overcome it.

Leave it to time.

I'll give you a few suggestions for your reference.

1. Don't dwell on nonsense alone. Get out more. Read a book, hang out with friends.

2: Do something that will make you happy if you're feeling down.

3: If you have been confused for a long time, you should seek professional counseling to get out of your low mood as soon as possible.

4: Allow yourself to grieve, feel sad, fear, and be anxious. These emotions are real, so accept them.

5: Write your emotions down and then tear up the paper.

6: Read the Heart Sutra and the Tao Te Ching. Scriptural readings can open our hearts.

7: Read "Traveling with the Diamond Sutra" by Professor Jiang Xun.

8: Find your own hobbies and immerse yourself in them. The pain will fade away as time passes.

[Emotional isolation]

The questioner is unwilling to socialize or get to know people recently, and is afraid of others forming relationships. Accepting your own thoughts is the best way to deal with this.

You may also feel that you are a sentimental person. When people experience painful things, they will also become vulnerable. Love yourself first.

Leave the future to the future.

Emotionally rich people are also more sensitive, and I am one of them. In recent years, I have read books, studied, improved my learning ability, focused on one thing, and done some emotional isolation. Last year, I was also depressed and unable to get out of these emotions. Later, I wrote daily updates on Yi Xinli and also wrote about my memories of my good friend. More than half a year has passed, and my mood has changed a lot. For more than half a year, I have sought a counselor and studied systems psychology. I am proud to say that I have come out of depression from last year's depression to the present.

I also want to bring you this blessing and pass it on to you. Let's change the way we live. If you don't like socializing, you can turn to the internet and use words or voice to pour out the pain in your heart.

1psych.com has everything you need, including dynamics, questions, free chat rooms, communities, professional counselors and listeners, and many articles to read.

[About Irwin Yalom]

The existentialist psychotherapist Irwin Yalom has dedicated a significant portion of his life to contemplating death and addressing his visitors' concerns about mortality.

Ten years after publishing "In the Heat of the Sun," and following the deaths of his sister and best friend, Irwin Yalom has a new understanding of death.

Tell me a few words about this book.

1: You think about death. You die. It's inevitable.

2. Death is not "un-itchy" at all. It is always with us, waiting patiently at the door of our hearts, deeply hidden in the depths of the unconscious.

3. There are two ways to comfort the soul in the face of death: leave your own footprint and gain the meaning of life, or live in the present moment as much as possible.

4. Death can destroy us physically, but it can also save us spiritually.

5. You will benefit greatly from being aware of death and embracing the shadow of life. This awareness will allow the light of your life to reunite with the shadow of death, expanding and enriching your life while you still have it.

The pandemic has forced countless families to confront their fear of death. It has also made many people realize that since death is inevitable, we must make the most of each day we have.

You should feel the impermanence of the world and spend more time with your parents while they are still young.

Enjoy your time together.

Also, embrace the beauty of human interaction and use your limited personal time to do more meaningful things.

For example, at this moment, I listened to the voice in the depths of your heart and interacted with you in words late at night, even though we are not familiar with each other.

You gave me these profound thoughts, and I thank you for that.

I trust you are well.

I am Kelly.

I love you, world.

Dear host, I am writing to express my condolences for the recent deaths that have occurred in rapid succession over the past two years. It is evident that these events have had a profound impact on you, evoking not only grief and nostalgia for the deceased, but also a profound sense of powerlessness, despair, and fear of death itself.

In particular, when an individual states that they contemplate death on a constant basis, it can evoke a profound sense of distress. This can manifest as a shift towards introversion, a reluctance to engage in social interactions, and even suicidal ideation. This represents a significant burden of emotional distress. It is evident that the individual is experiencing a profound fear and is preoccupied with thoughts of death at all times. In some instances, this can even manifest as a desire to use death as a means of resolving the pain associated with it.

It is recommended that you first ascertain the local crisis intervention number and prepare yourself for the worst-case scenario. It is beyond your capacity to face such a significant loss in a short period of time. Should you require assistance, you may also seek help from a counselor or therapist.

Let us first consider what we can do to help ourselves.

From the information provided, it is evident that you have strong emotional ties with your family, including your dog. You provided devoted care for your grandmother during her final days, you have a close attachment to your parents and old friends, and you are concerned about and feel a sense of obligation towards your parents.

These are the emotional resources that underpin your inner sensitivity and vulnerability. The gender and age of the individual in question are unknown.

It is our contention that individuals' emotional responses to death vary significantly across the lifespan. In children, for instance, death is often perceived as a mysterious and frightening phenomenon.

For young people, death remains a relatively distant concept, and they tend to prioritize the experience of being alive. However, as they transition into middle age, they begin to devote more attention to and reflect on death as they enter the second half of their lives.

Furthermore, your experiences may render you more susceptible to the fear of death.

The topic of death has been a subject of profound reflection by a diverse array of individuals and disciplines, spanning from philosophers, thinkers, and literary figures to religious scholars and scientists. The exploration of death has persisted throughout history, with a continued interest in books and ideas related to this subject.

I suggest two books that may be read or listened to in audio format. One is A Man Called Ove, which has also been adapted into a motion picture.

Another recommended text is Look Directly at the Sun. Both books examine the existence of life from the perspective of its end and suffering, thereby providing the motivation to embrace the present, the joy of life, and temporarily set aside concerns about death.

It is unlikely that death anxiety can be completely eliminated. One possible approach is to confront this anxiety directly.

It is important to consider what death truly is and what we fear most. Some people are afraid of disappearing, while others are afraid of pain or the afterlife.

The concept of the afterlife is appealing in that it suggests a continuity of existence, whereby the individual's consciousness persists in a state that is similar to the world before their birth. This notion eliminates the fear of the unknown that often accompanies the topic of death.

Additionally, I am partial to the notion that the state of death entails a process of complete reintegration with nature.

My perspectives are shaped by extensive learning and reflection. It is my hope that this will provide some encouragement and facilitate the development of a more positive attitude towards death.

If death anxiety is an inevitable aspect of the human experience, what can be done to mitigate its impact? A useful analogy would be to consider the best way to prevent a plot of land from becoming overgrown with straw. In such a case, the optimal solution would be to plant it with crops.

1. It is imperative to live one's life to its fullest potential. It is crucial to recognize one's existence and to strive to make one's life meaningful and fulfilling.

A comprehensive understanding of one's own identity allows for the strategic leveraging of one's strengths, the identification of personal interests and hobbies, the pursuit of activities aligned with one's abilities, and the attainment of a multitude of positive experiences. These actions collectively serve to diminish the fear of death, enabling individuals to assert, "I have lived."

2. It is imperative to imbue one's existence with love. The essence of life is inextricably linked to relationships and the presence of loved ones.

If we have loved seriously and been loved well, our lives will have been worthwhile. The continuity of life is not contingent on the number of children one has, but rather on the number of people one has loved and influenced in their lifetime, and on the extent to which they have been shaped by that love.

This can be considered the true continuation of life.

3. It is recommended that individuals engage in physical fitness activities and acquire a basic understanding of medical principles. When we possess a more comprehensive knowledge of and control over our bodies, we will be better equipped to manage physical sensations and changes.

I greatly admire an elderly gentleman who, prior to his demise, provided guidance to the novice physicians on the techniques of resuscitation. It is intriguing to contemplate this act, simultaneously evoking mirth and a sense of tranquility.

It is imperative to maintain an unwavering belief in oneself. The suddenness of this setback has provided an opportunity to gain a deeper understanding of the essence of life. It is crucial not to succumb to despair or retreat from the situation.

Ultimately, death is inevitable and imminent. It is therefore imperative that we engage in collective study and collaboration.

I encourage you to persevere.

Hello! The natural law of development is birth, aging, sickness, and death. It's a basic law of life, and it's something we all have to contend with. But there's no reason to be afraid of it!

From your description, it's clear you've experienced and perceived these things, which has caused a strong conflict within yourself. This conflict is beyond your ability to bear, and you cannot let go. But you can work through it!

So, why not give this a try?

1. Change your environment! This means avoiding reminders of people you miss and not putting yourself in situations that will remind you of them. It takes courage, yes, but you can do it!

2. Spend more time outdoors, especially on sunny days! Go to the park, go to the mall, etc., and have afternoon tea when you have nothing to do. Form your own habits in this way and enjoy!

3. Have your own things to do! You can try to cultivate your own interests, such as calligraphy, writing, music, etc. This is a great way to gain a more personal understanding of the value of your interests.

4. Pay attention to emotional stability. This stability should be neither great joy nor great sorrow, but rather calm as water, maintaining stability.

5. Live in the present! It's a great way to make the most of your time, energy, and other resources.

It doesn't matter whether you're happy or sad, it's all about how you focus your attention! Focus on your current life and make it the best it can be!

Go out there and blaze your own trail! Set your sights high and pursue your own ideals.

6. Have your own beliefs and willpower. This is very important!

I believe that your current state has been troubling you for a long time. But I also believe that you can break the existing balance and rebuild a new one! It will undoubtedly involve a lot of difficulties, but you can overcome them. Most of these difficulties come from your own inhibitions, restrictions, and fears, but you can conquer them.

It's time to decide what kind of life you want! Imagine being able to laugh happily, living a worthwhile life (of course, living is worthwhile!), and being free from the distress of these stresses. What could be better?

This belief is your goal and your motivation!

7. If you're still struggling after trying these tips, don't worry! You can always seek professional help from a doctor or counselor.

Wishing you all the best!

The message mentioned that in the past two years, my grandmother, uncle, and puppy have passed away one after the other in a short period of time. I have begun to be particularly afraid of aging and death. Such anxiety and fear have spread to your life, and I feel pain and at a loss.

When you're in the darkness of fear, it's like sinking into the deep sea of helplessness and despair. But don't worry! I'm here to help. I'm going to pull you out of the endless fear and show you the light behind the shadows. It's going to be an amazing journey!

1. After going through the mourning process of the death of a loved one, I have come to see the beauty and value of being limited, apart from aging and death—and it's been an incredible journey!

Before my grandmother passed away, I went to the hospital every day to accompany and care for her. I saw firsthand how people age and the pain of the struggle before death. It was a humbling experience that made me stronger.

This process is a challenging one, but an incredible one too! When aging and death are presented to us in such a close-up manner, it is difficult for ordinary people not to react.

This sense of impact is going to stick with you for a long time. You've experienced and felt all of this in a very intense way over the past two years, and it's going to shape you in amazing ways!

If you can handle and carry all this well, it will open up a whole new world for you! It will give you the chance to turn these experiences into incredible insights and a source of strength that will help you move forward on the path of life.

Therefore, after such an intense experience of death and aging, if possible, please find a professional from the mental health services to accompany you through it all! They can help you transform the grief caused by witnessing death and aging, while finding the resources and strength to transform within the limited vitality of life, seeing the beauty behind the finiteness of life, and thus having a greater opportunity to cherish what you have and let go of what you don't.

2. It's time to develop your own interests and social support systems! You've got this! You're going from "alone" to "with others."

You're ready to connect with new people and build new relationships!

Withdrawing from the world does close off the pain of loss and separation, but it also isolates us from the warmth and companionship of mutual support. A person's life will eventually come to an end, but the memories shared with others will have the opportunity to be passed down from generation to generation—and that's something to get excited about!

Such a legacy is another form of continuation of life—and it's an amazing one!

If we focus only on what is lost, we'll lose our joy. But if we start to focus on what we gain, we'll be filled with joy!

And there's more! Connect with others, develop your own interests and hobbies, and gain the life experience you want from the things you do.

We can't avoid the fear of death and aging by avoiding them. But we can seek inner peace and tranquility through the things we love!

I really hope the above sharing can inspire you!

I'm a clinical psychologist, and I'm here to tell you that I don't explore human nature. What I do is care for the human heart! Bless you!

It's so sad to see how your loved ones and pets dying has made you afraid of aging and death. It's understandable that this fear hasn't gone away, but it's been a while now and it's time to start feeling better. You deserve to feel happy and healthy again.

I can imagine this feeling is really hard to bear.

How are you understanding your current state?

It seems like you're not that old, and you might not have had much experience with death in your past.

It's totally normal to feel overwhelmed when facing death. I can imagine it must have been really tough for you, going to the hospital every day to care for your grandmother and seeing first-hand how helpless people can feel as they age and experience the pain and suffering of the dying process. It's understandable that you felt particularly afraid.

It's totally normal for a person's heart to become particularly vulnerable when a loved one passes away. It's something you've never experienced before, so it's understandable if it's been tough for you.

You say that you often think about aging and death now, that you don't want to have contact with the outside world anymore, and that you want to commit suicide. It's totally understandable! This inability to cope with and escape from the pain seems to be a reaction to traumatic stress.

Let's find ways to make things better, right away!

It's great that you're able to recognize that you're not doing well and can find the reasons for it. It's been two years now, and I know it's been really tough. You're already taking the first step by trying to find ways to help yourself get out of it.

First, try to accept and understand yourself. When people face the death of a loved one, it's normal to feel a lot of pain and stress. It's also normal for this to affect your physical, emotional, cognitive, and interpersonal relationships.

First, give yourself a big hug! When people face the death of a loved one, they experience a lot of pain and stress. Most people will be affected in terms of their physical, emotional, cognitive, and interpersonal relationships.

It's totally normal to feel more intensely than others when you're in shock. You might feel fear, confusion, or anxiety. And it's not your fault! Everyone has a different tolerance level, so their expressions will be different. There's no right or wrong way to feel.

Please don't blame yourself for this. These are all normal reactions, so try not to be too hard on yourself.

Second, it's time to get some professional help. You need to go to the psychiatric department of a hospital for an assessment and diagnosis.

It's been a long time now that you've been affected by this incident, and we know how damaging prolonged anxiety and worry can be to our physical and mental health. We're here to tell you that you can get the help you need from a professional doctor who can provide you with more effective methods of support.

Third, it's important to find ways to let go of your stress. You can talk to a trusted family member or friend.

It's totally normal to still have those images and shocks from your grandmother's illness in your heart. If you can, talk about your feelings at the time, such as fear, helplessness, worry, and pain, and share them with others.

If you don't want to talk to someone you know, you can talk to a counselor or a psychotherapist. It's totally okay to feel this way. You're not alone. Let it out. Let it all out. It'll help.

And if someone understands and is there for you, you'll feel less alone and more supported.

Fourth, make sure you do more things that help you relax. For example, go for a lovely walk outdoors, watch a movie you like, do some fitness exercises, listen to music, etc.

These things are great for helping you calm down and focus on the present moment and the sensations your body is experiencing.

It's totally understandable that it's not easy to come out of a painful state after being alone for so long. But it's great that you're asking questions here, and I can see that you're determined to get through it. I'm really happy to be able to help you with this process!