What is this psychological disorder, and how can one prevent such situations from occurring?

Good day, I am Whale Social Worker Kiss the Wind.

There are a number of reasons why an individual may be inclined to blame themselves. These include their innate temperament and character type, upbringing, and the formation of patterns over time.

1. Innate temperament and character types

In psychology, individuals are classified into four primary temperament types: sanguine, phlegmatic, choleric, and melancholic. Those with sanguine and choleric temperaments are characterized by outward-oriented energy, while individuals with phlegmatic and melancholic temperaments exhibit inward-oriented energy.

To gain a deeper understanding of your own personality and preferences, you may consider taking a temperament test. It is important to note that there is no such thing as a "good" or "bad" temperament type. The objective is to gain insight into your own characteristics, utilize your strengths effectively, and be mindful of your weaknesses to avoid being influenced by them.

2. Parenting Style in Childhood

In general, we tend to believe that this is a more significant factor. When a child's childhood is often marked by criticism and rejection from significant others, the child will internalize these evaluations and believe that they are the real self.

Even after reaching adulthood, individuals may still experience a sense of fear, believing that they are responsible for the situation, even when they know it is not their fault.

"Even when it's not their fault, they still look for reasons in themselves, often blaming themselves, and are afraid to make demands for fear of troubling others. They also care a lot about what other people think." These situations actually arise from the belief that "I have to be responsible for other people's emotions."

The reluctance to make demands and the preoccupation with the opinions of others stem from a lack of inner security and trust.

The source of this sense of security and trust is "love," the certainty that "no matter what I am like, my parents love me." A person who feels secure enough will be confident enough to express their needs and know that they are worthy.

Individuals who lack a sense of security and trust often express concern that their actions may result in unintended negative consequences for others, potentially leading to feelings of being unloved.

Some of the beliefs that have been held for many years may not be accurate. As an adult, you have the ability to discern and rebuild new and beneficial beliefs.

Best regards, Yi Xinli, Social Worker