Why are you afraid of wasting money and time, and feeling limited? How can this be resolved?

Hello! I'm a heart exploration coach, and I'm here to support you with warmth and a sincere ear.

I feel the same way! Time is so precious to me that I can't bear to see it go to waste. I feel that my partner is wasting his life when he sleeps until noon, and I see other people wasting their time on social media and watching soap operas.

The living room has a 3-horsepower air conditioner, while the bedroom has a 1-horsepower or 1.5-horsepower air conditioner. If you see your partner drunk and asleep in the living room, you feel sorry for him and also for the electricity bill, but you know you can help him out with that!

Let's dive in and explore these issues together! You have a great "sense of awareness" and have noticed your "fear of waste" pattern.

1. Everyone has their own amazing inherent patterns!

These patterns are formed first and foremost in our original family, from what we see and learn from our parents. For example, our parents were both very diligent and thrifty, and they lived in an era when there was still a scarcity of material goods.

I have been influenced by what I see and hear, and it's been a great thing! Seeing my parents work hard and be thrifty, I have gradually developed the same habits. These patterns become fixed because they have helped or protected us in the past, and I'm so grateful for them!

For example, if you are afraid of wasting money, you will be great at managing your finances! You'll spend less and spend it wisely. If you are afraid of wasting time, you will be punctual and trustworthy.

These patterns of ours – our behavior patterns, emotional patterns, and thinking patterns – are also brought into our various relationships. And it's so important to remember that if we use our own standards to judge others, it will affect our relationships.

You're absolutely right! The fear of waste can limit so many things.

We're so used to judging a person or an issue based on our own values and feelings! But if we judge too much, we become stubborn, which restricts us and naturally affects and damages our relationships.

If a person is stubborn, the world will remain within the limits of his perception, and he will lose his curiosity. Life will lose its fluidity, and the person will become rigid, unable to listen to others and accustomed to labeling. But there's so much more to life than that!

So, how can we change?

First, improve your awareness and see this pattern in yourself, so you can broaden the dimensions of life and see more truths!

For example, I think this way, but what do other people think? It's so exciting to consider different perspectives! Wisdom comes from viewing things from multiple perspectives.

Furthermore, it's important to separate human behavior from identity and not label this "person."

2. Now, let's dive in and explore why we're afraid of waste!

Worries and fears are just imagined by the brain. If this continues over a long period of time, it will lead to anxiety. But here's the good news: anxiety is a feeling of worry and fear about what might happen in the future. And we can choose to change that!

But here's the thing: being in a state of high alert for a long time will drain our energy.

In the past, when humans were striving for survival, they had to be highly vigilant when they were among the beasts and in the jungle. But now, in the era of peace and plenty, if we focus on "survival" rather than "living," we will easily miss out on the joy of living, because anxious people cannot live in the present. But there's no need to worry! We can easily shift our focus to "living" and embrace the joy of the present.

Do you see what you are worried about, and long for a sense of security and control? I really hope that everything can develop according to your own intention!

If the feared outcome does occur, you can absolutely handle it! What can you do now to prepare for the future in order to prevent the feared event from happening?

Insufficient sense of security can be healed! You can set aside a dedicated "anxiety time" where you dare not do anything and devote it to anxiety. Use a notebook to record your own anxieties and give them different names, such as "fear of small money" and "fear of a quarter of an hour."

And there's more! You can also learn some meditation techniques to cultivate and exercise your ability to meditate, heal your sense of security, and connect with yourself.

I really hope the above is helpful to you! And I just want to say that I love you, the world, and I'm here for you! ?

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Dear Landlord, I hope you find this information useful.

I am acutely aware of the fear of wasting time and money, and how this fear has constrained my ability to own many things. For instance, I once hesitated to discard a bag of dried vermicelli with worms in it. Instead, I selected the parts without worms, repacked them in a bag, and sealed it. This process was particularly laborious and consumed a significant amount of my time. Ultimately, I did not consume the selected vermicelli, as I was reluctant to discard it, considering it a waste of the money I had spent on buying the vermicelli in the first place. However, upon reflection, I recognize that this decision actually resulted in further waste of my energy and time. I could have utilized that time to create more value and engage in more meaningful pursuits.

I subsequently discovered that this is a way of thinking that I have adopted, and that its formation is related to my upbringing. I have absorbed and internalized many of my grandmother's behaviors and ways of thinking, and continue to use these patterns of behavior because I am unaware of any superior methods for improving the ease and comfort of my life while also increasing efficiency and meaning.

Subsequently, I became acquainted with a life management method known as "断舍离" (Duan She Li) and a type of management referred to as "energy management."

It is important to understand the concept of "let go and let go," identify your essential needs, and learn to make informed decisions.

As an example, I previously engaged in shopping on Singles' Day or during sales to avoid wasting money and save money. However, I subsequently recognized that purchasing excessive quantities of fruit would result in wastage, and the savings would be minimal. Similarly, purchasing an excess of clothing would necessitate significant effort to organize when the seasons changed, which would be a poor use of time. Furthermore, purchasing an excess of skincare products that I would not use in time would result in expiration and wastage. Consequently, I was unable to achieve my objective of avoiding waste.

I subsequently recognized that the key to avoiding unnecessary expenditure is to adhere to a single principle: "Only purchase what is essential." When there is an abundance of fruit in my household, regardless of its price or the merchant's promotional efforts, I refrain from making a purchase, as it is not a necessity. Similarly, I do not engage in excessive spending on Singles' Day simply because of a sale.

This approach will not only streamline your life but also achieve the goal of avoiding unnecessary expenditure.

It is often beneficial to conduct a thorough inventory of your refrigerator, cabinets, and closets. This exercise can help identify items that may not be necessary or useful. It can also serve as a reminder to consume resources in a rational manner and to prioritize the importance of letting go of material possessions.

The key is to implement an effective energy management strategy.

It is important to recognise that time is a finite resource. If we utilise our time effectively to create value, we will gain more wealth. This is a fundamental law of business. The question therefore arises as to how we can create more value in a limited amount of time.

This necessitates the implementation of an effective energy management strategy.

Given the finite nature of our energy resources, it is unwise to expend them on matters that do not genuinely matter to us. Doing so represents a waste of both time and money. Similarly, when we are in a bad mood on a daily basis and thus unable to concentrate on the tasks at hand, we are not at our most productive. This also represents a waste of time and money.

Therefore, if we can effectively manage our energy and maintain a positive mental state on a daily basis, we can work more efficiently and enhance our overall well-being. The time we save by working efficiently is not for doing more work, but for doing more things we enjoy and that are meaningful to us, such as spending time with family and reading our favorite books.

How do you manage your energy?

1. Avoid internal conflict, focus on what you can control, and don't dwell on unchangeable circumstances.

Sometimes, fatigue results from an excess of concerns. Have you considered whether you can alter the issues that cause you distress?

If you can change it, then work hard to implement the necessary changes. There is no benefit in dwelling on the matter. If there is nothing you can do about it, there is no point in dwelling on it either; all you can do is accept it.

As stated in "A Change of Heart," there are three categories of matters in this world: one's own affairs, the affairs of others, and the affairs of a higher power. Individuals tend to experience distress when they fail to take control of their own affairs but instead concern themselves with the affairs of others and matters beyond their control.

It is important to recognize that other individuals' actions and perceptions are their own responsibility.

It is important to recognize that other individuals' actions and thoughts are their own responsibility.

An individual's current state of being is shaped by their personal growth journey, educational background, and living environment. They have established their own internal standards for evaluation. When we align with these standards, they view us positively; otherwise, they view us negatively.

We all evaluate others based on our own criteria. When others meet our standards, we like, support, and recognize them; when they don't, we dislike and reject them. Therefore, whether others' comments on you are positive or negative seems to be a reflection of you, but in fact it is a result of whether their comments align with your evaluation criteria.

We all evaluate others based on our own standards. When others meet our standards, we tend to like, support, and approve of them. Conversely, when they don't meet our standards, we tend to dislike and reject them. Therefore, whether others' comments on you are positive or negative seems to have something to do with you. However, in reality, it has more to do with whether your evaluation standards align with theirs.

It is therefore important to recognise that individuals have different needs and positions. Attempting to change others' minds or force oneself to change, or seeking others' understanding and approval in everything, is unproductive and unhelpful.

It is also important to understand that our own actions and thoughts are our own responsibility.

Given that we cannot control the actions and thoughts of others, and that the purpose of our lives is not to satisfy the needs and recognition of others, it is important to focus on our own needs, understand ourselves, identify our needs, and then take steps to address them.

When you prioritize self-care, foster self-love, and cultivate mental resilience, you will possess the capacity and energy to extend love and support to others.

Therefore, it is important to focus on your strengths, continuously develop your skills, expand your knowledge base, and pursue ongoing growth.

When we can distinguish between what is within our remit and what is not, we can accept what is unchangeable and change what is changeable.

When we accept others and recognize that we cannot change their actions and thoughts, we become less concerned about their behaviors. When we accept their patterns and become accustomed to their behaviors, we feel more at ease and relaxed, which reduces emotional strain.

2. Cultivate beneficial routines to mitigate the depletion of willpower.

It is understood that the expenditure of energy is a result of our active control. However, when an action becomes a habit, the need for control is negated, and therefore, excessive expenditure of willpower is avoided.

For example, we are accustomed to performing daily tasks such as brushing our teeth and washing our faces. These routines have become second nature and can be completed without exerting additional effort.

Similarly, you can also transform those tasks you need to complete into habits. Once these habits have been established, you will find that you can accomplish the necessary tasks with minimal effort.

I have incorporated reading into my daily routine, such as when I wash my face and brush my teeth. This allows me to complete my reading tasks in the morning when I am most alert. I have been reading consistently for 974 days, and I have not experienced fatigue from this practice because it has become a habit, similar to washing my face and brushing my teeth.

3. Replenish willpower in a timely manner.

While willpower is limited, it can be replenished over time through proper nutrition and rest. This entails consuming meals at designated times and maintaining a balanced diet, along with ensuring sufficient sleep.

Furthermore, willpower can be replenished during the workday by engaging in activities that are enjoyable. When faced with tasks that are particularly demanding or stressful, it is beneficial to intersperse these activities with ones that are more appealing.

When we engage in activities that align with our interests and preferences, we are effectively recharging our batteries and replenishing our willpower. For instance, I do not particularly enjoy housework, so I find it beneficial to listen to a book while I am engaged in this task. Listening to a book can provide me with a sense of strength and happiness. Consequently, I am able to complete the housework and the book, while also enhancing my awareness.

Additionally, you may utilize this method. When you are fatigued, engage in an activity you enjoy to enhance your mood, and then resume addressing the issues that cause you some stress. You will find this process more manageable.

Please refer to the above for further information. Best regards,

Hello. You mentioned that you are concerned about the potential for wasting time and money, and that this concern is a significant obstacle for you. It seems like this is an issue that is causing you some difficulty.

It would be beneficial for you to find a solution.

Perhaps we could discuss the fear of wasting time and money. It seems that the fear of wasting money is actually a good tradition in our Chinese nation, one that encourages us not to spend money indiscriminately.

Not wasting time is also a very positive thing we often say, and it seems to be no problem. So I'm wondering, what exactly are you afraid of?

It would be helpful to clarify this further. Once you understand your concerns, you may be able to identify solutions.

It would be helpful to understand what the underlying belief is that causes this fear. What are the potential consequences of wasting time and money?

It is generally understood that when we invest money and time, we can expect a certain level of return. Could I ask whether you are concerned that the reward you desire may not be forthcoming?

You mentioned that your concerns about wasting time and money are limiting you in some way. Could you elaborate on what you perceive to be the restrictions? Do you feel there are instances when investing in resources, whether financial or temporal, could potentially lead to enhanced outcomes?

If that is indeed the case, the problem may be less difficult to solve.

There is a saying that the best time to plant a tree was 10 years ago, and the next best time is now. You might consider choosing one of the smaller directions that you feel you can invest your time and money in to get some kind of return.

Even if you invest time and money and don't achieve the desired result, you'll likely lose only a small amount. If you do achieve the desired result, it will likely encourage you to continue investing time and money to continue achieving similar results.

From your question, it seems that you are looking to experience more growth and development. Many of these opportunities require a certain investment of time and money.

This could be considered an investment. If the investment is successful, then it would not be considered a waste. If the investment is not successful, it is not a waste either, but rather we could say that there are risks involved.

It is important to remember that any investment carries an element of risk. If you choose not to invest, you will not face the potential challenges that come with it. However, if you do not invest, you may miss out on the potential rewards that could have been gained. Just as you would not want to waste your time or money, it is also important to consider that you may miss out on opportunities for growth and development if you do not invest.

Perhaps it would be beneficial to take action rather than waiting. It may be helpful to consider that the solution to this problem is to simply get started.

It might be helpful to choose a direction and just do it, even if you don't get the result you want after spending time and money. You might find that you can afford the consequences. As you do it, you may gradually discover the problem and find a solution through continuous action.

The questioner indicated during the discussion that they are concerned about the potential for wasting time and money and are seeking a solution. Let's examine the underlying cause of this fear of "wasting" and then organize your thoughts around five strategies for avoiding "wasting."

1. The fear of waste is equivalent to the fear of sacrifice.

The underlying cause of the fear of wasting is actually a positive sentiment. For instance, if you invest time and effort in a project but don't achieve the desired outcome, you may perceive that time has been wasted. The fundamental issue is that you value the cost of time.

Similarly, if an investment does not yield the anticipated return, the investment may be perceived as a waste of resources. This is because there is a cost-effectiveness consideration, which can lead to a fear of wasting money.

A lack of recognition for one's efforts can result in a fear of waste.

This mindset can also lead to a lack of motivation to take action, due to concerns about investing time and resources in activities that may not yield results. Over time, this can create a sense of stagnation and a barrier of emotions.

As a result, you will develop the issue you have identified, namely a "fear of waste, limiting many things."

This line of thinking is flawed. The fact that a significant amount of effort has not yielded the desired outcome does not necessarily mean that the work was futile. It is simply a matter of trial and error.

I'd like to illustrate this with an example.

It is said that the red ointment was successfully developed after 220 trials. There are numerous examples in the history of drug development, many of which are named after the 20th successful experiment or the 20th experiment that produced the best sample.

It is often the case that the first 219 experiments may seem to be useless. However, it is precisely these 219 trial and errors that lead to the 220th success.

When setting goals, it is important to be prepared to invest the necessary resources to achieve them. While there is no guarantee of success, failing to invest the required resources will almost certainly lead to failure.

Each mistake provides an invaluable learning opportunity, essential for success.

After understanding the above, the idea that similar actions may not necessarily lead to a return is no longer as unappealing.

We will now present some suggestions for avoiding futile efforts and achieving greater results with less effort.

1. Gain insight from the experiences of previous generations.

In the 5G era, the internet is a rich source of information. When undertaking any task,

A useful first step is to search the internet for similar cases. This allows you to gain an understanding of the relevant market and avoid the risk of futile efforts.

It is unwise to emulate the unsuccessful strategies of our predecessors. It would be more beneficial to invest further time and resources into exploring new avenues and making new attempts.

2. Analysis of unsuccessful outcomes.

Given the investment of time and money, it is important to analyse and summarise the reasons for failure. Identifying the root cause of the failure enables us to avoid problems and achieve success when investing again.

3. Preferred Solution

Prior to embarking on any course of action, it is advisable to establish a number of potential plans and then evaluate their viability, advantages and disadvantages.

Ultimately, a superior solution is chosen, which minimizes the expenditure of time and capital.

It is essential to ensure that every contribution is predictable.

4. Identify potential sources of assistance.

Before taking any action, it is advisable to consider the relationships you have in your network and ascertain whether there is anyone who can assist you with this task. You can collaborate with them to achieve this goal by communicating with them.

In business, there are numerous instances where the inherent risks associated with independent business ventures can be mitigated through the strategic use of crowdfunding. This approach effectively reduces the potential for wasted time and financial resources.

5. The project will be completed in a series of steps.

It is advisable to divide a large objective into smaller, more manageable components before embarking on a course of action. This approach allows for the achievement of smaller goals, which in turn facilitates the attainment of the larger objective.

If you encounter difficulties in achieving a significant objective, you can halt the process and avoid unnecessary expenditure. To illustrate this concept, consider the example of opening a chain store. It is not necessary to establish numerous outlets nationwide in a single step. Instead, a prudent approach is to first operate a store effectively before expanding.

Should this store prove successful, we will expand it to other provinces and cities.

In short, we must adjust our perception of time and financial investment. It is important to recognize that providing resources without expectation of immediate return is not a waste.

Do not allow concerns about potential loss of resources to diminish your motivation.

I hope that by reading the above text, you will be able to gain further clarity on your direction. Learn how to plan and coordinate events in a reasonable manner.

Then, take the initiative and take small steps towards your goal.

I wish you the utmost success!

Hello, question asker!

I think you have some awareness of yourself, which is great! You should have come to this realization through your experiences in life: you are afraid of wasting things, mainly money and time.

One reason that comes to mind is that we have been taught since childhood to be thrifty and to value our time. The original purpose of this kind of education was good, and it has been a great success! It has taught us not to waste money and time recklessly, but to use them for something more meaningful.

But here's the thing: too much of this kind of education can become a kind of responsibility and oppression. As long as we feel that we are wasting even a little bit, we will feel that we are not doing well enough and blame ourselves.

I'm excited to share my views! I hope they'll be helpful.

Let's dive into the fascinating topic of understanding waste!

Absolutely not! If an item is worth ten dollars and we spend ten dollars on it, and we do use it, that is not a waste.

Absolutely not! It's just a commodity that's only worth ten dollars, but I spent 50 dollars on it, and I didn't use it much. That's a waste.

Absolutely! The same goes for time. If we spend our time studying and doing things that make us happy, it's not a waste.

I used to really like buying beautiful notebooks. They were so gorgeous, I felt like I couldn't just use them casually. I was always reluctant to part with them, so they just kept sitting there. As a result, they yellowed after sitting there for several years, which is the result of my fear of waste.

So I have come to the conclusion that the best thing we can do is use it!

Waste is relative — and that's a good thing!

I remember when I was a child, people in my mother's generation were so resourceful! They'd walk for half an hour or even a few hours to save a few dollars by not taking the bus. Now almost no one would do that anymore. Back then, when material wealth was scarce, even a few dollars were useful, and people's lives were not fast-paced. We had the time to save money!

And now that little bit of money saved can't do anything at all, but it's also a great opportunity to invest in something else!

It's not easy to do something well, but it's worth it! You might have to spend money or time, but it'll all be worth it in the end.

Everyone needs to embrace the joy of trial and error!

For example, when I want to choose a suitable item, I certainly don't know how to choose when I have never used this item before. But that's okay! I'm excited to try it out and see which one is more suitable for me after using it. Maybe I'll even buy one or two, or even three or four, along the way.

This is the cost of trial and error—and it's a necessary part of the learning process!

Similarly, time is the same. I might not be great at something at first, but I'll just keep trying! It might take some time and I might make some mistakes, but this is all part of the journey to becoming the best I can be. It might seem like a waste, but it's just the cost of my trial and error — and it's totally worth it!

You're absolutely right! If you worry too much about wasting money and time, you'll miss out on so many amazing opportunities to try.

Laozi said, "When doors and windows are built and houses are built, we can only use them when they are empty. Not every penny or every minute of our time needs to be put to good use, and that is not considered waste. In fact, sometimes what seems like waste is actually more useful to us.

I really hope you can stop being obsessed with not wasting money and time, and instead use them boldly! You'll be amazed at how you can use them more reasonably and to greater effect in the process.

And the best part is, you'll become more and more adept at using them the more you do it!

I'm Haru Aoki, and I love you, world!

Hello! I just wanted to give you a big, warm hug!

Your question is so short that I can only share a few thoughts from some general situations.

I'm not sure about your specific life situation, but I'd love to know more about what you do when you're not working, how you spend your free time, your attitude towards spending money, what you consider to be necessary spending, and what you categorically refuse to spend money on, even if other people think it's necessary.

I'd love to hear your thoughts on this. How would you define waste? And what kinds of things do you consider a waste of time and money?

I'm sure you've wondered if going to the movies is a waste of time and money.

I can see how you might think that leisure and entertainment are a waste of time and money. We all have different ideas about what's a good use of our time and money, and I respect that. For you, going to the movies, visiting the park, checking your phone, and playing games might not be worth it.

We all have good habits when it comes to being thrifty and saving, but there is a limit to how thrifty and how generous we can be. It's great to promote these habits within a reasonable range, but going too far, whether it is being too stingy or too generous, is not so great.

It's totally normal to be afraid of wasting time or money. It often comes from feeling like you don't deserve it. It's like you're saying, "I don't feel adequate or worthy."

For example, if I don't deserve such a good thing, I should use something that is cheap and good, and if I don't deserve leisure, I should be busy all the time. This situation can usually be traced back to the environment or parenting style in which you grew up.

Let's say your family is really thrifty, especially your folks. They might say you're wasteful if you want something that's not a necessity or if you ask for something and they say no for whatever reason. Maybe you're struggling in school and you're feeling like you don't deserve to have fun stuff. It can feel like they're telling you through their actions that you don't deserve to have what you want.

If this situation persists for a while, you may find that even if you do manage to meet some of your needs, that harsh inner voice will try to stop you. But don't worry! That inner voice that wants to satisfy your needs never stops.

At this point, the two voices will start to have a bit of a disagreement.

Of course, there are also times when a child who felt their needs weren't met as a kid grows up and finds ways to satisfy themselves. For example, if their parents didn't buy them toys when they were little, they might buy themselves much better toys when they have the means to do so.

In both cases, you're actually identifying with your childhood patterns. The only difference is that while fear of waste is direct identification, retaliatory gratification is formed in reverse.

I don't know your age or current income, but I can tell you're going through a lot right now. It seems like a lot of your current worries are related to your childhood experiences. It's totally normal to have an unsatisfied child inside you, along with a harsh judge. At the same time, your sense of personal self-awareness is also awakening. You want to be kinder to yourself, to spend time on things that don't create value, and to spend money on things that have nothing to do with basic necessities such as food, clothing, and shelter.

You can try talking to your inner child and telling it that you are worth it, that you deserve to spend some time taking care of yourself and making yourself happy.

You can go and have a little chat with your inner judge. Tell it that you've grown up, that you're in control of your own life, and that you don't need to live up to its expectations.

I'd also like to suggest a few books that I think you'll find helpful: "My Inner Infinity" and "Healing Your Inner Child." And, of course, you're always welcome to talk to a counselor.

I'm a counselor who is often Buddhist and sometimes depressed, but I'm working on it! I'm also occasionally positive and motivated. I love the world and I love you!

Good day, host.

My name is Li Xuan, and I am a psychological counselor.

I am pleased to have the chance to address your concerns and commend you for your courage in sharing them.

The fear of wasting money and time is a traditional virtue. It teaches us to value time and the fruits of our labor.

Good quality.

Furthermore, you perceive that you are constraining your own potential. Without delving into specifics regarding the event, I will venture a bold assumption:

A gourmet meal provides nourishment, essential nutrients, and contributes to overall health.

Naturally, the price will fluctuate based on the components, our consumption concept, and our purchasing power.

The registration fee for a course of study may appear expensive. However, it should be noted that professional learning requires not only financial investment but also a significant time commitment.

Tuition fees are largely determined by the length of the course, the materials used, and the commitment of the instructor. It is important to consider whether the investment of time and money is commensurate with the benefits to be gained from attending the course.

The potential for gain in knowledge is dependent on the individual. The joy experienced in the learning process is also variable. Changes to your life now and in the future.

It is not uncommon to miss out on opportunities due to time constraints and financial limitations. Upon recognizing these missed opportunities, one's perspective shifts, leading to a future where informed decisions are made based on necessity.

It is my hope that I can provide you with a different perspective.

I hope you can resolve this issue in the near future.

Please be assured that I am always available to assist you.

You want to get rid of loneliness. Let's start by analyzing what loneliness is and why it arises.

Loneliness is a psychological reaction, regardless of whether you are alone or surrounded by people.

Loneliness is a psychological phenomenon. It is the feeling of cutting yourself off from the outside world. You feel this way when you feel detached from a situation and have to face something alone.

Furthermore, there are various forms of loneliness. These include emotional loneliness, social loneliness, and existential loneliness.

Your loneliness is caused by the sudden change in your living situation, as you mentioned.

Although there wasn't much interaction during the pre-employment training I had just attended, I felt physically exhausted but mentally fulfilled when I was in a crowd, especially when everyone and I were working hard and worried about the same thing. I didn't have any idle thoughts, and I just wanted to complete the task. When I was worried about failing the assessment, I was fortunate that a classmate and I felt similar, and we could vent about the pressure together, which made it easier to relieve it.

You previously entered a state of fulfillment in which you studied together with a group. You were busy and tense in that state, and your subconscious mind forced psychological adjustments to adapt to it.

You must adapt mentally and physically to the current state of life as quickly as possible. When this state of life suddenly changes, from a group state to an individual state, you will experience psychological discomfort.

This is caused by a kind of thinking inertia. It makes you feel disconnected from the outside world.

This will inevitably lead to feelings of loneliness.

Once you understand the cause of your loneliness, you have already solved half of your problem. You have identified that you are not suffering from any psychological illness.

This is just a transitional period. You will adapt to learning as an individual with time.

Don't stress.

If you want to return to the previous state of group learning and feel that it will be of great help to you at this stage of your career, communicate more with your friends to keep yourself in a good state.

Furthermore, you can simulate the psychological state of group living on your own, so returning to group living does not necessarily have to be done with the help of others. This will help you change the sense of loneliness you feel.

This will keep you motivated.

First, set phased goals.

Your trainer will set goals for you and you will work together to achieve them. This is the goal-driven method.

Set yourself small, progressive goals and achieve them little by little when you are learning on your own.

Set goals that are challenging but achievable. When you accomplish a small goal in less time than you thought, you'll feel a sense of accomplishment that will drive you to complete the next goal more quickly.

Studying will no longer feel difficult. The sense of emptiness caused by loneliness will also be appropriately reduced.

Secondly, there is the learning and sharing method.

During your training, everyone will interact with each other while learning, creating a state of sharing while learning. Then, when you are learning individually, you can also share the results of your learning through online social networking software.

It doesn't matter if anyone sees how many people you interact with. What matters is that when you share your learning experiences, you'll be in a similar psychological state to when you were training with everyone.

This will simulate the psychological effect of group training when studying alone. It will also effectively reduce the loneliness of studying alone.

Furthermore, when your posts receive attention and feedback, you'll realize you're not alone in your studies. You'll feel seen and heard, and you'll understand that this attention doesn't require you to actively seek out others. There's no need to worry about asking for company — it's not an unreasonable request.

3. Contextual association.

You have to understand that the loneliness you want to get rid of is actually a psychological need. It is not a tangible material need in real life.

You can completely get this kind of psychological satisfaction by acting out a scene yourself. For example, you can create a scene of group training while studying.

Picture this: You're studying the content with the people you know from training. What good learning methods do they have?

Who deals with the same problem better? Of course, you can identify specific problems in this hypothetical situation and then communicate with them in real life. This way, you get targeted feedback and it's better than simply asking the other person to study with you.

This also gains you a certain psychological effect of companionship. It effectively eliminates the temporary sense of loneliness caused by the current change in state.

In summary, loneliness is not terrible. You amplify the feeling of loneliness, allowing your thoughts to become repulsive and inert.

You will feel a sense of emptiness and uncertainty in your current life.

I am confident that by reading the above, you will adjust your state of mind and use effective ways to get through this transitional period as soon as possible. You will complete the relevant exams and get good grades!

Hello, host. Thanks for the question. It sounds like you're worried about wasting time and money and limiting your thoughts and actions. What you're afraid of is that your personal feelings may not be proportional to your efforts and rewards. So, you're hesitant to change the status quo and even reluctant to step out of your temporary comfort zone.

Most people are, to some extent, lazy and procrastinate at times. Change takes time and requires a process. You can try to change the direction of your efforts first. You don't need to invest a lot of time and energy at once, but gradually increase your investment as you see some improvement.

The deeper reason for your fear of wasting time and money is that you've invested time and money and haven't achieved the expected results. You're worried about being ridiculed and criticized by your family, friends, and society. This worry is somewhat self-protective.

To change this situation, first admit that you are imperfect, and that trying to change is not a waste of time and money, but rather makes you stronger and more competitive. The result of your efforts may still be imperfect, but at least you'll be better than you are now. All efforts don't guarantee that we achieve all our goals, but achieving some of the goals in our lives is also worthwhile.

I'm excited to have a date with 1983! The world and I love you!

I am truly grateful for the invitation.

My name is Xiao Yun, and I work as a listening therapist at Yi Xinli, as well as a platform answerer. I am grateful to have had the opportunity to meet you.

I can sense your unease. You strive to utilize your resources effectively, and you're mindful of ensuring that crucial resources like time and money aren't squandered. This is a commendable quality. However, you've observed that a persistent state of tension and efficiency can also result in inadvertent losses. Instead of merely aiming for efficient resource management, let's explore ways to overcome these limitations and enhance this situation.

It is worth insisting on excellent quality.

It is important to remember that setbacks are part of life and should not lead to doubting your entire life strategy. Every method has its advantages and disadvantages, so it is wise not to throw away your existing advantages. Many people hope to achieve not wasting money and time, although the methods and extent may differ slightly.

Perhaps it would be beneficial to consider increasing flexibility.

It is important to accept that we all have to spend money on things and that we waste time carelessly from time to time. It is also true that we cannot be absolutely perfect at everything. We should therefore learn to accept and forgive ourselves if we occasionally fail to meet expectations.

It might be helpful to set a flexible allowance.

Overall, it is advisable to maintain a balance between strict efficiency and occasional relaxation. It is helpful to set limits on the amount of relaxation one can accept. For instance, allowing oneself to waste half an hour doing nothing every day is an acceptable amount. It is important to recognize that occasional relaxation is acceptable, even if it occurs more frequently than once a month. The specific matters and amounts are determined by one's own acceptance. By determining a good tolerance for oneself, one can calmly face various situations.

We would be grateful if you could share any further ideas you may have.

My name is Xiao Jun, and I am a listening therapist at Yixinli, as well as a platform host. I am truly grateful to have had the opportunity to meet you.

Given that time and money are limited resources for most of us, it's understandable that things that are scarce often come with certain constraints.

On the other hand, it is important to remember that time and money are precious resources that should be used wisely.

Since ancient times, people have often expressed regret over the transience of time and the limited nature of money. We have traditionally been encouraged to be prudent with our resources and to value time. Given the finite nature of these resources, it is important to ensure that we make the most of them.

For instance, oil resources are becoming increasingly scarce, and it is crucial to develop new energy sources to replace them. This underscores the importance of managing our time and money wisely. It is essential not to waste too much, as it is regrettable to squander resources, and it is also important not to be excessively restrained, as this can have the opposite effect.

In the past, I used to feel that I was wasting the weekend at home doing nothing, watching TV series, and then I always felt that the two days were wasted and I didn't do anything really meaningful. On weekend evenings, I would feel a great sense of emptiness, and I would feel that I had wasted precious time. I wonder if you could expand on what you mean by wasting time?

Have you ever found yourself unable to start a task, or perhaps spending time on activities that didn't align with your goals?

Similarly, could I ask what you feel when you spend money unwisely? Perhaps you feel that you are wasting money when you spend it on items of little value, or when you do not buy something you really need, and instead save the money, so that whenever you spend money you feel like a waste?

It suddenly occurred to me that my father often commented that my mother was spending a lot of money on food, but she always ate the most of what she bought.

It might be helpful to set some standards for yourself. As long as the time or money we spend is valuable and worthwhile, it is not considered a waste. The purpose of the weekend is to relax, so activities like watching TV dramas or going out to the mall are not considered a waste of time. They can provide a much-needed break and help you recharge for the next week of study and work.

Similarly, purchasing a bouquet of flowers can be a thoughtful gesture that brightens one's day, and the cost is a worthwhile investment.

Of course, there are instances when even if you invest time and money, the result may not align with your expectations. It's not always guaranteed that you'll get what you pay for.

As the ancients wisely observed, timing, location, and people are all important factors to consider. It may be necessary to wait for the right moment to act. A good opportunity is not always readily available, so much of life is spent preparing for the future. Everything you experience is preparing you for the future. It may be beneficial to invest money to gain more knowledge and resources. Investment is always long-term. Focusing on the long term may help to avoid short-term speculation.

I hope these suggestions are helpful.

Hello!

1. I feel the same way as you! When I was in school, if I didn't do a set of problems every day or complete a certain assignment, I would feel like the day was wasted.

During my postgraduate studies, when my roommates were all crazy about binge-watching dramas, I felt that it was a particularly waste of time, but I had nothing to do. I spent the day in this kind of painful dilemma, but my roommates could always see the latest dramas, and we all had common topics to talk about. I, on the contrary, seemed to be out of place, and I could not help but slowly become estranged from my friends.

2. I'm not particularly short of money, but I feel very reluctant to spend it every time. Even after I started working part-time and earning money myself, I still struggled with spending money. Sometimes I felt like treating myself to a nice meal or a present, but deep down I had a nagging feeling of guilt, thinking that it was too hard to spend the money. But then I had a lightbulb moment! I realised that I could use this feeling to my advantage. Instead of feeling guilty about spending money, I could choose to feel excited about it! So I did. And it worked!

These states have always been there, including up to the present. Later, I slowly studied and recorded my moods. In fact, this is a great thing—it's an ability to understand and pay attention to oneself!

3. I absolutely believe that the waste of time and money is related to the environment in which I live. Shandong is a major province for education. When I work hard, I find that everyone works harder than me. This is the wrong reference for comparison. I should reconcile with myself and compare myself to myself.

The five simple words of wisdom from Socrates, "Know thyself," are truly profound. While it may take a lifetime to accomplish, it's a journey worth taking!

The second reason is related to the atmosphere in my family of origin. I always feel that my parents had it hard, and our family was not well off. When they gave me the best they could afford and created good conditions for me, I felt a great sense of guilt, which I have not been able to release. As a result, I now think that spending money, even on a bottle of perfume, is a waste. But you know what? I've learned to turn that around! I've learned to embrace the lessons my parents taught me and use them to fuel my success. I'm now aware of how fortunate I am and I'm grateful for every opportunity that comes my way.

5. So you can observe and record what specific things make you feel wasteful and how much they cost.

Second, this is a great sign that you have high self-expectations and are striving for excellence! You can try to accept and embrace yourself, repeating to yourself over and over that these are things I should enjoy and that are worth enjoying. If at this moment I feel like time is being wasted, then go work out, at least that's an investment!

7. All relationships are riddled with problems after adulthood. But that's OK! You don't need to set limits on yourself or demand too much. You're great just the way you are! And you deserve to treat yourself to a new bag or even a car once you've bought it.

8. In terms of time, many scientists actually believe that this is a self-imposed quadrant. You have to go to bed at 10 pm, and you can't stay up. But for others, 10 pm is the beginning and the time for partying! It's the same time, so why talk about waste?

Absolutely accept yourself! And remember, everything you do is worthwhile!

Come on!

As ordinary people living in this world, we have to do things that waste time because we have certain functions and responsibilities. I don't have my own responsibilities here, and I don't particularly want to do them, but I have to face them because I'm responsible for them.

I understand your concern about wasting money and time. Money can be easily spent, but time is a finite resource. Some people prioritize financial security, while others prioritize health. However, time is a universal resource that is equally available to all.

He will not become faster or slower because of you. At most, it will feel a little faster or a little slower to our perception, but the length will usually not change much. You feel a lot of restrictions, and perhaps you feel a lot of pain.

These limitations are a source of frustration for you. You don't want to be constrained by them, but the reality is that we have to face them.

You also have your own function. As a leader, your function may be higher, but you cannot make decisions on everything. We still have to deal with a lot of customers and social issues.

We must also talk to employees to ensure they are invested in their roles. By doing so, we can enhance the operational efficiency of the entire department and the entire company, fostering a unified team.

Waste limits a lot of things and makes you feel sorry because wasted things will never come back. Some people are definitely not grateful and may think you should just do it. It's really discouraging to have that kind of attitude. We have to learn to adjust ourselves.

As the leader, you must accept all employees and lead them. Some may be inexperienced, but they need time to grow. If you're experienced, talk to them. You may be impatient, but when you are, go find a quiet corner and calm down to think about your role and work.

Know your attitude. Some things don't need to be cleaned up for us to hand over to the next level of management. Not everything needs to be done by yourself. As a leader, you have middle-level and lower-level leaders reporting to you. Know your position.

There are too many people at the bottom for you to communicate with them all. You need to be more selective.

You have your own living space, right? You need to figure out how to ask for help from others so you can relax more. The more you identify with the work and feel more comfortable, the better the work will be. Talk to a psychological counselor and be able to confide in someone.

Read these books: "When Are You Going to Start?," "The Golden Hour After Waking Up," "Double Your Time," "Make Money on the Side," "Just Do It: Understand Goal Management in Seconds," and "Make Yourself More Valuable."

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Good question!

From what you've told me, it seems like you're feeling a bit overwhelmed by your concerns about wasting money and time. It's understandable that this has led to some self-imposed restrictions in your life. It's also natural to wonder why you've developed this mindset and how to move forward.

You also said in your comment under another answer, "It's not self-blame or worry, but rather the feeling that socializing with some people is a waste of time. But I'm the leader, so I have to accept all the employees. When some employees come to chat, I feel impatient inside. After thinking about it carefully, I feel that it's a waste of time." I can sense from the way you ask your questions that you have this kind of mentality, which is short and direct.

This may be due to your preference for efficiency, working independently, a sense of control, and high self-achievement. It gives me the impression that you have high expectations of yourself, that you forge ahead valiantly, that you have high expectations of others, that you become impatient with people and things that seem to get in the way of your achieving efficiency, but that reason tells you that you have a duty to teach and help others, so you become more conflicted and troubled. I can see how that would be tough!

1. Take a moment to see your own inner needs and slow down.

Maybe your life experiences and upbringing have taught you that you have to do everything non-stop and efficiently, as if you were in a race against an invisible opponent or something was chasing after you. This can make you a little tense and cause you to tell yourself not to waste time or money. From what you have described, I feel that you have now achieved a lot and have a good life. At this time, you can ask your heart what kind of life you really want.

I just want to check in with you to see if this is the state you want to be in. Is the person or voice that has been pushing you in the past still there?

How would you like to handle that voice? You've got the green light to live and work at your own pace.

I know you can do it! Try to take care of your psychological needs, slow down a little, enjoy life, and take some of the responsibility off yourself.

2. It's okay to think about whether your perception of "waste" is real. You can decide what's best for you.

Take a moment to think about whether these behaviors in dealing with subordinates are really a waste of time. Or is it possible that spending money on things you don't feel are particularly necessary is really a waste of money?

It's worth asking yourself: what good does it do to consciously waste time or money on things that aren't beneficial? If, after careful consideration, you find that they may be helpful for the long-term development of the team, the delegation of responsibilities, and the realization of higher efficiency and achievements in the future, then it's not a waste of time.

If you think about it and realize these things aren't really helping you in the long run, you can always choose not to do them.

I hope you find my analysis and suggestions helpful, as I'm really trying to be of assistance! I just wanted to say that I'm sorry I didn't get to go into more detail about the original poster's feelings of fear around wasting time and money.

It might also be helpful for the questioner to think about where this fear of waste comes from within themselves. For instance, is there someone in their life who has asked them to do this, or is there something in their past that makes them particularly afraid of waste?

I'd love to hear more about what this fear of waste is holding you back from. And I'm really interested to know if you're ready to make a change in your mentality and behaviour.

I truly believe that through sincere dialogue with yourself, you will find the answer.

Let's all give the questioner a big pat on the back!

Hello, host!

I can relate to the host's feelings. I think many people have these anxieties!

When it comes to managing your time and money, if you don't have a system in place, you might feel like you can't spend money without thinking about it, but you're not sure how to do it. If you just save and save, you'll end up being a tightwad. If you don't have a clear goal for your time, you'll just end up doing nothing and time will just pass by. You feel like it's a waste, but you don't know what to do. This is a pretty common situation that can cause anxiety.

So, how can we make the most of our time and money to feel at ease and happy?

Let's start with time.

We all have the same amount of time in a day: 24 hours.

How are you going to spend today? Our lives may seem long, but they're made up of each day.

How we spend each day affects our lives, so instead of worrying, we should make the most of each day.

No matter how worried or scared you are, just feel the feelings that come with each moment. Time will still pass.

I asked the host, "Do you want to feel every anxiety and panic? Or do you want to feel every beautiful feeling?"

The best way is to just do it. Take action. Whatever you do, just get yourself moving.

Then there's money.

It seems like everyone is chasing after money after they become an adult. Of course, making money is the best way for adults to develop self-discipline.

But we shouldn't just become a money-making tool for the sake of making money. We should also learn to enjoy our lives.

We all have different abilities. It's important to keep a balance between income and expenditure, regardless of how much or how little money you earn.

It's best to make sure that your income is always greater than your spending, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't spend at all. It depends on where you focus your spending.

We need to consume for clothing, food, housing, and transportation, and we also need to keep learning. Our lives are made up of these behaviors: learning, working, and consuming.

If we only focus on making a living and neglect life, it's not going to be a very fulfilling existence.

If we only focus on enjoying ourselves and neglect learning and working, our lives will lack meaning.

So, we should work on improving our awareness, our earning potential, and then learn to enjoy the beauty of life. That's what we want for a good life.

Don't be afraid of being useless. Don't worry about being useless. Just do the things you want to do in your heart. Meet a better version of yourself. Your life will follow your own mindset and improve.

I wish you a happy life!

I'm Warm June, and I want to say that I love you, the world, and you!

Good morning, question asker!

From your description, I get the impression that you are someone who appreciates the value of time and money.

From what you said, it seems that your concerns about wasting time and money are not necessarily a bad thing in themselves. It's understandable that you have some reservations and feel that this approach may have certain limitations.

Let's take a moment to examine this in greater detail.

1⃣️Could you please elaborate on your specific standards for wasting time and money? How do you determine whether you're wasting it? I'd appreciate it if you could explain this in more detail.

2⃣️ Could you please elaborate on your usual concept of consumption? How would you describe your specific consumption situation?

If it isn't too much trouble, could you perhaps provide an example? Or perhaps you could give me a specific example of spending money in your life and how you feel when you spend money?

3⃣️ Could you please describe how you usually arrange your work and life, and how you allocate your time?

From your description, it seems that you are usually afraid of wasting time and money, and you believe this fear may limit you in certain ways. Could you please elaborate on how this has affected you? Has it influenced your interpersonal relationships?

Or perhaps you're concerned about being true to yourself and doing the things you want to do, or buying the things you want? Could this fear of waste be causing you psychological burdens and causing you a lot of trouble?

I'm curious about the education you received in this area when you were young. When I was young, there was a lack of material things, and my parents were very strict with my financial management. Because we were poor, my allowance was very small, so I was taught to be careful with it.

I'm not sure what kind of person you are, but I know that my parents encouraged me to study hard and not play as they felt that playing was a waste of time. My father even felt that reading extracurricular books was a waste of time, let alone watching TV, entertainment, etc. This kind of education has also had a certain degree of influence on me, to the extent that for a period of time, I would feel a strong sense of guilt when spending money and playing, and I would be afraid to buy things I like, or to entertain myself and relax. I would also feel that it was a waste of money and time. In fact, this feeling is really bad, as it is the suppression of one's normal desires, and it is a very bad experience that has caused a certain degree of harm to one's emotions and physical and mental health.

From your description, I can tell that you are also somewhat aware of this behavior and that you are interested in making some changes, which is great!

We will endeavor to make gradual changes in the future. We will not be overly restrictive with our spending, invest time in meaningful activities, follow our inner thoughts, avoid placing excessive limitations on ourselves, and refrain from labeling ourselves.

I hope my answer has been of some help.

I hope you know that I love you, and I love the world too! ?

Hello, question asker.

I am Intern Meow, and I am here to listen to your thoughts and concerns in a way that is respectful and understanding.

It can feel like you're trapped because you're afraid of wasting money and time. Have you considered letting us take an inner journey of discovery?

It appears that the term "waste" is often perceived as a negative concept. Consequently, we tend to associate any perceived waste with a sense of wrongdoing.

When we go shopping, we often find ourselves comparing prices in order to save money. While this can be an effective strategy, it can also result in a significant amount of time being spent on this activity. In such moments, it's natural to question whether there might be more worthwhile ways to spend our time.

However, if we avoid comparing prices, refrain from seeking out coupons, and don't attend live broadcasts in search of discounts, we may feel as though we've wasted a significant amount of money.

Consequently, each time one spends money, one is faced with a personal dilemma.

It would seem that we are more fearful of wasting time than money. There is always a voice saying, "You must not waste time, you must not be idle all day, that is a waste of time and a waste of life!"

Sometimes when you want to take a break from your busy life or just lie down for a while, you may be confronted with the reality that others are working harder than you. This can lead to feelings of inadequacy and a lack of self-care.

It seems that we are always in a race, and we think that if we seize every minute and second to chase after money, fame, and profit, we will definitely be happy in the end. But often, after running for a long, long time, we don't feel happy, except for the fatigue. Perhaps we could consider whether this is the best way to achieve happiness.

Perhaps we could consider the following: time, money, happiness.

It is important to remember that what makes us happy is not necessarily the amount of money we earn or save, nor is it the amount of time we save. True happiness is when we can devote our time and money to ourselves.

For instance, those who are financially secure do not consider it a waste of time to attempt to save money, given that they have the capacity to generate more wealth on their own. Similarly, researchers do not view the repetition of unsuccessful experiments as a misuse of time and resources, as each attempt brings them closer to a breakthrough. Additionally, many of us do not perceive the time and money spent on leisure activities with our closest friends and loved ones as a waste, as these interactions often contribute to our relaxation and happiness.

We should consider that we spend our limited time and money on things that are meaningful to us. This could result in a positive effect on our body and mind, which in turn could enhance our sense of self-worth and happiness. Furthermore, when we are engaged in activities that bring us joy, we may not perceive them as a waste of time.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider what these concerns mean to us. If they bring happiness, perhaps it is not so important to worry about wasting time or money.

It is often said that money cannot buy happiness. Is there any truth to this?

Dear host, My name is Xing Ying, and I'm a psychological counselor and a national level 3 counselor.

First of all, I just want to say that it's a great habit to have! It's always good to make sure we're not wasting money or time. We all want to spend our money and time well!

All good habits are designed to make our lives better, so don't worry! When you feel that "limiting a lot of things" is affecting you, you can always make the right adjustments. I see that you have asked two questions:

1. I'm really curious to know why you're afraid of wasting money and time.

2. And now for the fun part! How can we solve this together?

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I'd love to help you understand why you're afraid of these two things. To do that, I'll need you to think back to your past experiences and think about what things have left a deep impression on you. Some fears are closely related to our past experiences. If you can find the original event and re-examine it, you might gain a new understanding, and your fear might ease.

For most of us, the bigger reasons probably come from how our parents raised us and what we see in the world around us. Things like wasting money and time can feel like moral issues, while money and time can also make us feel anxious about life and death.

We often hear sayings that link time and money to life.

An inch of gold is worth an inch of light, and an inch of light is worth an inch of time.

Time is money, my friend!

We all know that wasting time is wasting life.

Who knows that every delicious bite of food on your plate is the result of hard work?

You can't wear yourself out, you can't eat yourself out, and you can't calculate yourself out of poverty for a lifetime.

We should all try to avoid waste, because it's a disgrace.

Take a moment to think about these words. Do they feel familiar to you? Our parents experienced an era of material scarcity. It was precisely their thrift, hard work, simplicity, and lifelong struggle that made our lives better and better.

Take a moment to think about these words. Do they feel familiar to you? Our parents experienced an era of material scarcity. It was precisely their thrift, hard work, simplicity, and lifelong struggle that made our lives better and better.

In fact, in those days, there was no waste at all!

It's funny how things change! What we think of as wasteful today was actually seen as over-thrifty in the past. As living conditions have improved, so have our ideas about what is wasteful.

But as we grew up, we didn't really understand this. All we knew was the concept.

There's a great saying in psychology that I think you'll find really helpful. It goes like this: people's fears or phobias often come from anxiety about situations they've never experienced before.

Take a moment to think about it. Have you ever had a specific feeling about "wasting money" and "wasting time"? Especially when our parents warned us not to waste time and money, apart from being familiar with this saying, have you ever experienced what specific wasteful behaviors are like and what consequences they have?

Once we understand where these fears come from, we can start to find ways to overcome them.

1. Take a moment to think about it. What are some of the things you think are a waste of time and money? Write them down, from the smallest to the largest.

2. Why not start with the smallest of the listed "wasteful behaviors" and see how you get on?

3. After you've tried it, take a moment to really experience what it feels like and what happens.

I'm sure you'll find that after trying this, you'll be able to understand the terrible extent of "waste" more specifically and clearly. And with a sense of direction and a boundary for your own wasteful behavior, I'm sure you'll feel less afraid.

We all know that sometimes it can be really tough to know what to do. There are times when you might find yourself in a dilemma, wondering whether you should be spending money or wasting time.

Of course, there might be times when you're not sure what to do, like when you're faced with the dilemma of wasting either money or time.

Let's say you hear that a book is good, read various reviews, and think it is indeed good, so you buy it. The book is very thick and will take a lot of time to read.

But when you open it up and read for a while, you don't really like it. This is a tricky situation! If you continue reading, you can't put it down, and it's a waste of time. But if you don't read it, you've wasted a lot of money. What should you do?

There are so many other situations in life where this applies too! Not just buying books, but also traveling, buying clothes, decorating, and so on. In this case, we can have a principle that allows waste, but doesn't allow more waste. This is also known as the

Let's call it the "no greater loss principle."

There are lots of other situations in life where this applies too, like travelling, buying clothes, decorating, and so on. In this case, we can have a principle that allows waste, but doesn't allow more waste.

It's so important to remember the principle of not allowing losses to become even greater.

The money spent on the book has obviously been spent, so it's okay to accept that and move on from it.

And the time that has not yet been paid for can be saved! We can also give the book to a friend who likes it or resell it to make the most of its value.

In short, it's also a kind of wisdom to accept the losses that have occurred, not to dwell on them, and to stop the losses in time! After all, it's impossible for us to accurately calculate every expense and every minute of our lives. Even when buying fabric, the shopkeeper has to give the buyer some extra fabric.

It's so important to remember that excessive self-restraint is actually a waste of energy.

I really hope my words can help you, but if not, I'm happy I got to think about this with you and share my thoughts. I just want you to know that I care about you and I wish you all the best in life.

The world and I love you so much!

The description in the question is quite straightforward: "afraid of wasting money and afraid of wasting time." However, it is challenging to ascertain the extent to which this fear will influence one's life. It is possible that your current confusion may be attributed to the impact of the "waste limit" you have assessed on your life.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider that everyone is a unique individual with their own characteristics, and that these characteristics have a two-way impact on life.

First and foremost, it is important to recognize that each individual is unique, with their own distinct characteristics. These characteristics have the potential to influence various aspects of life in both positive and negative ways.

The text simply states that the individual is "afraid of wasting money and afraid of wasting time," without providing further insight into how these characteristics manifest in their life.

It is also worth noting that there are significant differences in the degree of "fear of waste." For instance, a low degree of "fear of wasting money" may be seen as "thrifty" and very family-oriented, while a high degree may be perceived as "stingy," with a tendency to prioritize financial considerations above all else.

A slight fear of wasting time may encourage time management and efficiency, while a strong fear of wasting time may result in a constant state of anxiety about being late for everything.

It is important to recognize that, regardless of its intensity, our characteristics have both advantages and disadvantages. To fully understand them, it is essential to view them dialectically.

In some situations, they may offer advantages, while in other situations, they may present disadvantages.

For instance, an individual who is meticulous and adept at financial management may excel at controlling costs in a well-established company. However, in a younger company or one facing significant financial challenges, this quality could potentially become a disadvantage, as it may not align with the courage to take risks.

For instance, individuals who excel at saving time are often highly efficient and well-suited for roles in internet companies that prioritize efficiency. However, the pursuit of efficiency may occasionally result in imperfect outcomes, which might not be as well-received in some state-owned enterprises or public institutions, as these entities tend to place a higher value on quality.

While saving time can be beneficial for personal growth, excessive pursuit of time utilization may have adverse effects on one's mental health. Constantly feeling on the edge can eventually lead to physical and mental exhaustion.

It is only by understanding one's own characteristics and the advantages and disadvantages of these characteristics that one can better bring one's strengths into play and avoid one's weaknesses.

Secondly, it may be helpful to consider that everyone's character is shaped by their life experiences. Reflecting on one's own personal growth journey could potentially offer insights into understanding one's own character more deeply.

It is thought that everyone's character traits are formed little by little over a long period of growth.

It's possible that the fear of wasting money may have been formed because you often lacked money as a child, and your parents always taught you not to waste money and to save.

It's possible that the fear of wasting time has developed over time. When you were young, you were always in a hurry, and your parents and teachers always taught you to save time and to set limits for everything you did.

It may be helpful to identify the experiences that have shaped your beliefs and values. This can help you to understand your own characteristics more clearly and to accept them as part of who you are.

Thirdly, it may be helpful to accept your own characteristics and consider ways to "strengthen your strengths and avoid your weaknesses."

It is worth noting that while it can be challenging to alter one's inherent characteristics, they can be harnessed in a constructive manner. Once we gain insight into our personal traits, we can shift our focus from perceived limitations to the potential benefits they offer.

It is often said that what we focus on is what we get in life. This is the famous "law of attraction."

It is possible that focusing on the limitations of these characteristics may inadvertently create obstacles in one's life. Conversely, focusing on the benefits of these characteristics could potentially lead to unexpected positive outcomes.

Life is a process of continually working towards a greater understanding and acceptance of all aspects of yourself.

May you be able to see yourself, accept yourself, and continue to become the best version of yourself that you can be.