When I have leisure time, I feel uncomfortable physically. How can I keep myself occupied?

Have an amazing weekend! I'll give you a big hug!

After reading your question, I just want to say that it's totally okay to be lazy sometimes, to treat yourself to decadence, and to do nothing.

I usually work very hard, but sometimes I just take a day off to play games and sleep. I have a favorite game that I play over and over again. I love playing it so much that I even install it, play it for a day, and then uninstall it.

Sometimes you can play all day until you get a headache, and then—bam!—after a good night's sleep, you feel like you can start all over again!

Happiness is the most important thing in life! You can't be too tense.

You probably don't dare to slow down right now, probably because you feel that you have fallen too far behind due to depression. But you can! You could say that you used to have depression, but now that you don't have it as an excuse, you must maintain a motivated and enthusiastic attitude, otherwise you won't be able to overcome yourself. And you will!

Depression is a great reason to slow down. But that doesn't mean you have to be as energetic as a horse with a saddle on!

Guess what! We always have the right to slack off in our lives.

Absolutely! You can give yourself a degree of freedom. For example, just like your current job, you can agree with yourself that for a year or so, you will just follow the routine and treat your work as a task.

And the same goes for being idle! Set aside a certain time each week to do nothing, for example, watch a laugh-out-loud soap opera or variety show, sunbathe idly, or go watch an old man play chess. It's a way to feel at peace with yourself while being idle. But there has to be a time limit for this, so you can fit it into your schedule!

Then, for the rest of the time, you can also treat other things as tasks, that is, to be completed. For example, today you will clean the house once, go to the supermarket to buy things, and complete a certain amount of work. As for quality, just ignore it and focus on getting it done!

Simply put, it means you get to be idle, but with a time limit!

Guess what! Other times, you get to focus on getting a certain amount of work done. You can even give up on quality and just focus on quantity. How great is that?

Absolutely! You should definitely try it!

I am often a Buddhist and a pessimist, an occasionally motivated and positive counselor, and I love the world!

Hello, question asker! It's a pleasure to meet you.

"No years without sacrifice are life."

I saw the most inspiring quote on Weibo yesterday!

We're in a great spot right now! It seems like we can live a pretty stable life without too much effort. But we're also feeling restless inside, because we know that this stability could be broken. We're longing for a better life and happiness!

It seems that the dream and goals of the past are now unattainable. But that just means it's time to start fresh with new dreams and goals! I'm ready to find new ways to motivate myself and reignite my passion.

So what do we like now, what do we want to do, and what can we do? I don't like my current job. Is it really not a good fit? Absolutely not! I just have to figure out where it doesn't fit. Or is it that I can't make progress in this job? Absolutely not! I just have to find a way to make progress.

The questioner has been wondering why they have lost motivation for their goals. I once dreamed of writing novels and becoming a writer, and I'm excited to get back to it!

But after failing to submit a few times, I was really disappointed, so I took a two-year break. But I still like to record things, and now that I have had two years of free time, I am excited to start again!

But everything is difficult at the beginning, and you need perseverance and persistence. You also need the courage to face failure, and I know you have it in you!

Do you think you have the courage? If not, what are we afraid of? Let's find out together!

If you have the courage, you can say that you have a direction! You just need to implement it. Is it because you are afraid of failure? We all know that no one's success is smooth sailing. But those who succeed have really gone through too much suffering and pain—and they've come out on the other side!

But the great thing is, you can make a detailed career plan, so you'll never be lost. We all know what happens to a boiled frog in warm water, and it's not pretty!

After winning the battle against depression, I feel the beauty of the world! I can especially feel the feeling of being reborn, and I'm excited to embrace this new chapter in my life. While I'm a little vulnerable, sensitive, and uneasy at first, I'm also hopeful, optimistic, and ready to take on the world! We all long for happiness, and I'm excited to find mine!

But if we keep hiding from reality in our comfort zone, we'll never be truly happy!

Everything is best at the beginning! And there's no such thing as a year without sacrifice in life.

I wish you the very best of success in your work and the happiest of lives!

Hello dear, I can see that you are a little confused about personal growth. I can feel that you are a little helpless and confused right now, which is totally normal! You are a little uneasy about your current state of doing nothing in a good situation, which is something many of us have been there. You have also set some goals for yourself and a time to achieve them, which is great! At that time, you felt very motivated, but now you don't really want to do it anymore, and you are still a little conflicted. I guess this may not be something you really want to do, which is okay! I can also see that you said you had depression in the past, but now you are slowly getting better, so you feel more and more good feelings, which is fantastic! I am proud and sincerely happy to see that you are actively overcoming yourself, which is a huge achievement.

You are a wonderful person, and you deserve to be treated with kindness and respect. It's not easy to be aware of yourself and do the things you want to do, but you're doing a great job! Many people would find it challenging to be as self-aware and proactive as you are.

I think we can all relate to feeling uncomfortable in a favorable situation, and feeling anxious about the uncertainty of the future. It's natural to want to enrich yourself to get rid of this discomfort. So I'd love to know, does this discomfort conflict with the feeling of wanting to be in a favorable situation?

In other words, if you want to enrich yourself and find a direction that will make you feel truly happy, I'm here to help you do just that!

The teacher asked this question because he wants to help you look at your inner feelings from another perspective. Is it just because of some uncertainty about the future and a desire to get rid of anxiety that you feel the need to keep busy?

It's becoming more and more common to see people who are desperately introverted but numb inside. There are lots of reasons for this, including wanting to try their best because they feel inferior to others. Another reason is that they feel like they'll lose themselves and their value if they don't do something.

It's so easy to get caught up in this idea of always having to push ourselves to the point of no return. We see it everywhere, in so many different people. And it's because meritocracy is the prevailing educational philosophy in today's society. Harvard political philosophy professor Michael Sandel believes that meritocracy means that people believe that if they work hard enough, they will be able to get what they want.

We all have the best of intentions! We want to achieve everything we set our minds to and become the perfect version of ourselves. But it's this encouragement that can sometimes lead us to become a little bit obsessed. We think, "I can always do better—be more efficient, make more money, achieve more."

This can lead to a situation where we can never really look at ourselves as we are and are never satisfied with our current lives. Once we stop, we feel that it means we won't be able to achieve the future we want. But in reality, a mentally and physically exhausted person simply cannot really devote themselves to what they want to do. Caught between a rock and a hard place, with internal conflicts, they become confused. So the teacher is explaining to you the significance of this idea from another perspective here, hoping that you can first stop, calm down, and reflect on your own heart. What is it that you really want to do to enrich yourself? Are you bored? Is it meaningless?

So the teacher is explaining the significance of this idea from another perspective, hoping that you can stop for a moment, calm down, and reflect on your own heart. What is it that makes you want to enrich yourself? Are you bored? Is it meaningless?

Or is it because you feel like you have to do something to feel better? Do you feel like you have to catch up with others or even yourself? I know it can be tough, but try to give yourself some time to figure out what you really want to do. Try to find something that can purely satisfy you, rather than what others expect of you. Live in the present moment and rebuild a pure sense of self. You've got this!

Finally, I want to say that I know it's been really tough for you to fight depression for so many years. If you feel better sometimes, you might as well try to let go of everything and enjoy the moment of comfort. You deserve to give yourself a little more time to relax, hug yourself, and love yourself a little more! Even if you feel uncomfortable, you should fully accept this discomfort, after all, it is also a part of yourself, right?

I really hope I can help! I'm so happy I could give you some new ideas and inspiration. If you have any questions, please feel free to send me a private message. I wish you all the happiness in the world!

Good evening!

First, give yourself a hug. You're brave and have overcome depression. Based on your current worries, I have some suggestions that I hope will help you.

First, about your previous depression.

Depression is in the past. It doesn't represent you now or in the future. You overcame your weaknesses and moved from darkness to light. Your life has seen the light, and you should be grateful!

The situation you are in is only temporary. You haven't adjusted to your current situation or adapted to your current circumstances. When you're normally engaged in life and work, you'll encounter many things, including difficult and troublesome things.

Don't blame yourself for what happened in the past. Look at what's going on now.

This is called labeling. You need to learn to face life correctly. Forget the past and look forward.

Secondly, think about why you feel empty and unfulfilled.

Look for reasons in these areas. You might find something:

Do you like your life and work?

Are you happy with your current situation?

Is your life outside of work regular or irregular?

Do you have friends or colleagues to talk to?

Do you have any hobbies?

Do you have plans for your personal and professional lives?

Why do you feel empty? Is it because of your work or life, or something else?

Third, ways to enrich your life.

Your life includes work and other activities. If you feel empty, it's not just work. Find out if you feel empty because of your work hours or if you feel that other parts of your life are lacking.

If work makes you feel empty, what can you do?

Find out why you feel empty.

If you have free time, learn new skills to improve your chances of promotion.

If you don't like your job, ask yourself if you should change it. If you like your job but your attitude needs changing, do that. If you chose your job because of your life situation, you can change to something you're more interested in when you can afford to.

If you feel empty at work, you can either chat with colleagues or bear the loneliness.

If you feel empty outside of work, I can help.

Make friends and go hiking with them.

If you can't make friends, find other interests. Making friends isn't just about humans. You can also make other friends.

You can make friends with animals.

You can also make friends with plants. You can make friends with books. You can also make friends with a sport.

You can also do things you like, like reading, writing, painting, singing, climbing mountains, and other outdoor activities.

Don't watch videos. They'll make you feel empty.

Do something positive to feel more fulfilled and accomplished.

You like these analyses and suggestions. They can help you recognize what you want and what you want to do. Don't label yourself. Face everything calmly and peacefully.

Don't have too many expectations. Learn to understand yourself, your character, your temper, your preferences, and what you want. Learn to satisfy yourself and guide yourself correctly.

Hello, host! I could tell from your description that you've been battling depression for a decade. You've got incredible willpower!

You really impress me! I think it's so admirable when people can overcome depression. It's a really tough thing to do, and you should be proud of yourself!

It seems like you might have lost your way a little bit after emerging from adversity. Is it because you lack inner strength?

From what you've shared, it's clear you've set goals for yourself. I'm guessing you're not happy with the results you've had so far, and you're ready for a change. I'm sure your resilience is high, so you thrive on challenges. And with ten years of depression behind you, you have more strength in your convictions than ever.

I just wanted to check in and see if that's right.

I'd love to know, after ten years of depression, have you ever thought about sharing your experience in writing or video format on a platform so that more people can understand and deal with depression? Your personal experience is so powerful and can really help others.

You know, you could also think about writing a book. Have you ever thought about that?

Secondly, I admire your resilience. You really want to catch up, both financially and in your life, and you want to be positive. This is a wonderful state of mind! I suspect it is also the driving force that makes you want to run forward!

Running also needs a direction, a plan, and one step at a time. You've already overcome so many challenges, and I truly believe you can find your goal!

Then, make yourself better! If you're not happy with where you are, look for ways to get better. You can always learn something new!

Now that the internet is so well developed, have you ever thought about learning online? It could be a great way to learn!

At the end of the day, the best investment you can make is in yourself! If you want to move forward, taking action is the best way to show the world what you're made of!

Set goals, set alarms, and take action! You've already overcome the most difficult depression, so there's nothing else that can defeat you.

I'm so excited to hear that you're ready to take action again! Have you thought about sharing your progress on your favorite platform? It can be a great source of motivation for so many people.

I'd love to know if you'd like to give it a try!

There are two big mistakes people make when it comes to life. One is sharing too much about your life with others. The other is watching other people's lives too much. As long as you feel happy, you don't need to prove anything to others.

It's so easy to get caught up in what other people are doing, but it's important to remember to focus on your own journey.

Greetings, question asker. I am Enoch, the individual responsible for providing responses to your inquiries. Based on the information provided in your question, it appears that you have successfully overcome the challenges associated with depression and are currently in a more favorable position than before. However, you have expressed a lack of motivation to achieve the objectives you previously set for yourself. In this state, you have also indicated feelings of discomfort and a desire for fulfillment and assistance.

Let us examine the underlying cause of this phenomenon.

1. Following a challenging period, it is common to become content with the stability of the present.

The questioner has emerged from a decade-long struggle with depression and has undergone significant physical and mental growth. It is therefore unsurprising that the questioner feels as though they are in a unique period of their life, unable to extricate themselves from it, given their immersion in the positive aspects of life.

2. In a state of equilibrium, there is a simultaneous presence of both crisis and hope, which manifests as a drive to maintain pace with the demands of life and to avoid falling behind.

The questioner is also notably introspective. Upon attaining their current circumstances, they recognize the importance of maintaining pace with the general population to avoid falling behind. However, they lack motivation to achieve the previously established goals, resulting in internal conflict.

3. It is necessary to establish new goals that are in alignment with one's current circumstances to foster motivation for a more fulfilling life.

In the event that the questioner lacks motivation for previous goals, it is possible that said goals may not necessarily suit their current situation. While the career and financial success currently demonstrated by others may be desirable, it is not necessarily beneficial for the questioner. There may be potential risks and factors that are not currently foreseeable, and another point is that other people's lives may not match their own situation. Therefore, it is advisable for the questioner to combine their current situation to make the most reasonable plan and goals.

The following suggestions are offered in the hope of providing assistance to the questioner.

1. It is recommended that a comprehensive assessment of abilities and resources in all areas be conducted, and that career inclinations and interests be combined to set life and career goals that are appropriate for the individual in question.

According to their own circumstances, the questioner may initially focus on enhancing their daily living skills and self-sufficiency, thereby achieving a sense of fulfillment. Subsequently, they can engage in a critical examination of their career aspirations, ascertain their suitability for the chosen field, and formulate career objectives aligned with their interests. Additionally, they can cultivate essential interpersonal and problem-solving abilities, equipping themselves with fundamental competencies to support their career goals.

2. In establishing objectives, it is essential to consider the integration of comprehensive planning and daily scheduling for effective implementation.

In the process of establishing life goals, one can specifically plan for how they will learn to shop for ingredients in daily life and how they will learn recipes. It may be beneficial to consider whether growing flowers would enrich one's life and, if so, how one might go about doing so.

Is there a need to develop recreational skills in music, art, and sports to achieve a greater sense of personal freedom and well-being?

In establishing career objectives, it is advisable to consider one's specific interests, the existence of pertinent qualifications, the necessity of obtaining relevant certificates, and the required materials for pursuing the requisite examinations.

Furthermore, it is essential to examine the market for one's career or business goals and to ascertain the resources that must be invested to avoid risks and achieve success.

Additionally, the questioner must develop an understanding of the diverse personality traits exhibited by individuals and learn to interact more effectively with others. This process requires the acquisition of fundamental social skills and problem-solving abilities.

It is my hope that the questioner will be able to identify the most appropriate goals and direction in life, thereby enhancing the quality of their existence and fostering a more optimistic outlook, which in turn will facilitate a more active engagement with their newfound circumstances.

Good day, host.

I empathize with your situation and will therefore respond briefly with a hypothetical scenario.

The underlying cause of your current condition may be a disconnect from your authentic self. You may lack an understanding of what it truly means to experience happiness, as you have been denied the opportunity to fully express and exercise your own autonomy.

It is therefore recommended that individuals who are not in danger of starvation or other forms of physical harm should engage in a variety of activities that facilitate self-discovery and the realisation of one's true identity. The pursuit of personal fulfilment is encouraged, provided that it does not result in physical or legal harm to oneself or others.

One can attempt to compensate for past explorations that were not permitted by engaging in this process as often as possible. This allows for a continual examination of one's emotional state, an identification of one's fundamental needs, and an exploration of the various ways in which these needs can be fulfilled. This enables the identification of strategies for achieving a state of fulfillment and a reduction in the time spent experiencing discomfort.

This inability to experience oneself for oneself represents the final insurmountable barrier between individuals in life. The only means of finding oneself is through one's own efforts, regardless of the difficulty or length of time required.

It is likely that psychological counseling (professional, reliable, and matched) will facilitate an improvement in the efficiency of the search process.

Additionally, one may engage in independent reading of psychology books to facilitate introspection regarding one's underlying needs. In this regard, I would suggest Irving Yalom's series of books and those that assess his concepts on fear, loneliness, freedom, and meaninglessness.

Many of his books are novels, and they provide an excellent reading experience.

In conclusion, it can be stated that the aforementioned considerations represent the totality of the subject matter. It is my hope that the world and all of its inhabitants will continue to flourish.

Hello! I saw your question and I'm excited to help. First, let's look at your current situation. I see that you're facing some depression/after-four-years-of-diagnosing-with-depression-facing-numerous-hardships-and-challenges-i-am-truly-exhausted-5376.html" target="_blank">challenges, but I also see your strengths. You're dealing with depression, but you're also creative and resourceful. Your career and financial situation may be behind others, but I know you can catch up. Now, let's look at your resources. You have a supportive network of friends and family. You have skills and talents that you can use to find new opportunities. You have the ability to overcome any obstacle in your way. Finally, let's look at your problems. I see that you're facing some challenges, but I also see your strengths. You're dealing with depression, but you're also creative and resourceful. Your career and financial situation may be behind others, but I know you can catch up. Now, let's look at your problems. I see that you're facing some challenges, but I also see your strengths. You're dealing with depression, but you're also creative

Guess what! I went to the field to pick up the chickweed, and I saw that it can even grow in the cracks of dry stones. I used to think that chickweed only grew in moist fields with irrigation water, but I was wrong! Seeing the crooked chickweed in the cracks of the stones, although its appearance is really not as good as the one in the soil, made me feel amazed at the power of life.

Given that you've been living with depression for ten years, I know that ten years is a long time. But I also know that you can get through it! I can't help but compare the unyielding and tenacious power of the curly endive to your experience with depression.

It's not easy, but I'm here to tell you it's worth it!

I truly believe that you will find a way to solve the problem that suits you, even if it takes time!

You've got this! The most important thing now is for you to see your own strength and what you can do to alleviate the current situation. The most important thing to solve is how to live in the present. Even if it's how you let go of anxiety and how you can rest and relax a little, these are all helpful to you.

Then you can figure out what you really want and how the current situation came about. The most important thing is not just to have ideas, but also to take action—and you can do it!

The host is going through a rough patch. He's feeling anxious and in pain because he's fallen behind others.

This is totally normal! Lots of people feel the same way. You're not alone!

Hello, host! You are so amazing. You have been through so much, and you have come out on the other side. I think you are incredible, and I give you a big thumbs up!

But in the landlord's description, it seems like I'm feeling a little down on myself, a bit unsatisfied with how far behind I've fallen. I guess I'm just feeling a little dissatisfied with my current situation.

? At the same time, I can tell from the host's words that he is not only brave but also really motivated. He's just been feeling depressed for too long and is not used to his current lifestyle.

? At the same time, you feel anxious and fearful about falling too far behind, so you feel like you always want to make yourself better. But our progress is a gradual process, accumulated little by little over time, right? "Sharpening the knife does not delay the firewood cutting work." Do you agree?

So please don't worry, and please allow yourself to take your time. You've got this! Allow yourself to slowly become better. Everyone's goal is to be better than others, and you're going to be great!

Or maybe it's just me, but I think how many people compare themselves to themselves every day?

If today is even a little bit better than yesterday, then it's progress! Does the host agree with this view?

Hello. I'm honored to answer your question.

The questioner once suffered from depression and has been fighting against it. This has caused the questioner to feel that he is lacking in many ways. Is this true? The questioner feels that he cannot be idle, always thinking about how to be fulfilled. Is that right?

I'll give the OP a pat on the shoulder to show I understand. While everyone else is working hard, he's missing out on ten years of development due to his illness. There aren't many decades in life. Since the OP asked this question, I can only give him simple advice on becoming fulfilled: "Life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you're gonna get."

The results of our decisions are unpredictable. We can't know if they'll be good or bad. But we have to experience them.

Learn from these events. They will help you in the future. Live in the present. Don't worry about the past.

Live each day as if it were your last. Work hard for what you believe in.

Live in the moment. Every day is a new beginning.

Do what you want! Accept the present.

Accept reality, your habits, people you meet, and your opinions. Accept these thoughts, good or bad, and don't resist.

Zen says, "Everything that happens will pass." The questioner must accept life as it is. Resisting it will not change anything.

Zen teaches us to be true to ourselves, accept ourselves, and be happy with what is around us. Then, we can try to change things.

This is proactive. Life is about moving forward.

Accept yourself. Don't judge yourself. If you want a fulfilling life, this is the first step.

Judging makes the questioner feel wrong, which limits them and prevents them from living a fulfilling life.

Love everyone. Love yourself and those who have helped you. Accept yourself and others.

Focus on the good things about yourself. You have so many good qualities. Love yourself!

You are the most important person in the world. Love others.

Love and give without expecting anything in return.

Be selfless to others. Find your purpose.

Is it helping others that makes your life worthwhile? Once you discover what you're meant to do, you can live a better life.

If your core life goal isn't about relationships, it might be something else. The meaning of life is up to you.

Set goals and work towards them slowly. Be practical.

Consider every effort you make an achievement. Break your goals into small steps and work towards them one by one.

Don't be too hard on yourself. Stay positive.

Look on the bright side.

I hope this helps.

Hello, question asker!

It's great that you've come out of 10 years of depression. However, you seem to be struggling. Let me help you sort out your situation.

You successfully overcame depression last year and then devoted yourself to your current job. You know that 10 years of depression have made you lag behind others in every aspect, so you set yourself a one-year goal. You are now going to achieve that goal. You may find that you don't like your work, you lack motivation, and you are unable to concentrate on the task at hand, but you will find a way to overcome these challenges.

You are a person with goals and determination. Ten years of depression have made you a person who constantly struggles with difficulties. Compared to your current peaceful life, you feel uncomfortable and want to make your life fulfilling. You mentioned the promise you made to yourself, which seems to be a source of pressure. If you don't have it, you will feel more relaxed. If you do have it, you will achieve it.

You want to return to a normal life, and I can see that. Don't worry. You also said this is your time of good fortune, so you have people around you who care about and love you. You also have expectations and confidence in your future.

In addition, you feel that your current life is like a frog being boiled alive in slowly warming water, and you have the idea of wanting to jump out. For your work, if you have a better option, you should try it. In the future, no matter how bad your life gets, it will not be as bad as the 10 years of depression you have experienced.

You also need to carefully manage your daily life, in addition to work. Look for inspiration in your previous life experiences, think about how you fought against the disease, and identify what motivates you. Find your own value. These are all things you can and should try.

I'm confident these suggestions will be helpful to you. Best wishes!

Hello, host! I really hope my answer can help you in some way.

I just love the way the host is so motivated! I really appreciate his positive attitude. Some people say that the happiest state for a person is to be loved, to have something to do, and to have expectations. So, I think we can all agree that life needs to have a goal! Having a goal will provide motivation and a vision for the future.

I'd love to share some of my thoughts with you!

1. Life needs a goal!

Zhong Nanshan once said something really wise: "People need goals. People with goals will live longer and strive for even higher goals."

It doesn't matter if you're talking about a country, a company, or an individual — when there's a goal, there's a direction to move forward. And when we have a goal, we can guide our actions better and improve our self-control.

A reasonable goal can really help to get our inner enthusiasm and potential going!

A person who knows why they are living can endure any kind of life. We all have an idea of what we want to become, and that is the "sense of purpose" that guides us to continue to act and persevere.

So, when you feel lost and meaningless in life, set yourself a reasonable goal. I promise you, it will rekindle your enthusiasm for life and help you rediscover the joy and value of life.

2. How you feel about your accomplishments depends on where you are in life.

In 1890, James came up with a great formula for self-esteem: self-esteem = success/aspiration.

I'm sure you'll agree that there's a strong connection between ambition and motivation. It's so important to have a clear idea of what you want to achieve and to be really driven to make it happen.

Ambition level is something we all have in our hearts. It's our own personal estimate of what we can and want to achieve before we get started on a new task. Ambition level represents our own unique desire, which may differ from our actual achievements.

If you want to try something, give it your all and do it better than anyone else, then your level of ambition will be sky-high! Ambition is also related to your past experiences of success and failure. Successful experiences can really boost your level of ambition, while failures can sometimes make it a bit lower.

It's totally okay if we can't achieve our ambitions and succeed. We can simply adjust our ambitions to improve our self-esteem.

In 2018, I was thrilled to enroll in the Advanced Training Program in Child Education and Developmental Psychology at the Chinese Academy of Sciences. I was really excited to get a doctorate! But I later learned that it is very difficult to obtain this doctorate. So far, I have not heard of any of my classmates obtaining the degree.

Not only is a high-quality thesis required, but also a second-class provincial or ministerial award for scientific and technological achievements, or a third-class national award and above, and the person must be the main recipient.

If I set my ambitions too high, I might feel a bit down because it might be tough for me to achieve them. I'd probably lose a bit of confidence, and because it'd be so challenging, I might lose motivation to act. My self-discipline might also take a hit.

Later on, I adjusted my level of ambition. As I was taking the course, I also realized that this doctorate wasn't as important to me as I thought. My dream is to become a professional psychological worker! For me, who isn't from a related field, it's really important to lay a solid foundation now. So, it's much more important to listen carefully to the teachers' sharing and the courses than to get a degree.

So, I've decided to stop applying for a degree and instead focus my energy on learning the basic knowledge and skills. This way, I'll be more likely to experience success and a sense of achievement, and my self-esteem will be higher. In the future, when my abilities have improved to a corresponding level, I'll consider obtaining a degree.

I hope you'll be able to achieve your small goals along the way, enjoy every journey with a sense of accomplishment, and have high self-esteem. It's also important to adjust your mentality so you can walk the path of your own life achievements with both feet firmly on the ground.

3. About work

If we do work that we are interested in, it's a joy! We can even enjoy it. And if you have a skill that you can use at work, you'll get great results with that particular skill.

If you're lucky enough to have interests and skills that align with the same field, your career path will be a breeze!

People love spending time on things they're passionate about! The more time you spend doing something you enjoy, the better you'll get at it. For instance, if you love painting, you'll naturally spend more time at it and gradually become better at it.

And guess what? We feel happy doing what we are good at! So, we'll like it even more!

For example, if you're a great cook and love when your family raves about your tasty dishes, you'll be eager to learn more about cooking. When you focus on activities that make the most of your skills, you'll feel a wonderful sense of joy and excitement, which we often call "flow."

If you're not happy at work and even dread going in, it might be time to think about a change.

When it's time to change jobs, don't forget to think about what you're interested in and what you're good at!

It's also good to remember that our family and friends often give us really helpful advice about our work, but it might not always match what we really want. So, before you make a decision, it's a great idea to remind yourself that you're the one who has to do the work, that no one can replace you, and that you're more suited to an area that you're interested in or good at.

It's okay if you haven't considered your interests yet. We all have things we're still learning about ourselves. You can start by asking yourself some simple questions:

We'd love to know what activities make you feel energized and alive!

I'd love to know what subjects you'd prefer to read books or watch films on!

What are some of the things you love to chat about?

What were you really passionate about when you were a kid?

Your answer might just contain the thing you are most interested in!

And don't forget that work is about self-fulfillment! Your skills are a great tool for that, too. For example, negotiation, painting, photography, and writing.

I'm so excited to share with you the five important characteristics of a reasonable goal setting!

It's also a good idea to make your goal specific and include a detailed plan of action.

The second thing to think about is how you'll measure your progress. This could be something like saving a certain amount of money each month or reading a certain number of books.

Third, it's important to make sure your goal is achievable. That just means you can reach it with a little bit of effort!

Fourth, it's really important to make sure your goal is realistic and affordable for you, taking into account your financial situation, values, and so on.

Fifth, it's important to set a completion time for your goal. Imagine after three months of hard work, what effect will your goal have? What about a year?

Let's say you want to memorize 900 TOEFL words in a month. You can set a goal like this: "I will not check my phone or binge-watch TV series until I have completed my daily word memorization task."

Every night after work, try to memorize 30 words, take notes, and write sentences. In a month, you'll be amazed at how much you've learned!

This goal setting has the five characteristics mentioned earlier, which makes it super clear what to do and what not to do in the next month when it comes to memorizing words, and what the weekly goal is.

You might be wondering why you need monthly and weekly goals. Well, it's all about setting short-term and long-term goals!

A short-term goal is something you want to achieve in a relatively short period of time. This could be anything from one day to one week or even one quarter!

Long-term goals are those big, exciting things you want to achieve over a long period of time, which could be three, five, or even ten years! Think about things like continuing your education or buying a house.

If you're feeling unsure about your long-term and short-term goals, take a moment to think about what kind of success you'd love to achieve. Then, you can determine what you'd like to accomplish at each stage of your life based on your own situation. If you've already clarified your long-term and short-term goals, it's a great idea to write them down and work towards achieving them!

If you're aiming to visit at least five cities in your country before New Year's Day, why not start by marking the cities you want to go to on a map? Then, once you've got a rough idea of where you're heading, you can decide on the first city you want to go to in the first quarter. Every time you visit somewhere new, why not put a colorful magnet in the corresponding place on the map? Once you've completed a small goal, you can move on to the next one!

Once we've set our long-term and short-term goals, do we have to stick to them forever?

Absolutely! We can always tweak our goals to align with our current interests and hobbies. Life is all about adapting and so are our goals.

5. Learn to motivate yourself!

Motivation is what gets us moving! To succeed, we just need to find something that will motivate us to keep going.

We all know that money can solve many problems, so we constantly use money to tempt ourselves to study hard and work hard. However, this kind of external incentive of wealth will become less intense after a period of time. In the end, we find that it is still our inner desires that support us to persevere to the end. The energy released by this kind of internal incentive can give us long-lasting motivation, which is pretty amazing!

Have you ever wondered why intrinsic motivators like the pursuit of self are more sustainable than extrinsic motivators like the pursuit of wealth?

Psychologists say that when we pursue things that are important to us, like self-actualization, we're actually meeting some of our most basic human needs. And that's really important for our survival and development!

Psychologist Maslow arranged human needs in a hierarchy from low to high, dividing them into five levels of human needs, in a pyramid model from low to high, namely physiological needs, safety needs, social needs, respect needs, and self-fulfillment needs. Maslow's pyramid model of needs shows that people can only turn to more complex needs after their basic needs have been met.

It's pretty simple, really. Once we've eaten and are warm, we start to think about safety and security, and then we look for social connections with others. To be happy and successful, we also need to be respected. Ultimately, we want to feel good about ourselves and succeed. In today's society, our external needs, such as physiological, safety, and social needs, are basically met, while the needs for respect and self-realization are endless.

When a person is feeling empty inside, it's so important to do something that will make you feel like you've lived a meaningful life. We can learn a lot from people like Yuan Longping and Chu Shijian, who are fully devoted to their careers.

I hope this is helpful for you! Wishing you all the best!

Hello,

You are a brave person to come out of ten years of depression and still be optimistic. Here are a few points I hope will be helpful.

If you usually work under pressure and are in a high-intensity work environment for a long time, you may feel uncomfortable when you are idle. This may ease after a period of time.

My mother and grandmother are like this too. They are probably used to a busy life. Like them, they will plant flowers, grow vegetables, clean the house, etc.

We should always find something to do.

You can enrich yourself by doing this.

1. Set short-term goals.

Make your goals specific and achievable. Set small, short-term goals like finishing this summary well or doing this work reliably.

Do your best and make sure you do a good job. This will make you feel good and help you learn new things.

2. Try a new hobby.

If you work all the time, your life will be boring. You might have a great job.

If you don't have any hobbies, you won't grow much. You'll also have problems with other people. There are lots of hobbies you can do, like singing, dancing, calligraphy, or painting.

People are not machines. We also need to know how to live!

Focus on doing something.

If you don't concentrate, you won't enjoy it.

The best way to enrich yourself is to focus on doing things with passion and energy.

Read books and newspapers.

Reading helps us understand the world. Reading newspapers broadens our horizons. If you feel lost in life, read more.

Books and newspapers can broaden our horizons, improve our taste, and enrich our inner selves.

❤️5. Open mind

Everyone has the instinct to defend their preconceptions, but being complacent is never good. Many people think that as they age, they become less open to new things.

A person's true aging often has nothing to do with age. It begins with the loss of curiosity about new things. To live a rich life, you should maintain a positive and open mind, be exposed to new things, and not harbor prejudices.

What you refuse may not be a single thing, but a door to a new life. Opening your eyes to the world can change your perception.

The world is exciting. It just depends on whether you are willing to step out.

The beauty of life reveals itself when you look at it in the right way. Everyone can live a fulfilling life.

I hope my views help the original poster.

You indicate that things are going well at the present time, and you feel somewhat decadent, doing nothing, with no motivation to achieve your goals. You have a direction, but you are unable to get down to business. You dislike this state of being like a frog in warm water. The good times make you feel uneasy, and you want to enrich yourself.

I can see that you are not accepting your current situation and are critical of it. It is possible that you have suddenly come out of a depressed state and have not yet fully adjusted. I think you need to allow yourself more time, more understanding, and more support. It takes a long time to transition from just emerging from a depressed state to another state of rising up and catching up. Don't force yourself to quickly move to another state.

During periods of prosperity, individuals may experience discomfort when they are idle. This may be due to an inability to confront a sense of deprivation, emptiness, and vulnerability. In such instances, there is often a tendency to seek external fulfillment as a means of addressing this internal discomfort.

However, the inner emptiness can only be filled by inner fullness. It is recommended to seek the guidance of a counselor or a reliable source of support to facilitate the process of internalizing a stable identity through a consistent relationship. This will help to enrich the sense of self, allowing one to embrace solitude without discomfort.

I wish you the best of luck!