Why am I so disconnected from love when I don't even have a boy to talk to?

I believe that everything is meant to be.

I believe that with the right approach, you can achieve everything you want in life. To do so, it's essential to become the best version of yourself.

Love is a feeling. It is important to remember that you cannot control whether or not it comes, and similarly, you cannot force it to happen if it does not.

Given that you're only 25 years old, there's no need to worry if you're not in a relationship. It's important to remember that everyone has different opportunities and that there's no set age for doing certain things. It might be helpful to go with the flow and see what happens.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider what you could do in this situation.

Firstly, it is important to have a positive self-image and to try to avoid feeling anxious.

It would be beneficial to cultivate self-confidence, establish a correct and positive belief system for yourself, and let go of the past. It may be helpful to view psychological trauma with skepticism. Your current state is good, so you are OK, because life is made up of the present. It's possible that the best causes sown in the present will bear the best fruit in the future.

Consider opening your heart and going out to chat with more people. You may find that people outside are not as unfamiliar as you think. It could be beneficial to travel 10,000 miles rather than reading 10,000 books. Meeting countless people could be more rewarding than traveling 10,000 miles. The more people you meet, the more open-minded you may become.

If you allow your inner beauty to flourish, the world will respond with beauty and positivity in return. If you embrace a sunny, confident, generous, kind, and helpful mindset daily, your aura will shift, your energy will evolve, and you will attract what you truly desire.

I wish you well!

Hello, dear!

It's totally understandable that you feel lonely at 25. It's not easy to make friends or even meet someone special when you're going through what you are. It's really brave of you to come here to talk about it. I'm sure you'll find it helpful to chat to other people about your situation. I'm sure your teachers and classmates will be happy to have a chat with you too. You've made the right choice by coming here. I'm really sorry to hear you're feeling so low. I'm here to help in any way I can.

It's totally normal to not have met the right person at 25! These days, lots of girls are really cautious about marriage. Some people, both men and women, at this age, hope to find the right person to spend the rest of their lives with. Sometimes, fate is a mysterious thing and you can't force it. Sometimes it comes without you even noticing!

I saw you say that you were obedient from a young age, didn't fall in love early, and spent more time studying. Although you repeated a year, the reason was because of depression, and you eventually graduated with a bachelor's degree. In my opinion, you have actually been planning for your life, and even though you were mentally, emotionally, and even physically uncomfortable, you still did what you needed to do. Many people might give up halfway through, and you are really excellent.

I think you're an amazing person, and I know you'll find someone special to share your life with. It's totally normal to feel a little lonely sometimes, and it won't last forever. We're all struggling with something in this big city. I'm right there with you! The important thing is how we deal with our loneliness and how we can make the most of it. What do you think?

I also noticed that you seemed a little down when you were reading. It might be helpful to talk about what's going on. Is there something going on at home that's making you feel this way? Or is it just the general pressure we all feel in today's world?

I'd love to hear more about it if you'd like. I'm here for you on this journey of spiritual salvation. Please feel free to PM me anytime – I'm always here for you.

Hello,

You're anxious and blame yourself because you can't find a boyfriend.

I don't know you well enough to give advice.

If you've been alone for a long time, you might think you're passive.

Personality: Attachment patterns may be insecure.

You need to be self-aware.

Is it just your personality that makes others feel distant?

Or maybe you lack basic communication skills and can't reach a consensus or empathize with others.

If you were a good girl in your early years and it was related to a strict parenting style,

If so, your inner super-ego may be too strong. Freud divided the personality into the ego, id, and super-ego.

(The superego is a personality trait that strictly follows social norms and moral requirements.) Long-term and excessive self-suppression

You can't connect with the opposite sex.

How do you start a conversation?

The best way to understand yourself is to learn from others.

You need to understand yourself by listening to others.

Know how you come across to others.

Greet someone with similar traits, be proactive, and see how you feel.

The beginning is always the hardest. Take the initiative to get anywhere. If you're not comfortable with the opposite sex,

Try making contact with the same sex first.

If you can, find a counselor to help you look at yourself.

The counselor helps you understand yourself.

Learn about your thinking, personality, and how you interact with others.

How to get along with others.

The above is just a reference.

I love you at Yixinli!

Hello, question asker!

I understand your feelings and situation completely. You've always been the epitome of a good girl, and now that you're 25, you want to fall in love. However, you're struggling to find even a single boy to talk to, let alone fall in love with. Let's take a look together:

I had a crush on a boy in junior high. I waited for him every day at the bus stop and rode the bus with him, or walked with him. I didn't think about falling in love.

Adolescence is a time of innocence and small beauty. I was also studying hard and didn't think about anything else. I may have understood liking and love, probably just out of a kind of good feeling.

I have never been liked or had someone confess their love for me.

I am not concerned with being liked or having my feelings confessed. I know that love is more mysterious than that. It is not as simple as that. Therefore, I don't particularly care about it.

Someone is probably secretly in love with you, but you just don't know it. Love is mysterious, and it's not as simple as being liked or having your feelings confessed. I don't care about it.

I refuse to let it make me feel that I am not good enough, that I am not as good as other girls. I know that people are not comparable. While you are envious of others, others are also envious of you.

I didn't go to high school because I was depressed, and now I'm repeating the third year. I'm 22 and just started my undergraduate degree.

First of all, I want to congratulate the original poster on getting through that difficult time and successfully enrolling in undergraduate school. Things are already much better now than before, and they will only get better from here on out. Don't worry, there will be bread and love.

"I don't have any friends, male or female. I'm very lonely, and I cry when I need to.

"I don't want to do anything. If I get into a relationship, I just want to chat and cuddle."

The questioner's demands are not high.

The questioner's demands are not high. He just wants someone to spend more time with him. He is used to being alone. In the days to come, he can connect with others.

Here are some ways to adjust:

Here are a few ways to adjust:

Accept yourself.

You must accept yourself, including this current state of loneliness. Don't dwell on it too much.

Accept your strengths and weaknesses, including your current state of loneliness. Embrace your imperfections. Accept that it's normal not to have been liked or confessed to. Don't dwell on it.

Accept your strengths and weaknesses, including your loneliness. Embrace your imperfections. Accept that it's normal to have never been liked or confessed to. Don't dwell on it.

Make friends.

Make friends.

From the questioner's description, it's clear that they're alone. They need to let go of their worries, open up, and become more optimistic and confident. They should also be more lively. They should find friends who share their interests and do things with them.

Be the best version of yourself.

Be yourself and have fun. That's what you need to do before love comes along. Get out there and try new things. Join some activities. Develop a few hobbies. Just be yourself and have fun.

Be yourself and have fun before love comes. Develop a few hobbies, try new things, or join in some activities.

You will find love when you become the best version of yourself.

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to the original poster. Best wishes!

Hello, questioner. It's like meeting someone in person. I can tell from your words that you're longing for love. But for some reason, you're unable to communicate with others normally, which has led to a state of isolation where you can only observe love from afar. I'll describe the viewpoints, and I hope that my next answer will be enlightening to you.

In your description, you present yourself as a good girl with views and opinions. Even if you do something extreme, like riding in a car with someone you like and walking together, I think your view of yourself is too goody-goody. You're overly concerned with other people's views and too afraid to express your own thoughts. You suppress your emotional needs, without anyone to tell your story to or to complain to. In time, just as you said, you experience those depressive times.

It's more about expressing yourself in relationships. If you want a good one, you need to communicate with different people, try to understand love, read books, or just interact normally. Try doing rural activities that interest you. You'll meet the right person eventually. Read the book "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" to understand the differences between men and women. Use your male traits to communicate with boys. If you don't communicate, you won't get the results you want.

It's important to remember that in a relationship, we often have certain needs that we want to satisfy. If you want to fall in love at 23 or just want the company of another person, it's essential to take care of yourself first. If you can't take care of yourself, it's difficult to love another person well. I encourage you to focus on yourself, find ways to feel comfortable again, communicate with others, and achieve the desired conversation effect.

As you mentioned, you're looking to release your emotions through romantic relationships. You can try to find someone special to help you with that, whether it's through making friends or chatting with people online. You can also relieve your emotions through sports or yoga, for example.

Wishing you the best!

I love you, the world, and I appreciate you.

If you would like to avoid becoming isolated from love and emotions, it might be helpful to consider removing the insulating material.

Have you ever considered the possibility that the depression you experience in high school and the current insulation from love, as well as the current feeling of loneliness without anyone to talk to, may be related to the fact that you have been a good girl since you were young and up to the age of 18? Could it be that the insulating material you have become may be a result of your actions?

Could I respectfully propose that there might be a link between being obedient and becoming emotionally insensitive?

Because they are obedient, they may sometimes feel the need to meet other people's expectations and ignore their own emotional needs. A child who has been obedient for a long time may sometimes feel very depressed or deny their own emotions and needs.

As we grow up, we may either develop a personality trait of lacking opinions and being submissive and pleasing to others, or one of appearing to conform to the expectations of others, while breaking taboos and doing things that are out of the ordinary, which may bring danger to oneself.

Before the age of 18, it is often expected that girls will not think about love.

Have you ever considered why you held such a strong conviction at that time?

It is a normal part of life for people to experience a confused urge for emotions when they reach puberty. This is a natural physical and psychological process.

It is often thought that in order to be a good girl, falling in love is absolutely forbidden and something that cannot be considered.

This kind of thinking can lead to confusion between innocent emotions and love, and even mistake innocent liking for love.

So, when you describe your feelings for the boy you like, you use the words "the most outrageous thing."

I think it's fair to say that he's doing well, and that it's perfectly fine to ride the bus with him. Perhaps you could have expressed your liking or desire to be friends?

It seems that at that time, your efforts to be good may have started to insulate you somewhat from your emotional needs.

It seems that you have never had the experience of being liked or having your feelings expressed.

I believe there may have been an unspoken rule in your heart that you had to be a good boy and not fall in love.

I believe that at that time, you may have kept a certain distance from the opposite sex. This could have made the opposite sex feel that you were not easy to get close to, or that there was a sense of distance.

This could be seen as the insulating material of "good behavior," which may prevent outsiders from "conducting" emotions to you.

The insulating material of "being good" may also insulate inwardly, preventing the inner emotions from "outputting current" to express one's inner feelings.

You mentioned that you were feeling depressed during your time in high school. While I'm not sure of the specific cause, there is a common observation about individuals struggling with depression: it can be challenging for them to express their emotions in a way that is socially acceptable, which can lead to feelings of isolation and distress.

I believe this is the issue that arises from the part of "good" that insulates inwardly.

Because you have to align with the expectations and demands of others, you may find yourself suppressing, denying, or ignoring the expression of your true emotions. This state of mind can potentially contribute to depressive symptoms.

It can also potentially contribute to the formation of negative internal beliefs, such as feelings of inadequacy and worthlessness. This self-doubt can, in some cases, lead to a sense of inferiority and reluctance to form close connections with others.

In terms of interpersonal relationships, she would become apprehensive about socializing, unsure of how to interact with others. She would have to choose to be alone, and would feel lonely, but not know who to confide in.

I often felt lonely and, on occasion, when I sought to express my emotions, I found myself crying in private.

You may be able to relate to this if you think about it. This sense of loneliness and the feeling of having nowhere to release it is not unlike this.

I found myself lacking the motivation to engage in any particular activity, and if I did experience feelings of romantic interest, I tended to prioritize conversation and physical affection.

You mentioned that you don't necessarily feel the need to do much if you fall in love, and that it's more about chatting and cuddling.

It's also possible that this is a result of the tendency to be overly self-sacrificing, which can sometimes lead to confusion about one's own emotions.

If I may, I would like to share an experience from my past that might shed some light on this issue. When I was in junior high school, I encountered a boy I liked and experienced a certain degree of emotional confusion.

Perhaps what you might benefit from at this time is making a friend before pursuing a romantic relationship.

It might be more practical to focus on finding someone you like first, whether they are a man or a woman. As long as there is something to appreciate or a topic to talk about, it might be helpful to become friends first.

It might be helpful to try expressing your emotions, experiencing the feelings that result from emotional output and emotional input, and finding a way to communicate your emotions so that the emotional current is no longer insulated, but emotions can interact with others and produce a current effect.

It's possible that you may not be immune to love, but it seems that you have been bound by "good behavior" for so many years that you are a little uncomfortable with interpersonal socialization and emotional expression.

I believe these problems can be solved by changing the way we interact with others and the way we express ourselves.

In other words, it seems that these emotional communication and expression skills are innate, but they have been suppressed to some extent. When we remove the obstacles that prevent us from connecting with our emotions, we can begin to reconnect with them.

Then, you may find it easier to express your emotions freely. If you are able to release your emotions safely, you may feel less lonely. Real and rich emotions and feelings are what make people come alive. If you feel your emotions are repressed or denied, you may feel like there is always a dark cloud over your head, and you may feel reluctant to get close to others.

It is perfectly okay to shed tears openly when you are feeling sad.

If you would like to find someone to chat with, you might consider going and looking for them. If you are unable to find them, you may wish to try writing down your emotional feelings or expressing them here as you are doing now.

Writing can be an effective way to release emotions. If you receive a response or feedback, it can also be beneficial for emotional communication, interaction, and self-awareness.

If you're feeling lonely, you might like to try hugging yourself. This can be a way of connecting with your inner emotions.

Perhaps it would be beneficial to stop being a good girl and start being the real you.

Perhaps the first step to becoming more independent and self-sufficient is to learn to protect your heart and emotions. This could help you to become less dependent on others and more open to love.

My name is Bo Sir.

Hello. I may not understand your loneliness, but I know you are not alone.

People are social animals. From your writing, it's clear that you don't have any male friends. It's evident that you lack experience with male friends and don't know how to get along with them. The only time you liked someone was when you were quietly supporting them and watching over them. You didn't confess your feelings, and it seems that the other person didn't either.

This simple liking is worth being affirmed.

You said you don't have many male or female friends. It's clear you want someone to be your friend and have an in-depth communication with you.

I'd like to explore this further with you.

1. I'm curious, what is your definition of a friend? Is a friend someone you can chat with, or someone you can have deep conversations with? Is a friend someone who will help you solve problems in times of need?

2. I'd like to know what kind of support you want from your friends.

3. Tell me what you imagine your boyfriend to be like.

4. You were able to silently protect someone's child in junior high school, which proves that you still have the initiative. You should maintain such an initiative. What is preventing you from doing so?

What is stopping you from continuing to search and act in this way?