What should I do if a 13-year-old girl who drinks bubble tea two or three times a day and uses video chat with others wants to quit but can't?

Hello, host! I'm so honored to answer your question. From our chat, I understand that you're only 13 years old this year, and your grades were still good at school before the epidemic. With the epidemic, you became really into online games and fell into some bad habits. You feel so lost when your grades drop.

This pandemic has affected not only our physical health, but also caused many psychological problems for each of us. It's so hard for adolescents to communicate with more people at this critical stage of physical and mental development. But, with so many communications done online due to the pandemic, it's even more challenging. It's so sad to think that, since there is not enough time and personnel to cultivate these adolescents' social communication experience, they might experience various kinds of social adjustment and psychological problems when they enter society as adults.

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It's so hard to believe that at just 13 years old, adolescents are already entering puberty. It's a time when they're gradually completing the formation of their social self. It's so important for them to feel affirmed by society and parents during this period. They need to understand people and things in life more intuitively through more social interactions. Unfortunately, the epidemic has confined them to their homes. But, I have a feeling that they'll transfer the need to realize their self-worth and be recognized by others to the Internet.

I can see why you're so interested in online hookups. It's a way to get the recognition and support you need from men, which is great! But it's also important to understand the content of hookups and the implications they have for women. Let's try to find a balance between having fun and being respectful.

It's kind of amazing how the Internet and some forms of entertainment on it have actually helped to meet some of our kids' needs for recognition and support. If they don't get that encouragement and support from parents and teachers in real life, and they don't have a way to release those needs online, it could really hurt them in ways we don't even realize.

It's so important for parents and teachers to be aware of this issue. In their everyday teaching and lives, it's so much more helpful to encourage children than to discourage them. While parents and teachers are saying that their children aren't good enough, children are also dealing with a lot of pressure at school and have to spend a lot of their energy worrying about whether their parents and teachers like them. This isn't good for their physical or mental health, and it also makes it harder for them to do well at school. The best way to help children who are addicted to the internet is for their teachers and parents to find the good things about them and other areas of their lives, highlight these things, and encourage them to focus on these good things instead of getting caught up in unhealthy online activities. Most addictive behaviors are driven by a physical need, and offline activities can help female teams feel recognized and encouraged by others, so they'll be less likely to get caught up in unhealthy online activities.

I'd absolutely love to have a date with you in 1983! The world and I love you so much!

Hello.

Part on adolescence

You are in the second stage of adolescence at 13. This is when you want to be independent and grow up.

At the same time, you will have more emotional problems, feel more lonely, and be more depressed. You are still learning how to think, and you will be affected by things around you.

You can't communicate with your parents. You mostly rebel against them. This is shown by your behavior, such as playing games and your grades dropping. You are indifferent and detached from your parents.

?Study part

You said you had good grades before, so I think you can improve them with hard work.

Gaming part

You also play games. Everyone has their own way of relaxing. Playing games in moderation can help you relax.

You have to have the right attitude and know how to play games.

Why do you play games? Is it just for fun?

What is it?

Most teenagers are addicted to the internet because they seek their own value and want to be recognized. If they can't find it in one area, they'll look for it in another.

The Internet can also be very liberating. You can be as "independent" as you like, and there are many opportunities to show yourself and be seen and recognized. That's why so many people are fascinated by it.

Internet section

The online environment is not optimistic. It has a fatal and shocking impact on young people who have not yet formed complete values.

Have you heard of Liu Xuezhou? Adults are also victims of the internet.

Use it wisely. If you make mistakes, you could have problems. These problems are repeated, so you need to learn from them.

You need to learn about network security to protect yourself.

Dating online

At 13, you'll start to feel things for the opposite sex. You'll also start to explore sex. This can come from talking to your parents, reading books, talking to girlfriends, searching online, or having sex. But because of the internet, you've gone straight to the bad stuff. It's hard to know what's good and bad, so you'll learn by doing.

About you

Despite everything, I'm hopeful that you want to improve. You're struggling, but you haven't given up. You're reaching for help and waiting to be saved. Keep going.

I think everyone will agree you should go to counseling, and I agree.

Your family should be doing well and able to afford it.

Your parents need to learn how to help you.

I hope you won't be hurt and that you'll get help. I hope these events won't affect your future life.

A teacher said they'd go to counseling and might have to tell their parents. So, are you ready for that?

This approach is too shocking. If you do it, it will be hard for your parents and you. But it is more effective.

Or you could make yourself seem unwell so that your parents have to find a counselor for you.

You'll have more ways to help yourself. Your youthful characteristics and open-mindedness will help.

Go for offline counseling, not online. Many professional platforms can arrange appointments with offline counselors.

You deserve to be treated well and to feel beautiful. I hope you are doing well.

When I saw the information the questioner posted, I was blown away! I just googled what "磕泡" means and I totally get what the questioner meant. I'm really excited to understand what feelings the questioner experienced during this process of "磕泡." The goal of asking for help now is to stop 磕泡 or something else, and I'm ready to help!

From the information mentioned by the questioner, we can understand that the questioner's family is doing quite well for themselves! They have a lot of material wealth, including a mobile phone and computer that the questioner plays with. He can even charge a lot of money in the game! It's clear that the questioner's parents have given him a lot of support in terms of material and money. They're providing him with everything he needs to succeed! When they give him so much material and financial support, they may think that this is an expression of their "love" for the questioner. Then, correspondingly, they also pay less attention to and invest less in the questioner's spiritual, psychological, and emotional needs. This may be part of the reason why the questioner is so "obsessed" with the Internet!

This, combined with the various online game promotions, the mutual transmission from classmates around him, and the limited knowledge of the Internet, all these factors combined to push the questioner to focus more on the Internet, naturally reducing the time spent on other things in real life, such as studying and communicating.

Every behavior is supported by a corresponding motivation. The questioner mentioned that his previous academic performance was quite good, which shows that the questioner has a strong ability to understand and learn, and can learn the knowledge in the books. During the epidemic, online classes have indeed influenced many people, but some people still maintained a good learning state during this period, and did not let themselves not focus on learning because of online classes. There is also a certain reason behind the questioner's influence by the Internet, and the questioner needs to be aware of what feelings and thoughts he had when taking online classes.

Now, about that daily snorting in the back. This is a sexual issue, and it's time to dive in and get to the bottom of it! I highly recommend finding a female counselor to provide systematic psychological counseling. This will help the author understand the reasons behind their unique sexual obsession through counseling, while also protecting them from harm. With each step, the author will gain more control over their problem and return to a normal state of learning and living. To protect the author, it's best to avoid male counselors.