What should I do if I encounter embarrassing things at work and want to quit?

Hello, I'm Liang Qingyou.

I am a soon-to-be-retired worker. You said you were doing well in your original department, but you were transferred to support another department. You just got used to the new department, but then you were called back.

If I were you, I would feel like a brick that people can move around however they want. And I'd be right.

You may be confused about the workplace. You have every right to be. Why can the company so casually transfer me to another position? You feel like a soccer ball being kicked around, silently enduring the embarrassment of being ignored and kicked around by others, as well as the unspoken anger.

You're on the brink of collapse. What do you do?

First, you need to be aware of your feelings of embarrassment, the physical reactions that accompany them, and the various thoughts that go through your mind. Focus on your physical reactions and feelings, and simply watch the thoughts rise and fall.

Don't evaluate or attack yourself.

Second, you need to improve your work skills, show your confidence-when-they-dare-not-face-it-11280.html" target="_blank">self-worth, and create a higher status and income.

If you want to feel more confident in the workplace, you need to focus on improving your abilities. The stronger your abilities, the firmer your tone and the more assertive your speech.

When communicating and coordinating in meetings, reporting work, and daily work, you must be reasonable and well-founded when expressing an opinion or making a work suggestion. Give the leader at least three reasons for your opinion so they can see the importance of your achievements and work at any time.

Read books, learn to search online for reliable books, and read more about what others say about the books. Put in the effort to read attentively and read more. You need to learn these skills by reading on your own, so don't ask others to teach you. If you want to increase your knowledge quickly, stop fantasizing and start reading.

Everyone needs to feel respected, liked, and appreciated at work.

You can learn and grow from any problem you face. Try the methods above and I'm confident you'll succeed.

I can tell the questioner is feeling anxious and uneasy. I'm not sure if this issue has been resolved yet, so I'd like to share some of my personal insights for the questioner's reference.

From what the questioner said, it seems like they've already imagined what's going to happen before it does. They're convinced it'll turn out this way. I have to say, the questioner still believes in their ability to do this, to the point where they don't want to face their colleagues like this. To avoid feeling embarrassed and uncomfortable, they just quit their job and use quitting to avoid facing these feelings. This is also a classic "ostrich effect": if you can't beat them, run?

From an objective standpoint, job transfers are often at the discretion of the company and are not something that individuals can control. However, such transfers are often tied to an individual's work ability and the growth of the company's interests. For the person in charge of the company, placing the right person in the right role can maximize the individual's ability, create greater value, and generate more benefits for the company.

For the individual, the unit leader's arrangement of a job transfer is both an acknowledgement of one's abilities and a sign of trust. It's a sign that the leader believes you can do a better job in the new position. I've been transferred at work myself. My leader felt that I was competent and so asked me what I thought. Some people are told directly, while others are just informed. I just do what I'm told and do my job well, not caring what others think. I'm working for the company and getting paid by the company, so what others think or say doesn't matter to me. What matters is what the company leader thinks.

Of course, the questioner's concerns are understandable and are based on their own reasons. On the one hand, the questioner is convinced that those things will happen in the future.

On the other hand, they're convinced they can't face the solution, but the questioner doesn't realize how strongly they believe it. They're more aware of their "inability," or the questioner subconsciously dares not and is unwilling to correspond to their own ability, which is why there's the rest of the irritability.

It's important to consider whether the questioner has had similar experiences in their past and what emotions they've suppressed in the past when they felt distrust and non-recognition. The questioner can do some deep self-awareness exercises or find a suitable counselor for psychological counseling to resolve the issue.

Internal conflict can make people collapse. I hug the questioner who doesn't know how to solve the problem. I have read the answers of all the teachers and found them helpful.

I'll tell you what I know.

The questioner was supported in this department and transferred to another where they felt good. Then they were called back to the original department. I can feel the anger, sadness, and powerlessness of the questioner.

The leaders have their reasons for personnel deployment. If you feel uncomfortable, think about why and what it makes you think of.

You feel embarrassed and find it difficult to face your colleagues' strange looks.

This is superficial and caused by the conscious level. At a deeper level, it is a combination of various reasons, such as not being valued, being manipulated, and feeling a great deal of failure.

To improve your discomfort, I advise:

First, accept your emotions.

Second, close your eyes and imagine you're back at work. Look at the people around you. Are they friendly? Do they seem happy to see you?

Notice your feelings, words, and body in this situation. Write them down and think about who you're afraid of.

What's the fear?

If you can't solve it, let it go. Read, exercise, socialize, or talk to a friend.

Time heals. You will relax and understand better.

Best wishes!

Everyone can be a beacon, asking or answering questions. They can share their words and ideas with others.

Hello, I'm Fei Yun, a heart exploration coach. I understand how you feel. Your experience has made you feel like you have no say, choice, or initiative.

This constant adjustment makes you feel like your colleagues are ridiculing you, which is disturbing.

Let's work on this together.

?1. It's about work, not about you.

You are following the leadership's orders, not your own. You are not using underhanded means to satisfy your personal interests.

You have cooperated and implemented job transfers. You should be praised for taking the big picture into account. You deserve to stand upright with your head held high.

From the leader's perspective, you need to consider the big picture and optimize resources. From your perspective, you just need to do your job well. From your colleagues' perspective, they can think whatever they want because you have no power.

?2. Seeing value and satisfaction through emotions

You feel awkward when you meet former colleagues again because you don't know if you've said or done anything before. Have you ever said you'd never come back to the better department?

If you have, that's normal. There was no problem making that judgment at the time. It shows confidence and dedication to your job.

If you haven't had one before, don't worry. You can find value in any job. You've come here to talk about it, which shows you're aware of your emotions. A low sense of self-worth makes you feel ashamed and afraid.

You want your colleagues to recognize and approve of you. When they don't, you feel bad.

Your low sense of value came about because you're too concerned about what others think.

Your sense of value is how you see yourself. If you pay too much attention to what others think, you're giving them control. Everyone measures people and things with their own outlook.

My dear, take back the right to choose, enhance your sense of value, and start by self-affirming and accepting yourself. This is your choice.

I hope this helps. I love you. ?

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Hello, question asker!

Let me give you a hug and try to comfort you!

From your words, I can sense the dilemma, confusion, and uncertainty you're grappling with. It's a tough choice, and there's no perfect solution. Life is challenging, but we can't undo the past. We're in the midst of a whirlpool, and there's no better approach than to face it head-on.

I will now share my views based on my personal understanding.

First, reflect on the situation before the job transfer.

I want to go back to before I started supporting and think about how you worked in your original department. How was your relationship with your colleagues? Did you feel comfortable? I think the answer is in your writing. You said:

You were doing well in your original department, but you were transferred to support another department.

This sentence reveals the comfort you felt in your previous department. I can imagine how reluctant you were to support that department at the time, and I know it was difficult for you to adapt when you went to the new department. I want to know how you interacted with the people in your new department and the people in your previous department at that stage.

Secondly, you must consider the reason why you originally wanted to stay in the department you volunteered for, but were unable to do so due to various factors.

I believe you should consider this. After you became familiar with the department you volunteered for, you were in the same situation as you were in the original department. Therefore, you were unwilling to adapt to the original secretary department again and just wanted to stay there. However, that's just how life works. Things don't always go as we wish. Now you have to face this embarrassing situation. In fact, this situation may be embarrassing for most people, but their attitudes towards this embarrassment may be different. I believe there are not many people like you who would rather quit than return to the original department. Is this situation caused by our own reasons?

We can choose at will.

Next, I want you to think about this: Is it really the best idea to resolve this situation in such a decisive manner, given that it was caused by reasons we cannot choose? After you choose to resign, your colleagues in your original department will treat you better than if you return to your original department. At that time, they will appreciate you and think that you have the courage to achieve this effect.

I don't know if you would treat your colleagues as you imagine if you were in this situation.

You must face things without emotions. Accept this unavoidable job transfer calmly. If you cannot handle it on your own, seek help from a professional counselor.

I will be a wise person, someone who can bend and stretch. Like the great man Deng Xiaoping, who rose and fell three times, I will exude an air of grandeur! And besides, we are now in a calm and peaceful situation.

You deserve a better life. Be a wise person and make it happen! The world and I love you!

It's so great to see you're doing well! Reading your words is like meeting you in person.

From what you've told me, I can see how you feel embarrassed and frustrated about changing jobs so often. It's also clear that you don't feel respected during the process. You've been through a lot, and I really hope that by sharing your feelings here on the platform, you can calm down a bit.

Let's work together to clear up any confusion you're feeling.

You mentioned at the beginning that you were doing really well in your original department, but then you were transferred to support another department. It seems like the transfer wasn't part of your plan, so I'm wondering, what was the reason for the transfer in the first place?

I'm suggesting this because I think it'll help you. Usually, when people move between departments, there's a starting point for consideration by the unit. If you ask about this, it'll make you feel more confident about your work in the future. It's also a way to protect yourself and safeguard your rights in the workplace.

Then you went on to say, "I was quite happy here, so I didn't want to go back to my old department, but there were too many people here, so I was called back. I felt a bit awkward and embarrassed. I felt that when people called you back and you didn't go back, they said they wanted to transfer you here, but then they didn't want you here because there were too many people. I felt that when I went back, my former colleagues would look at me strangely and say, 'If you're not coming back, why did you come back? You'll feel awkward and you won't be able to face them. You want to quit straight away.'" I can see that this decision is really not an easy one for you to make. From your description at the beginning of this response, it's clear that the frequent job changes have given you a lot of uncertainty, and this uncertainty about your work has triggered anxiety about your future. You've done a great job in terms of "relieving confusion"!

Oh, and you also mentioned a concern: "I feel like my former colleagues will look at me differently when I go back. They will definitely say, 'If you're not coming back, why are you coming back? It'll be embarrassing, and I won't have the face to go back. I want to just quit.'" My advice to you regarding this concern is: no matter what decision you ultimately make, first let go of all your assumptions, because they will limit your decision-making power and ability to act when making a decision.

Just a few words for you:

You can definitely think about it, but there's no need to rush.

When you have concerns, it's always a good idea to try to let go of all assumptions and seek proof first.

I know it can be tough, but I promise you, action is the key to relieving all anxieties.

If you get tired, don't worry! Just remember to stop and rest your feet before continuing.

You are your own person, and you don't need to worry about what anyone else thinks.

Well, that's all for now, my friend. I really hope this has brought you some relief from your confusion.

Take care of yourself, my friend.

Hello, I'm Gu Yi. I'm a modest, self-effacing person who is consistent in my approach.

At work, it's all about exchanging value.

People tend to move up, and water flows downhill. You were transferred to another department at work, and since the overall atmosphere was good, you decided to stay. After some time, you needed to return to your original department, which you found quite difficult to accept.

Dear questioner, We must understand that at work, we express our value through our own work and create value for the company. So our embarrassment is only our own state of mind and not the facts themselves. As long as we can create value in any position, we are fine.

We can't control what our colleagues think, and there's no way to correct them one by one. What we need to understand is whether our expectations of the company match our future career development direction. This is a very important factor in our decision.

Take a step back and look at the situation objectively and calmly.

Also, the department is able to attract you because of your feelings, which also shows that our department is lacking. So can we learn from others and try to run our own department?

Dealing with your own heart is the hardest part of life. I think you must be feeling pretty bad right now. You're always afraid of other people's comments or judgments, and you're afraid they'll laugh at you because of this incident. The other person's attitude depends on your state of mind. If you think your behavior is a joke, it is. If you think your behavior is motivated by a desire to learn and change your environment, then that's also valid.

So, dear questioner, let's take a deep breath and calm down. History has been going on for thousands of years, and very few people have been remembered. We don't need to let potential comments and opinions make us panic endlessly. Just be a little more calm and confident, and the little episode will soon subside.

At the end of the day, other people are just onlookers.

Wishing you the best.

Dear Questioner, Good morning.

My name is Kelly.

Let us examine the reason for your confusion at work, which has the potential to overwhelm you.

[Regarding support for transitions to other departments]

In this matter, it is evident that the individual in question is a capable person who can perform well in a new position and department.

In general, individuals are typically confined to a single department, limiting their chances of gaining exposure to other departments. Let us assume:

1. The leader believes that you possess the requisite capabilities and wishes for you to become more familiar with additional departments.

2. Gain further work experience and develop interpersonal relationships by becoming more familiar with different departments.

3: It seems reasonable to posit that the individual responsible for making this decision must have their own ideas about the best way forward. You are evidently a capable person who can perform well in both your original department and your current department. It is therefore possible that this is also the reason why your leader transferred you back to your original department from your current department.

4: Is there no one in your current department who is as qualified as you were in the original department? As I understand it, you were transferred back because you have the requisite foundation and ability to be competent in the original department. (Although I am unaware of the specifics of your unit, I am also assuming.)

5: Strive to advance your professional growth, amass a substantial reservoir of work experience, and embrace the opportunity to expand your learning. This investment will undoubtedly prove invaluable in the future. To illustrate, consider an individual with experience in a single department, in contrast to your own multifaceted background. This diversification represents a powerful pathway for growth and the acquisition of expertise.

6: Let us consider an analogy.

For example, an individual who has studied psychology may also have pursued studies in philosophy and literature. Should they have also engaged with mathematical concepts, they would likely possess the capacity to navigate a multitude of scenarios. Furthermore, such an individual would likely possess a more comprehensive understanding of the subject matter, with fewer blind spots.

I would like to take this opportunity to share my personal experience with you.

I have been employed by a foreign company for approximately two decades. I recall that the initial three-year period was one of adjustment. My supervisor requested that I gain familiarity with the operations of each department and establish connections with the personnel therein. Initially, I was reluctant to comply, as I was not yet well-versed in the work and was already facing competing demands. Additionally, I experienced some emotional resistance.

Subsequently, I reflected that work is primarily about accumulating experience, adhering to instructions, and striving for excellence. When the company leader requested that I familiarize myself with different departments, it is probable that he had his own objectives in mind.

It is preferable to concentrate on performing each task to the best of one's abilities in the present moment.

I am not emotionally resistant. Upon assuming a new task, I will endeavor to learn it, seek assistance when necessary, and refrain from unquestioning self-assurance. I will communicate with my leaders whenever I assume a new position.

(I require time to comprehend the nuances of this new position, but I am committed to doing my utmost, and thus I will not unduly burden myself.)

Three years later, I assumed the role of head of the Chinese department of this company. At that time, I came to understand the rationale behind my previous leader's decision to place me in this position. The role entails a comprehensive understanding of the company's business operations, as well as a keen awareness of significant domestic and international business developments.

If I had been solely responsible for the European department in our company for the initial three-year period, the scope of my work would have been constrained.

The training I underwent to become a firefighter has enabled me to develop my abilities. After modifying my mindset, I found it beneficial to interact with individuals in diverse roles and contexts. These experiences, which involved overcoming challenges and problem-solving, have been instrumental in my personal growth.

These experiences have collectively constituted a valuable set of insights.

✍️[Other people's opinions]

It can be reasonably assumed that most people care about what others think. One might even posit that a person who cares about what others think is someone who has high standards for themselves. Conversely, it could be argued that it is somewhat peculiar to not care about what others think.

An individual who exhibits a lack of concern for the opinions of others is essentially unrestricted in their actions.

An individual who is indifferent to the opinions of others is effectively setting no standards for themselves.

Does the absence of concern for the opinions of others indicate a tendency toward self-centeredness?

The question thus arises as to whether this person is indeed a person.

I similarly place a great deal of importance on the opinions and feedback of others.

During my childhood, I was fearful of being observed in a state of distress when my parents disciplined me, and thus I concealed my emotions.

During my academic career, I suffered from low self-esteem and was fearful of being derided by my peers due to my poor performance in examinations. I was particularly weak in mathematics, so I devoted significant effort to studying Chinese. Subsequently, when I was in elementary school, I overheard my Chinese and mathematics teachers engaged in a heated debate about my academic record.

My mathematics instructor asserted that I was lacking in mathematical ability.

My Chinese teacher offered a counterargument, suggesting that an individual's proficiency in Chinese and mathematics may be influenced by differing interests, rather than by inherent intelligence. While some students may exhibit a proclivity for specific subjects, encouragement can facilitate their growth. However, it is unwarranted to conclude that an individual's performance in one subject is indicative of their overall intelligence.

Subsequently, I devoted myself to further study in my chosen subjects, despite my inherent academic deficiencies.

For the first time, I came to understand that there is no objective standard by which to judge the opinions of others.

Subsequently, through extensive reading and continuous learning, I came to understand that no individual possesses a perfect standard.

Similarly, there was a time in the lives of all great or outstanding individuals in history that was marked by similar challenges.

One should endeavor to traverse the controversies and judgments of others until one attains a state of fearlessness.

An alternative approach is to simply accept one's own circumstances.

Advice for the questioner

1. Those wishing to gain further insight may wish to consult the biographies of Carl Rogers and Irwin Yalom, specifically his work entitled "Becoming Myself."

The act of reading can facilitate learning from the experiences of others and prepare individuals for future circumstances.

2: It would be beneficial to devote more attention to one's own well-being. It is possible that past negative experiences have contributed to feelings of confusion, which in turn influence one's level of concern about the opinions of others. (To gain a deeper understanding of oneself, it may be helpful to explore this further through the study of psychology or by consulting with a professional counselor.)

3: Additionally, one should acknowledge their own efforts in seeking assistance when faced with uncertainty and in identifying the underlying causes, such as through inquiries on this platform or through discourse with reliable acquaintances for the purpose of alleviating distress.

4: It is imperative to have confidence in one's abilities. It is unlikely that the situation will unfold in the manner that one is concerned about. To illustrate this point, one can consider the following scenario: if one were to be transferred to a new department at the outset, one might initially experience a degree of confusion. However, this did not materialize, and one was able to perform competently in every department.

5: Job transfers are a common occurrence in any organization. It is important to note that one's salary is not paid to another individual; therefore, it is essential to perform to the best of one's abilities, leverage one's strengths, and focus on oneself and one's work.

6: In any unit, there are always individuals who are inclined to engage in idle discourse, focusing on the shortcomings of others.

It is advisable to pursue your own course of action and refrain from engaging in idle discourse.

7: With the passage of time, we will gradually become more resilient and capable of withstanding challenges. This process is not exclusive to any individual, including myself.

I wish you the best of luck.

Should you have any further inquiries, you are encouraged to pose them. It is my hope that the responses from myself and the other instructors will prove beneficial to you. I extend my gratitude for your proactive pursuit of assistance.

I would like to extend my sincerest congratulations.

My name is Kelly.

I extend my warmest regards to the entire world and express my profound affection for you all.

Hello, question asker! My name is Evan.

From the questioner's own account, it seems that the questioner is currently experiencing a sense of embarrassment. It's important to recognize that feelings of embarrassment or other negative emotions are a natural response to certain situations.

It is only natural to feel a certain degree of discomfort when faced with circumstances that do not align with our expectations. This unease is not exclusive to the individual in question, but is something that others may also experience, even animals.

It is important to remember that getting caught up in embarrassing emotions can make the situation more awkward for everyone involved. It is a natural human tendency to care about what others think, but it is also important to remember that if you remain calm and collected, others will also remain calm and collected. As the saying goes, if you are not embarrassed, then the only one who is embarrassed is you.

It is important to note that this does not mean the questioner should ignore their emotions. However, if the questioner can appear indifferent in front of others, it may help to shift the focus away from the matter at hand. If the questioner can face this embarrassing situation with ease, it may also help them to communicate better with their colleagues.

Since the question was asked on the platform, I would like to offer some suggestions for how the questioner might deal with embarrassment.

It might be helpful to accept what has happened.

The incident has already occurred, and in order to avoid further discomfort, the questioner is considering leaving the department. This may indicate a need to process the situation and find a way to move forward.

The questioner might consider attempting to explain the incident in a lighthearted manner, such as laughing or making a joke at their own expense. This could help to deflect any potential negative attention and foster a more positive environment. Many individuals have experienced embarrassing situations, and when someone is able to laugh at themselves and bring joy to their colleagues, it can create a more supportive and amicable atmosphere.

This kind of humor not only helps the questioner navigate challenging situations, but it can also foster new connections when the questioner turns an embarrassing situation into a shared experience.

One possible strategy for dealing with this issue could be to try to minimize the impact of the problem.

It's a common occurrence for people to feel high while the water goes low. Is this something that can be expected?

It is understandable that the questioner would prefer to remain in the department where he feels most comfortable. If someone else were to work there, they might also feel a similar sense of belonging. It's worth noting that the questioner did not apply for a position in that department; it was simply a mutual secondment between departments. The questioner believes that working in this department aligns better with his skills and preferences.

In the event that someone brings up the embarrassing situation the questioner is facing, the questioner has the option of attributing it to the leader, who seconded the questioner to the other department. As long as the questioner does not deliberately bring it up, it is unlikely that anyone will bring up the embarrassing situation on their own initiative, and it will likely be forgotten.

Perhaps it would be helpful to try to distract yourself.

It seems that the questioner's involuntary attention to things has caused them to develop obsessive thoughts. When they cannot force themselves to forget embarrassing things, they can try to distract themselves and appropriately divert their attention. It might be helpful to avoid fighting or suppressing the bad thoughts that arise in you, as this could make them stronger.

It would be beneficial to find something else to do that will distract you. Some examples of activities that might help are playing a contact sport or running.

It might be helpful to consider activities that require both hands and feet as a way of distracting oneself.

It might be helpful to make a list of the worst possible outcomes.

It might be helpful to consider what the worst possible outcome could be. It could be beneficial to make a list of these potential outcomes and to think about how you would deal with them if they were to occur. It may also be helpful to think about whether you would be able to accept these outcomes or not.

It might be helpful to try to list the worst possible outcomes and come up with a coping strategy as soon as possible. For example, it would be good to consider what might happen if a lot of people really bring this up. If it really happens, will you be able to deal with it? If you can, then perhaps your awkward emotions will be less intense.

It might be helpful to consider seeking professional psychological treatment.

It might be helpful to consider seeking professional psychological treatment.

If the questioner feels that they are unable to overcome their distressing emotions and persistent obsessive thoughts, they may wish to consider seeking the guidance of a professional counselor. I would gently suggest that the questioner might benefit from exploring the option of behavioral therapy.

Behavioral therapy may help to reduce the association between obsessive thoughts and daily triggers, break the obsessive thoughts in the questioner's mind, and allow the questioner to focus on other things.

I hope my answer is helpful to the questioner.

Hello!

I am a heart exploration coach, and I can tell you with certainty that learning is the treasure of the body.

From your description, I can clearly see your inner embarrassment, confusion, hesitation, pain, and helplessness.

I'm not going to get into the nitty-gritty of the problems you're facing because of that awkward situation you had at work and your desire to quit. Instead, I'm going to give you three pieces of advice:

First, accept your current state.

Doing so will make your heart feel slightly lighter, which will help you think about what to do next.

You said you were doing well in your original department, but you were transferred to another department to provide support, and you did well there too. You thought you would not be transferred back, but now your former department is so busy that you cannot stay there. You feel embarrassed about going back, and you feel ashamed of yourself and want to quit. Your situation is understandable because everyone has a basic need for recognition and affirmation. Everyone cares about what others think, and you also feel ashamed of yourself. You may be worried about what will happen after you quit. Everyone will be stuck if they don't think about things. You have to understand and accept yourself. You have to "see" that inner self of yours who is a little embarrassed but temporarily doesn't know what to choose and is stuck. This will give you extra mental energy to think about other things. Otherwise, your mind will be filled with negative emotions.

You must allow yourself to understand and accept yourself if you want to change the current situation. It may sound contradictory, but it is the truth: change is based on allowing for no change.

Secondly, you must view your own state rationally.

Rational thinking helps you understand yourself and reality better.

Look at it rationally. I want you to do two things:

First, understand that while other people's opinions are important, your own opinion is the key.

You need to consider whether the situation you think is "humiliating" and "disappointing" is really the case.

Let me be clear: the reality is that you cannot stay because there are too many people, not because you are doing a bad job. You have the ability to work and the competence to do the job. I don't see it as dismal.

Furthermore, if you don't approve of yourself, even if you quit directly, others will say that you "seem to really be unable to continue, so you chose to quit." You see, no matter what you do, people who want to say something snide can always say it. I suggest that you approve of yourself and treat this as a normal personnel change, separate it from whether you are ashamed or lose face.

You're hesitating to quit your job, which shows there's something you're attached to. Think about why you don't want to or can't leave right away.

I'm not saying you have to stay in your job, but I hope you can make a choice that respects your own heart and not be swayed too much by other people's opinions.

Second, know this: the status quo can be changed because you can change it.

When you take the initiative and exert your subjective power, your state will naturally change, and your understanding of your current situation will also change. This will undoubtedly improve your mood.

Third, you need to focus on yourself and think about what you can do to feel better.

When you assess your situation rationally, you will know what to do. At this point, you focus on yourself and do your best.

Take some time to think it through. Ask yourself if staying is worthwhile. Then make a choice. You'll probably make a more rational and objective choice when you're not feeling depressed.

You can also go back and see if you still feel ashamed. When you figure out how you really feel after going back, you can make another choice. And when you go back, you will find that your colleagues don't look at you with strange eyes because they understand that personnel transfers are normal.

Talk to trusted colleagues. It will make you feel better. Negative emotions have a healing effect once they start flowing. They may also give you support and understanding, which will make you feel better.

If you feel like you are going back in a depressed mood, and your colleagues are looking at you differently, tell yourself, "I am competent, and it's not because of my work ability that I can't stay. It's just that personnel changes are hard to control. I just need to work hard and not care too much about what people say." Repeat this to yourself until you feel better and make rational choices.

Take action and watch those negative emotions melt away. Action is the enemy of all kinds of negative emotions.

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