What should I do if my 15-year-old child who is in the first year of high school doesn't want to go to school and stays at home all day?

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The 10th grader doesn't want to go to school, stays home all day, won't open the door or windows, cries when you say you're going to school, says he wants to hit people when he gets to school, and complains about the noise.

The information is unclear. I will give you a few possible directions.

Gao Yi has only been in school for two months. What has happened to him?

Ask the teacher how your child gets along with the teacher and classmates at school, how they behave in class, and especially how they get along with the students in the same dormitory and class.

Remain calm when talking to the teacher. You're just gathering information, not reprimanding them.

No matter what you learn, don't comment. Just say thank you.

You need to stay calm. Don't make the problem worse or the school environment worse for your child.

Don't just listen to one side of the story.

After you get back, talk to your child. If you don't know how, see a counselor. They can tell you what to do and how to talk to your child.

What's the atmosphere like in your family?

Counselors should understand the family situation when adolescents become unmotivated at school.

Some parents wait to get divorced until after their kids take the college entrance exam.

But there are signs before that. Kids can tell when their parents are fighting, even if they seem happy.

They might keep it to themselves.

He may get symptoms to keep his parents busy so they don't argue about getting a divorce. This is the child protecting his family.

If your family and relationship are bad, talk to your child. Explain that it has nothing to do with him. He is your child no matter what.

Talk to a family counselor. It's best if you can bring your child, but it's okay if you can't. Both parents should go together.

The child is not ready to leave home.

The child is in high school and will soon be leaving home for college.

Some children may not feel at ease if they arrange to go home on their own. This could cause the family to fall apart. Or the parents may not want the child to go far away and become dependent on them. For example, some mothers whose relationships with their husbands are not good may depend on their children for everything. The children will be afraid that if they go away, what will happen to their mothers.

Children who have similar problems may not want to leave home. This is still related to family relationships.

Seek family counseling.

Think about what made the child act this way.

Has the child been in a similar situation before? What happened recently?

Did something happen to the child in junior high? How did they do on the high school entrance exam? Did the parents put too much pressure on the child?

The problem description is simple, so we can only give you some ideas. Think about them.

If the child won't come out, parents should talk to a counselor.

I'm a counselor who is sometimes positive.

Good day. I previously held the position of parent to a high school-aged child, and I was greatly concerned about my child's current condition.

As a psychologist-in-training with years of experience, I am well-positioned to analyze your child's situation based on my expertise and understanding.

The primary objective in addressing a child's current issue is to ascertain the underlying cause of their present condition.

Firstly, the child is currently in adolescence, a period of significant physical and psychological change. It is not uncommon for this transition to be accompanied by discomfort. For instance, the emergence of secondary sexual characteristics and the onset of emotional changes may both cause distress.

Secondly, the child is in the 11th grade, which represents a significant transition in their academic trajectory. With each advancement to a higher grade, there is a natural adjustment period, which can vary in its intensity. In some cases, the adjustment is more pronounced and can be observed by parents, whereas in other instances, the child may be able to navigate the transition independently, and the adjustment may not be as readily apparent.

As children progress to high school, their studies assume greater importance. Additionally, they are on the cusp of confronting the college entrance examination. In the current examination-oriented system, a considerable number of children experience heightened pressure following their transition to high school. This pressure emanates not only from academic and familial sources but also from within the child themselves.

Third, the emotional life of children. It is not uncommon for fifteen-year-olds to experience the onset of romantic feelings towards the opposite sex. However, if these feelings are not adequately addressed, they can potentially lead to the development of psychological issues such as depression.

Based on the aforementioned factors, it is recommended that parents engage in communication with their children, endeavor to comprehend their thoughts, identify the primary cause, and address it in an appropriate manner. This approach can facilitate the release of emotions and encourage children to contemplate their problems in a composed manner.

Secondly, once the issue has been identified, a solution must be sought. The following thoughts and suggestions are offered for consideration.

My child also underwent significant changes during his first year of high school. During the first semester, he exhibited a notable decline in motivation to study following an incident in which a classmate in the back row referred to him as "Fat Fei," a name that he found insulting. I was preoccupied with other matters at the time and did not devote sufficient attention to this incident. I even advised him to prioritize his physical health, which initially led to a prolonged period of disregard on his part.

Subsequently, I discovered that he had been privately reducing his weight. In addition to adhering to a diet and paying attention to nutritional balance, he also requested that I procure him a gym membership during the summer and began attending the gym. He also engaged in clandestine exercise at home, losing over 20 pounds in a single semester. He became a cheerful and enterprising individual and even joined the school football team. His academic performance declined somewhat, but he was nevertheless content.

It is therefore recommended that parents should refrain from forcing their children to do things they do not wish to do and should instead allow them physical and mental freedom to release their emotions in their own way. This approach may prove effective in helping the child to improve.

Should you ascertain that your child is unable to extricate himself from the situation, it would be advisable to consult a professional counselor for assistance.

It is my hope that the aforementioned suggestions will prove beneficial. It is my sincerest hope that your child will soon emerge from the shadow and into the sunshine.

I am writing to inquire about a troubling change in my 15-year-old child's behavior. He has suddenly lost his desire to attend school. At home, he avoids opening the door, windows, and lights. He reports feeling distress when thinking about school and expresses a strong aversion to attending. He also states that he experiences frustration and anger when he arrives at school due to the noise levels. From these observations, I have formed the preliminary hypothesis that the child may have experienced some form of frustration or hurt at school that they are reluctant to discuss. I am curious to know whether the parents have taken any steps to address this issue.

The child's experience of being prevented from opening the door, window, or turning on the light is likely to be distressing. This can be conceptualised as the child being confined to a dark and isolated environment. It is unclear what emotional state the child is in, but it is reasonable to posit that it is one of distress.

The following anecdote may provide some inspiration. A person fell into a deep well and shouted for help. At that time, a passerby shouted at the well, "Don't worry, I'll go get help, someone will definitely help you," and then proceeded to jump in and assist. Another individual then jumped in directly, stayed with him, hugged him, and told him, "I will always stay by your side, let's see how we can climb up."

It seems reasonable to posit that the child's current need is for companionship, care, and support. It is unclear, however, whether the parents are providing this.

The question thus arises as to who is responsible for untying the knot. The child in question reports that he cries when he arrives at school and is reluctant to enter, that he becomes angry and wishes to hit others when he is in the school environment, and that the noise levels are excessive.

It is unclear what kind of painful emotional experience the child has undergone at school. It would be beneficial for the parents to visit the school to ascertain this information. Additionally, it would be advantageous for the teachers and classmates at school to be aware of the child's inner fears.

Who is capable of opening the window of the mind, entering the mind, and sending a ray of light? The individual who fastened the bell must unfasten it. Thus, who is this individual?

It would be beneficial to ascertain the nature of the child's distress at school. In the event that parents are unable to provide assistance, it may be advisable to consult with a psychological counselor, who could offer the child professional companionship, understanding, and support.

The question then becomes how one might facilitate the opening of the child's psychological window. It is unclear what the nature of the parent-child relationship is on a daily basis. In cases where the father (or mother) typically has more effective communication, it is likely that he (or she) will assume a more prominent role. In instances where family members are unable to communicate effectively, it may be beneficial to seek the assistance of a teacher at the child's school or a classmate who can provide support and guidance. Both of these individuals may be able to assist the child in managing emotional distress.

In the event that all other avenues have been exhausted, it is possible to seek assistance directly from the school's psychological counselor or a professional counselor in the community or on the platform. It is encouraging to note that the Yi Xinli platform provides access to a range of professional counselors who are able to offer guidance and support.

Given the paucity of available information, it is not possible to provide a comprehensive account. It is hoped, however, that this will prove to be of some assistance.

Hello, question asker. I am June Lai Feng.

It is normal for high school students to be unmotivated, and it is also normal for parents to be anxious. However, your child's situation is not normal. It is something we should pay attention to.

First, you must understand the reasons for school refusal.

The learning style has changed significantly compared to junior high school, and the burden and pressure of learning have increased significantly. High school students now spend at least 13 hours a day at school, and the difficulty has increased. It is not uncommon for students to not understand.

This pressure and burden can push them to the breaking point or to the verge of collapse. They reject school because of it.

2. Parents have high expectations. These expectations are unrealistic and lead them to want to escape or give up.

3. The continuation of adolescence and the rebellious period impact students. Some students are caught in a state of confusion due to their own emotional changes. They avoid studying to cope with their psychological changes because they have no one to talk to.

4. External negative factors can influence high school students who hate learning. They must be aware of these factors to maintain a positive learning attitude.

Your child needs to understand that school is important to them. They also need to understand that learning takes time and effort. They can't expect to work hard one day and see results the next. It's not that simple.

1. Make your child aware of the importance of learning to them. They also need to understand that learning is not something you work hard at today and see results tomorrow. It requires consistent effort.

We must reduce the pressure on children and change learning methods.

2. Help children identify the root causes of learning difficulties, develop tailored teaching plans and strategies, and create an optimal learning environment.

3. In practical learning, poor performance makes it difficult to experience a sense of accomplishment. Use literature, art, and sports activities to accumulate and experience the joy of success, thereby boosting confidence. Dissipate the emotion of loathing learning.

We only compete with our own past, not with other people's present.

4. Look for signs of psychological problems.

Depression and emotional problems are real issues that we must address.

Depression is a prominent emotional problem in adolescence. It is the first peak of depression throughout childhood and before adulthood. Some children are pessimistic and despair about their personal future and have low self-esteem.

We will make our children's lives comfortable and enjoyable. We will discern all kinds of thoughts, emotions, and things. We will teach our children to respect others and themselves.

Cultivate the child's masculinity, vitality, enthusiasm, and positivity.

❤️Lack of security. The child closing the door and drawing the curtains shows that he or she is affected by fear and lacks a sense of security in the surroundings. Using darkness soothes his or her fragile mind.

We need to know whether our children are exposed to violence at school.

I am confident that the above will be of assistance to you. The world and I love you.

Dear Question Owner, My name is Du Ying, and I am a listening professional. I hope my answer will be of assistance to you.

From your description, it is evident that your child has faced challenges at school that have a profound emotional impact, leading to a reluctance to attend school. As a parent, you are understandably concerned about your child's well-being and the implications of these difficulties on their physical and mental state. Let us analyze the situation together to determine the most appropriate course of action.

You have indicated that the child in question has experienced a setback at school or has been affected by a negative event, such as failing an exam or a setback in interpersonal relationships. This has led to feelings of hurt, low self-esteem, and frustration, which have manifested as a desire to hide in his room and avoid external interactions.

He indicated that he was contemplating physical violence at school, that the environment was excessively noisy, and that he was experiencing a plethora of negative emotions. In light of the aforementioned recommendations for the questioner, it is my hope that they will prove beneficial.

First, listen to your child. Adolescents are in a period of rapid physical and mental development, which can cause emotional instability and poor self-control. They often experience depression and anxiety, and their personalities are not yet fully formed. They desire independence, value, and self-respect, but may not yet have the skills to achieve these. When faced with challenges, they may choose to avoid them.

It is my hope that, after understanding these circumstances, the questioner will be able to fully accept the child's current state. While taking care of the child's daily needs and providing good company, the child will be able to feel the love and warmth of his parents, which will help him overcome the problems of adolescence together. When the child slowly feels the love of his parents and his sense of security increases, gradually guide the child to talk about what happened at school, why he doesn't want to go to school, what impact these things have had on his psychology, and what ideas and perceptions he has.

Secondly, it is important to ascertain the facts regarding the situation at school. Once you have communicated with your child, it is advisable to seek further information from the child's teachers at school. You may also wish to consult with classmates who are familiar with the child to gain a more comprehensive understanding of the situation at school. This will help you to gain a complete picture of what has happened to your child. Once you have done this, you will be in a position to gain a comprehensive understanding of the situation.

Third, provide guidance to the child. Once you have a clear understanding of the various scenarios, you can then proceed to offer the child guidance on how to view the situation in an objective manner and address any negative emotions or thoughts that may arise. Should you feel that you lack the necessary expertise to handle the situation effectively, you can seek professional advice and consult with the relevant consultant to obtain a more comprehensive solution.

Should difficulties persist, it is advisable to consult with the child and arrange for a counselor to provide psychological counseling to relieve psychological distress and facilitate a return to school.

It is my hope that the above suggestions will prove beneficial to the individual in question. Furthermore, it is my sincere hope that the child in question will recover his physical and mental health as soon as possible and return to school.

Hello!

I could feel your anxiety, and I totally get it! Adolescence is a truly special stage. It's totally normal for adolescents to be reluctant to communicate with their family members and even rebel against them. It can be really challenging for parents to enter the hearts of adolescents at this time. But I truly believe that it is particularly important to care for and try to understand their inner feelings.

First, let's think about why your child doesn't want to go to school. There are two main reasons: one is the school aspect, such as if the child is having a hard time at school, such as being excluded, criticized by the teacher, not getting along with classmates, etc. The other is the child's own aspect, such as if the child usually dislikes learning and is keen on other things. Think about it in this way to find the root cause of why your child doesn't want to go to school and seek a solution from it.

Second, changes in the environment make children reluctant to go to school. There is also pressure in school, such as ranking, teachers' teachings, and interactions with classmates. In fact, it is a very social environment, and people in such an environment will miss the once comfortable environment, such as being free at home and not having to face anything. This can lead to discomfort when thinking about returning to a stressful environment. Parents should give him unconditional support and guide him to think through these questions: Who am I?

What are my roles? What kind of person do I want to be in these roles? I can't wait to find out!

So, what does it take to become such a person? By asking questions, you can help him think and clarify his goals and position, reshaping his perception and his view of himself and the world!

Third, adolescents are a bundle of contradictions. This is an amazing time in their lives! They are eager to explore and discover who they are and what they believe. It's important to recognize that adolescents at this stage often don't care whether you are right or wrong, but whether you think they are right. This is a great opportunity for you to engage in caring communication. You can build a strong connection by understanding each other. The best way to get your child to listen is to listen to them seriously. When you always make decisions for your child, they may lose the ability to make decisions for themselves. This can lead to challenges when they leave home, as they may be afraid to try anything new. Parents can show their children that they are there for them by being open to making mistakes and learning from them. Let your child experience the world and discover what they truly want.

I also had an intense dislike for school during this period. I was reluctant to face the pressure at school or talk to my parents about the truth. I was really suffering inside, and I really hoped that my parents could understand me. However, every "exchange"

These conversations often end with a strong, clear message from parents: "You're not right," "I'm right," and I hope you can have a real exchange with your child as soon as possible, where you can respect each other and grow together.

Hello, question owner!

It is indeed a challenging situation when your 15-year-old child doesn't want to go to school. But since it has already happened, we have the exciting opportunity to face it positively and seek an appropriate solution.

I applaud your prompt help! I can't wait to share some ideas for solving the problem. I hope they are helpful!

First of all, when a child is in such a situation, parents must remain calm, avoid panic, and accept the child.

It's so important to convey a message to your child that no matter what happens, mommy and daddy will always love and support them.

Love him and support him always! This is so important. Love gives him a sense of security and the motivation to change!

Ability!

It would be really helpful for us to know whether your child is only showing these behaviours because he or she resists going to school, such as "no lights, no windows, no doors, too noisy."

"And other social activities are normal, regardless of school? This helps you determine whether your child

It's so important to understand whether your child is just afraid of going to school or of all social interactions.

If the problem is simply that he doesn't want to go to school, then you get to find out if anything in particular has happened recently at school!

And the best part is that you can do this! You can analyze the causes by looking at things combined with the previous three years of junior high school learning and adaptation.

In short, each phenomenon is never suddenly manifested at a certain moment. It may be a combination of all previous fragments, a consequence of a long period of accumulation. What is most important for you now is: acceptance (to soothe emotions) + communication (to find the cause) + facing it together (to find a way).

If you're having trouble communicating with your child, I highly recommend seeking the help of a professional psychological institution. Best wishes!

Greetings,

The child in question exhibits a reluctance to exit the confines of his room, barricading the door, windows, and lights. Upon inquiry, the child offers a litany of reasons for his apparent aversion to attending school, including the fear of crying, a desire to lash out at others, and an aversion to the perceived noise levels.

If a child displays behaviors such as crying, hitting others, or complaining about noise when attending school, it indicates that they perceive themselves to be isolated and helpless within that environment. The child may cry when they feel aggrieved, become angry and act impulsively, and complain about noise when they feel irritated. These behaviors, at the very least, demonstrate that the child's emotional feelings and expressions are within the normal range.

If a child exhibits a reluctance to open the door, windows, or lights, it may be indicative of a perception of misunderstanding within the home environment. This behavior may be driven by a desire to avoid perceived pressure and danger, to block out external noise, or to avoid being observed. In such instances, it is crucial for parents to recognize that their child's actions are driven by a need for safety and security.

What strategies might parents employ to assist their children in overcoming the self-imposed isolation that has been imposed upon them?

Firstly, it is essential to facilitate the child's transition from their bedroom to the family environment. This process should be conducted in a manner that conveys the family's safety, unity, and willingness to provide assistance, support, and protection.

Subsequently, when the child emerges from the period of isolation and is no longer alone for a minimum of three or four days, parents should adopt the role of a supporter, allowing the child to actively express their needs and the challenges they are facing.

Secondly, parents should temporarily suppress their urgent desire for their child to return to school and instead wait until the child has overcome the psychological obstacle and demonstrated a determination to face it bravely. When guiding their child on the importance of attending school to learn, parents should be gentle in order to encourage a voluntary and active return to school.

Ultimately, parents must instruct their children on how to cope with disagreeable occurrences at school, how to navigate disputes with classmates, and how to solicit assistance from others and educators when they are unable to resolve issues independently. Additionally, parents should educate their children on how to manage negative emotions, facilitate emotional regulation, and cultivate a positive outlook.

Should parents find the aforementioned practices challenging and perceive themselves as deficient in their communication skills and ability to educate their children in this regard, they may seek the assistance of a professional counselor. However, parents must remain steadfast in their insistence on providing their children with support and encouragement.

Sincerely,

Good evening,

I'm Kelly.

I'm also worried when I see this question. Let's talk about it together and I'll give you some advice.

I need to know what to do if my 15-year-old high school freshman doesn't want to go to school and stays at home all day.

Children are going through puberty at the age of 15, and it is a fact that children in puberty undergo great changes. Let's take a look at the following reasons why children don't want to go to school and find out together.

1. Is the pressure at school too great? For example, is the child being verbally abused by the homeroom teacher or other teachers?

Is the child being hurt in some way that is damaging their self-esteem?

2. Do you get along well with your classmates?

Is the child isolated or bullied at school? Do they feel fearful inside?

3: How long has the child been like this? If it is just beginning, parents and children can communicate well and find a solution together.

4: The family is a system. It is important to understand the dynamics between the parents. Do they get along well? Do they argue in front of the child?

We must determine whether the child's reluctance to go to school is a form of rebellion.

We can help the child find the reason why they refuse to go to school by looking for the above four reasons.

If the child refuses to go to school, you must help them.

1. Find a teacher to communicate with and gain a deeper understanding of the child's situation at school. If the issue is academic, the most effective approach is to gradually improve the child's grades while identifying and addressing their learning challenges together.

2. If it is a bad relationship with classmates,

Children can also feel inferior, so encourage them to socialize more with their classmates, give them affirmation, trust them, help them integrate with their classmates, and find the good things in them to give them confidence in the support they get from the group.

3: If the child is always reluctant to communicate and needs to communicate with a professional counselor, it is important to determine whether this is a depressed mood or depression. It is also essential to ascertain how long this situation has been ongoing.

Help the child find a counselor they like and get through this period together.

4: If parents are fighting, they should ask themselves: will the child's emotions be positive in a family that fights?

Some parents are unhappy in their marriages and constantly blame and complain about their partners. They fight, complain, and their children can easily lose themselves. Over time, their emotions are suppressed, problems arise, and they eventually escape from reality.

The child is refusing to open the door, windows, or lights. He states that he cries when he goes to school and does not want to go. Upon arrival at school, he becomes agitated and attempts to hit people because the environment is too noisy.

It's clear the child is going to school, but there's a problem with the school. The child's extreme behavior is a clear sign of emotional distress. His desire to hit people is an expression of overwhelming anger. It's evident the child is suffering from depression and intense emotional pain.

The questioner can see the problem with their child and is willing to come to Yi Xinli to ask questions. Studying psychology will help the questioner learn more about children in adolescence and understand themselves better. There are ways to improve the process of raising a child to help the child get through it together.

Seek help from a professional counselor. The child's growth stage cannot be delayed. Find the problem early and face it head-on.

The original poster should read "Mr. Toad Goes to the Psychiatrist" and also "Why Families Get Sick."

I need to know why the child is not going to school.

Given the limited information available, I have made some bold assumptions. Please accept my apologies for any deficiencies.

I am confident that the problem will be found soon and that my child will return to school soon.

You deserve congratulations on your well-being!

The world loves you, and I love you too.

From your description, it is evident that you are experiencing a sense of helplessness as a parent. You appear to have difficulty understanding your child's behavior, and you are feeling anxious about the situation. Additionally, you seem uncertain about how to provide effective assistance.

As a hospital psychotherapist, I would like to share my understanding from a psychological perspective. Children aged 12-18 are in a stage of adolescent development, during which they may no longer confide in their parents about everything like they did when they were younger. They may want to solve problems on their own. However, at present, they should have encountered a difficult problem that they cannot solve on their own, and they may be unwilling to communicate with their parents. Let's identify where you and your child are experiencing difficulties.

Please indicate whether the high school student is willing to attend this school's high school after the college entrance exam. Additionally, please describe the student's relationship with the teachers at this school.

Please describe the student's relationship with his classmates. Please describe the student's learning situation at this school.

It is important to ascertain whether your child discloses issues when they arise and to what extent you are able to communicate with them effectively.

Please describe your child's character traits, including whether they are introverted or extroverted.

Do they resolve issues independently or solicit assistance? Have they ever disclosed this to you?

Please indicate whether you have high expectations of your child or no expectations at all.

It is important to consider whether these questions are effective for determining how much parents know about their children.

In my clinical work, I have observed numerous children who express dislike of school. Frequently, these children present with underlying conflicts in their relationship with their parents. These conflicts may manifest as school refusal, physical discomfort, or even violence at school. As parents, it is essential to observe and understand the underlying causes of school refusal. We should communicate with our children in a gentle and curious manner, avoiding the influence of emotions that may lead to criticism and scolding. Regardless of the circumstances, parents should provide unconditional support, acceptance, and understanding to their children, creating a safe space for them to express their inner fears, anxieties, and feelings of helplessness.

Additionally, you may wish to consider taking your child to the hospital for a check-up on the grounds of caring for your child's health, to ascertain whether there is any psychological confusion. It may be beneficial to seek the assistance of a professional psychiatrist and psychotherapist, who can help to determine the extent of your child's mental health, whether there is depression or anxiety, and whether medication or psychotherapy is required.

It is essential to establish a stable and secure relationship with the child to facilitate communication and allow them to express themselves gradually. Patience and persistence are key, and early intervention often yields positive outcomes. Affirming love and support for children is crucial, and it is our collective responsibility to ensure their well-being. Let's work together to make a difference!