What if I seem to have obsessive thoughts? I always think about how a person should go on living.

Hello! I saw your question about feeling like you have to think about one thing over and over. This is called obsessive thinking. It is when you can't control your thoughts and can't stop thinking about one thing.

1. You said you always think about how to live. This has become your obsessive thinking. The more you try to get rid of it, the more you cannot.

Then there's the vicious cycle of breaking free from obsessive thoughts.

2. Why do thoughts become obsessive? There's an addiction-like force at work. Thoughts produce feelings of anxiety and unease, and you're immediately drawn into them.

You may think about the future and worry about what might happen. This makes you anxious and restless. You want to escape, but you can't. It's as if you're addicted to worrying.

4. You want to stop thinking obsessively. When you think about it, you try not to, which makes it worse. You want to get rid of the idea that you can't get rid of it.

5. You said you hate this thought and that you can't accept that you think about it all the time.

6. To break the cycle of obsessive thinking, accept your thoughts but don't overthink or catastrophize.

7. You're not too caught up in this problem, but you're rejecting your thoughts to avoid distress.

8. Don't think about it! You can control your thoughts and emotions. If you don't follow them, you'll naturally withdraw.

You have an addiction to rejecting thoughts, which is why you have knots!

To stop compulsive thinking, you have to break the cycle and stop associating negative thoughts with it.

Don't reject your thoughts and feelings. Force yourself to adapt to discomfort. You can become less affected by it.

Dear questioner, I'm so excited to answer your question!

Everyone has obsessive thoughts, just to varying degrees. The questioner says that they often think about how a person can go on living, and the more they think about it, the more difficult it becomes. This is a kind of obsessive repetition. The more they think about it, the more they become entangled and the more difficult it becomes. I often feel this way too. Sometimes when I go out, I come back to make sure I locked the door, terrified that I didn't, or that I forgot to close a window. There are more than these, and there are other aspects similar to the questioner's. This kind of obsession also brings me a lot of trouble. Sometimes it makes people increasingly doubt themselves, deny themselves, and keep thinking nonsense. Just like the questioner, I then wasted a lot of precious time. But I finally got rid of it later, and I'd like to introduce my method!

One, you can think about this question, but you can't do it for too long, or you'll solve the problem. For example, locking the door and closing the windows. I don't want to force myself to think about it. In the end, I choose to use my phone to take a video of me locking the door and closing the windows before I choose to leave. As my habits change, I don't want to take the video anymore, and naturally I won't forget to close the windows.

For example, if you want to live alone, you can absolutely find a partner! And if you can't, then work hard to make money, live in the present, and cherish the present.

2. Just let it be, and the compulsion will go away on its own. It's the same with emotions. When we become more and more attached to something or a certain need, we make ourselves feel very strongly about it. The good news is that when you just let it be, without dwelling on anything, and keep an open mind, the compulsive repetition will also go away on its own! Everything in the world is fleeting, and it doesn't do any good to attach too much importance to some things. Just let it be, and enjoy the freedom!

3. In fact, life is very beautiful! We just haven't discovered it yet. We are always worried about nothing. This is a state that most people will experience. The more we think about it, the more we want. The more we expect, the more we will be disappointed. But when we calm down and discover the beauty of life, we may also gain more surprises! There is one way of thinking about life that is close and one that is far away. The close way is descriptive, while the far way is evaluative. The close way is about what is happening and is real, while the far way is about imaginary and abstract things that have not happened.

When we think in the distance, we can't see what's really going on. But what does the questioner think?

I really hope this helps the questioner!