What is the meaning of my existence?

Good day, landlord. I hope my answer can be of some assistance to you.

It might be helpful to know that you are not alone. In an interview, Huang Xiaoming shared that he felt a special sense of understanding when he read reports of suicide among entertainers because he had also had those thoughts. For two years, he always wanted to lock himself at home, didn't like going out, and didn't like being seen. He said he was depressed at that time.

It would seem that, in the modern era, a considerable number of young people appear to be experiencing difficulties in finding joy in life, and that anxiety and depression are becoming increasingly prevalent. Could I inquire as to the reasons for this?

We might consider the case of Huang Xiaoming as an example. It seems that the following characteristics may have contributed to his experience of depression:

1. Striving for excellence.

He aspires to make a breakthrough in his acting and to become a popular public figure. He feels that he may not yet have fully earned the praise he receives and is always polite to his fans and reporters.

He gave the show his all, and of course, he was hoping for positive feedback. However, he did encounter some negative comments online, which was understandably disappointing.

At that time, he was unaware that the pursuit of perfection was misguided and would place undue pressure on him. He also failed to recognize that perfection is unattainable, even among the most accomplished individuals, who are still imperfect beings. Nevertheless, their imperfections did not impede their success.

It is also worth noting that the success or failure of a matter is not solely dependent on one's own efforts, but is influenced by a multitude of other factors.

For instance, the success of a play is contingent upon a number of factors, including the quality of the acting, the content of the script, the lighting, the costumes, the direction, and so forth. If the play is unsuccessful, it would be unfair to place the blame solely on the actors.

2. Perhaps there is a tendency to place undue emphasis on the opinions of others.

Huang Xiaoming shared that his parents were the eldest son and daughter, and he was the eldest son, grandson, and great-grandson. From an early age, he was taught by his elders to serve as a role model for his younger siblings and to maintain a positive outlook. This expectation of being valued by the family and needing to be a role model for his younger siblings may have contributed to his particular concern about what other people think.

Research in social psychology indicates that the formation of the social self typically occurs between the ages of three and four and thirteen and fourteen. During this period, the way parents and others evaluate oneself can significantly influence one's self-awareness.

During that period, Huang Xiaoming had already formed this self-perception: he must excel in everything and be a role model. Therefore, he placed a great deal of importance on the approval of others.

However, given the vast number of people in society, it is understandable that it may be challenging to gain the approval of everyone.

I believe there is a saying in Yuelu Academy that goes something like this: judge right and wrong in yourself, listen to others' praise and criticism, and be content with your gains and losses.

This passage suggests that our own hearts are the ultimate judges of right and wrong, that praise and slander are often in the hands of others, and that gain and loss are often predetermined by fate.

This is similar to the idea in "The Secret" that there are only three things in the world: your own affairs, other people's affairs, and God's affairs. It could be said that the reason we are troubled is because we have not managed our own affairs as well as we could have, but have worried about other people's affairs and God's affairs.

When we understand that we cannot control the thoughts and actions of others, we will not dwell on negative comments about us. To achieve this, it is important to focus on our own actions and thoughts, to understand ourselves better, to accept ourselves, and to know what we need and what we should do.

By doing so, we can avoid letting a few comments from others negatively affect our sense of self and fall into a spiral of negative emotions.

3. Perhaps we could all benefit from a little more care for ourselves.

From what I have observed, he seems to be a very serious and responsible person about his work. He personally supervises many aspects of the business and takes on a great deal of responsibility himself. He always puts other people's needs and work-related matters first, which is admirable, but it does mean that he sometimes neglects his own feelings.

It is not always easy to put our own needs first. If we do not do this, we may not feel satisfied inside and negative emotions may arise. If we place this need for care on other people, it can be challenging and we may encounter difficulties.

It is often the case that seeking outside ourselves involves factors that are beyond our control. However, when we learn to care for ourselves and take care of ourselves, we can build a bridge that allows us to share and receive love and care.

Caring for yourself and loving yourself is about taking care of your feelings and taking action to help yourself escape from suffering. It's about learning to stand by yourself, giving yourself strength, and giving yourself the care and love you desire most. This is often the starting point for all good feelings.

It is fortunate that Huang Xiaoming has been able to come to terms with his own imperfections, learn to view the comments of others rationally, and love himself while also loving others. He has emerged from the gloom, gained a new lease on life, and is once again enjoying the splendor of life.

If you are currently experiencing a lack of joy in life and are unsure of your purpose, I kindly suggest that you consider the three points I have mentioned. It may be helpful to learn to accept your own imperfections, to develop the ability to rationally deal with other people's comments, and to prioritize self-love.

I hope that you and I can both find joy and value in life at every stage of our lives. Even when we are feeling low, it is important to believe that we can bounce back and that we can see the sun in our hearts again.

I wish you the best.

Hello, question asker! I hope you can find some comfort from afar.

While your question is straightforward, the underlying inquiry is quite profound, thought-provoking, and significant. It touches on the fundamental question of human existence: What is the purpose and meaning of life?

This question has perplexed generations of philosophers, and after thousands of years, there is still no standard answer to this question. Many people have spent their lives searching for the answer to this question, and it is now a topic of debate and discussion.

Some might say he lives for himself and his dreams, driven by a deep desire to pursue them. Others might suggest he lives for his family, motivated by gratitude for their unwavering support and a desire to repay his parents for their role in raising him. It's understandable that different perspectives could emerge in such a complex situation.

Your ability to reflect on this question suggests that you possess a depth of thought and a sense of purpose in your life. It may be beneficial for you to continue exploring and discerning your true aspirations. I have faith that you, with your inclination towards intellectual pursuits, will eventually discover your genuine calling in life.

You are kind at heart, and the question you are pondering is challenging, leaving you somewhat uncertain. You are eager to find an answer, but you haven't yet found one. You want to escape as soon as possible, but you are thinking about your parents. This shows that you are a good child with a kind, warm heart and filial piety.

Dear Question Owner, I wish you well and extend my best wishes to you. The world and I love you!