What should I do if my former dreams seem ridiculous and I feel like life is meaningless?

We have made a lot of efforts, made a lot of sacrifices, and also paid a lot of hard work and suffering. The result is often not satisfactory. This is a level we need to think about, because what we are aware of may be different from what others are aware of—and that's okay!

Your mother or others may not see your good side and the hard work you put in, but there's no need to worry! Just as there are a thousand Hamlets or Harry Potters in the eyes of a thousand people, all of which can be interpreted from different perspectives, you have the power to show them your good side and the amazing work you do.

● Once upon a time, I had the most outlandish dreams. I felt like my life had no meaning

●Guess what! In junior high school, a person with a thin face has worked hard, and his family doesn't see it.

And it also says that you are lazy and that you think that bad grades make you a loser!

Meaning

Ignore it!

This way, other people will think you are terrible. But here's the good news: if you live in such an environment for a long time, you will become more and more uncomfortable, as if you really are the kind of terrible person others see you as. And you know what that means? It means you have the power to change your life!

The environment can shape people and change their character in amazing ways!

You can fully and clearly understand what you want, and it's an amazing feeling!

Let's work on boosting your confidence and resolving some internal issues to help you feel more self-assured!

The environment we are most exposed to at the beginning is our own family. Your mother has been whispering in your ear and instilling ideas and opinions in you, which can easily make you increasingly depressed. But don't worry! There are ways to turn this around.

If this continues, you will easily encounter problems. You will feel that your life seems very low and listless, and that you seem to have no future prospects. But don't worry! You can turn this around. You long for others to praise you, but it doesn't quite work out as you wish.

Other people may also have their own ideas, but you have your own dreams and values! You want to make a better future for yourself, and you could become a writer or a voice actor—the possibilities are endless!

Voice actors are truly amazing! They have the incredible ability to transform their voices from princesses to grannies, and from Hans to cute lolis. It's okay if you're feeling a little down about your dreams right now. We've all been there! It's easy to feel overweight and inferior when it seems like achieving your dreams is so hard.

If you have a long-term inferiority complex, don't worry! You can still pursue your dreams. In fact, grades don't determine your future, but they can help you set a lower limit for what you think is possible. Take the inner animal archetype psychological test to understand yourself better and seek psychological counseling. You've got this!

ZQ?

Hello, questioner!

After reading your description, I can see that you are actually a very hardworking child with ideals. You are only in junior high school, and there is still a long way to go in the future. It is very unwise to set limits for yourself now. I do understand your feelings of loss and helplessness. Parents don't understand you, and they never see the effort you put in. Sometimes we just don't have the talent others have when it comes to learning, but that doesn't mean we don't try hard, right? I know it can feel really helpless when parents only see results and don't understand us at all.

We all want to do well in school, right? And it's not just about hard work. Sometimes, we need a little bit of talent to learn, too! But sometimes, parents don't understand that!

1. Dreams

I went through the same period of life as you, so I really understand how you feel. As teenagers, we all have our own dreams. You're still so young, so how do you know that your dreams cannot come true? We should strive for our ideals, not give up on them just because you're young.

I know it can feel like there's no way you can achieve your dreams, but I promise you there's evidence to the contrary! It's just a one-sided idea in your mind.

2. I really try my best, but my grades just aren't as good as others.

I can relate to the feeling of helplessness in the questioner. I used to feel the same way, but then I grew up and realized that it's not always helpful to compare ourselves to others. Instead, we should focus on how we're improving and be proud of ourselves. There will always be people who have different backgrounds than us. If you compare your family's wealth, there's Wang Sicong who is richer than us, then there's Wang Jianlin who is richer than Wang Sicong, and then there's Bill Gates who is richer than Wang Jianlin...

In terms of academic performance, for example, we may have managed to get into a key university, but there are still people who got better grades than us and got into Peking University or Tsinghua University. Harvard and Stanford are even better than Qingbei, so this kind of blind comparison is meaningless. You should know that there will always be someone who is smarter, richer, more beautiful, and more hardworking than you. So, don't compare yourself with the people around you, but with your past self.

All we need to do is live our lives to the fullest and make every day a little bit better than the last. Let yourself feel happy from the inside. Happiness is something we can all learn and grow. And remember, don't compare yourself to others.

3. About feeling like you can't do anything well and not being very satisfied with your appearance.

From your description, I can see where you're struggling, but I think it's really brave of you to be able to share your "weaknesses" on this platform. It's not easy to do that, and it takes a lot of courage to show your shortcomings on a platform with so many people. I believe that with this courage of yours, the questioner will definitely be able to live beautifully and wonderfully in the future.

As for appearance, there are those who are naturally beautiful, but they are relatively few in number. Most of us are ordinary people with average looks. So most of us are just like you! You may feel that you are a little overweight, Jiang San may feel that his legs are a little short, and Li Si may feel that his skin is a little dark. We all have our own areas of dissatisfaction, but that can't stop us from continuing to live our lives to the fullest. Besides, there is a limit to outer beauty; only inner beauty is lasting. So, work hard to increase your inner beauty and become a person who radiates beauty from the inside out. We can all do it!

4. About parents' lack of understanding

If our parents don't recognize us, that's their way of educating us, and that's their business. But we must learn to recognize ourselves, to find our own bright spots, to find the things we've been successful at. We all have our own strengths, but often we're in the habit of only seeing our own shortcomings and ignoring our strengths. If you don't believe me, at least find three of your own strengths. Learning to magnify your own strengths is also a way to boost your confidence.

As we grow up, it's so important to learn to recognize, care for, and sympathize with ourselves. It doesn't matter if others don't understand or misunderstand us — we must understand and recognize ourselves. We don't live for others, we live for ourselves.

In the end, many of us grow up stumbling and falling, but even if we are covered in bruises, we must persevere. Remember, don't give up so easily! The world is still up in the air, and you and I are both dark horses, but we can do it!

I just know that if we persevere and never give up, one day we will stand tall and achieve a transformation in our lives.

Wishing you all the best!

Hello classmate, It's sad when you work hard but are rejected by others, especially by your family.

You work hard, and I believe that. But your family only sees the results, not the process.

Your low self-esteem makes you feel like life is meaningless.

You can change this. You just haven't found a good way yet.

I have some tips for you.

You need specific, clear, achievable goals.

You work hard, but I don't know what you want to achieve.

You've worked hard, but your grades are still poor.

Parents think if your grades improve, you should be in the top 10. You think if your grades improve by 20 points, it's because of your hard work.

You measure effort differently.

Set a goal for the next stage. It should be based on your current level, not something unattainable.

For the next exam, improve your Chinese by 5 points and your English by 10 points. Set small goals you can achieve with hard work.

After the exam, you will have proof of your hard work. When your parents see that you kept your word, they will recognize your efforts.

Build self-confidence.

If you feel like life is meaningless, you might not be able to stick with it. So start small.

If you say you are a bit overweight, have you thought about going to the gym?

Set a small goal: 30 minutes of exercise every morning. Do it for seven days, and reward yourself.

It can also be something you like, like writing 500 words a day or sharing a voice clip.

You can control it and achieve it with persistence. You will gain confidence through small successes.

You will realize you can achieve your goals.

Ideals are great, but you need to break down your goals and find a way to achieve them.

You want to be a scriptwriter and a voice actor.

It's good to have ideals.

Ideals are sometimes too far away. You need to break them down into small goals that require concrete actions to achieve.

What's your ideal signpost? What should you do?

Plan your ideal and turn it into small, concrete, achievable goals. For example, if you write 500 words every day for a year, you'll have a huge masterpiece.

Your parents may lack trust because they don't see your actions and results. The best proof is to just do it.

The best way to impress those who look down on you is to achieve your goals.

Believe in yourself!

Start with a small goal.

The text employs minimal punctuation, yet it is still comprehensible due to the presence of spacing. This is a stylistic choice that reflects your individual expression.

Each individual possesses a distinct identity, akin to the diversity observed among leaves on a single tree. We are all unique, with our own distinctive personalities and attributes.

You feel aggrieved that your family cannot see your hard work, and you are even called "lazy." It is arbitrary for those closest to you not to trust you and to often judge whether you are studying hard based on your grades.

The lack of understanding from your loved ones, coupled with the fact that no matter how hard you try, your results remain unimproved, has led to a state of confusion, and you even question the viability of your former aspirations and the value of your life.

Let us undertake an analysis of the distinctive characteristics of the individual in question and explore the subject's own self-perception.

You indicate that you are a person who cares about your reputation, which suggests that you are sensitive, concerned about the opinions of others, and possess a perceptive and nuanced mind. You have a rich inner world and often have your own unique insights into people, things, and objects.

Although your family is unable to observe your efforts, it is important to have your own unique ideas. It is essential to reflect on your study habits. Do you invest more time and effort than others, or do you frequently engage in studying even when engaged in other activities, such as eating or sleeping?

In many endeavors, despite significant effort, success may not be achieved. This is because the process of doing something is analogous to climbing a mountain. The objective is to reach the summit, yet individuals employ disparate strategies. Despite exerting comparable levels of effort, individuals select distinct routes, utilize varied climbing equipment, and consume disparate nourishment. Moreover, climbers' physical fitness varies, suggesting the existence of specific factors that contribute to the individual who reaches the summit first.

The path may be relatively short, personal endurance may be relatively good, and the climbing equipment may be very useful, etc.

Thus, the same is true of learning. While diligence is undoubtedly a virtue, it is also essential to identify a learning method that aligns with one's aptitudes. To illustrate, when it comes to memorizing vocabulary, some individuals may find success through rote memorization, while others may require associations to facilitate more effective recall, relying on their visual thinking abilities.

It would be beneficial to analyze your own characteristics, identify the time periods during which you are most productive, and experiment with some effective learning methods. There are relevant resources online that you can search for. It would be advantageous to find a method that suits you in order to improve your learning efficiency.

You have indicated that you perceive yourself to be overweight and to feel inferior. As a junior high school student, you are still required to undertake a significant academic workload. It would be beneficial to consider your typical dietary intake and whether you adhere to a regular routine. It is a generally accepted fact that individuals tend to gain weight when they are under pressure. By controlling your diet or exercising more, and maintaining a regular lifestyle, you can maintain a healthy weight.

You have expressed a desire to become a writer or voice actor, which indicates an affinity for the arts. You are currently in junior high school, a stage of life that allows for a considerable amount of time to prepare for the future. It is not uncommon for individuals to have dreams that may or may not come true; it is, however, uncommon for someone to have a clear vision of their future as early as you have. Most people do not have a clear understanding of what they want to do after college. You have already identified a path that you want to pursue, which is admirable. You are a thoughtful child.

You indicate a preference for receiving praise. It is an emotionally rewarding experience to be acknowledged positively by others. However, it appears that your family does not typically engage in offering praise to others.

It would be beneficial to ascertain whether your parents are in a positive frame of mind on a given day and attempt to convey your thoughts and feelings to them. It is likely that you have been experiencing feelings of doubt due to your perception of your parents' continual skepticism. It would be constructive to request that they attempt to identify the positive aspects of your character. For instance, you could inform them that you assisted your mother with the washing of dishes and suggest that she offer praise in a constructive manner. It is also important to note that children and parents can influence each other, and you may wish to provide your parents with suggestions regarding how they can communicate with you more effectively.

It is my hope that the aforementioned information is of some assistance.

Hello, host.

I'm happy to help and look forward to hearing your thoughts. Letmefly.

The original poster is only in junior high, and so far, his grades haven't met his parents' expectations. You feel like no one in your family gets you. I get it. I was young once, too. I'll give you a warm hug first.

The original poster said he has dreams, but he also has low self-esteem. If he didn't care about anything, I don't think he'd be asking for help.

So, I believe the original poster still has aspirations. Despite the challenges, the original poster has not given up.

Let's talk about how we can improve the current situation.

We know that all great ideas have to be based on reality, so can we make a small promise to keep making progress, even if it's just a little?

For instance, you could try memorizing a word a day. I'm not you, so I hope you'll take a week to think about your current situation and what you can do now, as well as what you can do with the help of teachers or parents.

It's important to communicate well with your parents. I know it can be challenging, but it's worth trying.

You might have to figure out the solution on your own.

I hope this is useful. I'd love to hear your thoughts, as well as your followers and likes.

Dear Questioner,

First and foremost, I extend my sincerest wishes for your well-being and express my hope that you may currently experience a sense of warmth and being seen from afar.

I have carefully read your words and observed your efforts and sense of powerlessness, your desire to be seen, praised, and affirmed, as well as your disappointment in yourself, your family, and your tendency to deny your own needs. I have also observed your dreams. Are you currently experiencing a sense of emotional well-being, my child?

It is notable that your question has been viewed by more than one hundred individuals.

You are currently in junior high school, and you may not yet possess the requisite abilities or opportunities to achieve your aspirations. You are just beginning to amass the resources necessary to realize your dreams. Your life is still in its early stages, and there is a significant possibility that your dreams can still come to fruition. It is imperative not to abandon your aspirations prematurely. The narrative of your life is still unfolding, and it is crucial not to hastily conclude that your existence is devoid of purpose.

It is possible that the comments from others, including your mother, have led you to believe that your efforts are futile. I offer you a hug once more and will assist you in clarifying your confusion.

I am currently in junior high school, and I am aware that my actions may reflect poorly on me. I have striven to achieve good grades, but my family has expressed disappointment in my performance. They have suggested that I work harder and adopt a more dedicated approach. However, I have not been able to improve my grades significantly. I am aware that my academic performance is not as strong as it could be. I have considered trying harder, but I am uncertain if that would lead to a noticeable improvement. It seems that my efforts are not meeting the expectations of my family and peers. I am unsure if I should continue striving for academic excellence or accept my current level of performance.

I believe you have exerted a commendable effort, and you may have even attempted to do so to a greater extent in order to avoid embarrassment. You have undoubtedly invested a considerable amount of effort, my child.

It is often the case that hard work does not necessarily lead to success. However, it is indisputable that failure to work hard will inevitably result in failure. It is therefore evident that you have invested significant effort in your academic pursuits, yet the outcome has not met with your expectations or those of your family.

It can be assumed that when one encounters difficulties in achieving the desired outcome of their efforts, there is a tendency to seek external validation, particularly from one's family, particularly one's mother. In this case, the desire is to be acknowledged for the effort expended and the process undertaken, rather than the outcome itself. The situation is further compounded by the fact that the individual in question is experiencing a sense of rejection from those who are meant to provide support and encouragement.

It is evident that you have endured a challenging existence.

It would be beneficial to ascertain the point at which this psychological state manifested. It is unclear whether this is influenced by gender, family environment, financial situation, or parental expectations.

From your description, it appears that you are primarily aware of their negative sentiments and dissatisfaction with you. I can discern a profound sense of sadness and despair in your demeanor.

I empathize with your situation.

It would be beneficial for the child to communicate their feelings to their parents or other family members. If this has not yet occurred, it would be advisable for the child to initiate a conversation about their feelings. This could be done in a positive context, such as when the parents are happy, or through a trusted third party. It is possible that the parents are unaware of the child's feelings and perceptions.

It seems reasonable to posit that your feelings are genuine and that you are indeed experiencing them.

From a psychological perspective, the manner in which parents treat their children is often influenced by their own experiences of being treated as children. This may shape their understanding of love and parenting.

I derive great satisfaction from the praise of others. I also have aspirations to become a writer and a voice actor, but at this juncture, it appears unattainable due to my perceived inadequacies.

Indeed, humans have an innate desire to be seen, recognized, and praised. However, it is important to recognize that we are all born with low self-esteem. Therefore, it is not surprising that you feel this way at such a young age. It is crucial to understand that there is no need to be so certain at such an early age that you are inherently flawed.

In the field of psychology, the concept of absolute good or absolute bad is often dismissed as a simplistic and inaccurate representation of human behavior.

Although it is often the case that individuals experience the greatest pain when they do not receive recognition from their family, particularly their mothers, this should not be a reason to deny oneself. Instead, it is possible to accept their disapproval and then attempt to learn to approve of oneself. This can be done by finding a place and time where one will not be disturbed and then saying hello to oneself in the mirror.

I extend my sincerest apologies and express my gratitude.

Affirmations should be repeated at least 15 minutes per day for a minimum of 21 days. If any emotions arise during the process, they should be acknowledged and expressed. Focus on the areas of dissatisfaction.

Additionally, it is recommended to identify three minor positive attributes about oneself on a daily basis and record them. It would be beneficial to adhere to this practice for at least 21 days to observe the potential outcomes. Best wishes for success.

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In examining your aspirations, it becomes evident that you are a young individual grappling with complex emotions. Despite your current status as a junior high school student, the necessity to nurture dreams persists. It is plausible that these aspirations may eventually materialize.

It would be premature to abandon one's efforts at this juncture.

I am overweight, and I am unsure whether I am attractive. I have a romantic interest, but I am so self-conscious that I believe I cannot perform well in any situation. I used to have aspirations, but now I consider them to be unrealistic.

What is the precise situation of being overweight? Being overweight is a visible condition.

At what point did you begin to gain weight? Observe Han Hong, who is overweight but remains a popular singer.

The presence of excess adipose tissue does not preclude the individual from being perceived as attractive.

It is not uncommon for individuals to form attachments to others, which indicates positive developmental progress.

In addition to academic performance and weight, what other areas do you feel you are lacking in? I suggest you read the following books: The Courage to Be Disliked, Change Starts from the Heart, and Rebuilding Your Life. You may find inspiration and a new perspective on yourself through these texts.

Furthermore, if one feels that they are unable to improve their confusion through their own abilities and efforts, they may seek assistance from local women's federations or juvenile guidance centers, youth organizations, the Red Cross, and other relevant departments. They may also contact the 12355 hotline to discuss their innermost feelings. Additionally, they may consult with a school psychologist, and if their family's financial situation allows, they may also seek the help of a professional psychological counselor to assist them in navigating this challenging period.

My dear child, life is comprised of a multitude of experiences. It is my hope that you will have the opportunity to experience more. Best wishes,

I am a counselor at Happy Cow, a new online platform dedicated to providing support and guidance to individuals facing various challenges in life.

Hello, young person!

I see you saying that you have tried hard, and I admire your dedication! However, it seems that your family doesn't fully understand your efforts. Your parents may be judging you based on your grades, which can make you feel like they don't see your hard work. It's natural to feel misunderstood and unseen, especially when we're trying our best. Many people have been or are in the same situation as you, and it's okay to feel that way. While it might be challenging to change how your parents perceive you, there's something you can do right now to make a positive change: adjust and change yourself! You have the power to shift your communication style and show your parents that you're trying your best.

Let's change the way you communicate with your parents and show them how much you understand them!

When talking to your parents, always remember to express your understanding and gratitude first. Even if they may suppress, ridicule, or abuse us, we still need to express our understanding of their expectations and eagerness for us to succeed. This way, they're more likely to listen to what we have to say later! Then, express, "I have been trying hard, and I hope you can see that.

But in the process of trying, I have encountered difficulties, and I'm excited to figure out what to do next! I need your help and encouragement, and I'm sure that with your support, I can overcome any challenges that come my way.

Effort is not an empty word! It requires action, methods, and techniques.

You've been working hard, and I can see that! But, like you said, the results aren't what you hoped for. That's okay! We can work together to find a solution. You have the potential to succeed, and I'm here to help you achieve it. You can try talking to your parents about taking some after-school tutoring classes. I'm sure they'll be supportive. And, if you think there are other obstacles in your way, we can work through them together.

As you get older, you'll see that there's more to success than just hard work. You'll also discover that you can succeed if you're willing to ask for help from others.

I see a heart that is chasing its dreams and ready to make a change!

I can see that you want to become better, and that's a great start! Having the right attitude and mindset is so important. You say you're not very confident about your appearance, which is totally normal for teenagers. But you can work on this!

People's appearance does not remain the same. You are only in junior high school, and the way you look now is not how you will really look when you are an adult. Many people also learn to dress well and find what suits them only after going to university. In addition, a person's knowledge and learning make them confident and easy-going, which makes them more attractive to others and arouses their admiration.

If you have someone you like, there's no need to worry about your appearance! You should study hard, enrich your mind, become more confident and outstanding, and realize your dreams!

Plant the phoenix tree, and the phoenix will come to roost!

Dreams make people shine! Go for it!

Hello, I'm sorry to hear about what you've been going through. I wanted to reach out and let you know that I'm here for you.

Let's take a look at the issues you've been facing and see what we can do to resolve them.

As a junior high school student, I've been putting in the work, but my grades haven't improved, so my family can't see your progress and is still blaming you.

Everyone learns differently and has a different level of receptivity. Your family members blame you because your grades haven't improved, even though you've made an effort. They also blame you because they have a limited cognitive level and traditional educational concepts that put a premium on grades, which leads to more demands and accusations. You can try to communicate with your teacher to find out why your grades haven't improved. Is it because your basic knowledge is not solid or because your learning methods are not suitable?

You might want to ask your teacher for some advice and see if they can help you find a way of learning that suits you better.

You say you want to become a voice actor, but your family has always discouraged you, so you've lost motivation.

Everyone has a dream, and the road to achieving that dream is sometimes smooth and easy, and sometimes challenging.

From their perspective, parents tend to prioritize academic performance because that's what they were taught growing up. For them, a child's grades are a reflection of their effort. If there's no improvement, it's often because they're not trying hard enough. If you recognize that your parents have limited cognitive abilities and that's influencing their approach to you, does it help you feel better?

You can set a learning goal with your parents so they can see the process and effort you've made to achieve it.

I'm a bit overweight, so I feel a bit inferior inside. I have someone I like in my heart, but I still feel inferior and don't deserve the other person. Plus, no one sees all my efforts, so I feel like I can't do anything well. I've already lost hope in life and don't have the motivation to move forward.

Not everyone in the world is well-proportioned and charming. We're all individuals with our own unique appearances, whether we're tall or short, thin or fat, and this is an advantage.

Being overweight isn't a disadvantage. It's just a unique characteristic. I recommend a book called "Low Self-Esteem and Transcendence." You can read it.

When I was going through these issues, I saw the "hahaha" after each statement you made. It was like you were being misunderstood. I saw a lost and sad child who is struggling to improve himself but is not being seen. Please let me hug you again from afar so that your emotions can slowly stabilize a little, okay?

The thing is, the root cause of the relationship between you and your family lies in the parents' limited understanding of learning. You can't completely change this perception, but you can start by adjusting yourself, starting with adjusting your emotions.

Stay positive, communicate clearly, deal with emotions first, then tackle the issues.

We can use "non-violent communication" to communicate with our parents, starting by expressing our feelings and then our needs and requests.

For instance, you could say to your parents, "I see your concern about my grades. I've been trying hard, but I might not be using the right methods, so my grades haven't changed. But I'll ask my teachers for help to find a better approach."

Because my grades haven't improved, I feel particularly inferior and stressed, and I can't muster any enthusiasm for studying. So I'd really appreciate it if you could cheer me on and give me encouragement, just like a car that needs to be filled up with fuel to get going...

Finally, I want to tell you that life isn't always smooth sailing. Sometimes you don't get immediate results from your efforts, and it may take a while for things to ease up. But remember, don't give up!

If you were given the text, "Heaven will give a great task to anyone, and first it will afflict their mind, weary their bones, and starve their body...", which is a bit too "classical," it would be better to give you a poem, "God gave me talents for a reason!"

I hope my reply today was useful.

Hello, dear student! You are probably around 15 years old, in the prime of youth, which is such an enviable age! At the same time, you are also a child with dreams, wanting to become a writer and a voice actor!

You are such a special child with goals and ideals!

From what you wrote, it seems like you're a person with a thin face. It's important to remember that children at this age often have a strong sense of self-esteem and pay more attention to the comments of others, especially their parents and family members. It's possible that they didn't realize how their words might have hurt you, or perhaps they didn't intend for them to have such an impact.

Sometimes we just need to try to manage our emotions a little, and tell ourselves that it is impossible for one person to do everything badly or well! We can do our best, and that's what matters!

You can also find a learning method that suits you and try working in a different direction!

And if you feel fat, I'll let you in on a secret: I was also very fat in junior high school, but I got thin after I started working! It's totally normal to feel this way, especially since you're going through puberty and your body's hormones are all over the place. The good news is that you can take control of your health by focusing on a healthy diet and moderate exercise. This will help you have a healthy body!

And you can also work towards your goal of becoming a handwriting and voiceover artist! Set various small goals that can ultimately achieve your big goal!

Just follow your heart, and you'll be absolutely fine. We're not trying to be anyone else. We're trying to be the best version of ourselves!