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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello! I just wanted to send you a quick, warm hug from afar. I can feel your anger, frustration, helplessness, and desire to respond in a more appropriate way when facing attacks and slander from people with bad character.
It's not so much what others do or say that hurts us, but more how we interpret it. Our internal perception and interpretation model determines whether we're affected and hurt.
From what you've said, it seems like you've already realized that the reason why you take the way others treat you as a slur so personally may be because you're overly sensitive. Is there also a part of yourself that you've been afraid to face, unable to accept, repressed and hidden, and avoided?
A person's relationship with others is a reflection of their relationship with themselves. The words and actions of others serve as a mirror, helping us understand ourselves better. When we can reflect on, try to face, and accept these parts of ourselves, even when we're unable to accept that part of others, we become more accepting and understanding of others, rather than critical and judgmental. This is because we can fully accept ourselves.
I'm Lily, the little listener at the Q&A Pavilion. The world and I love you.
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This is a tough situation to be in, but it's important to remember that someone else's actions and words are a reflection of them, not you. Take this as an opportunity to reaffirm your values and the person you want to be. Consider what triggered their behavior; sometimes people lash out due to their own insecurities or issues. It's okay to take a moment to evaluate if there's any truth in their words that could help you grow, but don't let it define you.
It sounds like you're taking this very personally, which shows you have a strong sense of selfawareness and care about how you're perceived. However, not everyone comes from the same background or has the same level of emotional maturity. Try to distance yourself emotionally from the comments and focus on your strengths. If there's a grain of truth that can help you improve, great, but otherwise, let it go and continue being the best version of yourself.
When we encounter negativity, it can shake us to our core, especially if we're used to treating others with respect and kindness. It's natural to question ourselves, but also remember that no one is perfect, and we all have areas for growth. Use this as a chance to practice resilience. If the accusations are unfounded, stand firm in your integrity and seek support from those who know you well and value you.
Dealing with slander is never easy, and it's commendable that you're reflecting on it constructively. Sometimes, people say things out of jealousy or misunderstanding. Reflecting on your own behavior is healthy, but don't lose sight of your worth. Surround yourself with positive influences who uplift you. If necessary, address the issue directly with the person or seek mediation to clear up misunderstandings.
It's challenging when someone tries to undermine you, but how you respond can show your true character. While it's good to introspect, be careful not to internalize the negativity. Trust in your own judgment and the opinions of those who matter most to you. If the criticism isn't constructive, it might be best to let it pass. Focus on your goals and the things that bring you joy and fulfillment, rather than letting someone else's words dictate your mood or actions.