What if you are too introverted and timid to try?

Dear Landlord, I came across your description and wanted to extend my support. I hope that my willingness to share can bring you some inspiration and help.

As you have indicated in your text, you have been an introvert since childhood. You are reticent, relatively quiet, and now that you are in college, you are afraid to speak on stage. You are reluctant to take risks and prefer to avoid challenges. You have a sense of responsibility but are hesitant to take the initiative to be in charge.

You express a desire to try new things but lack the courage to do so. You are not proactive and avoid communication with teachers.

From this, it is evident that you are more of an introvert. Individuals who identify as introverts tend to exhibit certain traits, including:

They are reticent to express themselves, are not accustomed to doing so, and lack the courage to do so. They are fearful of being exposed in front of adults and prefer to conceal themselves.

However, they also have a strong desire for others to get to know them.

These roles do not require excessive self-promotion, as the individual is not confident in their abilities. Consequently, they tend to be reserved and apprehensive about taking initiative, and they are often hesitant to take risks due to a fear of making mistakes.

It would be beneficial for you to focus on developing your self-confidence and the necessary social skills.

I recommend that you consider volunteer or charity work. These positions may not be as prestigious as others, but they offer valuable experience and skills.

However, these roles offer the closest approximation to a real-world social environment, which provides invaluable opportunities to develop social skills.

One way to boost self-confidence is to assist others. Providing assistance often leads to a sense of fulfillment.

Once a certain level of satisfaction is reached, self-confidence will grow.

I hope you find these thoughts helpful.

Hello there, question asker!

You seem to be an introverted person who doesn't like to talk much. You're relatively quiet and went to college. You're afraid to speak on stage, which is totally understandable! You seem to be afraid to try new things and like to wallow in your comfort zone. You're responsible, but you're afraid to take the initiative, which is something we can work on together!

You're eager to try something new but might need a little encouragement to take the plunge. You're not one to leap into the fray, and you're not always the most communicative with your teachers. It's totally understandable to want to avoid things when they happen.

It seems like you're more of an introvert, but you made it into university without it holding you back. It's only now, as you're thinking more maturely and interacting more with others, that you feel you should make a change in your personality.

You know, change starts from the heart. When you deeply want to change, that's the first step towards making it happen!

Start with the people around you. They can be family members or roommates. Try to chat with them more every day. You'll be surprised how quickly you'll feel closer to them and want to express more!

There are so many great club activities at college! You should definitely take part in as many as you can. It's a great way to express yourself and improve your social skills.

You've got this! Enhance your self-confidence, be good at discovering your own bright spots in life, and let them be expressed at the right time. Also, enhance your temperament and image through dressing up to boost your self-confidence.

I truly believe that with your hard work, confidence, sense of responsibility, and willingness to take on responsibilities, you will be able to change your interpersonal skills.

To the unacquainted:

Greetings!

The term "introverted" may be more accurately defined as a behavioral trait manifested in a majority of situations. For instance, an individual who is socially adept and able to engage in lively discourse with their closest friend may not be considered introverted. Conversely, even if an individual exhibits introverted tendencies across various contexts, it is essential to distinguish between communication and expression. The term "introverted" pertains to an enduring personality trait, whereas communication and expression are malleable skills that can be enhanced through deliberate practice and learning.

One may enhance one's communication abilities and bolster one's self-assurance through the pursuit of knowledge and the application of deliberate practice.

A book I have recently been reading is entitled If Today Were the Last Day of My Life. It begins with a survey.

In the United States, individuals aged 90 and above were previously queried on their retrospective reflections on their lifetime. Notably, 90% of them articulated a singular regret.

This is often expressed as "if only I'd taken more risks."

One must consider the potential consequences of maintaining the status quo. What will one's circumstances be in five years' time? In ten years' time?

If one continues to live one's life in the same manner as hitherto, will one regret it in the final moments of one's life?

I wish you the utmost success.

Being introverted doesn't mean you're "timid." You can be timid in some things that violate rules and regulations, but you can also be bold in trying to improve your abilities to face your inner fears and overcome them with an open mind. You can gather courage to try to do the things you want to do and believe in yourself!

It's so often the case that it's not external factors that trap people, but their own hearts. They can't accept their own introversion, timidity, and fear, and they're afraid of being seen by others as such. This intensifies their inner fear and traps them in a vicious circle. But here's the good news! If they face and accept themselves frankly, they'll be able to step out of this cycle and enter a virtuous cycle of trust, recognition, and acceptance of themselves.

Absolutely! The questioner can choose to overcome their inner fear and experience the incredible feeling of triumph. With a little effort, they can break free from their current situation and soar to new heights. But, if they don't take the leap, no one can lead them out.

In our daily lives, we often encounter situations where a person feels scared when encountering something scary, and also feels scared when encountering something pleasant. The difference is that you can feel your fear while being scared, and also feel your fear while being happy. The question owner can freely choose and decide whether they want to feel their fear while being scared, or feel their fear while being happy. And they can do it with confidence and excitement!

I'm so excited to share my personal opinion with you! I hope it's helpful for you to know that it's just that: my opinion. I'm happy to refer you to it, but ultimately, you get to decide what's best for you.

Hello! I see your confusion: what if you are too timid-to-try-27748.html" target="_blank">introverted and timid to try new things?

You say you have always been relatively quiet, and now that you are in college, you are afraid to speak on stage. You are afraid to try anything, preferring to wallow in your own ivory tower. You have a sense of responsibility, but are afraid to take the initiative. But you can do it! You can overcome your fear and take the initiative. You can speak on stage and take the plunge into the unknown. You can try new things and embrace your sense of responsibility. You can be the best version of yourself and have fun doing it!

You want to try, but you just need a little more courage. You don't take the initiative, but you can! You don't like to communicate with your teachers, but you can start today. You like to avoid things when they happen, but you can do it!

From your description of yourself, it seems that you are an introvert. If it is a long-term personality trait, we can also perceive it from a different perspective: it is easy to change the outside, but difficult to change one's nature. If your introversion does not cause any problems in your current interpersonal relationships, just accept your introverted characteristics — and embrace them!

Absolutely! If you feel the need to change because being timid makes you uncomfortable, then you can take it slowly. You can try the following methods: First, you can try being more proactive within a safe environment (i.e., something you are sure of) to see if you will gain a sense of accomplishment.

Second, your sense of responsibility can be expressed in an external form. Absolutely! It's okay to try to be responsible. Give yourself the chance to make mistakes, and who knows—you might just find you're perfect at it!

You need something to make you confident, so silence will not mean cowardice for you. After all, there is also the saying that silence is golden, and sometimes less talk can make people feel mysterious.

Absolutely! It all depends on whether the person is open to it. Not daring is basically the same as being afraid, fearful, and worried. Take your time, don't be afraid, you're great! Come on!

In the heart of the world, I love you so much! ???

Hello, I'm Yun. I've always been shy, but after university I wanted to be more outgoing. I wanted to be a leader and speak on stage, but I always backed down.

You seem to be struggling and confused. Maybe you even blame yourself, wondering why others can do it but not you.

Why can't you be brave now?

They may lack confidence and a supportive environment. I will prescribe the right medicine and discuss my thoughts with you.

1. Build your self-confidence.

Self-confidence can be built up. Some exercises can help.

For example, record your child's strengths in a notebook and read it every day; internalize positive comments; spend time on your own interests and hobbies; find people who support you.

Find a supportive environment.

Many children are afraid of injections. They want to be brave but can't overcome their fear. This makes them cry. At the hospital, you can see two types of parents. One blames the child for being afraid. The other supports the child.

"It's okay to cry if you're scared. You were really brave today!" Children who are accepted and supported in their fear are more likely to face it.

Support is powerful.

We can also look for people who can support us. At university, teachers may not encourage you to raise your hand as they did when you were a child. But we can look for friends or classmates, or even ourselves.

Accept your fear.

3. Start with small things and record your progress.

Before university, I was also very timid. I was so nervous that I had physical reactions. When I went on stage to speak, my arms would tingle and cramp, and my whole body would tremble.

I wondered when I would be able to stand on stage and shine like those generous people. Our homeroom teacher said that she was also timid at first, but that with time and practice, she would get better. I hoped that I could become that kind of person.

I bought a notebook and recorded 100 brave things, including events and my physical reactions. These include things like raising my hand in class, feeling unwell, and talking to the teacher.

My physical reactions have changed from shaking all over, breaking into a cold sweat, and having my heart race to just shaking hands. I will be better than before. I won't have such a severe physical reaction.

Now I can speak on stage to children. I still get nervous and my hands shake, but I can do it.

The first step is the most important. I look forward to your breakthroughs!

Hello, my name is Coach Yu, and I would love to chat with you about this topic.

First, let's talk about avoidance. Many of us are giants in words but dwarves in action. It's true that we want to do many things, but we rarely actually do them. And we often fall into self-blame and even give up.

We may be avoiding something because we are afraid of failure. It's okay to be afraid! We often worry that if we don't do something well enough, our inadequacies and shortcomings will be exposed. This can lead to criticism and accusations, or even damage to our self-esteem.

Because if we don't do it, we don't have to face the frustration of "not being able to achieve it" or look at ourselves as "not good enough." So, in a way, we choose to escape, even if we don't realize it.

Sometimes, we might feel like we need to escape. This could be a way of expressing resistance and aggression. Our childhood may have been marked by strict discipline or excessive control by our parents, and we may be prone to resistance as adults.

Because as kids, we didn't have a choice but to obey our parents, we lost our own space and freedom. We might be feeling angry on the inside, and it's hard to let go of all that pent-up energy. So this might be a way of releasing that energy in a healthy way.

Sometimes, we may be tired and fed up, and want to escape. We are often reluctant to admit this feeling, but our actions will tell the truth.

We all get caught in a cycle sometimes. We want to try something new but we just can't seem to take that first step. It's okay! We can all get tired and irritable when we're pushing ourselves too hard.

We can try to adjust our mentality, let go of our expectations for perfection, and accept that our childhood experiences do not determine our entire lives. It's okay! Life is a long-distance race, and accepting our own inadequacies and imperfections can boost our self-confidence. We can practice self-expression in the mirror, starting with a simple introduction and telling stories from our past.

We can try to set up an action plan and small goals for learning, and see if they comply with the SMART principle. In particular, we need to consider some practical circumstances and objective factors, and break down big goals into small ones. This can increase our sense of control and efficacy, which will give us the signal that "I can," boost our confidence, and accumulate our sense of accomplishment. Start with simple learning tasks first, and achieving a breakthrough may just break a cycle. At the same time, we can give ourselves rewards in time, such as treating ourselves to a meal or buying a small gift for ourselves, so that we can connect the feelings of learning and happiness and form a virtuous cycle and positive reinforcement.

We can try to join some school clubs. When we're with our classmates or others, we can look at each other's expressions more and listen carefully to what they're saying. When we get distracted or nervous, we can say "stop" to ourselves, take a deep breath, do some stretching exercises to distract ourselves, and then focus on the conversation again.

We can always try to find resources! We may be used to looking at life with a problem-oriented perspective, but actually finding resources is much more difficult than finding problems. When something happens, ask yourself more often, "Who else can I turn to for help?"

What other options do I have? What other things can I use?

We can also seek help because this matter has been troubling you and has caused you internal depletion and anxiety, so it is not easy to overcome it immediately. It's okay to ask for help! Try to find a family member or friend you trust and who has always given you positive support to talk to, and if you feel it is necessary, you can also find a counselor, because emotions must have an outlet to relieve the heaviness and blockage in our hearts.

I'd like to suggest a book that I think you'll really enjoy: "Mindfulness: The Moment is a Flower."