Why are you sensitive to just one friend? I'll be careful around people who are in a bad mood.

Hello, question asker!

I get the feeling you still value this relationship a lot. It's just that this way of getting along with each other is making things quite difficult for you, and sometimes you even feel quite aggrieved.

It's worth noting that any relationship, whether it's with your child, your parents, your siblings, or your best friend, is an intimate one. A truly long-lasting relationship requires care, attention, understanding, respect, and space.

But it often seems like your best friend is picking on you. You said you get along with him, but it feels like you're constantly on edge, waiting for things to blow up. It's exhausting. [Hug]

If this situation persists, it will undoubtedly have a negative impact on your emotional well-being and health. Furthermore, if it continues for an extended period, it will also negatively affect your relationship.

You might want to look for an opportunity to have a good, honest conversation with your friend about this.

You could say to your friend that you value your friendship with him a great deal. It's been going for more than ten years and is very precious to you. But this way of getting along with each other is really tiring for you.

If your friend is always inexplicably angry with you, you'll feel stressed and unsure of how to handle it. You can talk about it.

This kind of situation will happen between parents and children, and between couples. It's important to communicate your feelings to the other person.

If he values your feelings, he'll want to change. But if the other person doesn't value your feelings, the relationship will continue to suffer, and everyone will be miserable.

It might feel a bit awkward at first to bring up the issue, but if everyone is willing to change for each other, it can help keep the relationship healthy.

If you find my suggestions helpful, please feel free to refer to them.

Hi, I'm June.

From what you've told me, it seems like you're struggling with some doubts and feelings of depression.

You're still studying and have known her for over 10 years, so you must have been childhood sweethearts. It's a very precious relationship, so it's understandable that you're particularly protective.

Let's look at how we can get your relationship back to how it was.

1. Friends or relatives

Because we all grow up differently, we tend to project our own identity or expectations onto our relationships. For instance, a best friend might project your identity or expectations of a father or a man, while a close female friend might project your identity or expectations of a mother or a woman.

You said you've been with her for 10 years and that you initially found her very nice. What were you initially impressed by?

What about her personality? Her abilities?

What about her appearance? Do you still find these aspects appealing?

What psychological projection is there of these positive traits?

She's asking you to adopt a more refined eating style and a more elegant image. What kind of image does she want you to have? Is she looking for a nagging mother?

Is it more like a sisterly scolding?

Sometimes, when two people spend a long time together, they start to think of each other as family, and the sense of boundaries gets a bit blurred. Maybe you still see her as a friend, and you shouldn't expect more from her than you would from a friend, but she thinks that you've known each other for so long that you should be able to tell her your faults and shortcomings, rather than ignoring them as you would an ordinary person.

So, the bad mood and criticism you feel might be her way of caring for and guiding you.

2. Friends or lovers

I think you should be a boy. You and your girlfriend have been together for 10 years, and you should be in high school or college now. You're at the age of budding love, and maybe you have some feelings for each other without realizing it.

Your willingness to compromise and your willingness to do whatever she wants are a bit like a guy doting on his girlfriend; her nitpicking at you is a bit like an unreasonable tantrum. When do girls get inexplicably angry?

Maybe she just wants you to be more clear-headed about the relationship.

Maybe you treat her like a family member, and that's why you're so tolerant and indulgent after 10 years together. But she might have different ideas.

If I'm right, you should talk to each other about whether you still agree on what the relationship is. If you know where you stand and what you're both comfortable with, you can avoid any future issues.

Based on what you said and my best guesses and deductions, I hope this gives you some reference. I hope your relationship will soon return to normal.