What should you do when you meet a group of people who lecture you using moral high ground?

These individuals, regardless of their status, whether it be that of an elder, superior, or another form of authority, are engaging in actions that are causing significant discomfort. Those who are not respected by these individuals have the option of completely refusing their lessons.

The fact that their ideas and statements are not necessarily correct, coupled with their inability to do what they ask of others, means that they are simply judging others by their own standards and forcing people to do things against their will. This is an unscientific situation that is also unfair.

At the age of 27, I encountered an individual who exhibited a high degree of moral rectitude.

It is not possible to evade their presence or to remove oneself from their influence. Nevertheless, they are convinced of their own infallibility.

Lead the entire family to adopt a commanding stance.

The individual in question occupies a superior position.

The following is a lesson that can be derived from this situation:

In order to rectify the situation and establish a more equitable dynamic, it is essential to take the initiative and clarify the circumstances. It is crucial to convey that such control is unacceptable and that one's personal views and lifestyle should not be subjected to external influence.

It is imperative to extricate oneself from the clutches of those who seek to exert control over one's life through the use of self-righteous rhetoric.

It is inevitable that there will always be individuals who seek to exert control over others.

It is recommended that a certain distance be maintained and that a long-term strategy be employed in order to engage in a sustained effort to achieve a resolution.

It is not a straightforward process to achieve autonomy. There are numerous challenges yet to be addressed. Some tasks may be beyond their capabilities, yet they are nonetheless reliant on external assistance.

Should one desire for others to incubate one's eggs or even permit the eggs to undertake a challenging task, it is possible to observe their competitive nature. The current behavior is markedly irrational.

There are numerous individuals and entities outside of our control, and we are unable to compete with them. By maintaining our own sentiments, we can avoid becoming helpless. Other people are not responsible for us.

Additionally, it is important to recognize that each individual has their own aspirations and objectives. It is possible to envision a future level of achievement and to consider the feasibility of attaining it. However, it is essential to acknowledge that distance from these individuals may be necessary for personal growth and development.

It may not be feasible to abruptly disengage, but one can gradually fortify their physical and mental resilience. When an array of external voices offers guidance, resilience is the only safeguard. It is recommended to engage in introspection and emotional processing to develop inner strength.

Please clarify the question.

Hello! I'm glad we met here.

Let's go over what you said:

You have people around you who lecture you on morality, which annoys you. You can't get rid of them.

This group is not as good as they say.

This group of people can't stand to see others do better.

I'll use underhanded tactics once I see you.

Question owner, I'm angry and helpless reading your text. What should I do?

Avoid contact.

If you can't get rid of it, reduce contact. You can't touch it, and you can't hear it.

Treat it like air.

If you can't meet, they're like air. When they lecture you, say, "I have something to do. I'll go first." Do this a few times, and they'll back off. If they don't, it's not their problem.

Don't fight with someone who has a problem.

That person is not you.

When they're lecturing you, just remember they don't like some of your qualities. It's not your problem. When you know this, you can speak up.

We can't make everyone like us. We have to like ourselves. When you accept yourself, you can't be bothered by other people's words.

Walk your own path.

We can't change others, but we can change ourselves. Be more tolerant.

Think how refreshing it is. They are swaying in the wind, and you are enjoying the vast sky. Keep going.

I'm me. Ask me anything. I hope my answer helps.

Hello, dear!

I can see you're struggling with how to handle a group of people who are accusing you of wrongdoing. I've met people in your situation who wanted to leave but couldn't. It's not easy to break away from a situation when you feel trapped.

They see themselves as being on the moral high ground and can lead the whole family in saying things, but when it comes to things that they simply cannot do, they'll find some high-sounding reasons to cover it up.

You've previously felt that they are too competitive with others, and if they compare themselves with others, they can't stand it if others are better off than they are. It's totally normal to want to be the best, and it's great that they're so driven! It is in this kind of subjective-oriented competition that they gain a sense of existence and value.

As for me, I have the ability to do so, but I just can't express it or show it. Otherwise, they'll resort to underhanded tactics. How should I deal with these people?

First of all, I'm not sure if the people you describe are the ones around you in your life. Are they your parents, relatives? Or are they your classmates and friends, your work colleagues, leaders, or some of your neighbors? I wish you all could live under the same roof, seeing each other all the time, and having to face and interact with each other every day. At present, you don't have the ability to be independent or leave this specific situation, which is totally understandable!

First of all, it seems like they're pursuing the life they want by constantly comparing themselves to others and judging who's better or worse. The questioner especially can't stand to see others doing well and will envy and even hate them. Then, when they face the bad things that happen to others, they'll gloat.

But this is all part of their own perception, part of their own thinking, part of their own values, part of their own issues. It's really not our business! We can't change it, and we shouldn't have to. The pressure and burden shouldn't be borne by the questioner.

So, let's circle back to the part of the questioner himself that seems to be under a lot of pressure and control. It's totally understandable! If he has the ability or wants to exert himself, he will always be subject to some restrictions and suppression. And, he might even do things and act in ways that hinder and pull.

So, I'd love to hear what efforts the subject has made in this area. Has he been able to express his true thoughts and needs?

Have we taken the time to really listen to their opinions and thoughts? In the process, what are the expectations and demands that others have of ourselves, and how do some of our actions make them feel?

And what feelings and experiences did some of their interference and control bring us during the process? It would be great to know what our expectations and demands of them are! That is to say, how do we want them to do it?

And then, based on this, let's think about what changes we can make together!

Hello!

Thanks for the question. It's given me some food for thought. You're not alone in this. Lots of people have felt this way. Some folks can always stand on the moral high ground and accuse you of kidnapping or something.

My dear, regarding this issue, well, who gave them the right to accuse you? Is it you or your parents?

I used to see a lot of parents who accused their kids in front of other people. It's not uncommon for parents to do that.

It's important to accept the reality of the situation.

You sense the unfriendliness of those around you, and when you do, it disrupts your inner peace. You feel unhappy when you judge. This is your inner child being hurt!

If this goes on for a long time, I don't think there's anything wrong with the people around you, but you were hurt too much in your childhood. They don't understand or support you, and they just naturally behave in a certain way.

They may not intend to hurt you with every word and expression. But their unconscious actions, repeated over and over, remind you of the hurtful experiences you had as a child. This traps you in your small self with no choice!

It's natural to feel frustrated and unsure of how to handle the situation.

Let's face the facts, even though it won't change the situation. The next time they act this way, you won't feel so bad and annoyed, which will make things easier for you.

It's time to bring in an adult to handle this issue.

They're so bored that they come and accuse you. Just ignore them!

The more you respond to them, the more interesting they become, and they'll find new ways to mock you. There's a saying, isn't there? "If you don't listen, the king of the bastards will chant sutras."

If you don't watch, you don't watch, and the king of the bastards places an order. Why waste your time on people and things that will make you unhappy?

Is that really helping the situation?

Also, tell them how you really feel: "You don't feel good? They're so capable, they must be amazing! Why don't they work in the office of the spokesperson for the Ministry of Foreign Affairs?"

There's no point in arguing with me. If they're so capable, they can argue with foreigners. Just ignore them after that. Put on your headphones and do what you like.

You have the freedom to make your own choices. You don't have to follow their routine. They just want to make you angry and unhappy. If you are unhappy, they've achieved their goal. You just have to be happy and see if they are angry.

Ultimately, when they talk about you, they never tie your legs up, right? Just walk away. If you have the energy, just watch their show.

It's important to learn how to adapt and recharge your old self.

We can't use the same method to achieve a different result. If you want to change, you have to be willing to pay the price to become free inside.

You can choose to remain unmoved.

A book on healing the original family: "Mr. Toad Goes to the Psychologist." In just ten sessions, Toad is able to heal the wounds of his original family and overcome his fear of other people's judgments and accusations.

If you're looking for tips on how to accept yourself, I'd recommend checking out "Thank Yourself for Your Imperfections." It includes lots of case studies that you might find helpful.

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