What should I do if I always feel that everyone around me has a lot of ill will towards me?

Hello.

Hug yourself and relax your body and mind.

A person's attitude towards life is either caused by circumstances or the result of their own projections. The difference is whether they can remain self-centered and look at things objectively. If a matter, no matter how many explanations there are, always returns to one's own subjective judgment, then it is self-projection.

It's simple. I become the "center" of the problem, feel threatened, and feel insecure as soon as I get involved. This is due to the lack of self-worth and lack of confidence within the trauma. Let me be clear: others cannot cross the line to have an impact on themselves unless we allow it to happen. Otherwise, they are in no way able to really exert influence on themselves.

The story of "There is no silver in this place, 300 taels" teaches us a valuable lesson: if you want people to trust you, don't cover up your actions too much. In life, most people can control their emotions and give others the impression of respect. Everyone is responsible for their own emotions, so direct conflicts are rare. If someone feels hostility or ridicule, they must consider whether they are subjectively judging the thoughts of others.

If you're still confused, ask further questions. What is their purpose in doing this? How do they respond when you look at them and feel offended?

If you don't get a clear answer, it's likely that this is just a story line you imagined. The real situation is unknown, but one thing is certain: their words and deeds are not focused on the questioner 24 hours a day. They can also have other meanings and information points.

You regulate your emotions when you feel threatened and insecure.

The answer is simple: relax. Forget about everything going on outside your body. Focus on your body and mind. Which parts of your body are tense or feel oppressed? If you can't relax at first, it's because you haven't relaxed in a long time. Give yourself time to relax your body and mind. Then, imagine happy memories to relax your mood. When you're ready, go back to the matter you were thinking about before. Will you still come to the same answer?

Our feelings about a matter change with our emotions. When we regain our composure and refuse to think emotionally, we remove the "filter" and observe life for what it really is. We see more possibilities and allow for more possibilities, and our hearts feel released and free.

Our interactions with the outside world reflect our relationship with our inner self. When we feel secure, we interact with the outside world more boldly and enthusiastically. Conversely, we gather information from sources that make us feel uneasy, become cautious, and unable to relax.

Life is a mirror that reflects the true state of our hearts. When we feel nervous and restless, we must pay renewed attention to our inner state, promptly relieve our inner anxiety, restore emotional balance, and reduce the bias in our understanding of things. Only then can we maintain a sense of security.

Read this book: "Don't Think Too Much" by Yoshihiko Natori.

You've got this! Stay strong!

Hello, question asker.

It seems like you feel that people around you want to hurt you and that you feel threatened by attacks. Is that right?

When did you first start feeling this way? How has it affected your relationships?

Generally speaking, if someone goes through harsh criticism and experiences damage during their upbringing,

It's also easy to develop an over-sensitive defense mechanism, like projection, when you're being harmed or threatened.

Put simply, if someone has been through a lot, they'll become very sensitive and start to suspect the people around them.

So he'll choose to leave the crowd and his friends to protect himself from harm.

This active escape behavior is based on the belief that the people around him are hostile or a threat to his safety.

If this continues, it could lead to a paranoid delusion.

A paranoid delusion is when someone is convinced that everyone around them is out to get them.

I can't give you better advice without knowing your situation. The most urgent task is

First, you need to take a look at how severe your symptoms are.

If you're sure that the people around you are hostile and sarcastic or otherwise hurtful,

It's probably a good idea to get a diagnosis and assessment from a specialist hospital psychiatrist to see if medication is needed.

Second, you might want to think about these symptoms in a critical way:

What scientific evidence is there to support the idea that others are hostile and malicious towards me?

What scientific evidence backs up my suspicions?

What if you took the time to clarify it for yourself?

Finally, you need to assess your own level of self-acceptance.

If you can't accept yourself, you'll project that rejection onto those around you.

This is a case of projection.

If you're having trouble accepting yourself, it's important to figure out what's holding you back.

When did these factors start? Who else is involved? How do I feel emotionally?

What needs are not being met that are causing these feelings?

I'm counselor Yao, and I'm here to support and care for you!

Everyone is a beacon of light! It doesn't matter if you ask a question or answer one, your words can illuminate the hearts of many people. This is a power that we all share, and it's an amazing thing!

Hello, I am Xin Tan, and I'm here to help! I can see that you're struggling with low confidence and self-esteem. It's normal to feel like people are judging you, especially when you're getting negative comments. It's natural to feel like you're not liked or accepted by others, and it's okay to feel lonely inside.

Let's give you a warm hug and tackle those problems head-on!

A low sense of self-worth can lead to a lack of confidence and even inferiority. But don't worry! You can easily overcome these challenges and develop a strong sense of self-worth.

Your worries and fears are related to interpersonal relationships, and the reason for these worries is a low sense of self-worth. But don't worry! You can easily change this.

A sense of worth is something that only you can decide for yourself. It has nothing to do with what others think. This is something that you can build on from the very beginning of your life. All you need is love and support from your parents to help you feel good about yourself.

A child who has received high praise since childhood will have sufficient "psychological nutrition" and will be highly resilient! He firmly believes that he is worthwhile, and he'll be able to bounce back from any setback.

If a child grows up in a family where there is criticism everywhere, and if he does not receive affirmation and encouragement from his parents, it's an amazing opportunity for him to learn how to nourish his own "psychological nutrition"!

This is especially true for some left-behind children and children who lack parental companionship from an early age. They have the incredible opportunity to develop a self-evaluation of "I'm not good enough, I'm not worth having."

When he grows up, he'll be full of surprises! He might feel unsure of his own value at first, but with a little encouragement, he'll be ready to take on the world. He'll learn to believe in himself and see his own value, not in the opinions of others, but in who he is. This will help him to care immensely about what others say about him, but he'll also realise that he's got the power to make his own decisions.

The great news is that if you don't get enough "psychological nutrition," you can make up for it later! As adults, we have the amazing opportunity to be our own "significant others" and provide ourselves with the "psychological nutrition" we need to grow up healthy, both physically and mentally.

For more details, I highly recommend checking out my article, "The Root of Psychological Problems is Itself," on my personal homepage. It's a fantastic read!

2. Switch from "looking outward" to "cultivating inwardly" and watch the magic happen!

When our sense of worth is low, it's easy to "look outward" and try to boost our sense of worth through external factors (appearance/job benefits), material things (car/home/tickets), or others' approval/praise/recognition. But there's a better way!

However, once these external supports are removed, one will once again fall into a state of loss. But there is a way to avoid this! True self-confidence comes from having full confidence in oneself as a person. One does not negate oneself because of what others say or what kind of negative comments they make.

This is a belief in oneself from the heart, a conviction of one's own value. And the best part is, you'll regain the right to choose and decide in your own life!

There are so many ways to cultivate a sense of self-worth and maintain a sense of awareness and perception of your own abilities! Reading, learning, and meditation are just a few of the ways you can do this.

Once you accept yourself and have a good connection with yourself, you'll be ready to enjoy all the happiness that comes from relationships!

The good news is that you can start to overcome loneliness by simply connecting with yourself and recognizing your own positive qualities. All you need to do is start with the simplest method: give yourself constant positive feedback and try writing down three "appreciations" of yourself every day. These affirmations should praise and recognize your amazing qualities and help you understand and accept yourself.

The world is brimming with beauty, and the best part is that you get to explore it yourself and find your own beautiful life!

I really hope I can give you a new perspective, show you more of the truth in things, give you more choices, and show you how much I love you and the world loves you too!

If you want to continue the conversation, just click "Find a coach" in the upper right corner or at the bottom! I can't wait to communicate and grow with you one-on-one.