What should I do if I'm 26 years old, sensitive in interpersonal relationships, and vulnerable inside?

Dear Questioner, I can empathize with your situation, as I have had similar experiences. I want to reassure you that you are not alone in feeling this way. Best regards, [Name]

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Firstly, I would like to reassure you that, in many ways, you are not as flawed as you perceive yourself to be. At the age of 26, you are still at an early stage of your professional journey and there is plenty of time for you to gain the necessary experience and expertise to become a highly capable and confident individual.

I have encountered individuals in their late sixties who remain confined to the world of others and have never seriously considered their aspirations or pursued them. Do not envy your colleague in their early teens. Their lack of sensitivity may be a strength, but they may also have disadvantages that you are unaware of.

There is no need to compare yourself with others. If you are dissatisfied with your personality, take the time to reflect on the reasons behind this dissatisfaction. Then, consider the kind of person you aspire to become and how you can work towards becoming the ideal version of yourself, one step at a time.

The first step towards change is awareness. Congratulations, you are already on the path to change.

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Furthermore, you have identified yourself as introverted and timid, with a tendency to be emotionally fragile, prone to daydreaming, sensitive, and prone to emotional outbursts. It appears that you perceive these traits as negative and have self-labeled yourself as lacking proficiency in interpersonal relationships.

It is important to note that there are no advantages or disadvantages to personality, and everyone is unique. While some may believe that being outgoing or being able to get things done is better, this is often a result of mainstream education and value orientation.

All individuals are born equal, and there is no objective measure of superiority or inferiority in personality traits.

Your sensitivity and tendency to think deeply indicate a high level of emotional sensitivity, the capacity to perceive the thoughts of others, and the ability to sense the feelings of others when communicating. From a strengths perspective, you possess the Gallup talents of empathy, individualism, and Bo Le, which are valuable assets.

In certain service industries, particularly those involving interaction with the public, such as psychological counseling, career counseling, and strength coaching, your sensitivity, emotionality, and propensity for emotional outbursts can be advantageous if you leverage them effectively.

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Ultimately, you inquire about the most suitable work for individuals with your particular profile, namely poor interpersonal skills, a fragile and sensitive inner self, and a resulting lack of success at work. It appears that you believe there should be another job that aligns better with your strengths. If you can avoid dealing with people or a work environment that makes you emotional, you will be able to work well on your own.

I would like to pose a question regarding the necessity of learning to swim. Has the saying "If you don't learn to swim, it's useless no matter which swimming pool you switch to" ever crossed your mind?

This applies to all areas of professional life, including marriage, family, and work. In other words, if you do not take steps to develop your personal skills, address challenges directly, and overcome your weaknesses, then regardless of your position, you are unlikely to succeed.

This may sound severe, but it is the truth.

It is possible that some roles do not require a robust inner self or effective interpersonal communication skills (although there are few such roles). Even in such an environment, it is possible to experience frustration or sadness due to an inability to meet expectations. Frequently, it seems that external stimuli contribute to unhappiness, but in essence, it is because we are unable to become the person we aspire to be (and external stimuli merely highlight this inability).

It is therefore recommended that you start self-awareness and self-growth from now on, read more good books, take some good courses, or find a coach or counselor to accompany you in your growth. As everyone's life is a practice, this process of cultivation and growth will make us more and more confident and stronger inside, which is also the process of mental maturity.

I am pleased to be able to accompany you on your journey of growth and wish you every success in the future.

Hello, question asker!

I can tell from your question that you're feeling a bit anxious and confused right now. It's totally normal to feel this way! Sometimes, a warm hug can really help to give you some strength and support.

There are a few things I noticed in the questioner's question that I think are important to address. They say they're timid and introverted, easily moved, and influenced by the words and actions of others. They also say they're sensitive in interpersonal relationships and have inner fragility that leads to work problems. It's a lot to take in! So, I'm wondering, what kind of career would be good for someone in this situation?

Maybe the questioner thinks that if they change jobs, they'll be able to solve these problems. But changing jobs might only solve the problem for a short period of time. If you want to feel more comfortable, you may have to go through a long process of growth. After going through this process, I believe the questioner will break out of the cocoon and be determined and at peace inside!

The questioner mentioned that they will judge whether others dislike or hate them based on their behavior or words. They will give up on themselves. If they constantly focus on others, it seems that their emotions are controlled by others, and they are passive, with no initiative at all. This makes me think that the questioner has given up the right to make themselves happy and relaxed to others. It seems like they are always the victim, and others always make the questioner unhappy!

It's so important to remember to always evaluate the questioner. Is this really the case? I've found a passage from the book "A Change of Heart" that I think the questioner might find helpful. It's a great way to distinguish between thoughts and facts.

All our feelings and actions are not caused by external events, but by our inner beliefs. The good news is that as long as I can change my inner beliefs and let go of the idea of the virus, our feelings and actions will change completely, and the pain will disappear. The method is as follows:

First, help the person understand that what they believe to be true is just an idea. It's not a fact. Then, show them the impact of holding on to this idea and how things would be different if they let it go. Once they see both of these things clearly, they'll naturally let go of the idea that's causing them pain.

So when you feel uncomfortable, why not write down your feelings and then ask yourself these four questions?

1. Is this really true? 2. Could there be another way of looking at this?

3. How do you react when you hold this thought? a. Would you like to find a reason to let go of this thought?

b. Do you think you could find a reason to hold this idea without anxiety? 4. If you don't have that idea, what kind of person would you be?

If you can look both outward and inward at the same time, you'll be able to see the truth. And when you see the truth, you'll have choices! And at that time, your inner strength will rise!

I really hope my reply helps the questioner. Wishing you all the best!

Hello, thank you for your question. I am an avid reader. I have a vulnerable heart and get upset at work. I am now 35 and have been working for 8 years. I have encountered what you have encountered and experienced what you have experienced.

I used to have internal conflicts trying to solve problems with a change in thinking. I found that the difficulties snowballed and I became more irritable. I realized that practical problems need to be solved practically. A single sentence of inspiration doesn't solve all problems, but they are solved little by little over time.

If we have a fragile heart or are weak in interpersonal relationships, we need to give ourselves time to grow. We can't solve all our problems after listening to a single lecture. Give yourself 5-10 years to grow so you can gain work experience. At the same time, you'll learn to get along with others and find a comfortable balance.

Our problems require a little work, a little change, and the accumulation of results day by day. We have discovered and solved half of our problem. The other half requires us to keep taking action and gradually improve. Our mentality, wealth, and relationships all grow little by little.

People we know who are younger than us seem capable and eloquent, but they have been studying for many years. We have only just started. We are learning with an open mind, trying our best to put what we have learned into practice, and integrating knowledge with action. In 5-10 years, we will have gained a brand new self. By then, we will be grateful to the self that has worked so hard.

We know where we need to grow. We can enjoy the scenery along the way while making progress. We have also worked hard for 26 years. We must have a direction that we excel in.

I'm well-read. I've grown up with you. We've progressed together. I love you.

Hello, question asker!

It's so hard to be easily moved to tears and to think irrationally! I can feel your vulnerability and helplessness, and I feel for you so much.

It's so interesting how we use words! When we talk about someone being sensitive and vulnerable, it seems to be a derogatory term. But in fact, according to research by psychologists, about one-fifth of the world's population have a highly sensitive personality.

High sensitivity is a wonderful gift, not a disadvantage!

Highly sensitive people perceive the external environment more profoundly and in greater detail. They can notice many details that others miss, have a richer inner world, and are also better able to sense the inner states of others in interpersonal interactions. The reason we misunderstand high sensitivity like this is because we haven't yet mastered how to use it.

I think you can try working on this in a few ways.

First, accept your high sensitivity.

Through the study of psychology, we've learned something really wonderful. It turns out that high sensitivity is actually a gift, and some people are born with this highly sensitive personality. This is not their fault, nor is it the heavens being mean to them. We must have the confidence that my sensitivity and vulnerability is a very special ability of mine.

Secondly, it's okay not to care too much about other people's opinions.

It's totally normal to care what others think, especially when you're still learning to love yourself. We all want to be liked, and that's okay!

But where is the standard for good? We all have our own unique perspective on what's right and wrong, and that's okay! There are 1,000 Hamlets in 1,000 people's hearts, and there are also 1,000 of you in 1,000 people's hearts.

It's okay! No matter what you do, there will always be someone who thinks you are no good. That's because everyone's standards are different, and you can't make everyone think you are good. Instead of doing what other people think, it is more enjoyable to be true to yourself.

Thirdly, it's so important to focus on yourself!

It's so easy for highly sensitive people to become mentally exhausted because they feel more and deeper than others, and they demand more of themselves. At this time, it's so important to slow down, calm down, and try to see the true self within: what are his feelings, what are his needs?

Do things that make you happy and relaxed! You don't have to fit in with everyone just to seem like you fit in.

Hi, I'm Haru Aoki, and I just want to say that I love you all!

Hello, question asker. I see you're confused. I'm here to help.

You have some interpersonal problems. Please let me give you a hug.

You may be experiencing the following problem.

What's the problem?

You have been hurt by others.

You overthink relationships.

If so, see a professional.

You said you're sensitive in relationships.

You may not be suited to jobs that involve interacting with people, such as the service industry.

You should look for jobs that don't require much interaction.

Accountant, librarian, computer programmer, etc.

I hope you can solve your problem soon.

I can only think of these things.

I hope my answer helps and inspires you. I am the answer, and I study hard every day.

Yixinli loves you! Best wishes!

Dear questioner, confidence-what-should-i-do-12131.html" target="_blank">I can see from your message that you are a rather introverted and timid person. In the workplace, you are not confident in yourself, and you are always afraid that you will make mistakes and that other people will dislike you. You are very sensitive and anxious, and you are always trying to read other people's minds. That's why you feel so tired and depressed at work, and you feel aggrieved and sad inside. I really understand how you feel, and I want to give you a hug.

I'm so happy you left a comment! It's great that you're willing to express your confusion. It's a brave thing to do, and I admire you for it. Practicing expressing yourself will require you to study and work hard in the future, but I know you can do it!

So, in the workplace, in interpersonal relationships, how can we improve our current situation? I've got some advice for you that I think you'll find really helpful!

First, let's work on building your self-confidence. From your presentation, it seems like you're a little timid and introverted, and you might be worrying that others dislike you or that you're not doing a good job.

It's totally normal to make mistakes at work! And it's also normal to be criticized by your boss and blamed by your colleagues when you make a mistake. We're all here to work, and at work we should focus on the task at hand rather than on people. If you do a bad job, you can learn to improve, and that's true for everyone. So please, never think that you're no good!

It's so important to give yourself a pat on the back when you do something well, even if no one else says anything. You deserve it!

Look at yourself in the mirror every morning, give yourself a big pat on the back, and cheer yourself on. You are so good, and you work hard every day, which is very good! Learn to affirm yourself.

It's so important to build up your self-confidence!

Second, it's important to learn to express yourself. In the workplace, we must learn to express ourselves. Workplace expression is different from that in life. There are some communication skills that can help you out. I suggest you read some relevant books to help you out.

When you're chatting with your boss, it's important to use the right tools to express your work. The same goes for getting along with your colleagues! You should also communicate with your colleagues about work, especially when you're not familiar with something or need help from your colleagues. After all, we work together in the workplace! It's a great idea to communicate more with your colleagues about your shortcomings and learn from them when in doubt, so that you can work better.

Third, encourage yourself. You say you are very timid and introverted, which is totally normal! We all have our own shortcomings, but we can work hard to compensate for them. You also have your own strengths, so it's important to recognize them, affirm them, and let them shine!

Fourth, it's so important to learn to be independent at work. Don't rely on the comfort of others, and don't be afraid of work! It's great that your colleagues will comfort you when you say that, it just goes to show how friendly they are. Then work hard to learn more and try to become the person who can stand alone. Don't rely on others, and don't always worry about what others think. At work, do your own work well, and others will see it!

You've got this! Believe in yourself!

At the end of the day, we can all be careful at work, but we all grow up in this environment, so you should also believe in yourself. You've already taken the first brave step, so keep up the good work. I truly believe you can do it!

Here's a helpful tip: Every day, write about something that made you happy at work, or record your progress. If you achieve it, treat yourself to a little reward!

I really hope these tips help you out! If you have any questions or need any help at work, please don't hesitate to send me a private message. I'm always happy to help!

I love you, world! And I love you too!

Hello. I can see your anxiety and the conflict within you. I understand how you feel, and I am confident that you will soon find a way out of your predicament. You are already looking for a solution, which is a great start.

Let me be clear: it's a good thing to be able to cry, whether you're moved or aggrieved. The questioner was able to cry, and to allow oneself to cry is to allow one's emotions to flow and express them naturally, which is very good. After crying, the whole person will feel much better. If you're depressed and don't allow yourself to cry, you'll become depressed over time.

The question asker needs to accept that he cried.

"At work, I get all sorts of ideas in my head, and I judge whether other people dislike, hate, or abandon me based on their actions or words."

The questioner needs to ask themselves what they want to prove in the process of self-awareness. Is it to prove that they are disliked, hated or abandoned?

If you think this is the case, you'll want to prove it. Even if it's not true, you'll want to prove it is because you can't tell the difference at the moment.

The questioner must reflect and analyze further.

"Sometimes I feel tired of interacting with people. I need to know what to do if I have trouble at work due to sensitive interpersonal relationships and a fragile inner self. I also need to know what kind of career is better."

I believe that work always requires interaction and communication with others. I am certain that work should continue as usual. As for what work to do, it depends on the questioner's comprehensive assessment, such as: major, hobbies, specialties, and what is suitable for combining them. This was how I assessed my choice of work at the time.

The questioner is a highly sensitive person. This is not a bad thing. In my experience, being highly sensitive is a gift. After years of training, I have found that being sensitive brings many benefits, including an accurate intuition and the ability to obtain information quickly.

The questioner will undoubtedly become more aware and practice more in their daily lives. They must practice more to consolidate their thinking, and it will get better. Good luck! I know you can do it!

Good morning, I hope this message finds you well. I am writing to ask a question.

From your description, I perceive a very vulnerable individual, encumbered by a heavy burden, walking along the sidewalk with their hands covering their ears and their head bowed.

I am unsure why, but this image has come to mind.

I empathize with your situation and recognize the challenges you're facing. I'm available to provide support and guidance if you'd like to discuss further.

You have identified the following characteristics: You are 26 years old, introverted, and timid, with a fragile heart. You are not as effective as your younger colleagues, who are 17 years old. At work, you care about what others think of you. You are easily sentimental, and you cry when you are touched or feel aggrieved. You are sensitive in your interpersonal relationships, and your inner fragility leads to work problems. You are unsure of the best career path for you.

I will provide another hug and offer a pat on the back. There is no need to be afraid. We are all here to support you, and we will get through this together. You have chosen to come here and talk, and I appreciate your trust.

You indicated that you are timid and care about what others think of you. Are you concerned about how you are perceived by others and afraid to confront your shortcomings? Are you a bit of a perfectionist?

Mistakes are an inevitable part of life, and perfection is unattainable.

It is beneficial to allow yourself to cry. This may seem counterintuitive, but it is actually a healthy response to stress. Expressing your emotions through tears can help relieve stress and soothe hurt feelings. It is important to recognize that crying is a form of catharsis, but it is essential to find a balance. As you mentioned, excessive crying may be a sign of "lacrimation incontinence," which is a concern.

If an individual is in a depressed or saddened state for an extended period, it will undoubtedly impact their physical and mental well-being, as well as their personal relationships. It is likely that few would wish to interact with someone who appears to lack vitality and energy. You have previously stated that this has affected your work.

I must acknowledge that I am not particularly fond of this aspect of my personality. I am eager to make changes to improve it.

Fortunately, you have already identified these issues and have begun seeking assistance. This is a positive step, and it marks the beginning of a change process, which is a significant achievement.

I would like to take this opportunity to share some of my own experiences with you.

Previously, I exhibited a tendency to be overly sensitive, narrow-minded, and to place a high value on the opinions of others. I was particularly susceptible to criticism and would often experience prolonged distress in the event of negative feedback. I was highly cautious, prone to making mistakes, and struggled to tolerate the casual demeanor of others. I often sought to impose my standards on others in a way that caused interpersonal tension. This approach was challenging in professional settings, where a more serious and stress-free atmosphere was preferable. While there were legitimate professional reasons for this behavior, I now recognize that these days are behind me.

As I grew older, I was able to enhance my learning abilities, which was reinforced by my colleagues. This led to a gradual evolution in my approach and outlook.

I will analyze the reasons behind my tendency to care so much about what others think. Is it a lack of self-confidence?

Could it be that I lack the requisite self-confidence, or am I simply not strong enough inside?

Are you perhaps too narrow-minded, or lacking in self-awareness?

Could it be hypocrisy or insecurity?

Am I unaccepting of my imperfections?

Upon conducting a comprehensive self-analysis, I identified the emergence of several deep-seated complexes. I have come to recognize that my core issue is an inferiority complex, characterized by an apprehension towards confronting my authentic self, an inability to accept my perceived weaknesses, and a deficiency in emotional security.

Despite my outward seriousness, I am actually afraid of making mistakes and facing the consequences. I am afraid of being told that I am not capable and being rejected by others. Consequently, I am intolerant of others' mistakes, even the slightest ones.

A lack of security drives the pursuit of perfectionism, as if this way I will be seen and recognized by others.

I have low self-esteem, so I am concerned with how I am perceived by others and strive to present myself in a positive manner.

I am reluctant to confront my true self and accept my imperfections. I am simply an ordinary individual, prone to making mistakes and lacking in perfection. However, we all have our unique perspectives and strengths. Some individuals care more deeply than others, and I am particularly attuned to this aspect of myself.

I have gained valuable insights through the aforementioned self-analysis. However, there are still challenges in implementing these insights in a gradual manner. I am pursuing a degree in psychology and integrating some of the learned techniques into my daily practice. I am learning to accept mistakes as part of the process and to embrace feedback from others. I am responding constructively to these insights and am learning to embrace my own mistakes. This approach allows me to gradually improve and to confront my strengths and weaknesses with honesty.

I also discuss my sensitive nature with my colleagues. I accept that I have this characteristic and that there is no need for me to change it in any special way. That is simply the way I am, provided that it does not affect others.

I am now able to treat others' comments about me objectively. I accept what I believe to be correct and set aside what I do not accept for the time being. I do not take it too seriously.

I would like to take this opportunity to share some of the valuable insights I gained from "Shiqi Jia's Psychological Growth Course: Healing the Inner Child and Activating Your Inner Energy." I highly recommend this course to anyone seeking personal growth and development.

It is only possible to truly face oneself and show oneself to others if one has a good understanding of oneself and is able to accept one's positive and negative attributes. In order to live a comfortable life, it is essential to like oneself. If one stops trying to be someone they are not, others will naturally like them for who they are.

Given the information I have provided, you should have recognized the similarities between us. I believe you may be able to gain insight from this, which would be beneficial.

Regarding your last comment regarding your suitability for a particular role, I believe that if you are confident in your abilities, true to yourself, and accept yourself, you will be able to overcome this challenge.

Regardless of the nature of the work, interpersonal relationships are always a factor. When we feel secure, positive, and true to ourselves, and demonstrate tolerance and flexibility, we can expect a bright future.

Best regards,

I look forward to seeing a confident and energetic version of you.

Best regards, I appreciate your attention to this matter. I look forward to seeing a confident and energetic you! Kind regards,

The landlord, 26, is introverted, timid, and easily cries. He's also very sensitive in relationships, which can feel exhausting when interacting with people.

People who are introverted and sensitive tend to pay a lot of attention to their relationship with their environment.

You can tell if someone dislikes you or hates you, or if they've given up on you, by how they act or what they say.

If you focus on everyone else, you'll end up focusing on the environment, which will leave you feeling tired and worn out.

So, the host can focus on himself instead.

1. Find your own beauty

Introverted and sensitive people tend to be very observant and thoughtful. They often have a knack for artistic creation.

You've got your own specialties and strengths, and you can spend some time on your hobbies.

When you feel good about yourself and are willing to spend time doing the things you like, you'll find your attention is drawn to yourself.

2. Figure out what you're interested in and what you're good at.

What did you enjoy doing most when you were a child, especially between the ages of 12 and 14? What kind of work would you do for free?

This is where your interests and strengths lie. Using your strengths can help you find a job that's a better fit for you.

Gallup has a book called Strength Finder with an online test. You can take the test to identify your strengths and learn how to develop them.

You can find a better way to develop yourself using a scientific approach, and you can make the most of your greatest strengths.

3. Take care of yourself and show yourself some love.

When you're always thinking about other people, you're affirming and identifying yourself from an external perspective.

From the outside in, you'll start to love yourself, affirm yourself, and accept yourself from within, and your heart will become stronger and stronger.

Everyone is different, and you have your own unique qualities. You've been through a lot over the past 26 years, but you've kept going. You even took the initiative to post a message on the website asking for help. That's admirable. You're motivated to make yourself stronger, and you're willing to put in the work.

And remember to love yourself a little more every day.

I'd also like to suggest a few books for you to read:

1. "High sensitivity is a gift."

Jens Sande, author from Denmark

2. "Poisoned Parents"

By Susan Forward

A sensitive person is a product of both nature and nurture. You can learn more about yourself and your strengths.

Being sensitive is a very powerful ability. It makes you empathetic, gentle, and more likely to help others.

On the other hand, being extremely sensitive is a kind of pain that most people just don't get.

Many artists and philosophers are sensitive people like this. They express their emotions and energy through their creations to find healing because the real world makes them suffer.

The host can also find a way to release their emotions through activities like writing, painting, music, crafts, etc. Art has a way of calming you down. When you start leaving comments here, it means you're motivated to change, to explore within yourself, and to ask your inner self. You'll find a way to live a better life. Best of luck!