What is the matter with people who have good job opportunities but are afraid to go for them?

Good morning. Given the challenging job market, a highly talented individual has received an offer, but is uncertain about their next steps.

The work you will be doing at this new company is in line with your interests and aligns with your field of study. The salary is also competitive. However, the lack of a training mechanism may affect your confidence in your ability to perform the job.

If the company has a training program in place, you may wish to consider working for them.

In the absence of training, do you feel that you lack the requisite skills to perform the job?

If you are truly incompetent, how would you feel? Would you feel terrible and at a loss?

If you are unable to perform the required tasks, can you attribute this to a lack of training?

I suspect that you may have a self-critical voice in your head that makes you feel inadequate, which in turn makes you feel unable to recover from setbacks. Is that right?

I believe this is an issue you need to address. You may wish to consider maintaining the mindset that you are already capable of meeting the requirements.

It is unlikely that you will be able to take the lead immediately in a new environment and role. With time and experience, your skills will develop and you will become more proficient in your role. This is a common occurrence in the workplace.

If there is a task you are unable to complete, you should inform your supervisor that you are new to the role and require a few months to become familiar with it.

I'm unsure if that is the case. Would you be so kind as to confirm? If not, please provide an alternative suggestion.

I would like to extend my congratulations to the questioner on graduating and receiving multiple offers simultaneously, which affords the freedom to select the most suitable option.

Each option presents a unique set of advantages and disadvantages, and selecting the optimal choice can be a challenging process.

As it happens, I work in the Internet industry, so I can share my experiences.

When I was recruited, I joined a large company, which is one of the leading companies in the industry. At the time, I had other offers on the table, but this company was local and the work content was similar to the projects I had completed during my studies. I had been with this company during my internship, and many people were familiar with it, so I could get started and adapt quickly. Therefore, I chose this company very rationally.

After officially joining the company, the first two years were a period of significant growth and opportunity. I was able to take on responsibilities and was promptly promoted. However, the business underwent some adjustments, and my personal life also changed. I became a mother and switched jobs, starting from scratch.

It became evident that, despite the recent graduates recruited directly from university may appear to be a natural fit, they often prove to be less effective than those brought in from the market. While the recent graduates often demonstrate superior ability and loyalty, the employees recruited from the market possess valuable experience gained from working in other companies. This experience allows them to lead teams more effectively, as they have a broader perspective gained from working in different models.

I have also identified a challenge. My decision to join a large company during campus recruitment led me to believe that I had secured a stable position. Despite my efforts this year, the stability of the company has not provided sufficient motivation for me to engage in active learning. In the event of layoffs due to an industry downturn, I have not developed the resilience to withstand risks.

Many of my colleagues have started their careers at small companies and subsequently progressed to leadership roles at larger organizations. Some have even transitioned from small companies to larger ones, where they have assumed management responsibilities and seen their compensation double. In addition, some of my classmates have been affected by recent layoffs and are currently seeking new opportunities.

I am not attempting to provide a definitive answer as to whether large companies are preferable.

All options have advantages and disadvantages. The crucial factor is not the initial decision, but the effort made after the decision has been made. This includes dedication, the ability to continue learning, and other long-term considerations. Ultimately, only time will reveal the true potential of any given option.

I recall a time when there were issues in the project process, and during a discussion meeting, I struggled to identify a solution. My husband simply stated, "If we had provided the solution, what would be the point of having you do it?" Initially, I perceived this as a harsh remark, but upon reflection, I recognized its truth. Is the workplace not often a competitive environment? Those who can solve the problem advance.

Let us return to the software development position you are interested in.

There is a group of young developers seated adjacent to your workstation. When a new graduate joins the team, a mentor is assigned to provide guidance on work methods and basic rules, primarily unrelated to the technology itself. These rules are mainly related to the workplace, such as process specifications and limitations. Regarding technology-related professional issues, mentors will typically direct new hires to a code base, GitHub repository, or relevant documentation. If you require further clarification, you can always seek assistance.

In essence, you will be assigned to an independent development task module in a relatively short timeframe. The mentor will typically guide you through the process of writing code, integration, and other related tasks. Typically, there are one or two task modules, after which you will be expected to develop them independently.

You mentioned that one of your preferred options is a software development role, which is similar to your master's thesis topic. However, due to the company's recent inception, there is currently no structured training or mentoring program in place. Additionally, your technical abilities are average, which has made you hesitant to pursue this opportunity.

From the perspective of someone with over ten years of experience in the workplace, there is little opportunity to showcase one's skills in a new company. However, there are benefits to be gained from organizing training content from scattered project documents and developing a comprehensive SOP for newcomers. This not only benefits the individual but also creates a valuable resource for future generations.

Naturally, in order to compile this information, you will undoubtedly have to navigate numerous challenges initially. While doing so, you will gain valuable insights into other individuals and relationships, which is a positive aspect of the process.

Indeed.

Undoubtedly, the challenges are significant.

It is possible to ascertain your preferences in terms of personality traits. For instance, do you seek stability or are you drawn to more challenging work? Are you someone who is capable of learning independently, or do you require guidance from a mentor?

I would like to take this opportunity to remind you that it is not advisable to expect too much from your superior and that you should not underestimate your ability to solve problems.

That concludes today's meeting. I hope you will be able to resolve the issue and make your own decision in due course.

There is no incorrect decision; only the best one. Best of luck!

Dear Young Professional, I recognize that you are facing a challenging decision regarding your career path. Given my limited familiarity with your industry, I will provide some general insights on practical career choices for your consideration.

You have recently graduated from university with a Master's degree in Mechanical Engineering and have gained valuable project experience and academic credentials. These qualifications make you a highly sought-after candidate for high-paying careers.

It is not a given that every company will provide young professionals with the opportunity to work directly in key areas. Given the lack of training and mentoring mechanisms at this new company, coupled with my average technical proficiency, I am reluctant to pursue this opportunity. This is a scenario that may be feasible during the initial stages of a new company's inception. It is, however, a challenging proposition. For an individual with your level of experience and exemplary performance, it could be a viable option. You have expressed concern about the absence of structured training and mentoring programs, along with your own technical capabilities. However, I believe that with a balance of meticulous theoretical and practical training, coupled with a bold approach to problem-solving, you can succeed.

Regarding the decision of whether to join a more established company (with training and experienced staff mentoring junior staff), but with a salary that is only half that of a new company: if you are drawn to the idea of laying a solid foundation rather than innovating and developing new opportunities, and the allure of a high salary, you can also choose to settle down and lay a foundation, and then wait for an opportunity to move on to another job.

However, it is important to consider how long it may take for a more established company to allow you to progress to a more senior role. This is something you will need to think carefully about.

Best of luck!

Hello, question asker! I'm Jia Ao, and I'm excited to help!

I can see the problems and confusion you described in your platform. You said you are facing a choice between two offers, and you are particularly torn and confused. One of the jobs is particularly good, but you are afraid to easily agree to take it. The other job opportunity is not perfect either. What is the reason for being afraid to take the good opportunity? I don't know how to make the right decision? I'm excited to help you!

?In response to your question, let me help you analyze and sort it out in detail!

What you are struggling with now is actually a problem related to your future career plan. I have encountered many job seekers who are as confused as you are, and I often help them analyze and sort out how to choose a suitable job. I am fortunate to be able to give you some advice, which you can refer to.

Let's dive into a detailed analysis and comparison of the two companies!

Let's dive into your actual situation!

Master of Mechanical Engineering, with excellent project results and awards during his master's degree. After graduation, he received several job offers, and now he has the chance to gain valuable work experience and technical skills!

Now for the exciting part: a comparison of two offers!

First offer: "A new company that he likes, with a preference for software development, a salary that is acceptable, and a subject that is close to what he studied in school. There is no training or mentoring mechanism, but he doesn't have the courage to work for this company;

The second offer is an excellent one! It's from a mature company with a training and mentoring system in place. The only downside is the salary, which is only half of what the new company is offering.

I've got some great advice for you!

Embrace all your emotions and allow yourself to feel temporarily down. You've already got the answers to these questions that I've helped you sort out! You might have already had the answers in your heart, but you just wanted to come to the platform to confirm them again. The stage of just graduating is actually a time of great momentum! It can also be very confusing and anxious because there are so many unknowns, not enough work experience, and no practical training in your own technical skills. You say you don't have the courage to go to that new company, where everything is just beginning, and the company system and training mechanisms are not yet mature. I can especially understand this kind of feeling of yours, and all your worries and concerns are normal!

[Correct and objective understanding of self] It's so important to understand your own strengths and weaknesses. No matter which company you go to, you will start from scratch. Even if you go to a mature and stable company, you will still be a rookie with little work experience. Going to a new company is full of opportunities and challenges. You must always maintain self-confidence in yourself, not be timid, and demonstrate your excellent professional standards. Slowly accumulate work experience. You just can't get past that hurdle in your mind, so you have to take this step. It's an exciting time!

[Work hard to improve your self-confidence] Always be confident in yourself. No one can train an employee of any new company when they first join. You have to figure it out for yourself, and I know you can do it! If you really like the company and the work, and are willing to do it, you can still figure it out on your own. You will gain experience as you go along. Use the resources at hand to quickly familiarize yourself with the workflow. If there is no mentoring, ask the company's senior employees for advice. This is not difficult. In the future, you may be able to try to create a training process if you have more experience. It mainly depends on whether you are enterprising and whether you really work hard, and I know you can do both!

If you're not sure, why not consider a move to a more established company? You can follow the company's rhythm and receive training there. The choice is yours! You can only do a job for a long time and steadily if you love it.

[Lifetime growth topic] Career growth is your own business and has nothing to do with the company or other people. If you really want to develop better and better in the workplace, you can do it! Learn to be self-motivated, take the initiative, and grow quickly. No matter what problems and difficulties you encounter at work, you can face and solve them bravely. Always maintain an ordinary heart, be neither arrogant nor humble, and be kind to others.

Don't be afraid, and don't give up easily. You can do it! Believe that challenges are also opportunities. I wish you success!

I really hope my answer helps! The world and I love you ♥

Hello, I'm Gu Yi. I'm modest and consistent.

I have to choose.

❀People with master's degrees have many job options. But it's hard to choose. So, think about what excites you. This company has its own concerns and opportunities.

We need to think about what we want and whether we can get it in other ways. A new company can offer lots of chances for promotion and will pay well to hire good people. It values talent and will notice you.

We need to consider the company's vision.

Every company has its own life cycle. We must constantly improve our abilities to become indispensable. When we first enter the workplace, we should focus on building our strengths. Choose a path that fits your situation.

Looking at the present and the future.

We have different perspectives because of our different backgrounds. If we want to solve material problems, a newly established company might be the best choice. It can solve some of our problems in the short term, but the future is uncertain.

If we want to develop in this industry long-term, which established companies should we choose? They have the resources and systems to help us grow faster and become professionals.

We have to admit that there is a ceiling in any industry. The platforms we can access at work are different, and so are our chances of reaching the ceiling. We hope that we can choose the company we want to go to more objectively. Once we have a certain level of power, we can jump ship.

Best,

I can see your confusion. In fact, many people will encounter this kind of choice. It is foreseeable that you will be anxious about employment. The reason for your anxiety is actually very simple:

1. There is uncertainty about the unfamiliar environment and future development.

2. Your assessment of your own abilities.

3. Uncontrollable changes that may result from a change in status.

First, you need to consider one thing: what are your expectations of yourself? Spend as much time as you need to think about it. Come up with a result that you are happy with, that makes logical sense, and that you won't regret.

Second, you need to decide whether you can give up all the offers. I don't think you can, so you have to make a choice. This matter must be done and must be based on reality.

You are choosing to wait and see, which is evading the issue. You don't have the luxury of evading it.

Third, the main point is that you currently have two options. You need to analyze the impact of these two units on you.

1) Income

2) Personal value realization and personal challenges.

3) Determine whether there is consistency and conflict between the corporate culture, your perception, and the corporate atmosphere.

4) You must consider the feasibility of participating in the construction of your original family (distance from home).

5) The impact on your romantic relationships.

6) Long-term nature and stability. Compare the two companies based on the above criteria, evaluate the pros and cons comprehensively, and make a choice.

Fourth, if the two companies are very similar and you still have difficulty deciding, it is clear that they are not a good match for you. You must pass them both and start the selection process again.

You got an offer, and the company recognized your abilities. It's good to evaluate yourself so you can make progress, but don't deny yourself blindly.

You must understand that you are not only denying yourself, but also your mentor, your family, and the company that recognizes you.

Have a nice life!

From what you've shared, it seems you're facing a challenging choice. It's also worth noting that the question you've asked is particularly focused on the workplace.

However, since you have asked a question on the Yi Xinli platform, I would be happy to help you find the ideal answer through my knowledge of psychology.

It would be helpful to start by identifying the root cause of the psychological dilemma.

It is not uncommon to find ourselves in a quandary when confronted with significant decisions. This predicament can be attributed to what is known as the path-locking effect.

Brian Arthur, a researcher at the Santa Fe Institute in the United States and a professor of economics and demography at Stanford University, has put forth a theory in behavioral psychology that the phenomenon of people finding it challenging to alter their behavior once it has been planned is called Arthur's path locking effect, or simply the locking effect.

It is often the case that people feel that once they make a choice, they will begin a new journey. If they give up halfway through and want to change their original choice, they may feel that the efforts they have made will be wasted. Fearing that this will happen, they may find themselves torn between two options, which can create a psychological state in which it becomes difficult to make a decision.

Once the causes of this state of mind have been clarified, it would be beneficial to face the objective facts and analyze the problem. It is often the case that the result of something is not known until it has been done.

It would be wise not to be afraid of taking detours and to make up your mind and forge ahead.

So, how might we choose the best option for ourselves? It would be helpful to consider the second point.

2. It would be beneficial to have a correct understanding of yourself.

How might one choose a suitable option? It seems that a correct understanding of oneself is a prerequisite.

You may find it helpful to consider the following three aspects to gain a clearer understanding of which job would be more suitable for you.

Could I ask whether you have a strong ability to learn independently?

It would be beneficial for you to consider whether you have the ability to learn independently, as this will be important for completing tasks without guidance from predecessors. You may wish to reflect on your previous learning experiences. If you have been able to complete learning tasks independently by consulting materials,

If you are able to achieve academic results without guidance and assistance, it may indicate a strong ability to learn independently. You may wish to consider the possibility of entering a new company and challenging a high-paying job.

Given your strengths as a learner, you have the capacity to complete tasks independently, even without guidance. However, it might be beneficial to consider a role in a more established company where you can learn and grow under the mentorship of experienced colleagues.

Could I ask whether you have an innovative mindset and ability?

New companies, especially software companies, are often looking for individuals who can help them stay at the forefront of the market. They often seek people who can bring a certain independent sense of innovation and ability to the table.

As you mentioned,

"My master's in mechanical engineering has equipped me with project experience, grades, and awards that have prepared me well for the job market. After graduation, I received several job offers, one of which I was particularly drawn to. It's a company that's very focused on software development, which aligns closely with my master's project. However, given that it's a new company and there's not yet a structured training or mentoring program in place, and given that my technical skills are average, I'm not yet ready to take the leap to work for this company."

From what you've shared, it seems like you might benefit from some more confidence-building support. It's understandable that you're looking to your teachers and seniors for guidance and help, but it's also important to develop your own independent skills.

Based on my analysis of your comments, I believe that a more established company might be a better fit for you.

If you feel that your innovative abilities are not being fully utilized in your current role, it might be beneficial to explore opportunities with a different company that aligns better with your skills and interests. While technical skills can be learned, innovative ideas and abilities are often innate, so it's important to consider whether you're truly challenged in your current role.

I would gently suggest that you do not neglect your innovative abilities.

If you feel that your sense of innovation and ability are just so-so, you might consider ways to be more independent at work and make up for your lack of basic business skills through self-study. By thinking hard, exploring more, and keeping abreast of market developments, you can carve out a brand new future of your own.

It would be beneficial to consider the long-term implications of your decision.

From your last statement, it seems that your thinking is currently limited to the present situation, and that you may not yet have considered the longer-term implications.

As you mentioned,

"I am considering whether to give up this high-paying opportunity and choose a mature company (with training and senior staff mentoring new employees), but I am unsure if the salary will be as high as that of the new company."

While the salary in the new company is currently higher, it is not yet clear whether the company will be stable in the long term. If the company does not last long, even a high salary may not offer a secure future.

However, if you are a creative and determined person, you may find that you make rapid progress in the new company, which could be the beginning of your rapid career advancement. Therefore, with a clear understanding of your own conditions, you may wish to consider choosing this new company, which could allow you to develop rapidly.

While a mature company may initially offer a salary that is average for a new company, it may be worth considering that a company with steady development prospects and a foothold in the market may offer more long-term stability.

It may provide an opportunity for steady advancement. It could also be a beneficial choice.

Given the current circumstances, it is understandable that it is challenging to predict the potential outcomes of new ideas in the early stages of a business. The pandemic and market instability make it difficult to anticipate how new ideas might affect returns.

For this reason, it is advisable to consider the overall situation and your own circumstances. If you feel less confident in your abilities and courage, it may be beneficial to choose a stable and mature company.

4. It would be wise to avoid letting the plateau effect interfere with your final choice.

When we face matters that we care about or are challenged to do difficult work, we may experience feelings of restlessness, nervousness, anxiety, and shortness of breath. This is what is known as the plateau effect. While a mild plateau effect can be beneficial, as it may increase an individual's excitability and responsiveness, if the effect is too severe, it may prevent you from performing to your full potential and make it difficult to get things done.

It is possible that your lack of confidence and blindness to the current situation may result in a plateau effect during the interview. Similarly, there is a possibility that a plateau effect may occur when facing critical moments in the future.

It would be advisable to avoid placing undue pressure on yourself. Carefully consider your current abilities and make an informed decision.

Then, it would be advisable to proceed in a steady manner. It is important to remain calm when facing challenges and to try to mitigate the negative psychological impact of the plateau effect.

5. I value the input of my elders, relatives, and friends.

We all live in a community, and you have your own friends, family, and relatives, so you might consider talking to them about the situation you are facing and letting them offer their advice. However, it's important to approach this with an open mind and to recognize that everyone's perspective is unique.

It would be beneficial to seek to understand your own situation better through the advice of others. Then, you could conduct a comprehensive analysis and draw conclusions.

It is always wise to consider the opinions of others, but it is important to remember that they can only be used as a side reference.

It is important to recognize that everyone's perspective on any given matter is inherently limited. By seeking input from a diverse range of individuals, we can gain a more comprehensive understanding and potentially closer to the truth.

If I might make one more suggestion, it would be to consider consulting your family and friends. Their opinions may be of value to you, and it would be wise to take them into account.

I would like to suggest that you consider the following:

I would like to take this opportunity to wish you success in your future endeavors.

I wish you the very best for the future.

Dear Question Asker,

It is evident that you are experiencing a state of confusion, uncertain whether to select a remunerative position with accompanying challenges or a stable and mature role offering a basic salary. In this regard, I offer my perspective as an external observer, with the intention of providing you with novel insights.

In general, individuals facing numerous options may experience confusion due to uncertainty about their primary preferences. For instance, an individual facing urgent financial constraints may prioritize a position offering the highest salary, while an individual with career aspirations may seek a role with extensive personal development opportunities. Alternatively, an individual aiming to gain experience and advance steadily within a specific industry may opt for a challenging role with a familiar industry context.

From your written work, it is evident that you possess remarkable qualifications and experience. You have obtained a master's degree, participated in numerous projects during your master's program, and received accolades and offers from multiple companies upon graduation. It is understandable that you may feel overwhelmed by these achievements, but it is also important to recognize the excitement they bring.

Due to the fact that your excellence affords you a greater number of choices, you are presented with a greater number of opportunities to realize your potential than those who are unable to make such choices.

However, choosing also entails relinquishing other possibilities. Regrettably, it is not feasible to select all desired attributes simultaneously. Consequently, it is imperative to recognize that the inability to simultaneously obtain all desired attributes does not necessarily imply that one's aspirations are unattainable. It is, therefore, essential to acknowledge that the ability to achieve one's desired attributes is contingent upon a complex interplay of factors. This is also a challenge and pressure that you, as an adult, must bear.

Perhaps career planning can assist in discerning one's current needs. It may be beneficial to consult with relevant personnel or seek the insights of an experienced elder in the community.

Hello there, question asker!

It's tough to give you advice on your career choice in just a short description like this. But I'd still love to chat with you and see if I can help you figure out what you really want. It can be so hard when you're torn between two options!

[Dealing with multiple avoidance conflicts]

First of all, congratulations on getting several job offers when you graduate! That's amazing! The job market has been pretty tough the past few years because of the pandemic, and at the same time, there have been a lot more new college graduates looking for work. You've done really well in your job search, and it shows that you have a lot of great qualities and strengths. That's why so many companies have been interested in you!

I totally get it. It can be really tough to choose between two great offers when they each have their own set of pros and cons. This is a pretty common situation, and it's totally normal to feel a bit stuck. One way to make it easier on yourself is to make a list of all the advantages and disadvantages of each offer. Then, you can go through them one by one and score them to help you make a decision.

It's important to find a balance between your own self-evaluation and what others think of you.

From what you've told me, it seems like you're really excited about this job! It's focused on software development, which is right up your alley, and it's also very close to the topic you worked on during your master's degree. The learning and practical experience you accumulated at school may come in handy. However, you mentioned that because the company doesn't have senior staff to guide the new employees and provide training, you're worried that your average technical level might prevent you from doing the job well. I totally get it! It can be scary to take that leap when you're not sure if you're fully prepared.

It's totally normal for there to be differences between your own evaluation and the employer's evaluation of you. The other party must have thought that you can handle the position before they sent you an offer. In fact, few people have all the skills required for the position before taking on a new job, especially for recent graduates!

It's totally normal to learn on the job! It's what we call on-the-job training. And after you've been working for a while, you'll pick up lots of new skills just by doing your job. For this job, you mentioned a new company, so it'd be a great idea to check out what they're all about, and what you'll get out of it besides a higher salary.

Young people have a lower cost of trial and error, which is great!

It's totally normal to feel unsure about your career choice right now. After all, technology and the market are changing so fast! For young people just starting out, it's natural to feel like you're taking a risk. But remember, the cost of trial and error is also the lowest right now.

So, take a moment to close your eyes and imagine your ideal self ten years from now. Picture where you'll be, what you'll be doing, and how you'll be living and working. If you want to achieve that state, what do you need to accumulate now? Then, you can compare the few offers you have in hand and make a decision.

I really hope the original poster has a great first day at their new job, gets on well with their colleagues, and has a wonderful future ahead of them!

Dear Question Asker,

How should one proceed when confronted with a dichotomy? Let us attempt to resolve this issue collaboratively.

One is a new company that lacks a training or mentoring system. I am concerned that the technical level is average and that I lack the courage to work in this company.

In order for a new company to function properly, it is likely to hire recent college graduates and master's students in addition to experienced professional and technical personnel. These individuals will be responsible for and manage technical work. Therefore, it would be advisable for the questioner to communicate with the company's human resources department to understand the technical resource capabilities and training plans. This will help to eliminate any concerns.

The questioner has a strong foundation of professional knowledge, having obtained a master's degree, and has practical abilities. The work in the new company is similar to the content of the internship, which are all advantages. New companies generally value young people, and young people have more room for development than in other mature companies, which is also a strength of new companies.

Despite his considerable abilities, the questioner may be lacking in confidence and experience anxiety. He may be reluctant to take on future career challenges, which could result in a lack of motivation. However, it is important to recognise that difficulties can be opportunities, provided that one is willing to put in the necessary effort.

It is this writer's opinion that, given the aforementioned qualifications, the individual in question would be well-suited to a position in a new company. Should the need arise, the individual is encouraged to communicate with their superiors to arrange for the provision of training and assistance.

Formulate a mental image of the direction of your efforts and the potential outcomes in your new company. Induce a positive emotional state through the formation of pleasant brainwaves. Experience the confidence and motivation that success brings to oneself.

Those seeking stability may also consider a mature company. While career advancement may be more gradual, the work environment is often less stressful.

This represents a sound decision for those engaged in long-term career planning.

The current circumstances, namely the ongoing epidemic, render it challenging to secure gainful employment. Regardless of the organization one opts to join, the process of career planning is an essential first step. By demonstrating diligence and proficiency in one's role, aligning one's contributions with the needs of the company or unit, and striving to achieve positive outcomes, one can advance in their chosen field.

It is my hope that this will prove an inspiring contribution.

I wish you the best of success!

Everyone can help others by sharing their words.

Hello, I'm Fei Yun, a heart exploration coach. I understand your concerns. It's normal to feel worried when we encounter new things.

You also mentioned income, which is a new factor in your decisions. Let's look at the problem together.

1. Let's talk about "difficulties."

I like this explanation: difficulties arise when you are stuck at home; good luck comes when you go out and meet people. We need to take action and see difficulties as imaginary.

As you said, the new company, no training, and you being a novice make you think of some of the "difficulties" you may face in accepting this high-paying job.

As our abilities improve, the original difficulties become easier. But as our abilities change, new difficulties arise.

It's the same as when you were in school and had different ways of solving problems.

You will solve problems as you grow up. They will become more difficult, but you will have more resources and stronger abilities.

It's like walking: if you don't lift your feet high enough, you'll trip, but if you step on obstacles, they become stepping stones.

It's up to you whether difficulties are stumbling blocks or stepping stones. Do you learn and grow, or do you rush to solve problems?

2. How can you turn difficulties into stepping stones?

1) Think about what you mean by "difficulty."

Words can affect how we feel.

Difficulties = pressure and frustration.

Difficulties are challenges that make us stronger.

2) Shift the focus.

Focus on results, not difficulties.

Ask yourself what you want and focus on the difficulty. If you focus on the difficulty, it will be heavy.

If you focus on results, you will get great rewards and feel good.

Do you want money for now or money for later?

Consider all of this when choosing a job.

If you have no difficulties in your life, you are living in your comfort zone. Staying in a comfortable space will not lead to growth. You can create challenges.

Life is like going to the gym. It needs challenges to keep our brains fit.

This question helps you find your self-confidence. True self-confidence means having confidence in yourself and the future. This is seeking within.

Don't rely on others to build your self-confidence. This is seeking outside, and once these are no longer there, you will fall into despair.

Find your worth in action, trust yourself, and gain strength.

I hope this helps you. I love you.

To keep talking, click "Find a coach" in the top right or bottom. I'll talk with you one-on-one.

Hello, questioner!

I am certain that many people who are new to the workplace will have similar concerns to a greater or lesser extent. I would be happy to go through them with you, and I am confident that you will find it enlightening.

1. Understand our anxieties.

It's only natural to feel anxious when making career choices.

The current options are not ideal, period.

Consider this: What if it were a mature company with training and mentoring, and the salary was the same as this new company?

Reality is often not exactly what we want.

I understand your dilemma.

We have to acknowledge our anxiety.

For example, in this new company, you might be concerned that you don't have the skills to do the job.

What other ideas do you have?

Make a list of everything and see if you can bear the worst outcome.

Or do you prefer stability and going to a mature company to make progress step by step?

Concretizing your anxieties is the key to overcoming them.

2. Don't limit yourself by what you think your current abilities are.

Every graduate, even those with a master's degree, will feel apprehensive when they enter the workplace.

There is a gap between theory and practice.

I want to share with you that:

The new company likes you and can hire you at a higher salary, so it must have seen a lot of your advantages.

These are advantages we may not have noticed, but they are there.

We must not belittle ourselves. Our abilities are gradually cultivated in the face of challenges.

If the work isn't challenging, even if you pick it up quickly, you'll get bored.

People are willing to take jobs that require a leap of faith because they grow quickly.

Our skills may be average now, but that doesn't mean they'll stay that way.

Some graduates may have to work harder at first because they lack training, and they may even take some detours, but these are all invaluable experiences.

And there's nothing wrong with looking forward to growing up with a new company.

3. Listen to your heart and establish the concept of lifelong growth.

If you prefer a mature company, that's fine.

This will make us more stable.

You must always listen to the most authentic voice within yourself, regardless of your choice, to avoid any future regrets.

I highly recommend the book Lifelong Growth.

Fixed-mindset people are eager to prove themselves and will do whatever it takes to prove their value to others.

A growth mindset is the unwavering belief that one's fundamental abilities can be cultivated through sheer determination and hard work.

He will keep looking forward.

People with a growth mindset objectively assess their situation and their level.

People with fixed mindsets will say, "I can't do it, I don't have a chance, I can only give up."

We are limitless. No matter which company we choose, as long as we believe that we will keep learning and growing, no one can limit us.

Every experience we have is an opportunity to gain experience and grow. There is no such thing as failure.

We should simply share these.

Best regards!