What should I do when I often daydream and pretend to study, but can't seem to focus on learning?

Good afternoon.

I'll be honest, I also want to lie down and doze off. There's a saying that goes: "Sleepy in spring, tired in autumn, dozing in summer, unable to wake up in winter." It's now spring, the weather is very nice, not too hot or cold. I just want to nestle on the sofa, swipe my phone, eat snacks, and then go to sleep when I get tired.

This has become an all-consuming obsession of mine, every weekday and weekend when I'm busy with work. My obsession can probably only be realized on public holidays like May 1st, and I refuse to spend all of these holidays just lying around and daydreaming.

The reason is simple: I am a middle-aged person with a lot on my plate. If I don't work, I won't earn any money, and I won't be able to support my children, my house, or myself.

You didn't say your age, but I'm guessing you're not very old. You're not yet at the age where you have to work hard for a meager living. You still have the capital to lie down and relax. This reminds me of my college life. Some people worked hard, while others just muddled through. But once they left college and entered society, they looked back and probably shared the same feeling: with such good conditions at the time, why didn't they study hard?

But it's clear you're in a state of crisis. You know what you're doing isn't working, but you don't know how to change.

Let's cut to the chase and talk about why we get distracted, procrastinate, and pretend to work hard.

When we do something, we have two motives: one is to gain something, and the other is to avoid something.

Just like your current behavior, what have you gained? The reason for not studying or working hard can be used as a justification for future behaviors such as not being able to find a job, etc. Why is it hard to find a job? Because I can't study. Because I can't be self-disciplined. You're like a gold medalist who's exempt from death.

You can find a reason for all your failures: I can't be self-disciplined.

So, what are you avoiding? I'm certain it's avoiding failure.

Let's be real. If we don't do something, it's because we lack the ability. But if we do it wrong or fail, it's not because we lack ability. It's because we don't work hard enough.

We are not good enough. If you do it, you can learn. It's just a matter of time.

If you don't do it now, you'll have the problem of not being able to do it, and you'll avoid questioning your own abilities, as well as the questioning of your abilities by others.

You have benefits and avoidances. You have no motivation to work hard.

You know this isn't good, but what are you going to do about it? You've tried many methods and understand the rationale, but they don't work.

I'm going to be honest with you. I don't have any methods that can help you change. What I will do is share some tips of my own.

I call it the Little Monk Chanting Method.

The method is simple. Set yourself tasks every day. How many pages to read, how many lectures to listen to, and how long to exercise.

These tasks require quantity, not quality. When reading a book, read 20 pages and that's it. It doesn't matter if you understand it or remember it, but you must finish reading every word.

Then there will be no more. Just complete your daily tasks like a monk chanting sutras. The rest of the time, daydream or play.

You can adjust your tasks according to the situation. Don't ask for quality; ask for quantity.

The result depends on time.

I am a Buddhist monk, an aggressive counselor, and I love the world.

Greetings, classmate.

I am pleased to respond to your inquiry. As an experienced educator with over two decades of teaching experience, I have instructed nearly two thousand students.

These include the academic elite, who are able to gain admission to Tsinghua University, and the academic underachievers, who graduate from junior high school and subsequently rely on their parents for financial support while engaging in activities within their local communities.

It is evident that there are numerous analogous scenarios involving classmates. Primarily, it is imperative to understand that the aspiration to become studious and work assiduously by desiring external guidance and direction is an implausible proposition.

The classmate himself also stated that although the rationale is comprehensible, the proposed course of action is untenable. In this scenario, the individual is akin to a person on the brink of drowning, clinging tenaciously to the slightest lifeline.

However, it is evident that this approach is futile and merely a form of self-deception. It is possible that individuals are merely attempting to circumvent certain truths through the exertion of apparent effort.

This is a narrative excerpt from the book The Courage to Be Disliked.

A female student was observed to exhibit a fear of social interaction, manifesting as blushing in the presence of others. She expressed a desire to overcome this emotional response, regardless of the circumstances.

In response, Adler inquired, "If this blushing phobia were to be cured, what would you like to do?" She then informed the author that she had a romantic interest with whom she wished to become involved.

Although she had developed a romantic interest in the boy, she had not yet been able to declare her feelings. She also stated that once she had overcome her fear of blushing, she would promptly confess her feelings and hope to go out with him.

This response is deemed to be highly pertinent to the subject of female students. In order to express one's affections to a prospective partner, it is first necessary to overcome the fear of blushing.

One might inquire whether Adler genuinely believes that the situation is as he describes. His assessment is that it is not.

The question thus arises as to why this blushing phobia developed in the first place and why it is so difficult to overcome.

This is because she herself requires the symptom of blushing.

What is the primary source of distress and avoidance behavior? In this case, it is the fear of rejection by the romantic interest, the potential emotional distress and self-doubt that may accompany such a rejection, and the subsequent loss of love.

The loss of love during adolescence is particularly evident in this regard.

Nevertheless, as long as the blushing phobia persists, the individual may utilize the rationale that their inability to engage in a romantic relationship is attributed to this phobia. This allows them to evade the necessity of confronting their fears and potential rejection. Furthermore, they may indulge in fantasies about the potential outcomes of overcoming their blushing phobia.

The primary objective is to safeguard against the notion of "procrastinating homework and pretending to work hard," and to ascertain whether this concept is being utilized as a pretext for evading the issue at hand.

The question then becomes: How might we effect change in ourselves?

In my opinion, it would be more beneficial to cease anticipating assistance from others and instead focus on developing one's own capabilities to regain stability.

Alternatively, opportunities may arise in the form of individuals or circumstances that evoke feelings of love and support, thereby imparting strength.

Furthermore, it is essential to adopt a structured approach to learning. Those who are determined to succeed should initially focus on developing their speed reading and writing abilities, as well as their mind mapping and note-taking techniques. With dedicated practice over a period of approximately one to two years, learners will notice a significant improvement in their learning speed and efficiency.

I believe this concept can be extended to other areas as well. The adage "Plum blossoms smell sweet because of the bitter cold" offers a compelling illustration of this principle. I am curious to know your thoughts on this matter.

It is my hope that my response will prove beneficial to my colleagues. At times, perseverance is of greater consequence than the methodologies employed.

I would like to express my gratitude for your time. My name is Jiusi, and I am affiliated with Yixinli. I extend my sincerest regards to you all.

Hello! I saw your question. Let me be clear: you are working hard in vain and cannot learn.

It's distressing.

First, you need to identify the root cause of your learning difficulties. Is it the content itself that you find boring? Or is it the pressure you feel to perform well that is causing you stress and anxiety?

2. You said you have tried various methods, but I don't know which ones you used. Let me be clear: if your methods are too forcing, they are almost useless.

3. You're using the term "fake hard work," which shows you're really working hard, but you're not getting effective results, which is why you're suffering.

4. Break free from the mental trap of false hard work and become aware of your own thinking patterns.

You want to work hard to learn, and it's your innermost desire. So, what's hindering your learning efficiency?

♀☞Don't force yourself to study. Understand your emotions. When you study, you may experience anxious feelings or distracting thoughts. These and many other factors can cause your learning efficiency to be poor.

The radical approach to learning is to embrace your natural learning process, rather than forcing yourself to be a certain way, to learn a certain amount, or to remember a certain amount.

Forcing yourself to learn a certain amount of content is counterproductive. It only hinders your own emotions.

♀Your emotions may be counter to the learning process, which is why you're suppressing them. Rather than understanding and listening to your emotions, you're consumed by them. Or perhaps you're overwhelmed by the emotions that prevent you from learning, so you can't engage with the process.

5. You mentioned various forms of daydreaming and procrastination in doing homework. I'd like you to identify the psychological and emotional patterns behind this. Why do you think you do it?

Procrastination is caused by a perception that homework is tedious, troublesome, or difficult.

6. You must understand yourself and accept your emotions. Don't force yourself to study using various methods.

I am not saying you should stop studying hard. What I am saying is that you should not fight against your own emotional feelings.

You must learn to coexist with some of your negative emotions. This is the most important thing.

For example, if you feel tired during your studies and your emotions tell you that you don't want to study, and your body tells you that you don't want to do your homework, this is a signal from your body. You must learn to respond to the signals your mind is sending you.

7. Learn in a goal-oriented manner while living in harmony with your negative emotions. Do not reject them.

When you are studying or doing homework, you should aim to complete the task. Don't focus on your emotions. If you have been reading for half a day and still don't understand more than half of the book, don't blame yourself. Keep going. Don't get caught up in a vicious cycle of emotions.

You must set your goal as learning and doing your homework. When emotions get in the way, recognize them, allow them to appear, but don't follow through with negative analysis and overthinking. Don't get stuck in the negative thinking of emotions and internal consumption.

8. You are a very motivated student, so it's clear why you're struggling to study. However, your emotions have already affected your study progress, so you need to constantly exercise purpose-oriented learning methods to slowly improve.

9. Reward yourself appropriately and praise yourself. Don't blame or scold yourself.

Your main focus should be on completing the learning objectives. Don't dwell on the quality or efficiency of the completion. Your emotions will get in the way, so try to finish before you want it to be perfect. Remember as much as you can, motivate yourself every day, challenge yourself gradually, praise yourself, and set reasonable and positive learning goals. Every time you achieve a small goal, give yourself encouragement and praise.

You can only devote yourself to learning by facing it with a positive attitude.

This is my answer, and I hope it helps!

Hello, question asker. It seems like you're still in middle school.

They can't concentrate, get lost in thought, and are perfectionistic.

During my high school holidays, I couldn't exercise self-discipline. The environment was too noisy, and I liked to use a sleep app with audio, including "focus mode." This helped me study the most because I like to listen to music, but I can't listen while studying. I would choose the "focus learning" mode.

The root cause of procrastination is that we cannot control our emotions. The difference between ordinary and outstanding people is their ability to control emotions.

As described in "General Psychology," procrastination has three causes.

First sin: perfectionism.

Leonardo da Vinci was a procrastinator. He is one of the greatest painters, but he did not paint many works. The Mona Lisa took him 16 years to complete.

⭐ Second sin: self-imposed obstacles

The self-saboteur always starts work at the last minute. A lot of time is wasted beforehand.

⭐ Third sin: pessimism and optimism.

Pessimists and optimists procrastinate. They find tasks difficult and put pressure on themselves.

You think you can do many tasks at once.

But then, when the deadline arrives, you realize you haven't finished everything.

How do we see procrastination?

Our procrastination is caused by too many temptations, not a weak will.

To solve procrastination, take these four steps.

Break big goals into small ones.

Second, clear your desktop. Leave only learning content.

Step 3: Take action.

Step 4: Reward yourself for each small achievement. Give your brain a rest.

To beat anxiety and procrastination, you have to take action.

The harder you work, the luckier you get. Be brave!

That's my answer. I hope it helps.

Hello, I'm Gu Yi. I'm a pretty modest and self-effacing person, and I try to be as consistent as I can be.

We've all been there! What should I do if I can't study?

I totally get it. Sometimes, we just don't want to learn or we can't get into it.

Have you ever asked yourself why you study?

This is something we all need to think about when we're learning. If you know why you're learning, it's easier to stay focused. But if we think we're learning because our parents and schools, as well as our own weaknesses, tell us to learn, it can be harder to stay motivated.

So, once we know why we study, it's important to understand what's behind this state of mind. Could it be that we lack self-control and find it hard to resist temptation? Or is it that our study schedule doesn't suit us, and we're not really keen on it?

Or could it be that I just can't concentrate because I don't find joy in learning and my interests lie elsewhere?

A more systematic explanation shows us the answers to these questions, so we can find the right solutions for this state of mind. It's also in the improvement of this state that we can better understand and plan for ourselves.

I'm learning to become that role model, and I'm getting stronger in my heart. This helps me deal with inattentiveness and false efforts in a more effective way.

Let's talk about how we can make those false efforts better!

You can devote most of your time to studying, even though you often lose focus. It's totally normal! We all lose focus sometimes. Just remember to acknowledge that you are taking positive action and that you are not averse to studying. Days and inefficiency just mean that we cannot concentrate during study and that we are lost in our own world.

If I could make one more suggestion, it would be to find a study partner. Have a chat with your partner about the first study problem, and then see if you can answer it together.

With the help of others, you can find the joy in learning! As long as you can overcome the challenge of investing time and effort, you will become a hard worker.

It's totally normal to feel overwhelmed when you're learning. It's a process that's often accompanied by others, so it's important to remember to be kind to yourself. We've all been there! An hour of reading can feel like an eternity, while an hour of watching videos can fly by.

It's totally normal to get distracted by our phones and other gadgets when we're trying to study. If you can, try to leave your devices behind and bring just a few books with you next time. Focusing on one topic at a time, bit by bit, with just one book can be really helpful.

If silent reading isn't really working for you, why not try reciting the text? It can be a great way to deepen your understanding and get more involved. You might find it really helps!

As the saying goes, people can go further if they know why they are setting out. And the same goes for learning! With your initial motivation, the boredom, dullness, and obscurity of the process is what makes the hard work worthwhile.

I really hope that you can find your own motivation and persistence! When you know that what you're doing now will help you in the future, and that you're doing it because you really want to, it's so much easier to keep going.

I truly believe that your persistence will be beautiful.

Wishing you all the best!

Hello. I understand your situation, and I am confident that my advice will be of benefit to you.

I am a traditional culture enthusiast with minimal psychology expertise. I will discuss my understanding from a traditional cultural perspective.

The days of procrastination and pretending to study that you show all have a force behind them that dominates and controls you. You understand the reasoning, but you still can't help yourself. This force is the power of our mind, and it is also the power that we have cultivated over time. At first, it was just a small flame, and slowly it became a raging fire. Perhaps at first you just didn't want to do your homework because you were playing around, or you got bad test scores, or you were afraid of being scolded by your parents and getting a lecture, and you got the mood that you didn't want to do your homework. Or maybe it was for some other reason. Regardless of the reason, you first planted a seed in your heart that you didn't want to do your homework, and then this seed grew bigger and bigger under your careful care. I am going to tell you when I sowed and fertilized this seed. For example, you had a conflict with someone, and you got angry. This is a seed. Then you went home and thought about it, and the more you thought about it, the angrier you got. You thought about the past and how that person had bullied you. This is you watering and fertilizing the negative emotions in me.

The next day, you see this person again. You reinforce negative emotions, and before you know it, they control you. They affect your studies, life, work, and even depression. It can happen.

The psychological state of not wanting to do homework is a negative state of mind caused by a vicious cycle. It's a fact. If we repeat an idea over a long period of time, it will become a state of mind. If we repeat a state of mind over a long period of time, it will become a habit. A habit will become our character, and our character will become our personality, which will accompany us for the rest of our lives.

If you want to solve a problem, you need to find its root cause and work on it. Treating the symptoms is not enough. You need to address the root cause. It's simple. You need to strengthen your positive mentality and get rid of your negative one. It's a process. You cannot rush it. First, accept your current situation. Don't reject it. It's normal for you to become who you are today. If you reject it, you'll feel negative emotions. These include complaining, anxiety, and pain. You'll plant negative seeds in your heart. These seeds will grow into towering trees. You'll live a painful life. Acceptance is not indulgence. It's not confrontation. It's about adjusting your mindset. Understand what doing your homework does for you. It can make you better. It can teach you more knowledge. It can get you into a good university. It can help you find a decent job. It can even help you find a partner you like. From a broad perspective, it's beneficial for society, the country, your family, and yourself. This mindset adjustment starts with what you value. Your values vary from person to person.

You will develop habits through adjusting your mindset. This is a difficult process that requires willpower and hard work. The results will encourage you. Setbacks are inevitable, but you will persevere.

It is extremely challenging to be like a gambler who has given up gambling and a womanizer who has given up lust. The real hero is the one who has overcome himself. This is an adjustment at the level of the heart, and it can be complemented by some external methods and exercises, such as creating a learning atmosphere for yourself. These are all forms of assistance. I am confident that my sharing will benefit you.

Hello.

Hello. I don't know how old you are, whether you're in a critical period of studying for exams, what your usual grades are, whether you can't study for all subjects or just some, or whether you can't study every day or just at certain times. Be more specific with these questions.

From your description, I can tell that you have tried very hard to solve your own problems, but it hasn't worked. Every day, you don't want to study, but you have to pretend to study and look hard at it. It must be very hard. From what I can tell, you are doing two things at the same time: calming yourself down and trying to absorb the knowledge, while at the same time thinking, "What if I just can't learn?"

If you don't do either well, you will feel a sense of failure and anxiety. Don't pretend to work hard. It's a way to comfort yourself, to reduce self-condemnation while blaming yourself for pretending to work hard.

If this state of affairs persists for a long time, it will be very tiring and difficult. You must take a break, relax, do something you enjoy, and get your body back in shape. Physical and mental health are the most important things.

I'd also like to discuss one more thing with you. What do you think the purpose of learning is? Forget what your teachers and parents have told you. What do you think learning should be for?

If you were to study, what would you study? If you were not to study, what would you do and how would you do it?

Think about how you would answer these questions.

You've got this.

I totally get this feeling of needing to change the way you study. It's brave of you to be honest about how you've been trying to "fake it till you make it." You deserve some helpful advice!

I can see that the questioner's friend thinks they should study hard and get their work done quickly. I think this is because teachers and parents expect it, and it's also the way most of their friends do things. So, it's important to work hard at school, at least to show those around you that you're trying. But remember, "fake hard work" can fool other people, but not yourself. Let's take a moment to think about our own thoughts:

Do other people expect me to do this? Do I have to meet these expectations? Do I realize that I don't meet expectations? Can't let people know that I don't meet expectations? First, act like they expect, then? Or I can't do what others expect.

?? Accept yourself, sweet friend. I know that learning hasn't always been my cup of tea, and that's okay! I believe there's a reason why I don't want to learn as much as I should. Let's find that reason and then make the most of our actions.

?? Take a moment to think about why you're learning. If it's just because your parents have always told you to, it might be time to focus on yourself. What do you really want to achieve and what are your dreams? Think about how your current schoolwork is helping you to reach your goals.

Have you ever had a happy experience as a result of learning? If so, what was it like? The sense of gain, achievement, and satisfaction from learning are all great motivations to keep learning. Think back to a happy experience you've had in the past from learning. Remember that feeling, and let it inspire you as you work on your current learning task.

Have you ever had a moment in the learning process where you were clearly being serious but not being recognized? We've all been there! Learning is a process, and sometimes you won't see results after working hard for a long time, which can be somewhat discouraging. If you encounter someone pouring cold water on you at this time, you will definitely be hit hard. Learning has become a trauma. If this is the case, you must strengthen your own beliefs and try a little harder, and things may be different!

?? Give yourself a moment to relax and enjoy some well-deserved laziness. Do you have a tendency to be a bit of a perfectionist? Do you feel that if you're going to do something, it should be done perfectly?

We all want all our study tasks to go according to plan, without any mistakes or slacking off! But if you set the bar too high for yourself, expecting to be efficient and organized every moment you study, a little bit of slacking off may well lead to complete abandonment. That moment of slacking off makes the day's study tasks have an irreparable "flaw." It's better to not do anything at all than to do something imperfect. So, let's avoid that little bit of slacking off!

Come on, you can do it!

Hello, question asker!

I understand your feelings and state of mind. Despite the brevity of the sentences, I can sense the questioner's helplessness and the desperate desire to change everything. Let's examine it together:

"I've tried every method, and I still can't get into it."

The questioner needs to be more specific about what they mean by "unable to learn." Is it that the knowledge points are too difficult for them to learn or understand?

Or is it that you don't like the teacher? Or that you can't concentrate?

List the methods you've tried and analyze them to identify the problem.

List the methods you've tried and analyze them to identify the issue.

I understand the principles.

This is normal. It's the same as what's said online: "We understand the principles, but still can't get a good life." Principles are theoretical. "Living a good life" and "how to do it" are practical. If you understand the principles but still can't get it, don't beat yourself up. It's not your problem.

I'm going to give you some adjustment methods.

You must accept yourself.

You must accept yourself.

Include your strengths and weaknesses, as well as your past experiences. Accept that you sometimes can't study, get lost in thought, procrastinate, etc. Don't stress and don't beat yourself up.

You must accept your imperfections and acknowledge from the bottom of your heart that you are indeed just like that. You are not good and perfect, but you do have the ability to change the situation and do better.

You must accept your imperfections. Admit from the bottom of your heart that you are not perfect. Believe that you can change and do better.

Find the cause.

"Usually, I just daydream and procrastinate on my homework, and I pretend to work hard." This is just a superficial phenomenon. The question asker needs to find out what the real reason behind this phenomenon is.

Let's take "daydreaming" for example. It's usually because you suddenly thought of something interesting or something else that distracted you. "Procrastinating homework" is often because there are some assignments that you don't know how to do and they are also quite difficult, so you are reluctant to start them and want to avoid the challenge. And "fake hard work" is usually because you see that everyone else is working hard, so you want to appear to be working very hard too, so that you seem to be in line with everyone else.

Treat the symptoms.

Take measures according to the specific reasons found in the previous step. For example:

Record all your thoughts when you daydream. This will help you identify why you're daydreaming and give you the power to control it. As you become more aware of your daydreams, you'll naturally spend less time on them.

Finish the easy homework first. Then, work on the difficult assignments, depending on the time available. If there is still time, try again. If there is no time left, don't worry. You can always ask a classmate or teacher for help.

Finish the easy homework first, then see how much time you have for the difficult homework. If you still have time, go for it. If you run out of time, don't worry. You can always ask a classmate or teacher for help.

You should know that your so-called "fake hard work" is just to follow the crowd. It's better to be a happy and true self than to be an untrue self. If you are tired, take a proper rest. Rest well and have plenty of energy, then study well again. This often has a better effect.

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to the original poster. Best wishes!

Hello, question asker.

Asking this question proves you are a self-disciplined student.

First of all, I have to give you a big thumbs-up!

I need to know your age and how long this has been going on.

I want to know what has led to this situation.

It is a natural consequence of being unable to engage with studying that motivation to learn is lacking.

This is caused by learned helplessness due to school aversion and learning frustration.

Let's talk about school refusal first.

The root cause of school refusal is excessive learning pressure, which causes constant emotional depression and mental fatigue.

It is an instinctive reaction of our body. The so-called "love of novelty and dislike of familiarity" is precisely our reaction to what we take for granted.

Aesthetic fatigue brought on by things.

However, human nature is such that we must avoid this feeling of boredom and tiredness.

Let's talk about learned helplessness.

A Baidu search for this term provides the following explanation:

"Learned helplessness" refers to behavior that is resigned to being controlled as a result of repeated failure or punishment.

Learned helplessness (learned helplessness) refers to a behavior and a psychological state.

It is a psychological state.

In the context of your question, this means that

Your brain is eager to learn and improve your grades, while your body has a strong

You feel rejected.

This has led to the separation of body and mind that we see today.

I'm going to tell you how to break the pattern.

The guidelines of behavioral therapy allow you to train and strengthen your motivation to learn.

Decision-Making Worksheet

The advantages and disadvantages are as follows:

Make it happen!

Make it happen!

Change

Make changes.

Now, it's time to take action.

Now, it's time to take action.

Now, it's time to take action.

Now, it's time to take action.

Keep up the good work!

Keep up the good work!

The

Now, create a practical action plan in conjunction with the goals.

Next, create a practical action plan in line with the goals.

Complete the learning goal setting worksheet.

I will achieve my learning goal by:

Make the goal more specific.

I will achieve this goal.

I want to know what your study life will be like once you achieve this goal. I also want to know what you will do and what you will not do.

I want to know what you will do and what you will not do.

Write them down in as much detail as possible.

I will achieve this goal.

I will achieve this goal.

I will do the following to achieve this goal:

Take the necessary steps.

Next, identify the small, actionable steps you need to take to achieve your specific learning goals.

You must complete these steps in the short term, within a few days, a week, or a month.

You need to take these steps.

Listing your learning goals from back to front is an effective way to identify these specific steps.

Use the behaviors you listed above to develop concrete steps to achieve your goal.

Step 5:

Now, take the steps you need to take to achieve your learning goals.

Now, it's time for step 4.

Step 3

Step 3

Step 2

Step 2

Step 1

You will succeed in your studies, and you will enjoy your work!

I am Consultant Yao, and I will continue to support and care for you!

I really hope my answer can help you a little, my friend.

I can see that you want to learn, but you just can't seem to get started, right?

After reading the answers of other teachers, I think that, in general, we really need to find the cause, then deal with our emotions, set reasonable goals, and work hard to achieve them. This will give us a sense of achievement and pleasure in learning, and slowly we will enter a virtuous cycle. I'm here to share with you some methods on how to deal with procrastination and set goals. I hope they will be helpful!

It's true! People are naturally game lovers, not so much lovers of learning and work. Learning and working require us to overcome difficulties and use willpower. And you also understand that if people don't learn and work, they will feel very frustrated because they have not realized their own value, right?

You're not lazy, sweetie. I can tell you're motivated, and I truly believe that with a few tweaks, you'll be on your way to a virtuous cycle and managing your studies in no time. Studying can be fun, but having the right study plan and a few helpful strategies can make all the difference.

I've got a great tip for you! It's called the magic 20-second rule, and it's perfect for dealing with procrastination.

Hey there! I just wanted to share something I learned recently that I think you'll find interesting.

We all need willpower to get things done, but it's a limited resource. The more we use it, the more it depletes.

And every excuse for procrastination just takes up our precious willpower, making it harder for us to get started.

If we have to use up all our willpower to fight off excuses every time we want to start doing something, it won't be long before we're completely worn out.

Based on this, psychologist Shawn came up with a great idea called the "20-second rule." It's a simple way to reduce the need for willpower and help us get started on something better.

Sean once tried to form the habit of playing the guitar every day for 21 days, but it didn't work out. He says that the key to success is having that initial burst of energy to get you started.

Sean kept his guitar in the closet, and it only took 20 seconds to walk from the bedroom to the closet to get it. But, oh boy, did those 20 seconds become a real challenge! Sean tried his best to overcome this obstacle with sheer willpower, but after only four days, he just couldn't keep going.

Later on, he bought a guitar stand, put the guitar on the stand, and placed the stand in the bedroom so that the guitar was right there, within easy reach. This helped him develop the habit of playing the guitar whenever he felt like it.

This is the magic of the 20-second rule! It's a simple concept that can make a big difference in your life. Basically, if it takes more than 20 seconds to get started, it can feel really difficult to get going. But if it takes less than 20 seconds, it's super easy to get started!

The key to the "20-second rule" is to make it as easy as possible to get started. This simple yet super helpful "20-second rule" is a game-changer!

So, the easier it is to get started, the more likely you are to keep going!

If you want to get started with your learning, it can be really helpful to break down big tasks into small ones and start with the small ones. For example, if your homework today is to memorize a text, and memorization is too difficult for you, it can be hard to get started. At this point, if you say, "Let's read the text first," that might be easier and more likely to get you started. After you've read it a few times and become familiar with the content, you'll be able to memorize it slowly.

If you want to get into the habit of waking up early to practice yoga, we've got your back! You can sleep in your yoga clothes and keep a yoga mat by the bed, so that it's especially easy to start your yoga routine as soon as you get up in the morning.

You can put the books you need to read right by your bed, or set up a little study table in your bedroom so you can study whenever you want. This way, it'll be easy to develop the habit of studying at any time!

Once you've finished washing the dishes, you can easily clean the countertop next to the sink without having to deliberately pick a time to do it.

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This is a great way to apply the "20-second rule" to all aspects of our lives, studies, and work! Making good habits easier to implement helps us develop good habits and overcome procrastination.

It's so important to set yourself reasonable learning tasks and goals to really get that spark of interest going again!

There are so many ways to make learning enjoyable and to fall in love with learning!

First things first: you need to have a clear goal.

It's so important to make sure that the goals we set are specific. If you say you'll read every day, it can feel quite abstract. You can be more specific and set a goal of completing a certain number of English words, reading a certain number of pages, or completing a certain number of tests every day. This will make it more targeted and focused, which is great!

And secondly, the goal should match your ability.

It's so important to make sure that the goals we set match our abilities and that we can achieve them through our own efforts.

It's important to make sure your goal is realistic. If it's too ambitious, don't worry! You can break it down into smaller goals, just like levels in a game. Start with something simple and easy to implement to build confidence in learning. Then, gradually increase the difficulty and complete one learning task after another in a step-by-step manner.

Let's say your current vocabulary memorization level is about 10 words a day. You can set a goal to memorize 12 words a day! You can also split up the tasks you need to complete in a month and try to do one each day. For example, you could take one test in Chinese, math, and English each day.

If you feel like you can make adjustments on your own, start with something simple and then gradually increase the amount of work as you get used to it. You've got this!

This will make you feel really good about yourself and more confident in your abilities. You'll be super motivated to keep learning and make progress!

And third, don't forget to pay attention to timely feedback!

You can make a daily learning list, writing down all the learning tasks you need to complete each day. After you complete a task, give yourself a big pat on the back and feel that sense of accomplishment! Don't leave right away after ticking it off, but go ahead and enjoy that feeling of success after completing the task.

And don't forget to treat yourself! After you accomplish a big goal, like going on a trip, having a big meal, or buying something you like, give yourself a well-deserved reward. These little things will make you feel great and keep you motivated to keep learning.

When we feel a sense of accomplishment and joy while learning, it's so easy to find learning interesting and enjoy the learning process!

You've got this! Believe in yourself and give yourself positive mental suggestions.

The Pygmalion effect is a great reminder that we tend to get what we expect, not necessarily what we want. But that's okay! It's all about having the right expectations.

If you expect something with confidence and truly believe that things will go smoothly, they really will! On the other hand, if you believe that things are constantly being hindered, these obstacles will arise.

So, it's really important to pay attention to the importance of positive beliefs. When we have positive beliefs and attitudes, when we are full of confidence, and when we believe that good things will happen, and always hold onto this positive expectation, it's so important!

Because positive beliefs lead to positive actions, and positive actions often lead to positive results.

If we expect ourselves to become a certain person, we will continue to work hard in that direction, and eventually, we will really become that person. But if we always think that we are not good enough and that we cannot do it, we might get stuck.

So, always tell yourself: I believe I can learn well, I believe I can overcome the difficulties in the learning process, and I will definitely be able to complete a certain task!

Wishing you the best of luck!

Hello!

I see you're struggling with learning, and I want you to know I'm here for you. I think a lot of people have felt this way at one point or another. I know I did. It's frustrating to see others going through the same thing.

I'd like to share a few personal experiences and feelings with you now.

❤️Adjust your attitude toward learning and make it meaningful.

Dear, have you ever thought about why you need to study? Like most people, you know that studying is important and that only by studying well can you get into a better school and have a better job. Some do it to meet their parents' high expectations, so it's painful.

As we've already discussed, if you don't have a positive attitude towards learning, it's not going to be easy. If you don't take the initiative, you'll find it painful and you won't be able to sustain your motivation.

But if you give learning a meaning and value, you will slowly become motivated – just like me. I don't like studying, but because I like Fan Zhendong, I want to meet him and become a better person with him. So slowly I have become a person who takes the initiative to learn – I believe you will also be willing to, and slowly become a better person with the person you like to meet.

It's important to understand what you like and how long you can concentrate.

It's important to know what you like and what you're more interested in. Interest is the best teacher, and it will make you spend more time learning about related content. If you find learning to be extremely painful and distressing, then it can only mean that your choice is problematic or that you are in a passive state.

If you need to take an exam, get a degree, or get certified, it's important to know how long you can concentrate. Observe how long you can focus normally. How long after doing something do you start to lose patience, become inefficient, and even want to swear?

This is how long you've been concentrating. Next time, when you study, try to get to the point where you're willing to open the book and read anything.

If you're not tired, take a break or learn something else.

If you let a certain area of the brain rest while using it in a different way, it'll be smarter.

Learn to rest, and you'll be able to study better.

My attention span is about 30 to 50 minutes, so I just study for that long and then take a break. I practice calligraphy for a few minutes or ten minutes, and then I eat when I'm hungry, with snacks and fruit to replenish energy.

Take a quick run to clear your mind. Then, come back and get back to work. You'll find that this knowledge is actually quite fun!

You'll gain a better understanding and be able to concentrate for more than an hour. You can also try this method, which might help with the pain you feel when learning.

I hope my answer is helpful to you. Best regards, [Name]

Hello there!

It's okay to feel anxious, guilty, and helpless!

You understand the logic, but you just can't seem to apply it. I know it can feel like there's no solution to your problem, but let's try to go back to the root of the problem and see what caused this situation.

You said that you always get lost in thought and procrastinate on your homework. I'd love to know what you're thinking at this time and what emotions you're feeling.

If you can't study, why pretend to be hardworking? Let's be honest, we've all been there. You may not be particularly good at your studies, you've lost a bit of confidence, and you want good grades, but you're not confident that you can catch up, and you feel like it's already too late.

Parents may have high expectations of you, and you might feel like you can't live up to them.

It's totally normal to feel a lot of self-blame and guilt when you waste time daydreaming and procrastinating. It's also normal to feel stressed and sorry for your parents. We've all been there! So you let yourself pretend to be hardworking to compensate for these uncomfortable feelings, but you can't really make up for them.

If your situation is similar to what I've described, I've got a few suggestions for you that I think you'll find really helpful!

It's so important to learn to adjust your emotions and fill yourself with positive energy!

Our emotions have a big impact on our thoughts and actions. Learning to manage your emotions and keep them positive can really help you think and act in a more constructive way. For instance, when we're happy and calm, we're more likely to learn effectively.

It's a great idea to learn some tips for adjusting your mood! Instead of zoning out, spend that time adjusting your mood. Go for a run, do some exercise, or listen to music. Do whatever you like to brighten your mood.

2. Give yourself a break! Try your best to eliminate the psychology of self-blame and guilt and accept yourself more.

I truly believe that you want to study hard and improve. The temporary stagnation is not your fault. You may have encountered some obstacles and are trying to adjust. At this time, don't blame yourself too much. Guilt and self-blame actually consume a lot of self-energy. Accepting your current state will help you adjust positively.

Take a little break after studying hard, enjoy a moment of relaxation, and let your mind wander. You'll be ready to set off again after a good rest!

3. Set a goal that's totally within reach!

It's okay to set goals that are a little challenging for you, but don't set yourself up for disappointment by aiming too high. If you find that you can't achieve your goal, that's okay too!

Goals are there to guide us and help us achieve great things! Without a goal, it's like a ship without a destination, just floating along with the currents. And we all know how important it is to set sail for a great future! Achieving good results in the college entrance exam is a big goal. To make this goal a reality, it is also necessary to set small goals, such as making some progress in a subject that you are weak in and improving your score by a certain amount.

It's so important to make sure that your goals are achievable and that you can see yourself reaching them. Having a clear plan and a sense of motivation is so helpful!

4. Now, according to your own small goals, set up a specific schedule for your daily routine.

Once you've set your goals, you can start planning your daily life! You can decide what to do at what time of day. This will help you to know exactly what to do and when. If you follow the schedule, you'll gradually form a habit and naturally lead a regular life and study routine.

It's important to make sure the schedule isn't too tight. You should leave time for daydreaming and relaxing. It's also really helpful to be able to adjust your mood according to the plan. For example, you could exercise at a time that suits you. It's a great idea to arrange a good balance between relaxation and exertion. And don't set too high of expectations. If you can't achieve them, it will only add to your psychological burden.

Hey there! I just wanted to remind you that if there are any parts of the schedule that feel a little unrealistic or unachievable, you can always make some tweaks. There's no need to feel any pressure because we're all human and we don't always get things 100% right. When you've got a few tasks down, treat yourself! Celebrate your achievements and use them to motivate you to keep going.

I just wanted to share this adjustment method with you, based on my own analysis and assumptions. I know it might not be directly relevant to your situation, but I really hope it can inspire you to start by finding the cause of your own problems and solve them in a targeted manner.

I really hope that Hongyu's reply can help you. Thank you so much for asking!

Hello there, question asker!

I saw your question on the platform, and I'm here to help! It sounds like you're struggling to concentrate on your studies right now. It's totally normal to feel this way sometimes. You mentioned that you've tried different techniques to help you focus, but you're still struggling to get into it. It's okay to feel this way! We've all been there. You mentioned that you get distracted, daydream, procrastinate, and even fake your studies.

You've heard it all before, but remember, what's right for you is what's best!

You may be suffering from learning burnout, which means you can't get into studying. Don't worry, there are ways you can help yourself!

1) We've all been there!

It's so easy to get distracted when you're trying to study! You might have planned to memorize vocabulary, hand in assignments, attend lectures, do exercises, and organize your notes, but you always put it off. When you finally want to study, you keep thinking about the TV series you haven't finished watching or the game you haven't finished playing.

It's totally normal to feel this way! You know it very well, understand the reasoning, and say you can't play anymore, you have to study hard, but as soon as you sit down at the desk, you can't muster the energy. The thought of studying makes you sad, and you get distracted and daydream during class. Others may think you're working hard, but you know that's not true. You're just pretending to work hard, and that's okay!

Oh, it's so hard to concentrate on your studies sometimes, isn't it?

Simply put, it means that right now, it's harder to stay motivated than it is to stay resistant.

2) How can we help you boost your motivation to learn?

1. Do what you want to do right away!

Have you ever tried listing all your learning tasks for the day? It's a great way to get started! Just write down whatever comes to mind, in any order you like. Then, choose the one you most want to do at the moment and get straight to it! Cross one off as soon as it's done. This way, you're doing it according to your own preferences, and you'll gradually find your groove. It won't be as difficult to complete the plan as before, and you won't feel like you're being forced to study, so there won't be any sense of pressure. You'll probably notice a more obvious learning effect!

It's also a great idea to create a learning plan that's based on science and reason. Start with the short-term goals and then, before you know it, you'll have achieved them all!

2. Interest is the best teacher, my friend!

It's totally normal to lose interest in a subject sometimes. If you're struggling to study, it might be because you're not that interested in the topic. Why not try studying something you're interested in first and see if that helps to get your confidence back?

It's totally normal to not be interested in learning at first. It's okay if you're not interested now. You might find that your interest grows over time. The important thing is to explore your interest in learning at your own pace. You'll get there!

3. Give yourself a little boost to keep you motivated!

It's always a good idea to have a reward system in place for yourself! For me, the reward for completing a learning task is 10-20 minutes of recreational time. Once I've done a few tasks, I like to focus on relaxing for a while. If I don't complete a task on time, I have to wait to buy a long-time favorite gift. Most people like to be rewarded for their hard work and avoid punishment.

It's so important to find the best way for you to learn! Some people like to read in the morning, some like to meditate at night, and some like to recite texts while doing something else. Everyone's learning situation is different, so it's really helpful to find your own optimal learning state and maintain a relaxed and efficient learning habit. This can help you get twice the result with half the effort!

4. It's good to remember not to study just for the sake of studying.

It's true! Learning can be a bit counterintuitive because our brains are wired to process simple, pre-existing information. Otherwise, why would there be a forgetting curve?

It's okay to take a break from studying sometimes! We all have a "learning burnout" period, and that's totally normal. Just follow your brain, take it slow, find a rhythm that suits you, and find the most comfortable state when learning.

If you can achieve the state of learning without self-consciousness, you've probably already reached the optimal state of learning! You'll have truly immersed yourself in learning and won't feel tired or find it difficult. You can even continue learning throughout your life and maintain the habit of lifelong learning!

There are thousands of ways to learn, and I'm sure you'll find what you're looking for! Rather than spending time looking for ways, it's better to take action immediately. It's better to do more than think, don't you think?

I'm so proud and happy! I love the world and I love you! ??

Hello!

I'm a heart exploration coach. Learning is the body's treasure.

From what you said, I can tell you're struggling and want to change.

I won't go into why you're frustrated with your studies, but I have three suggestions:

Ask yourself why you can't learn.

You say you've tried everything, but it's still the same. There must be a reason. Have you ever thought about why you can't learn?

Is it because the content is difficult and you don't understand it? Or because it's not interesting? Or because you don't want to, but are doing it to please others? Or because you don't study hard? You need to figure out why you're not studying hard and why you can't get into it.

You need to understand why to change it.

Second, think about the reasons you've found.

A rational perspective helps you understand yourself and reality.

To view things rationally, do the following:

You are in charge of your own learning. You are the one who benefits from it.

If you can't study because you're under pressure, understand that you can choose to study or not.

You don't have to study. You can choose not to or to keep up the pretense.

You've come here for help, which shows you want to change. Then change your thinking.

You can change the status quo.

If the content is too difficult, talk to your teacher or find another way. You can make your own choices.

You can also change your procrastination and pretending to study. Your thoughts and behavior will change.

This can help you feel better.

Focus on yourself and think about how you can feel better.

Think about your situation. Know what to do. Focus on yourself and do your best.

For example, you can try to "reconcile" with external pressures or control. If your family members give you too much pressure and you resist, you become unmotivated to study. At this time, you can communicate with them and express your true feelings. They are very likely to understand and support you, and then stop putting so much pressure on you. You will be willing to learn some knowledge.

Ask yourself why you're pretending to work hard. Who are you doing it for? What will happen afterwards? Can you keep pretending forever? You can either learn or not learn. You don't have to worry about not learning forever because everyone has the potential to want to learn. You won't always do nothing. Even if you don't learn in school, you will do other things. Think clearly and choose without regret.

Ask yourself what kind of life you want and what your ideals are. If you don't have any, think about what you want to do right now. This may make you realize that you have to take responsibility for your own life and that learning is your own business.

Ask yourself why you procrastinate on your homework. Is it because it's difficult, because you're rebellious, or because you don't like school? Ask yourself why. Your heart knows.

Taking action helps you deal with negative emotions.

I hope this helps. Click "Find a coach" at the bottom to talk to me one-on-one.

As a student, you spend the majority of your time and energy studying. If your studies are not going well, you can imagine the emotional turmoil and self-doubt it causes.

From the short message, I can clearly see the anxiety, self-blame, and helplessness.

What can you do in this situation?

You can do this.

The following is for you. It will alleviate your anxiety and provide ideas for getting out of your current predicament.

The following is for you. It will alleviate your anxiety and provide ideas for getting out of your current predicament.

First, recognize that your current learning methods are ineffective and understand the underlying reason why.

I cannot give you different ways of thinking about learning under your specific level of education since the message did not mention your level of education. I will share the following from a general perspective:

1. The level of knowledge required is different for different academic levels.

Primary school students focus on memorization, and their knowledge is mainly declarative. Junior high school and high school students shift from concrete image thinking to abstract logical thinking, gradually focusing on understanding. Mastery of knowledge is focused on understanding, then memorization and application. University and even master's and doctoral students connect theory with practice.

The learning methods for different types of knowledge are also different. Declarative knowledge learning mainly involves memorization and recitation. Students with good memories often perform well in this type of knowledge. The learning of knowledge that focuses on logical thinking places more emphasis on analogy and understanding the essence behind the knowledge through phenomena. This is often the main guarantee that learning will not fall behind. As for college students and above, the learning method focuses on practicality and mastering knowledge through practice.

It is clear that learning methods must align with the attributes of the knowledge being learned to be effective.

Examine whether the learning methods you use match the knowledge you are learning.

If it matches, then look at the following situations:

2. Pay attention to procrastination, daydreaming, and false diligence. You can learn to understand what these phenomena want to convey to you, in addition to anxiety.

Let's tackle procrastination head-on.

There are many reasons for procrastination, the most common of which are:

a. Perfectionism

b. The task is beyond the executor's capabilities.

c. The task itself lacks the interest or enthusiasm that would cause the executor to want to perform it.

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Look at your own situation and see if you can identify any similarities or closenesses to the above possibilities. When it comes to prescribing the right medicine, you can generally use:

Defuse the goal and start with a small step.

b. Ask your classmates or teachers for help. It'll make the task easier.

c. Change the format of the task.

Make the task more interesting. Find a partner and draw questions from a hat. Turn that boring solo task into a two-person interactive competition with prizes.

Daydreaming is a common cause of a lack of concentration.

If you're absent-minded, it means you're not concentrating. There are many reasons why you might lose concentration, but the most common ones are:

a. Paying attention for too long leads to inattentiveness.

The attention span of an adult is generally less than an hour, and that of a child is even less, usually around 45 minutes. It's important to pay attention to your own situation and assess whether you're overtaxing your brain and neglecting to take breaks and rest in between.

Adjust the ratio of study time to rest time to help you relax more.

b. Lack of interest and vitality in the things you pay attention to

If you lack interest in a task that generally requires concentration, you will feel dazed. If this happens and the factors affecting procrastination are the same, you must find ways to make learning interesting.

Humans are naturally curious about the unknown. Learning can become tedious not because the learning itself is boring, but because of the teaching methods and the way it is presented to students.

You should make some adjustments according to your preferences in a limited learning environment.

The third reason is false hard work.

This is likely caused by a lack of intrinsic motivation to learn.

a. Parents or other adults who care about our academic performance

Think about it. Were your parents the main driving force behind your studies? If so, you may have the illusion that you are studying for them, not for yourself.

If they don't have a genuine interest in learning or knowledge, they'll do whatever it takes to get their parents off their backs, even if it means appearing to be "working hard."

b. Peer pressure

If all the other students around you are working hard, you'll stand out as an oddball if you don't. Studying hard due to peer pressure can also lead to fake studying.

We must stimulate our own internal motivation and help us truly find the passion for learning. This is the only way we can say "no" to "fake hard work."

I am not exploring human nature, but I am a psychologist who cares about the human heart. I wish you well.

I am not exploring human nature. I am a psychologist who cares about the human heart. I wish you well.

Procrastination and laziness are common problems among many students. They impede growth and learning. It is essential to continue studying to obtain a diploma or degree. Meeting certain standards is necessary to gain recognition and respect.

It is evident that you frequently engage in daydreaming and feigning effort. This form of daydreaming does not appear to concentrate your mind on studying; rather, it seems to be an attempt to attain comfort through an inauthentic attitude, as if you have already completed today's tasks and your life will likely be significantly improved.

Alternatively, one might posit that if one studies assiduously, one will be able to excel and reach the next level. However, it is evident that daydreaming can only engender a modicum of relaxation; it does not facilitate the acquisition of knowledge. If one wishes to study, one must nevertheless concentrate on the task at hand.

It would be beneficial to ascertain whether this inability to learn is a consistent pattern, or if it is isolated to specific subjects or tasks. It is also important to determine whether this lack of interest in learning is a general sentiment or if it is limited to a specific topic or activity. It would be helpful to have an understanding of your current academic performance and to set realistic expectations for future performance. Having a clear understanding of your current academic standing and your desired future performance level will provide a foundation for developing effective strategies to improve your learning abilities.

One's awareness of truths does not necessarily guarantee the ability to live a well-balanced life. Some truths may be erroneous or inapplicable to one's circumstances, while others may be relatively straightforward to comprehend but challenging to translate into action, even with full awareness. In this case, the individual in question exhibits a tendency to procrastinate on academic tasks and to engage in reckless behavior. It is advisable to seek psychological counseling to facilitate reflection on one's evolving personality. To gain insight into one's strengths and weaknesses, it may be beneficial to take the Life Foundation Color Psychological Test.

Please provide the appropriate response to the question.

Hello.

After reading your account, I can say with confidence that I understand how you feel because I've been there myself, just maybe not to the same extent.

We know we have to start writing an article, but we just can't help ourselves from watching a video.

We know we should be studying, but we just can't stop watching all kinds of entertainment news. We often consciously want to do one thing, but our actions say otherwise. This is the subconscious mind at work, as Freud theorized.

Jung was clear: when your subconscious mind doesn't enter your consciousness, that's your destiny. Psychoanalytic therapy is also telling us to become aware of our subconscious mind, and the symptoms will improve.

If you're not aware of your subconscious, it's controlling you. You have a lot of things buried deep inside that you're not even aware of, like certain childhood traumas and concepts.

These things buried deep in the subconscious are not conscious, and they will subtly become your behavior, continuing to affect you and even determining the trajectory of your life and influencing your destiny.

As children, we were like a blank sheet of paper, absorbing everything from the outside world indiscriminately. Since we didn't have the ability to judge, many of our habits, which seem to be "innate," were actually absorbed from the outside world.

Furthermore, there are two main reasons for distraction from a psychological perspective. One is that the current behavior is boring, and our thoughts always want to pursue more interesting things.

The second reason is that the current mental experience is painful, and the body is trapped in reality. It is therefore necessary for the mind to be a little freer to relieve the discomfort.

You have a lot of difficult homework to do right now. You avoid what you don't like, so you always think about escaping from reality.

The reality is that the cost of distraction is so low that we unconsciously let our thoughts linger in the comfort zone of the mind and enjoy a moment of relaxation. We simply don't want to exert any effort to do the real thing.

What can be done to alleviate this situation?

1. Set clear, small goals for yourself.

A clear goal gives you a stronger sense of concentration and makes it easier to focus.

When you start training, set small goals and only set big goals once you've improved. Make gradual progress.

Set specific times for work and study.

Psychological research proves that a person is most productive for only about four hours a day.

The rest of the time, we must lead a focused and productive existence.

It is crucial to make the most of these four hours!

3. Read relevant books such as "Taming the Beast in Your Brain: 45 Ultra-Practical Tips to Improve Focus" to see if it can help you. Throughout our lives, we are only trying to integrate our divided inner selves.

It's a relationship between the senses and the mind, between the beast and the tamer. If you can, go see a counselor. They can help you identify what needs are being met by your procrastination.

This will help you.

Hello, question asker, I can feel your confusion and helplessness. Let me hug you!

1.

Reading what you wrote reminds me of my middle school years. I was in the same situation as you. My classmates were studying hard, but I just couldn't get into it. I tried to learn, but I couldn't understand it.

But there's no way out, so it's very stressful.

2.

Many of our students are in this situation. If you have friends, go for a walk, and calm your mind. But you're so busy studying that you don't have time for meals.

We don't have time for small talk because we have to run to get our meals. We are alone and helpless, and we are tormented inside.

3.

There are few top students. What if you drop out? Do your parents support you?

What will they think? What will people think?

Will people think we're failures? Will we give up on studying? We'll be really sad!

4.

We believe that difficulties are only temporary, and learning is part of our lives. School is a stage in life. I spent it by keeping a diary, writing down my thoughts and feelings, and releasing some of the psychological pressure.

5.

You can call the hotline for free. Talking about your problems will help. If you can, you can also get counseling.

6.

Talk to friends, do things you like, and learn that it's good to feel good. Don't give up other things for the sake of learning. Look at the beautiful scenery and you'll see that our lives are good.

7.

The resumption of college entrance exams has changed some people's lives. But in today's world, there are many paths to success. If you're passionate about life and don't give up, you can learn and succeed in many ways.

I hope my sharing helps you! Go for it!

Dear student, I'm going to give you a big hug first. I'm going to help and support you.

You must be aware of yourself. Even if you don't want to study, you can still persevere. Don't worry about the bad results it may bring. Turn to a professional platform for help. It's the wise choice. Get a reasonable analysis and change yourself.

Slow down and examine what is holding you back.

You are a very motivated student who wants to be rewarded for your efforts. You constantly want to break through your own limits.

You need to stop and take a look. Something is holding you back.

You can't afford to calm down, daydream, procrastinate, or fake studying. You feel powerless. You evaluate yourself this way.

Some students play games. Some don't study and leave school.

I know you've suffered a lot and made sacrifices. What is holding you back?

You want to become a better self and live your life for yourself, not for the approval of others.

It doesn't matter if it's your parents' demands and expectations, comparisons with classmates, or other issues. It's exhausting, and you deserve better.

When we learn for the sake of others, to prove ourselves, to gain the approval of others, and to become what others want us to be, we are exhausting ourselves trying to live up to other people's expectations.

Everyone is searching for themselves throughout their lives, hoping to become a better version of themselves. Take a fresh look at yourself and be yourself.

Rebellious, slow down. When we adjust our state, we learn not for the sake of learning, but in happiness.

Trust the law and trust yourself.

A good result is not the only direction we pursue. We pursue a good result, yes, but we also trust in the law and in ourselves. When we do so, a good result is a natural product. And when the process is done to the extreme, the result no longer matters.

When we care about results, we are led astray. We use academic performance as a criterion for assessing excellence and as a tool to present our own value. We do not truly see ourselves.

❤️Get away from the control of others.

Values are reflected in all aspects of life. Life is education, and education is in life.

From the control of others.

From the opinions of others.

Move away from the negativity of others.

Many people are troubled by their family of origin. Our parents' accusations and criticisms lead to an inner disapproval and rejection of ourselves. This erroneous perception accompanies us and leads to self-negation.

Give your parents what belongs to them and trust yourself with what doesn't. Move forward with ease.

Love yourself and give yourself strength.

Injecting strength into yourself, you will discover the sparkle in life and magnify it infinitely. You will enjoy it.

It gives us strength. Accepting ourselves, flaws and all, is what makes us whole.

Extreme self-confidence allows you to complement others. You will not be affected by the objective environment of others and become an independent and complete person.

You must be true to yourself, love yourself, and make yourself happy. This is your lifelong pursuit.

I wish you the best. You can do it.