What if you overhear a fortune teller say your life expectancy and feel very helpless?

Hello!

I'm a heart exploration coach. Learning is the body's treasure.

From your description, I can feel your helplessness, regret, anxiety, worry, pain, and being overwhelmed.

I won't go into details about your worries about your life expectancy, but I have three pieces of advice:

First, accept your current situation.

It will make you feel better and help you think about what to do next.

You said this is your 48th year. A friend suggested you see a fortune teller. The fortune teller only asked about your birth data. He said you'd have minor problems and could resolve them. He also said you could live to be 72. This made you feel helpless and painful. Many people who go to a fortune teller feel this way. They hear things they don't want to know. Or the results are inconsistent with their expectations. This is human nature. Everyone wants to live a long time smoothly. They have an optimistic attitude towards the length of their lives. So you have to try to accept your state of mind. Then you can spare the energy to think about other things. Otherwise, your mind will be filled with negative emotions.

Allowing yourself to accept your current situation makes it possible to promote change. Change is based on allowing for no change.

Secondly, think about your own state.

Rational thinking helps you understand yourself and reality.

To be rational, do these two things:

The fortune teller's words aren't scientific.

He just asked for your birth data and said you'd have minor troubles.

You might be skeptical because he doesn't take his work seriously. Even if he does the calculations carefully, he can't accurately predict everyone's life expectancy because many factors affect it.

If he had that "vision," he would be world-famous.

And again, when he said you had a little trouble, he was probably just saying it. First, he needs to make money. Second, he can justify saying that you have a little trouble because everyone has some little disappointments in life. So saying this is both profitable and safe.

You can change the status quo.

When you take action, negative emotions will go away.

Focus on yourself and think about how you can feel better.

Look at your situation rationally. Then focus on yourself and do your best.

Talk to your friends. It will make you feel better. Negative emotions have a healing effect. They also help you think rationally and give you advice.

Ask yourself if you'll live to be 72. Look at the life expectancy of your family, analyze the causes of death, and consider your own health. You may realize you're worrying too much.

You can also change your physical state by exercising more, getting annual checkups, etc. Medical technology is very advanced, so a long life is possible. This will also make you feel better.

Think about how you want to spend the rest of your days. This will help you understand that you need to live life to the fullest. This will also make you feel better.

Tell yourself, "Fortune-telling is superstition with no scientific basis." Repeat this to feel better. Know you can do something to improve the situation.

Taking action helps you feel better.

I hope this helps. Click "Find a coach to interpret – online conversation" at the bottom if you want to talk more.

Hello. I'm Evan.

The questioner feels anxious and upset because of a fortune teller's remark about life expectancy. I want to encourage the questioner and give him strength. The fortune teller was just following calculations and giving instructions. Whether it is accurate is open to discussion.

The fortune teller's words don't mean much. Fate is approximate, while luck is autonomous. Just as both parents are short, there's a high probability their child will be too. But if the parents pay attention to their child's height and nutrition, the child will grow taller than them.

Empathy The lifespan of the questioner can also be changed. If the questioner has a poor physical condition, but regularly exercises and maintains a healthy lifestyle, then the questioner's lifespan will also be greatly extended. Fortune-telling is only a matter of chance. There are too many things that can affect it. If the fortune-teller said that the questioner would have some minor trouble this year, then after the questioner pays attention to avoiding it, won't this risk be gone?

If this risk can be avoided, why is it considered a risk?

Anxiety or depression is often a normal physical response to the outside world. There are many ways to deal with anxiety. As long as you find a way that works for you, you can manage your emotions.

If you make changes to your lifestyle, you are less likely to have an anxiety attack.

I'll briefly introduce ways to improve anxiety.

Breathe.

Deep breathing can help relieve anxiety. You can do it anytime, anywhere. It works fast. Here are some simple instructions:

Find a quiet place to sit or lie down.

Put your hands on your abdomen, below your chest.

Breathe in slowly, counting from one to five.

Breathe out slowly.

Breathe slowly for 5 to 10 minutes.

If you have thoughts or ideas, ignore them and focus on your breathing.

Relax.

Progressive muscle relaxation exercises can help relieve anxiety. Tense and relax all your muscles, from your toes to your head. Do one part at a time.

Lie down in a comfortable place.

Tense your feet by curling your toes.

Relax your toes, then bend your feet.

Relax your feet, then work your calves.

Tense and relax each part of the body, starting with the toes and ending with the forehead.

You can also play some light music. If you can't relax, you can search online for relaxation exercises.

Talk to friends.

If you feel anxious, tell a friend. Talking can help.

Pay attention to how often you interact with your friends. If they're negative, don't bring your negativity to them.

Distract yourself.

Shift your attention to something else when you feel anxious.

If you focus on something for 10 to 15 minutes, you may feel less anxious.

Listen to music.

Music can help you relax and relieve anxiety.

Classical, piano, and other light music help you relax.

List what affects your anxiety.

Ask yourself why you're anxious and write down all the questions that cause it. You might find that it's not as serious as you think.

What evidence makes me think things are bad?

What are the signs that things are not as bad as you think?

What are the odds of the worst happening?

What are the likely outcomes?

What would the questioner advise someone else with these worries to do?

Record your feelings.

When you feel anxious, write it down. Write down all your thoughts.

Prioritize, record, categorize, and write down important and urgent tasks. Solving things one by one will relieve your anxiety.

Get help from a professional.

If anxiety is affecting your daily life, see a psychologist. A good psychologist can help you cope with anxiety.

If you've lost friends or family because of anxiety, can't concentrate at work or school, or have fled because of fear, seek treatment.

Recognize your anxiety, practice relaxation, seek help, and avoid stimulants. With a positive attitude, you can change a lot.

I hope this helps.

The message reveals that the poster went to a fortune teller during their year of the rat and overheard their lifespan, which made them feel helpless and regretful. But there's more!

As someone with anxiety disorder, you are indeed easily disturbed by such messages, and they affect your mood. But don't worry! There are plenty of ways to overcome these challenges.

I really hope the following text will help you broaden your perspective and deal with this matter in a more stable state of mind!

First, be aware of your feelings and understand the message that "helplessness" is trying to convey to us.

The message mentioned

Hearing the moment of life is bad, and now I feel very helpless.

Emotions arise in an instant, but they also serve an important signaling function. When we know what we are helpless about, we have the opportunity to overcome our helplessness—and we can do it!

Since the message doesn't go into more detail about why the person is feeling helpless, I'm going to share a few common reasons so you can understand yourself better.

1. The disappointment of not living as long as one expected can make people feel helpless. But there's so much more to life than that!

2. Life expectancy is a fixed value, but there are infinite possibilities!

3. Being told that one's life is also arranged by an unseen hand is an amazing realization! It can be a bit overwhelming at first, but it's a great reminder that we're not in control of everything. It's a chance to embrace a more flexible mindset and enjoy the ride!

Second, here's another amazing thing: the numbers we say off the cuff can also be treated off the cuff!

Our view of an event affects our emotions. Imagine that we also heard:

Imagine living to 72 years old!

Just think of the endless possibilities! Different thoughts will evoke different emotions, such as:

Idea 1: Oh my goodness, I'll only live to be 72, which is less than the average life expectancy!

Emotion 1: I'm so miserable, I feel sad.

Thought 2: I can't believe I'll live to be 72! I'm the type of person who just wants to live to be 40. If I get any older, I'll start to get wrinkles, and I can't stand that.

Emotion 2: disappointment, feeling sad But there's still hope!

Thought 3: I can still live to be 72! My family has always been in poor health, weak, and sickly. I am considered to be the oldest in the family, and I'm excited to see what the next 50 years will bring!

Emotion 3: Happiness, joy!

Thought 4: You fortune teller, you charlatan, you're amazing! Keep on making up stories! I'll still be alive at 172 years old!

Emotion 4: Disdain, contempt

And the best part is, you can change your thoughts and your emotions will follow!

It's amazing to see how different thoughts correspond to different emotions! And it's so interesting how the thoughts behind the questioner's feelings of helplessness are also affecting the questioner's emotional experience.

But here's the good news! If we keep our original thoughts, we can avoid feeling helpless. And if we add different ideas from multiple perspectives, we can actually change our emotional state!

The questioner can look for some examples that support and oppose your ideas based on your actual situation to help you see other possibilities after this incident. And our emotions will also automatically change in the process!

3. It's important to remember that people with anxiety disorders tend to view things more pessimistically and cautiously than the average person.

3. It's important to remember that people with anxiety disorders tend to be more cautious than average, which is a great thing!

The questioner's anxious constitution is like wearing glasses that are different from those of ordinary people. When we feel helpless, we can also try to remind ourselves that this is not the way things really are. But here's the exciting part: we can choose to see that the glasses have played their part in the process.

The great news is that long-term psychological treatment and counseling will help us get rid of the negative effects of anxiety disorders. This means we can return to the way things really are! And the saying about life expectancy of 72 years will become an insignificant remark that will have no great influence on us.

I'm a psychologist who doesn't explore human nature, but I do care for the human heart! Bless you!

I'm a psychologist who doesn't explore human nature, but I do care for the human heart! Bless you!

You've created an opportunity for self-integration.

People who like watching movies may know the saying "spoilers for everyone." This shows people's helplessness at knowing the ending of a story beforehand.

You know how long you'll live.

The fortune teller said we could live to be 72.

This is just one possibility. Could we live to be 82, 92, 62, or 52?

Life is full of possibilities. As Forrest Gump says, "Life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you're gonna get."

The saying that compares life to chocolate is meant to convey that life is still full of flavor. Just like in life, you can experience the meaning of life, accept what life gives you, draw nourishment from it, and face the next unknown with more confidence.

Anxiety is an emotion that leaves a mark on the body. If it isn't transformed, it can form an anxiety disorder.

Anxiety, regret, and being stuck are all different stages of the same emotion. Regret is about the past, being stuck is about the present, and anxiety is about the future.

There's a term in psychology called "symptom benefit." Think about what anxiety benefits you.

From your account, it is evident that you are experiencing anxiety as a result of the fortune teller's prediction regarding your life expectancy. It is an unpleasant experience for anyone to receive such a prediction.

The fundamental human aspiration is to live a long life, regardless of whether that longevity is projected to be 72, 82, or 92 years.

The age of 48 is the onset of menopause, which is often accompanied by anxiety. Even if the fortune teller's prediction is inaccurate, anxiety may still arise due to other factors, as the body's hormone levels undergo significant fluctuations during menopause.

It is also worth noting that fluctuations in hormone levels can contribute to emotional instability. Therefore, it may be advisable to seek medical advice from a qualified professional at this time, in order to obtain a more appropriate recommendation or make the necessary adjustments.

Additionally, fortune tellers may offer predictions regarding an individual's lifespan. While the initial prediction may not be the most significant, the subsequent sentence may offer insight into how to resolve the situation.

This is the most common technique employed by fortune tellers. They are subtly indicating that one should seek their assistance.

If one desires assistance, one must pay for it. Therefore, this is how fortune tellers make a living.

It is not uncommon for fortune tellers to engage in deceptive practices, with the aim of persuading individuals to spend money on their services.

From a psychological perspective, this can be interpreted as a subtle suggestion. Individuals with a strong will may not be able to convey their intentions through indirect means, whereas those who are more susceptible to such cues, such as menopausal women experiencing heightened emotional fluctuations, may be more likely to be influenced by them.

When an individual is influenced by a persuasive suggestion, it is natural for them to experience anxiety and seek a solution. Based on the circumstances presented, it is evident that this fortune teller has a proven track record of influencing people.

I would like to recount an intriguing anecdote regarding a fortune teller. He resided in my neighborhood during my childhood.

He performs fortune-telling on a daily basis and is reputed to be highly accurate, attracting a considerable number of distant clients. However, he refrains from divulging the fortunes of acquaintances, citing the primary objective of his practice as mere financial gain.

If one is unaware of another's appearance, it is unkind to deceive them. The fortune teller in question is renowned for his abilities, yet he was forthcoming in disclosing that he adheres to the tenets of his craft and that his counsel is based on the veracity of his predictions. For those who do not subscribe to this belief system, he was direct in stating that their destiny is to lead a fulfilling life, negating the necessity for further speculation.

The act of consulting with a fortune teller often serves to provide a sense of reassurance and comfort, irrespective of the specific details of the fortune teller's personal narrative.

The outcome is inconsequential, as we are the architects of our own destiny. I was previously informed by a fortune teller that I would remain impoverished throughout my lifetime.

However, I do not subscribe to this belief system. I endeavor to lead a virtuous life. It is particularly absurd that the individual who predicted my financial adversity did so after I had pursued studies in counseling, completed training in my psychology class, and ultimately obtained certification as a counselor.

In such instances, the aptitude of a psychological counselor is attributed to fortune-telling. This phenomenon is worthy of further investigation.

Therefore, fortune telling is a matter of belief. Those who believe in fortune telling will constantly remind themselves of the predictions made by fortune tellers, and their subconscious minds will perceive these predictions as a need. As a result, their lives will be influenced by these predictions and will align with the desired outcomes.

If one desires to live a long life, one may find that their subconscious mind will work towards that end, based on the repeated suggestion that a long life is attainable.

It is my sincere hope that this information is beneficial to you. Please remember that the world and I have a profound affection for you.

Hello, host. I'm Xiaohan.

I can help you. I can help you come out of the shadows. You feel anxious and restless. I can help you.

This matter tests your understanding of life and the meaning of life.

The fortune teller is wrong. Don't believe him! Believing him is a bad idea. It will affect your future life. This fortune teller is not accurate. He made up nonsense to brag and convince you. He even got a dollar.

Believe it.

It is clear that countless students in the mountains have worked hard to pass the college entrance exam and leave the mountains. Countless people have changed their value through their own hard work and efforts, such as Jack Ma and Liu Qiangdong. They did not have outstanding grandparents, but they seized the opportunity and continued to develop with the trend of reform and opening up. If someone had told them that they would not succeed and would go bankrupt, and that they would be depressed every day from then on, would they have achieved the glory they have today? Absolutely not!

Your destiny can be changed if you're willing to work hard. Fortune telling is just for fun; things are in your hands.

Each person in the world has their own role and mission. Fortune telling and fortune telling can also be changed in the process of hard work.

Everyone's purpose in life is to live fully in the present, not to dwell on the future. Life is about enjoying every moment and making the most of it.

Everything depends on you. Your future life span and fortune depend on every second of your past and present.

You have the general spiritual conviction of a "rebel" and sufficient courage in life. Be firm in your faith. Don't fear the uneven road ahead. Support your strong flesh-and-blood body with a strong belief. Disdain fortune tellers. Gradually, your fortune will improve through understanding something from within yourself through a strong belief.

Mutual encouragement:

My destiny is in my hands, not in the hands of the heavens.

I expect you to adopt it.

Good day. I recently encountered this inquiry and, as we are of a similar age, I am interested in engaging in a discussion with you. I am uncertain as to whether you will view this message or not, so I will simply leave it at that.

Firstly, I would like to express my anxiety/lacking-empathy-significantly-struggling-to-comprehend-others-feelings-what-should-be-done-7899.html" target="_blank">empathy for your situation. I am also 48 years of age this year, which is my zodiac year, so I can empathise with your feelings of anxiety.

Since childhood, we have been socialized to believe that the year of one's birth is challenging and that unfortunate events will occur in the year of one's birth. Consequently, when one reaches the year of their birth, they experience a state of heightened anxiety and worry. It is therefore not uncommon for individuals to seek the counsel of a fortune teller during such times.

I must be frank with you. Last year, when I was diagnosed with a serious illness, I also consulted a fortune teller because I was seeking reassurance in the face of an uncertain future and the prospect of my own mortality.

Do you not experience a similar sentiment? Do you not, at your core, believe that the words of fortune tellers can influence the course of your life?

It is acknowledged that this is a fallacious argument.

However, when the unfavorable information is received, the emotional response will still be evident. This is a typical reaction.

I believe that many people will have a similar response, and I am no exception.

In that moment, I experienced a sense of loss, depression, worry, frustration, helplessness, and powerlessness. It was as if the fortune teller's words were not mere conjecture but a factual assertion that had already come to pass, leaving me in a desperate situation with no apparent avenue of escape.

It is therefore understandable that you may experience feelings of unease and anxiety when you hear the number 72. It is also possible that you may feel resentment and anger. These are all normal and acceptable emotions.

It is important to recognize that experiencing a range of emotions is a natural and normal aspect of human existence. As long as one is human, it is inevitable that a spectrum of emotions will arise. Some individuals may choose to conceal their emotions, either due to a lack of willingness or an apprehension about expressing them. However, it is commendable when an individual is able to openly acknowledge and express their emotions, as this demonstrates a significant level of courage and authenticity.

However, the aforementioned concerns persist. What is the recommended course of action?

It is recommended that you accept the situation.

It is understood that time cannot be reversed and that the past cannot be altered. The most effective method for addressing the truth is to accept it.

You assert, "I am unable to accept this, so why do you possess superior insight?" You are incapable of assisting me in resolving my issues; you are inept, so why should I remunerate you for your ineptitude?

It is reasonable to assume that the individual in question will experience doubt, anger, and perhaps even cursing. These emotions are understandable and acceptable. If I were in the same situation, I would likely ask the same questions.

However, should you wish to do so, I would be happy to invite you to find a quiet place where you will not be disturbed, sit down, and think about it calmly. Is there a better way than just accepting it? Undoubtedly, if there is, that would be the optimal solution, and I would be delighted for you.

In the event that this is not the case, it would be advisable to attempt to accept the situation and observe the subsequent effect on one's emotional state.

Once one is able to accept the situation, one will have more energy to engage in critical thinking. Is there any truth to what the fortune teller said? (To be frank, how many fortune tellers are able to provide accurate information? They are merely following a set of rules, are they not?)

The question thus arises as to whether it is necessary to believe this assertion. Can the course of one's life be predetermined by a single sentence?

One might inquire as to why one's life should be determined by another.

It is my contention that when one engages in a calm and considered reflection on these matters, a shift in perspective may occur.

It is, of course, possible that anxiety and regret will still manifest themselves from time to time. However, there is no need for concern. One can simply acknowledge their presence and state, "I see you, and I accept you here. If you wish to remain, you are welcome to do so, but I am no longer engaging with you. I have more important matters to attend to."

Provided that one is willing to believe in oneself, one is the master of one's own destiny. To paraphrase the line, "My destiny is in my hands, not in the hands of fate."

"I adhere to this conviction because, when I was fortunate enough to be reborn from the precipice of life and death, I was convinced of the potency of belief.

Should you be amenable to the suggestion, I am convinced that you will be able to achieve the same result.

Good day. I empathize with your current state of mind. You initially sought the counsel of a anxiety/what-if-you-overhear-a-fortune-teller-say-your-life-expectancy-and-feel-very-helpless-15641.html" target="_blank">fortune teller in the hope of receiving a more favorable outcome and a more helpful method. You never anticipated that the fortune teller would present you with the result you were trying to avoid, leaving you uncertain of your next steps. You believe it would have been preferable if you had not consulted the fortune teller in the first place, as you feel you could have managed the situation without confusion. However, now that you have sought guidance, you are experiencing heightened anxiety.

Teacher, I extend my hand in a gesture of solidarity and support. I recognize that you are experiencing a range of intense emotions, including anxiety, sadness, anger, and a sense of being adrift. It's a challenging situation, and I empathize with your frustration.

First and foremost, it is imperative that educators acknowledge the absence of substantiated evidence indicating that fortune tellers possess the capacity to predict the fate of others. If such abilities were genuinely at their disposal, it is likely that the state would have extended invitations to them to serve in roles where their expertise would be duly recognized. Consequently, fortune tellers enjoy a greater degree of popularity among the general public, largely due to their adeptness in interpreting human expressions. To be more precise,

Fortune tellers possess advanced psychological abilities that exceed those of the average person. They can discern individuals' desires, identify their vulnerabilities, and understand their fears. In essence, fortune tellers are highly skilled psychological consultants.

I do not intend to disparage fortune tellers. I hold them in high regard because they possess an exceptional ability to understand another person's thoughts. Additionally, a fundamental understanding of geomancy can be beneficial. The most effective approach involves identifying and addressing underlying fears and concerns through creative means. This is a crucial aspect of their profession, and it is understandable why they excel in it.

Secondly, I recommend studying the life of an ancient ancestor, Yuan Liaofan. When he was young, he met a fortune-teller named Kong, who made numerous accurate predictions about his future. Yuan trusted Kong until the last prediction, which stated that he would die at 53 without ever having a son.

After listening to him, Mr. Lian was also very discouraged. He was sad to know the ending, but after some reflection, he met a high monk, Yun Gu Chan Shi. After receiving advice, he engaged in positive actions and learned that one can influence their own destiny. By cultivating goodness, one can naturally receive blessings.

He woke up and realized that instead of living the rest of his life in a daze, he would rather live a meaningful life so that he would have no regrets. He set himself the goal of doing 3,000 good deeds and studying hard. He achieved this goal and became a different person, sincerely completing the 3,000 good deeds. He also became a magistrate because his heart was very pure and full of positive energy. He helped the people and was highly praised. He also won the first place in the imperial examinations, which was considered the third place in Mr. Kong's ranking. He later won the highest rank in the imperial examinations. He had a son and a grandson, and he also wrote the very famous "Liao Fan Four Lessons" for future generations to learn and appreciate. His son and grandson were as outstanding as he was. He lived a glorious life until his late seventies, which was considered a long life in ancient times, equivalent to a centenarian nowadays.

If Mr. Liao Fan had accepted Mr. Kong's assertions, he would have been unable to resist the influence of his words and would have ultimately succumbed to a life of decadence, depression, and the conclusion of his life path. However, he was able to overcome this fate due to his resilience and determination. He refused to accept the limitations imposed by Mr. Kong and took action to challenge the status quo, ultimately proving the efficacy of self-determination. This example illustrates the significant impact that mental conditioning can have on an individual's trajectory.

I hope you find this information useful.

Dear Sir/Madam, From your description, it appears that you are experiencing depressive emotions. In order to determine whether this is depression, it would be advisable to seek a professional diagnosis from a qualified psychiatrist in a hospital setting. Kind regards, [Name]

Furthermore, I would like to reassure you that I empathize with your situation. It is understandable that you are experiencing distress and guilt due to the emotional outburst of your parents and the inability to reveal your romantic relationship to them. This demonstrates your admirable qualities as a kind, filial, and affectionate individual.

I have friends who identify as gay, and I have a good relationship with them. I am not gay myself.

I would like to state that I have an understanding of same-sex relationships and am able to accept them.

I empathize with your parents' perspective, as I am also the mother of a 20-year-old daughter. A colleague recently inquired about my stance on homosexuality. I responded that I do not view it as a significant issue. I respect the autonomy of individuals to make their own choices.

However, when my colleague persisted with the question, "If one day you were to discover that your daughter identified as gay, would you still be able to accept her?"

To be frank, I was unsure how to respond. I lacked the confidence to provide a definitive answer. The only certainty I had was that I could accept it personally.

However, there are other considerations. What about the rest of the family? What about friends?

What about the neighbors? What about the many other people?

It was evident that they would not be able to accept it.

Can I tolerate the whispers, insinuating inquiries, and even the blatant mockery, disdain, and contempt on a daily basis in the face of their refusal to accept it? It is a very challenging situation.

In addition, I am unable to accept the fact that my daughter is suffering both physically and mentally in this environment. How can I provide her with the necessary support to cope with her distress?

I believe your parents share the same concerns as I do. They are anxious about your well-being and are reluctant to see you subjected to the ridicule and taunting of strangers as a result of this situation.

You empathize with your parents, yet you are also a couple in your own right. This duality has led to feelings of depression, is that correct?

I would like to take this opportunity to reassure you that both your emotions and those of your parents are normal and reasonable.

Perhaps your most urgent objective is to implement a change in the situation as soon as possible.

My advice is to first accept the situation. This does not mean that you should ignore your negative emotions. Instead, you should allow the situation to exist while you focus on more important tasks.

This is an example of sincere communication.

Perhaps you will assert that your parents are not willing to communicate and never allow you the opportunity to explain. In that case, would you be willing to give them some time, allow them to calm down, and wait for them patiently?

From your inquiry, I am unclear as to whether you have recognized since childhood that your orientation differs from that of others, or whether you have experienced emotional distress at the hands of the opposite sex following your maturation, which may have led to the dissolution of your four-year relationship.

I am unaware of the typical dynamics of your relationship with your parents and the extent to which you are able to engage in equal communication.

Regardless of your response, one thing is clear: your current distress, confusion, and depression are likely the result of your desire to avoid causing pain to those you care about.

For the benefit of yourself and those you love, it would be prudent to allow time for reflection, communication, and honesty.

You have chosen to remain in this relationship and not to abandon it. This indicates that you are a courageous, persistent, and opinionated individual. Therefore, are you willing to set aside your previous thoughts, summon the same courage and sincerity, and, at the same time, with a grateful heart, engage in an open and honest heart-to-heart conversation with your parents? Please inform them about your inner journey.

While the ultimate outcome is uncertain, I am confident that a candid dialogue will yield insights that can alleviate your current depressive state.

Do you wish to believe in yourself? Are you willing to give it a try?

Dear questioner, I've read your message and I'm here to help! It seems that this year happens to be your year of the zodiac, which is a very special and exciting time. You went to a anxiety/what-if-you-overhear-a-fortune-teller-say-your-life-expectancy-and-feel-very-helpless-15641.html" target="_blank">fortune teller at the suggestion of a friend, who said that although you would have minor troubles this year, he would help you resolve them. However, when he casually mentioned that your lifespan would be 72 years old, you became anxious. I can understand why you would feel this way, but now that you know, you feel a sense of powerlessness.

I totally get it. When the fortune teller tells you your life expectancy, it's only natural to wonder why it has to be at that age. You might even feel like your life is not long enough. When you see that everyone around you is living to be 80 or 90 years old, and you're only in your 70s, it can feel a bit unfair. These thoughts and feelings are totally normal. Most of us hope that we can live a long life.

But let's get back to reality. The length of our lives is not something we can control, and it's not something fortune tellers can control either. Is what he says always right? Don't you ever have doubts in your heart?

Can he tell the future with 100% accuracy? Can he tell you the exact time of your death just by asking?

So, more often than not, we also need to think and see things objectively.

So, for anxious folks like you, my advice is:

First, when we feel anxious, it's really important to let ourselves relax and calm our emotions. When we're feeling more stable, we can then think about the problem. As you ask in your question, about life expectancy, when we calm down and think about it, can the fortune teller be sure?

He can predict the unknown for such a long time. As I mentioned before, the secrets of heaven cannot be revealed, so I'm not sure if we can say things like that.

Furthermore, I think we should believe more in science. Activities like fortune-telling, which are also feudal superstitions, are actually not that credible, since they're not supported by scientific evidence. So I think we should face reality and live in the present.

Secondly, if there are issues in our lives or at work, it's always a good idea to try and find a solution ourselves rather than relying on friends or fortune tellers. After all, if we don't have to solve our own problems, who will?

Finally, don't worry too much about the year you were born. Life and work are full of ups and downs. Nobody can always go smoothly, and nobody can avoid difficulties. We all have more difficult or disappointing times. But you know what? It's better to face these things bravely and find a way to solve them.

I just want to suggest that maybe you don't believe in these old, superstitious words from the feudal era. I think science is a much more reliable thing.

Hello, I'm a heart coach. I'll listen to you.

I understand how you feel. The fortune-teller said you would have problems and die at 72. This has made you worry.

Fortune tellers' words are like spells. They make you panic and feel bad.

Breathe. When you're calm, you're wise. Let's look at the problem.

We are hypnotized every day.

Think of a pink elephant. Is that what you're thinking of? This is hypnosis.

In life, hypnosis is common. You know what a product is just by seeing its logo.

Hypnosis in advertising can make brands more memorable.

During a child's growth process, comments from parents can influence how a child develops.

Hypnosis helps us live better lives, understand ourselves better, and reach our potential.

Hypnosis is a state of deep relaxation and concentration. When a person is relaxed, their subconscious mind absorbs suggestions that are beneficial to them.

Hypnosis is not about controlling the mind. The person being hypnotized can refuse to answer questions or complete instructions.

If you don't believe the fortune teller, his "hypnosis" won't work. You can ignore what he says.

To deal with your worries and fears about the future, live in the present. Take action to relieve tension, such as paying attention to your breathing, singing, writing, or drawing. Practice meditation too.

2. Let's look at fortune-telling and destiny.

Sometimes, we think fortune-telling is accurate because it is influenced by a person's past. The fortune-teller uses the person's past as a basis for the future.

Sometimes the calculations are inaccurate because the person has changed their life.

Many people don't experience jet lag. It's just getting used to a new country's rhythm.

Habit is also called "karma."

New strength lets the body break old habits. This is the power of a vow.

May power: the power of good wishes.

Do something to help you reach your goal.

To change your destiny, you need:

1. Know your patterns.

2. Make a wish for your life.

3. Learn to become wiser.

The Four Lessons of Liufan is the best example of changing destiny. I also recommend you watch The Bucket List.

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Good evening. My name is Emma, and I am a teacher.

From your written account, it is evident that you are experiencing a sense of distress and unease. The pronouncement by the fortune teller that you will only live to the age of 72 has instilled a pervasive feeling of helplessness within you.

It is presumed that you are aware that fortune-telling is merely a form of entertainment prior to one's demise. Irrespective of the fortune-teller's proficiency in interpreting your fortune, if you are inclined to accept it at face value, you have already forfeited any potential for control.

However, it is evident from another perspective that you are experiencing a considerable degree of anxiety regarding the prospect of living to the age of 72.

Indeed, the latest age indicators suggest that 72 is merely late middle age. As long as one is healthy, there is no inherent problem in remaining active and fully enjoying life at this age. We are the same age, and I am even contemplating taking up Latin dance at 70.

It is likely that you are concerned about departing from this world prematurely. If I were in your position, I would also have similar reservations.

The world is a vast and diverse entity, and I have yet to fully explore its vast expanse.

If one desires to see more of the world, it is advisable to commence immediate action. This entails maintaining a healthy diet, ensuring sufficient rest, engaging in moderate exercise, maintaining a healthy weight, and developing hobbies.

The fortune teller's pronouncements are merely his personal opinions. Does our destiny lie in the hands of a fortune teller? The answer is no; our destiny is in our own hands. Even if we desire to alter the course of our fortunes, the decision is ours to make.

Therefore, it is imperative to embrace the present and optimize each day. Despite the inevitability of departure from this world, it is possible to do so with contentment, bidding it farewell.

The world and love embrace you.

As the best friend of a mystic master, I'd love to share my thoughts with you.

Hello, question owner! I'm Jiang Meiqin, a psychological counselor.

I'm not sure about the level of the local fortune teller the questioner went to, but as far as I know, many of them only know a little about it. Most of them make a living by telling fortunes, which is totally fine! We're all just trying to make a living, after all. Even if the person is highly qualified, they can't predict everything correctly. As we learned in school, things develop and change; they're not static. There are many unknown factors, such as the changes in the world, people's hearts, and the strength of one's thoughts.

So, no matter what he says, just take it as a reference and don't get too caught up in it, OK?

The Master said something really important: no matter what difficulties we encounter, we must have positive thoughts and righteous energy in our hearts! Having righteous energy can protect us from all evils.

It's so easy to fall into evil when you're caught up in the thought that you can only live to be 72 years old.

I'll use an inappropriate analogy to explain this. It's like many cancer patients. Once the doctor announces that he only has three months to live, some people really don't live past three months, while others live well for more than ten years, and even the cancer disappears. This is the difference between having positive thoughts and having positive energy in the heart.

After all this, I think you've got the picture. The other teachers have given you all the professional advice you need. So, go for it! I'm sure you'll be happy and blessed!

Hello, questioner!

You mentioned that fortune-telling can cause anxiety, and I totally get it! I also have a little bit of a superficial understanding of the Five Elements. I've even used it as an opportunity to help my friends and family resolve their problems. I'd love to share my thoughts with you in case they help!

1. The I Ching and the five elements are a summary of the laws of nature and human life based on our ancestors' insights into the universe through daily life. It is a guide book left for future generations, and it can also be described as big data. Big data is made up of many small data points of specific people and things. For each person, their innate eight characters are the foundation of their destiny, but the actual situation contains a lot of variables and cannot be solidified.

2. Fortune tellers and diviners have different skills and use different methods, like Ziwei Doushu, Qimen, Meihua Yishu, or Daxia Liuren. The overall interpretation and explanation of the methods, as well as the verbal expression, also have a certain degree of subjectivity. It's always a good idea to consider the pros and cons as appropriate!

3. The fortune teller only took one look and told you that there would be a disaster in the coming year. But don't fret! Many people's fortunes hide different noble and lucky gods, which can turn misfortune into good fortune. Some people are born with the Killer Star but are noble and wealthy; some people are restrained but are prosperous and wealthy; some people have the Sheep Blade but have a peaceful marriage; some people are born with a rotten fortune but are wealthy; some people are destined to have no children but have a full house of grandchildren.

Let's take a deep breath and think about this together.

3. Your whole life is not just what other people say it will be. No one is omnipotent like God, and it is even less likely that one sentence will determine the outcome. If you're feeling unsure about whether to believe or not, that's totally normal in the midst of uncertainty.

The fortune teller is also in uncertainty, in variables. At this time, everything is in flux. It's natural to wonder if the fortune he tells is also subject to change.

I'd love to know if you think fate is also open to change.

4. When we're feeling anxious and restless, it's important to take a step back and connect with our inner selves. If we can find peace within, it'll naturally bring a sense of calm to our external environment. Whether you believe in science or in God, the ultimate goal is to find peace of mind. So, what helps you feel at peace?

If it makes you feel good, go for it!

I know it can be tough, but try to do as little of these things as possible.

Just my two cents, but I hope it helps! I wish you the best of luck at 6 o'clock.

Hello, landlord!

It's understandable that the host feels anxious. We all feel anxious about the future.

The host is too nervous and needs to relax.

Most of us are in our own emotional prisons.

If we hold ourselves back, we can't escape.

Free yourself from anxiety and find freedom.

We'll all die eventually. Does the host agree?

If the host thought he could live to 80+, he'd be anxious about the fortune teller's prediction.

If the host thought he could live to 70, the fortune teller added two years.

You'll be happier if you think about it. It's like you've gained two years!

Our attitude affects our state of mind.

What will you choose?

Do you choose to be anxious or not?

The host is 48 this year, and there are 24 years left until the fortune-teller's 72!

I feel fear and anxiety when I see this number. It's terrifying.

But if I've lived in anxiety for 24 years, is it worth it?

If there are still unfulfilled wishes or dreams, do you still have the courage to fulfill them?

Do what you want, live fully, and anxiety will go away.

You'll be enthusiastic about life in the present, at peace, and find inner balance.

No matter what, we'll always have regrets. So don't leave any regrets in this life.

Seize the moment, don't regret.

Love everyone and everything, go all out, and you'll be less anxious.

I wish the host a happy life!

I'm Warm June, and I love you!

Hello. You listened to the anxiety/what-if-you-overhear-a-fortune-teller-say-your-life-expectancy-and-feel-very-helpless-15641.html" target="_blank">fortune teller and believe you will live to be 72. You feel anxious, helpless, and regretful. You don't know what to do. I understand.

People who are prone to anxiety are sensitive and pay close attention to details. This makes it easy for them to feel nervous and anxious.

I don't know if you've seen a doctor about your anxiety. It can be treated with therapy. Relaxation and mindfulness can help.

I've also had my fortune told. It helps me worry less. But the fortune teller never tells me how long I'll live.

Generally, believe half of what fortune-tellers say because it's not 100% accurate. You can believe some of it, but don't believe everything.

He said you'll have minor troubles this year. Who doesn't have minor troubles every year? Even if he doesn't say you'll have minor troubles, you will still have a lot of troubles. This conclusion is not professional. Think back and see if what he said applies to most people. Is this judgment a criterion for specificity for you?

A fortune teller gives hope. Fortune telling helps you relax and face life better. Numerology is related to psychology.

There isn't much scientific evidence, so don't pay too much attention.

I hope you can focus on the present, respect your feelings, and live each day to the fullest. No matter how old you are, you will have no regrets. Good luck!

Good day, question asker.

One of the respondents has already provided an answer, and I would be pleased to supplement it with a few additional points.

It is my hope that this can assuage your feelings of helplessness and provide some inspiration.

1. Identify and acknowledge one's regrets.

Regret is the most common human emotion.

Regret is the most common human emotion.

It is analogous to consulting a fortune teller and merely desiring to traverse the year without incident, only to be casually informed of one's life expectancy.

Such actions ultimately result in feelings of discontent and unhappiness.

One might also consider how information is selected.

To illustrate, some individuals selectively recall information that aligns with their interests while disregarding information that may be less advantageous.

To illustrate, some individuals will invariably retain information that is advantageous to them while disregarding data that is distressing.

However, some individuals are only accustomed to processing information that elicits a negative emotional response.

The question is not merely whether one should choose one option over another, but rather which option will prove more beneficial and result in greater comfort.

For example, individuals who direct their attention to negative information may exhibit heightened caution, enabling them to circumvent a greater number of potential hazards.

To illustrate, if one were to consult a fortune teller and receive the prediction, "This year you will have minor troubles, but he can help me resolve them," would that not provide a sense of reassurance?

Conversely, discussions of life expectancy can evoke feelings of unease, as though it were a countdown.

Indeed, the information that is implied to be beneficial to us has been overlooked.

If one is able to make a choice, there is no need to be concerned about one's safety for a period exceeding 20 years.

He embraced a lifestyle of maximal engagement with life's experiences.

Conversely, my personal perspective on fortune-telling is that individuals tend to retain information that is perceived as beneficial and disregard information that is not.

This is analogous to the narrative of Yuan Liaofan as presented in the Four Lessons of Yuan Liaofan.

A high-level individual made numerous predictions about him, including his success in the imperial examinations, which were subsequently validated.

The master stated that the subject would only live to the age of 53 and would have no children.

He had no further aspirations until another master posited that destiny could be shaped by one's own actions.

Subsequently, he regained consciousness.

Subsequently, he not only had children but also lived for a period exceeding 20 years beyond the lifespan predicted by the master.

It is therefore evident that the manner in which one perceives and understands the information provided by a fortune teller is of greater consequence than the information itself.

2. Attempt to accommodate anxiety.

Anxiety is concerned with matters that have yet to occur.

Individuals experiencing anxiety often exhibit excessive concern regarding the safety of their loved ones or their own lives, their future, and their destiny.

The consequences of these unwarranted concerns, despite their lack of veracity, can be as detrimental as the distress caused by mere imagination.

It is possible that you are more anxious about your birth year than the average person.

It is unclear whether the anxiety disorder in question has been diagnosed by a medical professional or if it is a self-applied label.

It is a common human experience to experience anxiety. However, it is important to maintain a level of anxiety that does not significantly impact one's life. Complete elimination of anxiety is not necessary.

Similarly, setbacks may occur in the year of an individual's birth, indicating that this is a construct rather than an inherent phenomenon.

In some cases, individuals or groups of people do not consider the concept of their year of birth to be a significant factor in their lives.

It is not necessary to eliminate the concept simply because it exists.

It would be more beneficial to take more effective action.

For example, many people will exhibit increased caution during their zodiac year, engage in less risky behavior, and display greater emotional control. This approach can be an effective means of coping with such concerns.

The same rationale can be applied to other forms of anxiety.

3. Believe: The power of "believe."

One's perception is contingent upon one's beliefs.

One's beliefs shape one's destiny.

It is analogous to two patients who have undergone the same surgical procedure for the same malignant growth. One of them has the conviction that their body will recuperate, and thus experiences a sense of tranquility.

Another individual is perpetually concerned that their ailment will recur and exhibits paranoid tendencies. Ultimately, their beliefs shape their reality, resulting in disparate outcomes.

One can learn to offer oneself constructive suggestions and to believe in one's aspirations rather than in one's concerns.

"Anxieties are the most detrimental gift; it is preferable to bestow blessings."

In instances of concern, it is advisable to replace such sentiments with those of optimism and positivity.

In the event that one is concerned about the prospect of an inauspicious year, it would be prudent to replace such concerns with more auspicious sentiments.

I extend to you my sincerest wishes for peace and prosperity in the year of your birth.

There is scientific evidence to support the efficacy of positive mental suggestion.

Please disseminate these materials.

Should you be interested, you may wish to peruse The Law of Attraction.

I wish you the best of success!

Good day, topic author. I empathize with your concerns. Let's collaborate on identifying the root cause of your anxiety and develop a solution.

1. Age anxiety

Young people are unfamiliar with the experience of sorrow. They may outwardly appear to be sad, but they are often simply composing new words. The sunset is infinite, but it is only dusk. These two lines of poetry illustrate our disparate perspectives on age. To the emerging teenagers, age is merely a number, and they are unaware of its implications. However, at the age of 48, I suddenly perceive the imminent conclusion of my life. I consistently feel that I have not yet accomplished anything, and how can I be in the second half of my life? This is a sentiment that many individuals share. The questioner does not need to accentuate their age-related concerns. Occasionally, we must learn to disregard our age and its perceived limitations. What constrains us is not our age, but our willingness to explore and maintain a curious mind.

2. It is important to be reasonably accepting of setbacks in life, as they are an inevitable part of the human experience.

It is not possible to live a carefree life until one's demise. All individuals experience fluctuations in their circumstances. It is not realistic to expect to remain in a state of constant good fortune or adversity. The perceived misfortune associated with one's birth year does not guarantee that such challenges will never resurface. The fortune teller's insights can serve as a cautionary reminder of the potential risks. There is no need to be overly concerned. Yi Xue is a complex subject. It is unclear how much he is aware of.

3. Investigate the significance, depth, and scope of life, beyond its mere duration.

If circumstances permitted you to live for a thousand years in a closed world, would you be willing to do so? Would you find this length of time meaningful?

Rather than focusing on the limited time remaining, it is more beneficial to consider how to enhance the remaining years and expand the depth and breadth of your life. This shift in perspective can help alleviate concerns about the limited time frame. Life is valuable in the act of continuous creation.

4. Adopting an appropriate attitude towards the issues of life development and life and death.

From a developmental psychology perspective, an individual's entire life can be viewed as a lifelong development project. The tasks associated with middle age include raising the next generation, maintaining a positive relationship with one's spouse, and making a valuable contribution to society. This is precisely the current developmental task at hand. This is the age when multiple roles and responsibilities often intersect and conflict the most severely. By correctly understanding the developmental tasks associated with this stage of life, individuals can reduce anxiety about the unknown and uncertain.

The attainment of old age does not signify the conclusion of one's journey. The objective at this stage is to become wiser and to view life and death in a dialectical manner. This is part of the collective inheritance of human wisdom. Otherwise, why is it said that having an elderly person in the family is like having a treasure? The experience and wisdom of the elderly are invaluable. By considering the meaning of your life in a dialectical manner, you will not be overly anxious about the length of your life.

5. Life is a journey of self-improvement. Further insight can be gained into how the sages viewed fortune-telling and how they refuted the conclusions of fortune-tellers.

Fortune-telling is also a traditional academic discipline that has existed in every era. Life is a practice that cultivates wisdom, character, and moral conduct. I suggest that the questioner read "The Four Lessons of Liao Fan" to gain insight into how Mr. Liao Fan viewed fortune-telling and how he refuted the conclusions of the fortune-teller. Book knowledge can provide answers and alleviate anxieties about adversity and age.

I hope my response will assist the questioner in moving beyond this pattern. Best regards.

Hello, I'm Mo. Thanks for your question.

You feel anxious, but you still have a lot you want to do. You want to live longer. You are living a happy life and want to enjoy it to the fullest. When you hear the prediction about your life expectancy, you are disappointed and tortured at the same time. You feel you can live a long life, such as over 90 years old or even a hundred years old. You are anxious, worried, and afraid of the "prediction."

I'm going to share my thoughts with you.

1. The fortune teller is right.

Let's be real, there's no way anyone can accurately calculate a person's life expectancy. Scientists and doctors can't do it, and neither can fortune tellers. So, what do they base their calculations on?

Face reading? First, let's consider what the fortune teller said: "Is it accurate?" It could simply be a number he randomly came up with based on his experience.

There's no need to be anxious. Question what he says, whether it's right or wrong. It makes you feel uncomfortable. He said it, and we have this idea and concept. I've felt this way before. I know I can do it. Hearing the negative response, even if I don't believe it, makes me feel depressed and suppressed.

2. Maintaining good health depends on psychological and physical adjustment.

If you want to live a long life, you need to exercise, adjust your state of mind, stay calm and stable, pay attention to your diet and rest. The doctor's words about longevity are accurate. If you usually pay attention to health preservation and adjust yourself, you will be healthy. You can see short videos of many 70- and 80-year-olds who still work out and are still in good shape, and they can live a long time. You are the master of your own body, and you can know how you feel by yourself.

3. We must reduce anxiety.

I am here to tell you that what doesn't work never works, but what works works. If I say you can live a long life, you can take it to the bank. All you have to do is listen to good things, believe in good things, and believe in me. I can assure you that this will allay your anxiety. So, don't believe him. You can live a long life. Believe in me. To be honest, I don't believe in fortune tellers. I think that going to a fortune teller may conflict with your thoughts. I am a person who believes that my destiny is in my own hands. I believe that as long as I accumulate good deeds and do more good deeds, I will have good blessings. So as long as we do good deeds, say good things, and have good intentions, we can also change our fate.

I am Miao Miao, and I wish you a long and healthy life. The world and I love you.

The one thing we can count on in life is change. Yesterday is history, and tomorrow is a mystery.

The only thing we can control is today. Our destiny isn't fixed by fortune tellers' words.

Techniques like fortune-telling, astrology, and tarot cards tap into your inner self through the Barnum effect. They offer a general description of your situation based on the info you provide and how you express yourself.

The Barnum effect is when people believe that a general description of personality accurately reflects their own. When people use common, vague, and broad adjectives to describe someone, they tend to accept the description and believe it applies to them. As the famous circus performer Schumann Barnum said in his act, he's so popular because his show has elements that everyone likes, so he "makes everyone fall for it every minute."

In the 1950s, psychologist Paul Mil named Fowler's experiment results the "Barnum effect" after the famous American circus artist Phineas Taylor Barnum. The Barnum effect explains why many people think fortune tellers are "very accurate" after consulting them. This is because those who seek help from fortune tellers are susceptible to suggestion themselves. In fact, fortune tellers say similar things to everyone. They make generalizations and descriptions in a broad sense.

And in our lives, there's always a desire to self-destruct and prove something. Whether it's to prove that the other person is right or wrong.

If we look closely enough, we'll always find words that match this description. We have to spread our own responsibilities to the role of fortune teller because we haven't experienced the ups and downs of life. We don't know what it means to be a fortune teller.

At the end of the day, though, our lives are in our own hands and depend on our decisions. We're responsible for the choices we make.

When we stand at a crossroads and look back on our lives, we realize that the events in our lives are the result of a series of accumulated events. There's more to it than just a superficial cause. Coincidence and necessity are always a complementary pair that constantly influence our lives.

If it weren't for fate, we'd all be long gone by now. We come into this world crying and leave it crying too.

There are only a few things we can be sure of in life, like our birth or our death. There are lots of other things that we just don't know. Our lives are long and short.

The only thing we can control is the present moment, and it is only our present self that will affect our future lives. Worrying and fear won't solve any problems.

If we look back on the first half of our lives, we can see whether our life path was unpredictable, and whether the same will be true in the future.