What if you really want to escape and feel embarrassed and anxious at school?

Hello, dear.

If you feel a strange fear when you think about going to school, it may be a stress reaction to a stressor. Could I ask you to think about any unhappy things you may have encountered in the past in relation to school?

If you feel constrained and are considering leaving this school, it might be helpful to communicate your thoughts to your parents. As a mother myself, I believe that academic achievement and happiness are not mutually exclusive. I would choose to make my child happy if I had to choose between the two. I imagine your parents would do the same.

Social phobia is a serious issue that can cause feelings of nervousness when talking to people. This can be linked to a lack of self-confidence, which in turn may be caused by a lack of security.

This may be related to the family environment when you were a child, and it may not be something that can be changed. If you cannot find security from the outside world, you might consider starting with yourself. For example, you may find that loving yourself is a very good way to cultivate a sense of security.

If I might suggest a way to love yourself, it would be to compliment yourself in the mirror every day and reward yourself for achieving a small goal.

It might be helpful to get moving. Many people find that when they move, their energy levels rise.

It seems reasonable to suggest that when self-confidence rises, one can deal with others more easily.

It could be said that always feeling that other people are looking at you means that you care about what other people think and want to maintain a harmonious relationship with others. This could be linked to developing self-confidence.

A girl who is confident in herself is able to think for herself and make her own decisions, even if it means going her own way and letting others talk.

I wish you the best of luck and hope that you find success, confidence, and vitality in your endeavors. My name is Chen Jia, and I extend my sincerest regards to you.

Hello, classmate! I can see the confusion you are facing right now, and I give you a big, warm hug!

I absolutely believe you can't have a fear of going to school for no reason!

I noticed something really interesting. You said you felt like you were in prison at school and really wanted to escape.

So something really bad happened to you at school?

For example, even though your skirt was not too short, the teacher said it was and that you were behaving like a bad girl; you were asked to stand in the corner.

Or you had to wear socks of a certain length, otherwise you would be punished by the school prefects by being made to stand in the corridor.

I don't recommend labeling yourself as socially anxious.

You get nervous when talking to people and blush, which is totally normal! It may be because you had a bad experience at school before, but you're going to be just fine!

For example, you might have been laughed at by your teachers and classmates when giving a speech in public.

It's totally possible that you have some bad memories of school.

It's a bit like going to school has caused you a certain degree of psychological trauma.

If this is the case, I highly recommend you seek help from the school psychologist at your high school!

The school counselor is there to help! And the best part is that her services are free of charge.

If you don't deal with it, you may never be able to face going back to school. But you can!

Dealing with the psychological trauma that the school has caused you is a fantastic solution! It's both symptomatic and radical.

If there isn't a school counselor, no problem! You can also get help from a professional counselor.

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I'm sure you'll find an effective solution to the problem you're facing soon!

That's all I can think of right now, but I'm excited to see what the future holds!

I really hope my answers are helpful and inspiring! I'm the answer! Study hard every day!

Here at Yixinli, we love you so much that we want to share our love with the whole wide world! Best wishes!

Hello there!

Take a deep breath and try to understand your inner fears and anxieties. Give yourself a big hug and try to relax a little.

1. Take some time to think about what's making you feel afraid.

From what you've told me, it seems like social anxiety might be the reason you're afraid to go to school. It's totally normal to feel anxious or nervous about going to school sometimes! Try to think about what you're feeling in your heart. Do you feel anxious, restless, tense, or like you're blaming yourself or feeling guilty?

It's totally normal to feel nervous around new people or in new situations. We all get that way sometimes! But social phobias can have different causes. They might run in your family, or they might be related to your upbringing. Maybe you had a rough start in life, or maybe your family wasn't very stable. Or maybe you had a tough time at school, or with your classmates or teachers. It could even be that you were bullied or struggled to do well in school for whatever reason.

It's totally normal to feel like the school is far away from home and that you don't have free access to it. But I truly believe that this isn't the real reason for your fear. To solve this problem, you just need to find the reason yourself so that you can assess the extent of your problem and receive targeted psychological treatment or adjustment.

2. Don't be afraid to ask your parents or other trusted adults for help.

You can also reach out to your school psychologist or a professional counselor. They're there to help you find the root of your problem and provide you with the support and guidance you need.

Parents or caregivers are an important social support system. When you encounter difficulties, it's so important to remember to seek help. They're there for you, and their care, companionship, and support are very important to you.

You've got this! It's time to conquer your shame. You're not to blame for the current situation. You haven't done anything wrong, so don't feel guilty. You're not alone in this. Your parents and professionals are here to help. They'll guide you to a solution. You've got this!

3. Build your confidence and seek treatment or adjustment. You've got this!

I'm so proud of you for insisting on going to school despite your fear. It's so admirable that you have a strong desire to seek help. These are all great things, and I applaud you!

Luckily, there are lots of great techniques in psychiatry and psychological counseling that can help people with social phobias. As long as you actively seek help and cooperate, and use methods such as psychological counseling with the help of professionals to improve your fear, you will surely be able to slowly adapt to school life and be yourself in school with confidence.

I'm sure you'll be able to slowly adapt to school life and be yourself in school with the right methods to improve your fear.

I really hope Hongyu's reply helps you! Thanks so much for your question!

My name is Gu Yi. I am a modest and self-effacing individual who is consistent in my approach.

Embracing self-acceptance is the foundation for achieving positive outcomes.

Dear Questioner, From your description, it is evident that you are not an isolated individual. You have a multitude of thoughts and demands within your heart. However, it is important to recognize that even we ourselves have not fully explored our hearts. The fear of socializing is caused by numerous factors, which also impedes our ability to be our most authentic selves. Best regards, [Name]

Your social anxiety and your desire to avoid school are negatively impacting your daily life. You are unable to identify a suitable group or environment at school, and you are striving to excel academically but find it challenging to do so without motivation. Our minds tend to dwell on imagined problems, making it difficult for us to relax and complete tasks effectively.

It may appear that you lack a sense of belonging, yet you yearn to be part of a group. You simply refrain from expressing your authentic self. Dear OP, I am unaware of your personal history and the specific reasons behind your apprehension towards others. However, it is essential to recognize that your life is your own. Regardless of our individual identities, it is crucial to understand ourselves and remain true to our values.

Please accept this advice in the spirit in which it is offered.

The love and friendship of our student days was characterized by a purity and passion that is often absent in later stages of life. Disagreements over trivial matters and prolonged reflection on remarks or looks were common occurrences. This was a defining aspect of our personalities at that time. Our hearts were constantly growing, and our experiences were constantly enriching. For this reason, we should accept ourselves as we are.

Your social phobia is likely the result of a traumatic experience. It is therefore important to gain an accurate understanding of your past traumatic experiences. The past is gone, and the future is what matters most. As long as you are motivated to change, you can make a difference. To this end, you should have a positive outlook on life, move on from the past, and focus on the future.

As you noted in your description, the majority of individuals are primarily concerned with their own interests and opinions, which often lack substance. Therefore, the question of whether others will assess our performance is relatively straightforward. To improve our well-being, we must prioritize living in accordance with our own thoughts, allowing ourselves to relax and fully engage in activities that enhance our knowledge, skills, or abilities. This approach can facilitate personal growth and healing.

Best regards,

Dear questioner, My name is Yang Yiqing, and I am a listener on the Yi Xinli platform.

I am very happy to have the opportunity to talk with you. I hope that I can provide some warm company and assistance.

From your description, I can see a girl who is shy and cautious, but also very smart and motivated. You understand your own problems, which is an important first step. Instead of letting them get in the way, you have come here to ask questions, which shows your intelligence and desire to improve. First of all, give yourself a pat on the back for your courage to ask questions.

If I may, I would like to suggest that we take a look at your current problems together and see if we can find a solution for you.

1. Gain a deeper understanding of your fear.

I wonder if I might ask why that is? I think you may have considered this question on more than one occasion. Perhaps you could think of a few reasons?

It's possible that you've had some challenging experiences at school in the past, and that your parents and teachers may not have handled them as effectively as they could have. This could have led to feelings of unease and apprehension in your school environment, which in turn might have contributed to the development of social phobia.

I wonder if you have friends at school. It might be helpful to have one or two friends at school with whom you could talk.

If not, it might be helpful to consider why. Do you find yourself distancing yourself from others?

Could it be that you're overly sensitive about boundaries? Have you ever had a disagreement with a friend?

It might also be helpful to consider how your parents interact with their friends and how this might influence your own relationships. It's important to remember that your parents may not have had the same social skills you have now, so it's possible that you've learned how to navigate social situations in a way that feels comfortable for you.

In short, you might consider using that cautious self as a mirror. Perhaps it would be helpful to stand on the other side of the mirror and look at yourself, at your fears, your anxieties, and what you are actually worried about and afraid of.

I would like to suggest the book The Courage to Be Disliked. In the book, the protagonist of one of the stories seems to have some similarities to you. You might find it helpful to read it when you have time, as it may bring you some enlightenment and inspiration.

If you are able to recognize the pain you once felt, you may be on the path to accepting the hidden inner child in your heart.

2. Consider accepting your fears

When you encounter fear, it's important to remember that it's a normal human emotion, and everyone reacts to it differently. There's no need to worry or feel anxious about your fears.

Have you ever considered the possibility that fear has played a role in shaping your character and becoming a part of who you are? It's possible that if you no longer fear, you might not be as true to yourself as you could be.

Fear is not all disadvantageous. This kind of personality can help you avoid many of the difficulties that can arise in interpersonal relationships, and it can also help you focus on doing the things you want to do.

It might be helpful to accept your fears, imperfections, and true self. Allowing yourself to feel fear and to be less "all over the place" could be beneficial. Perhaps it would be nice to be a quiet, beautiful girl.

3. Consider making some changes to yourself, whether it's your mentality or your behavior.

I believe that changing oneself is one of the most important topics in life, including mentality and behavior.

Embracing a new mindset is a process that requires patience and persistence. It's not always straightforward, but with perseverance, you can achieve a state of clarity and confidence. Life is short, so it's important to find joy in the journey.

If I might suggest, changing your behavior could entail doing something slightly challenging, such as expressing your opinion to a classmate or simply offering to help a classmate. In the process, it might be helpful to take a deep breath, relax, and feel your changes and mindset. You might consider challenging yourself to step out of your comfort zone and see if you can speak as naturally and fluently as others.

By making changes to yourself, you can gain a better understanding of your strengths and weaknesses, and work towards becoming more open.

I hope this finds you well.

Please do not hesitate to contact me if you have any questions or would like to discuss something further. I am always happy to help!

Dear

Reading your description, I really want to give you a hug because I can feel the isolation and burden in your words. The core of what you want to adjust now is how to make yourself feel comfortable doing things.

Life seems to have so many demands and goals that you feel like you can't catch your breath. But if you look past the learning-a-language-or-feeling-inadequate-despite-having-the-will-13770.html" target="_blank">obstacles, you'll see that the core is desire. The reason you feel so overwhelmed is because you're looking at it from the outside, like a balloon that's been blown up. You want to grab it, but you don't know where to start. But if you knew what the balloon looked like at the beginning or if you added a long string to the balloon's mouth, you could set it up exactly the way you want.

The current issues that are confusing can be divided into two categories: learning and getting along with classmates. Let's take a closer look at each one to see what we can do to make things easier.

For students, learning takes up more than 70% of their time every day, especially for high school students. At this point, it's probably not useful to talk about the benefits of learning or the disadvantages of not learning. I think you understand the importance of learning very deeply. It's probably because you understand that you are afraid that what you do will not achieve the final result, so you are afraid and don't want to go to school, wanting to escape.

There are different levels to learning, some of which are more tangible than others. Anything that is reflected in a score or assessment result can be defined as tangible learning. This kind of learning represents the past or a solidified result.

Invisible learning is about internalizing knowledge and expressing it through our thinking, speech, and behavior. It's subtle but will benefit us for life. In high school, because of the pressure to pursue higher education, we need tangible learning outcomes. This kind of screening can help us get a good start when entering society and access more help, but it's not guaranteed.

There are lots of ways to achieve your goals, not just through learning. After all, there are many roads leading to Rome, but we don't necessarily know them. The college entrance exam is just one way that our parents and people around them have found to succeed, which is why it's so important.

When we really enter the real world, we'll see that intangible learning, or soft power, is what'll help us navigate society with ease and ensure our well-being. You can only move forward by doing things, and just imagining or reminiscing in your head is just a pipe dream.

Some things are only understood with hindsight, which is why we tend to learn from those who have succeeded or are ahead of us.

When you look back on school in middle age, it's not just about exams or homework. It's about the years you spent there, full of youthful drama, laughter, and sometimes annoyance. It's a place where you meet the largest number of people your age. You're both the star and the supporting actor in your own story, acting out the real youth idol drama together on campus.

My dear, if you miss out on such a great time in your school life, it would be a shame. Just thinking about it will really inspire you to go to school, because the reasons for not missing school are so good.

It's not uncommon to feel a bit nervous when you're around your classmates and have to think a few times before speaking. When you care a lot about your image or want to impress someone you care about, your attention to detail will make you pay attention to your every move.

This level is just right. If you overdo it, take a step back and don't be nervous. Remind yourself that it's okay to do your best.

The truth is, the real, relaxed you is great. Think about it: the only people who can go to the bathroom holding hands are best friends. Those little princesses with gold frills or otherworldly fairies, we just stay away from them. Just be yourself.