What should I do if I feel bad about getting the top score in the class for cheating on an online exam?

Hello, questioner! You asked, "I got the top score in the class for cheating in an online exam, but I feel so bad about it. What should I do?" First of all, I commend you for being aware of your inner thoughts. Awareness is the beginning of change.

Let's examine your question together.

You took an online exam during the course, used a search engine to find the answers, and got a high score. You felt bad when your grades came back. When you got to school, you found that other students were talking about you behind your back. You didn't know how to deal with it, and you were scared that you would do badly in the final exam, which was coming up soon. You didn't know what to do.

After reading your question, I can clearly see the inner anxiety, tension, unease, and worry you're experiencing. Let's take a look at the deeper causes of these emotions.

Sigmund Freud, the renowned psychoanalyst, put forth a groundbreaking theory of personality structure.

Freud divided the personality into three parts: the id, the ego, and the superego. The id is the instinctive part of the human being. It is driven by desires and wants what it wants.

You want to get high marks and be number one. That's what students do. When no one is watching, you use other methods to get first place. The superego is bound by morality, the law, and other rules. The superego pursues the principle of perfection, which is how you should be.

Your superego is telling you that you can't win like this. You know it. Everyone knows it. When you go to school, your classmates will look down on you, and everyone will know that you didn't achieve your victory through real ability. You have another exam coming up soon, so let's see if you can still get first place then. If you don't get it, it'll be obvious.

The self pursues the principle of reality and is responsible for regulating the needs of the id and superego. The self is generally what I can be. Therefore, the conflict within you now is your self regulating the conflicting needs of the id and superego. Once the self has adjusted, you will once again be in a harmonious and balanced state.

Knowing when you've done wrong and correcting it is a good thing.

You know your results aren't real, so face your mistakes head-on. Fix them. In the future, keep a close eye on yourself to avoid making the same mistakes. Take the exam paper from your last test and do it again. See what score you can get and how much room for improvement you have.

You have checked the answers, but you have not checked them all. You will be able to do some of them without looking them up. Take the questions you didn't know the answers to at the time and that you have checked the answers to. Work them out again, trying to understand all this type of question. You will be able to do them when the next exam comes up.

Knowing your true level allows you to predict your likely score in the next exam. When you know what to expect, you'll feel less anxious, tense, worried, and uneasy when facing the next exam. As the saying goes, "There is no greater good than to know one's faults and correct them." If you make a mistake, correct it.

I wish you the best, and I know my answer will be helpful to you!

The world and I love you!

Dear,

It's totally normal to make mistakes when you're young. In fact, it's a great way to learn and grow! The important thing is to recognize right from wrong through experience and add the lessons learned to the underlying beliefs of your life. This will help you persevere with certainty in the future.

It's so sad that cheating to get a high score is valued in school. Not only does it negate the original purpose of exams to test learning outcomes, but it also involves a student's cognition and character, and the latter is more valued.

There's no real difference between exams and other types of assessments like class questions, presentations, and so on. They're all great ways to test how well you've learned the material. The only difference is that exams are more comprehensive and rigorous, and the ranking in the results adds a sense of ceremony and solemnity. Because they're more comprehensive, the results are easier to compare, and exams have gradually evolved into a more important and rigorous selection method.

However, with so many people waiting and limited resources, some candidates took shortcuts, which we all know is a different thing from cheating.

If there's a difference in grades for cheating, like the original poster who got a high score using a question search software, you can still be rated as average. You can find the tools with dedication, and you're also patient in practice, which shows that your IQ is not low. Of course, if you can put this kind of energy into understanding and internalizing the knowledge points themselves, I believe the results will not be too bad. Especially after the original poster got a high score, instead of being complacent, he felt a sense of shame and even had the urge to confess to the teacher. This introverted self-punishment is the lesson that cheating has taught the original poster. I believe the original poster has already experienced it and will not make the same mistake again.

It's important to remember that unearned honors are not as easy to handle or as exciting as they might seem. They can actually bring feelings of shame and unease, which is how normal people feel about cheating. If you feel that you can't bear it, it's totally okay to explain the situation to the teacher in charge. Then, you can devote yourself more seriously to mastering the subject matter, rather than dwelling on past mistakes.

Don't fret too much about the backstabbing of your classmates. You should know that when you are a student, the number of exams is measured geometrically, and who has the time to pay so much attention to others? Just correct yourself in time and devote yourself to the study that follows. It will soon pass.

There's no need to make a big deal out of it, nor to embellish it. Just correct your mistakes in time so that they don't affect your subsequent studies. It's also important to reflect deeply on your attitude. In your future studies, you must resolutely eliminate the mentality and methods of "getting something for nothing." That's because the essence of cheating is self-deception. Once you get used to it, it will be difficult to devote yourself to normal daily studies again. And that's not responsible for yourself.

Dear Questioner, I understand that during the online exams in your online class, you were able to cheat and achieve first place, but that you subsequently felt very bad about it. When you got to school, you found that other students seemed to be talking about you behind your back. You were unsure of how to address the situation, and the final exam was coming up soon. You were concerned about doing poorly on it. Were you afraid that your cheating grades would be held against you, that you would be criticized by your teacher, and that your classmates would talk about and laugh at you, so that you couldn't face reality? I believe you are experiencing a high level of anxiety. Best regards, [Name]

1. Identifying the specific nature of your anxiety can provide greater clarity.

First, identify the emotions you are experiencing. You have indicated that you are facing a challenging situation. Can you describe this difficult feeling using one or more emotional words?

For example, fear, regret, shame, panic, embarrassment, and other negative emotions. When experiencing a negative mood, acknowledge the emotion, express the pain, and allow yourself to see the situation clearly.

Secondly, when you feel particularly uneasy, it is beneficial to ask yourself, "What are my thoughts at this moment?" You can then record all of the thoughts that come to mind. Writing is also an effective way to relieve stress.

Finally, when you feel anxious and uneasy, address your emotions promptly. Ask yourself, "What can I do now to improve my situation?" Consider increasing the time you study, taking actions that reduce your anxiety during study time, or going for a run to release stress. You can also discuss your concerns with a trusted colleague to relieve pressure and improve your outlook.

2. Address the situation realistically.

Did the experience of cheating on the online exam during the online class make you feel bad, or did you feel worse because you received the highest grade and your colleagues were discussing it?

If you resorted to cheating because you were afraid of doing poorly, what does that say about your ability to face the consequences of your actions? Are you unable to face the final exam now because you are more afraid of doing poorly, or of others finding out that you cheated?

Is the discomfort of being unable to face others due to the act of cheating more significant than the distress of failing the examination?

Every decision has an inherent cost. Selecting an action to avoid another kind of pain will also have consequences, and we must accept and address them.

Failing the exam has consequences, as does cheating. Neither is a pleasant experience. One is bitter, the other sour.

Are there any other viable options? If your best friend is facing the same dilemma as you, what advice would you offer them?

What advice would you offer your best friend regarding how to approach the imminent final examination?

I believe you have the ability to overcome this challenge. I encourage you to face reality with courage and recognize that confronting your fears is the only way to overcome them.

I hope you can resolve your difficulties soon and wish you the best of luck.

Good day, I am Fei Yun, a heart exploration coach.

I can sense the guilt you feel for cheating on the exam, as well as the anxiety you experience when facing your colleagues and the imminent final examination, due to concerns that your actions may be discovered and result in your colleagues questioning your integrity and rejecting you.

Let's take a moment to identify the issues that are causing you concern and explore potential solutions.

1. Analyze the behavior of "cheating"

Cheating is an unethical practice that reflects poorly on an individual's integrity. After class resumed, you sensed that some classmates were discussing you behind your back. What really bothered you was the concern that your "character" (i.e., yourself) would be subjected to criticism, rejection, and ostracism.

There is not just one truth to everything. Through your act of cheating, I see another "strength" of yours: you want to be "good" and "excellent," so you cheat to get good grades and gain the approval of your teachers and classmates.

It will become evident that a considerable number of students and individuals in society tend to adopt a passive approach, effectively giving up and allowing circumstances to dictate their actions. Even in instances where they submit a blank paper, their lack of effort and engagement has no tangible consequence.

While your approach may not have been optimal, it demonstrates your motivation to perform better. This is a positive attribute that should be acknowledged. There is nothing inherently wrong with pursuing financial gain, but it is important to do so ethically and legally.

?2. Consider the emotional aspect.

You are experiencing significant distress and anxiety in response to your classmates' negative comments and the imminent final examination. From your perspective, this situation is perceived as:

My colleagues are discussing my academic dishonesty. They can assess my work ethic and determine whether this is my actual performance and test score. I am particularly concerned about the final exam. Comparing the two scores will only confirm what my colleagues are saying about you.

It is human nature to desire recognition and acceptance from others. In this context, it is important to distinguish between the action of cheating and the individual's character. Cheating is a specific behavior, and the discussion among colleagues is limited to the act of cheating on the online test, not a broader rejection of the individual's personal qualities.

If you are not satisfied with the level of affirmation and recognition you are receiving, it is natural for emotions to arise. When we identify our emotions, we also recognize the emotional needs we have. At this point, it is within our rights to make a choice.

3. All experiences are valuable and contribute to personal growth.

We must accept that the situation has already occurred. It would be prudent to leverage this experience and transform the unsatisfactory grades into a source of genuine strength.

Rather than dwelling on potential future outcomes, it is more productive to concentrate on the present and consider how you can contribute to your future success.

The final exam is fast approaching. If you plan your time reasonably, combine what you have learned in class, and prepare thoroughly, you will undoubtedly achieve a high grade. Even if you do not secure first place, you will gain a significant boost in confidence.

A touch of the "Ah Q" spirit is evident in your actions. You resorted to unethical practices to achieve a first-place ranking. It's important to note that not everyone who didn't secure a top position did so through the same means.

Restore confidence and believe in your ability to succeed. Break down each day and each time period before the exam.

Furthermore, this experience can be used as a learning opportunity and a reference point for future decision-making. This is an important aspect of the value derived from this incident.

I hope the above is helpful to you, and I wish you well.

Should you wish to continue the conversation, please click on "Find a Coach" in the top right corner or at the bottom of the page. I will communicate and grow with you on a one-to-one basis.

Good morning. I am pleased that you have identified this issue. Asking a question demonstrates that you are aware of the problem and actively seeking a solution.

The issue at hand is that you utilized unethical means to achieve a high score on the examination. What would be the consequences of being discovered?

What if your actions are discovered and you are held accountable?

What if you receive a less favorable grade on the subsequent examination?

I believe your objective in cheating is to obtain a favorable grade and to identify the resources that will help you achieve this goal. You are a highly intelligent individual who is willing to think critically and take action. However, you are not inclined to invest the time and effort required to excel through hard work and dedication.

It is evident that you attach great importance to academic achievement, which has led you to resort to questionable methods to attain it.

Now that you are in school, your classmates have discovered that you have been dishonest about your grades and are holding you responsible. I would like to ask the questioner whether this is indeed the case. If it is, what impact will it have on you? How will you handle the situation?

Ultimately, while cheating is unacceptable, the individual's intentions are commendable. However, it is essential to recognize that

1. There is no shortcut to success. Those who take shortcuts often do not achieve positive outcomes.

2. Cheating on an exam is actually being irresponsible to yourself. An exam is itself a test of your self-learning. Once you cheat and your grades go up, you will not have a true and objective evaluation of your true situation. Not knowing yourself clearly is even more damaging than cheating on an exam, and this is one of the harms of cheating on an exam.

The questioner is a highly intelligent and driven individual who actively seeks assistance. Despite the discrepancy between the exam result and the questioner's actual performance, is the questioner willing to make the necessary adjustments to achieve the desired outcome?

The questioner can leverage this information as a motivating factor. Given the questioner's demonstrated ability to achieve good grades, it is reasonable to expect that he will be able to do so again, with the appropriate effort and support.

While at school, the questioner can also seek assistance from teachers and classmates to facilitate collective progress.

Good day, classmate. I can discern the confusion you are experiencing, and I offer you a gesture of comfort.

It is evident that you are grappling with some emotional challenges. I extend to you my sincerest empathy and offer you a comforting embrace.

You received the highest grade in the class through the use of illicit means, and as a result, you are experiencing feelings of remorse.

It is reasonable to conclude that there must be one.

The high marks you received were not the result of your own efforts.

Furthermore, upon returning to school, you experience a sense of unease and apprehension regarding your classmates.

They engage in idle speculation behind your back, operating under the assumption that your high grades are somehow illegitimate.

It is unclear whether the following method will prove effective, but it may be worthwhile to attempt it.

What is it?

The solution is to inform the instructor of the circumstances surrounding your success. It is likely that you obtained the highest score on the examination due to the use of illicit means.

Subsequently, the instructor may deliver a statement to the class, indicating that the student who achieved the highest score in the class has had her test result nullified due to her admission of academic dishonesty in the online examination.

One disadvantage of this approach is that the grade for the exam will not be recorded.

However, your classmates will no longer view you with disdain due to your honesty and willingness to accept responsibility for your actions.

In the event of future examinations, it is imperative to recall that attempting to appear clever will inevitably lead to discovery. Should this occur a second time, it may result in disqualification from the remainder of the examinations. Such an outcome is not justifiable.

It is of no consequence whether one receives a poor grade; that is one's true strength.

In any case, I extend my sincerest wishes for your success in resolving the issue you are currently facing. I hope you are able to identify an effective solution in a timely manner.

This is the extent of my current cognitive abilities.

It is my sincere hope that my responses have been both helpful and inspiring. I am the answer, and I study assiduously each day.

At Yixinli, we extend our warmest regards to you and wish you the best.

Hello, questioner. I'm Jiang 61.

First of all, thank you for sharing your concerns with us. You asked, "I got the first place in the class for cheating in the online exam, but I feel so bad. What should I do?" Let's start by offering you a hug, and then we can discuss together what to do.

1. Guilt and worry

1⃣️, Exams

It seems that during online classes, you took online exams that were not supervised and used software to search for answers to achieve a high score.

I'm afraid you may have done something wrong. It seems you used software to search for questions during the exam with the intention of getting a high score.

2⃣️, guilt and worry

You said, "I just wish I could be a little bit more successful, and I'm sure I'd feel much better. When I got to school, I found that all the other students seemed to be talking about me behind my back. I really didn't know how to deal with it. And the final exam was coming up soon, and I was really scared of doing poorly. I really didn't know what to do."

It is understandable to feel guilty about your actions.

Since you looked up the answers online, you realize that this does not accurately reflect your true level of knowledge. You also feel ashamed because you obtained the results through an unfair means. You can't face the stares of your classmates, and you think that everyone is looking at you with suspicion about the authenticity of your results.

You are feeling somewhat concerned.

As you prepare for the upcoming exam, you find yourself dwelling on the fact that you previously resorted to cheating. This concern, along with the worry that you may not perform well in the exam, has led you to feel distracted from your studies.

2. The primary causes of concern

1⃣️, Conscience condemnation

You are aware that your previous examination result may not fully reflect your true abilities. This leads to concerns that you may not perform as well in the upcoming exam, which could potentially reinforce feelings of inadequacy. This can result in a sense of apprehension and frustration.

2⃣️, being spurned

Cheating on an exam is a choice that may be perceived as dishonest. It can lead to feelings of guilt and concern about how others may view you. You may feel that getting a grade through unscrupulous means is not an acceptable way to achieve success.

3⃣️, emotions arise

You made a mistake, and you're unsure how to adjust your mentality since your knowledge before the exam is not as solid as you'd like. This has led to feelings of fear and anxiety.

3. What can I do?

1⃣️, face reality

It might be helpful to consider admitting your mistakes.

It is important to be able to move on from mistakes quickly. This means being brave enough to confess to your teacher that you cheated on the test and that your result is wrong, and that you would like to take the test again.

Admitting your mistakes allows you to move forward with a clear conscience, free from the burden of past actions. It also provides you with the opportunity to approach upcoming exams and challenges with a positive and constructive mindset.

It would be beneficial to recognize your shortcomings.

By moving on from the past, you can take a step back to gain a clearer perspective on your studies and identify areas for improvement.

It is important to be able to face criticism.

Admitting your mistake allows you to face the stares and accusations of your classmates with an open mind, knowing that this is the consequence you must bear. Having done so, you can then face these stares and accusations with courage, and you will no longer have any worries or fears.

2. Take exams in the right perspective.

It would be helpful to consider the purpose of the exam.

From this incident, we can understand that the exam is not the ultimate goal, but rather a way for us to gain insight into our knowledge level. Whether we do well or not on the exam does not define our character, but rather reflects our ability to truly master the knowledge. It is a test of our learning effectiveness, so there is no need to be overly anxious.

It may be helpful to check for and fill in any gaps in your knowledge.

If you understand the purpose of the exam, you will be better able to relax and check for gaps in your knowledge. Once you have identified these gaps, you can work on filling them in, one by one. If you are unable to fill them all in one sitting, there will be other opportunities to do so.

If I may suggest, approaching the situation in this way may help you relax and ease your tension, allowing you to learn more easily.

3⃣️, Consider seeking assistance when needed.

If you have any questions, please don't hesitate to ask.

It's important to remember that nobody is an expert in everything. There are many effective ways to learn, and asking questions and seeking advice from others is a great way to do so. It can help you quickly gain the knowledge you need by asking others to answer your questions.

It might be helpful to consider seeking assistance from others.

You might also consider finding a close friend to study with. By asking each other questions and helping each other, you can quickly identify gaps in your knowledge and fill them. You can also further understand and consolidate your knowledge through mutual help and discussion.

It's a mutually beneficial arrangement.

4⃣️, Consider establishing a learning method that is well-suited to your needs.

I would like to take a moment to offer you a preview of what is to come.

You may have a number of reasons to be concerned. It is possible that you are not entirely confident in your learning effectiveness, perhaps because your learning methods could be improved. You may therefore wish to consider whether it would be helpful to compare and test whether your learning methods are suitable for you.

As an example, you might consider whether doing a good job of preparing for a test is more effective for your studies.

Perhaps it would be helpful to take a moment to reflect on what we have covered so far.

It would be beneficial to test your knowledge by doing a good job of revision and homework. You could consider comparing doing homework without revision to doing it after revision to see which method suits you better.

It would be beneficial to pay attention in class.

It is worth noting that paying attention in class has the potential to enhance the effectiveness of the learning process. Those who excel in their studies tend to prioritize the crucial learning aspect of listening in class, which can provide valuable insights into the effectiveness of their listening skills.

If I may make a suggestion, you could try being proactive in your studies. It might help to have a good learning method, to correctly understand and view exams, to turn the knowledge you learn into knowledge that you can master, and to be able to use it flexibly. With time, your confidence will come, and you will learn easily and no longer be afraid of exams.

It is only natural for anyone on a learning journey to make a few mistakes along the way. A good student is someone who can identify these mistakes and learn from them. I believe you can take this mistake in your stride, let it go, and approach the next exam with confidence.

I wish you the best of luck with your exams!

Hello, I'm Look!

Cheating on an exam is a bold and daring attempt to impress your classmates, teachers, and parents!

✅ Vanity

It's a negative emotion that arises from within a person's heart, causing extreme internal inflation.

It is a character flaw that pursues false appearances. It is an abnormal social emotion that people show in order to gain honor and attract universal attention.

I'm so excited to share these tips with you! Try the following methods:

Fear of failing? Don't worry about it! There's no such thing as failing an exam.

Guess what! There is no such thing as failing an exam!

The great news is that there is no such thing as failing an exam! The results of previous exams don't reflect your true level, so you can't fail an exam if you don't think you can!

In other words, the main point is to correctly understand yourself. Once you know your true strength, you will be free from such worries—and that's a great feeling!

It's time to get to know yourself better!

If you can objectively understand yourself, you can be self-confident and gain psychological balance! You don't have to worry about being looked down upon or being better than others. You can be your best self and feel good about who you are!

And the best part is, you can improve yourself!

Once you know yourself, it's time to level up your abilities!

The questioner describes "being afraid of doing poorly" and indicates that you still want to do well psychologically. So, let's throw away external factors and do well!

The first thing you need to do is build up your own strength. Once you've done that, you'll be able to tackle anything that comes your way!

Know yourself! I am Look. Best of luck!