Why did my girlfriend of two years break up with me?

Breaking up with your girlfriend is like an 18-magnitude earthquake happening deep inside you. It's a shock to the system, but it's also an opportunity for a fresh start! Especially when you consider that the past two years have been the best two years in your 30 years.

The heat has not yet subsided, but the end of the song has come! It's a brand new day, and everyone is suddenly faced with news that is hard to understand and accept.

Facing such a sudden earthquake in my heart, I'm excited to share some words of comfort and ideas to help you get out of your current predicament!

1. Keep up your daily routine and habits as much as you can! You'll be amazed at how quickly you can regain a sense of stability in your life.

I sit alone on the sofa every night, feeling like my heart is being wrung out like a rag. During the day, I live like a walking corpse, and at night, when I think about it deeply, I can't help but choke with sobs. I feel so miserable, but I'm excited to see what tomorrow brings!

Day and night, the thoughts of missing someone are like repeated acts of torture. The sudden breakup has intensified the feeling of the impermanence of the world, and the sense of powerlessness that "I can't do anything."

At this time, the most important task is to restore inner self-discipline and help yourself grasp a piece of driftwood from the state of drowning, so as to gradually regain a sense of control over your life. And you can do it!

The absolute best way to get back on track is to jump right back into your old daily routine!

It's time to brush your teeth, wash your face, eat, work, rest, and entertain! Make yourself as usual as possible and enjoy!

The great news is that you can still carry on with her in your daily life. You can still say hello when you wake up and have chats during the week. If she's cool with it, you can even keep up these routines for a while. If she's not, you can still write about her on your own platforms. You can write about her on Douban, your WeChat mini-program or the chat assistant dialogue box.

In short, getting back to your usual daily routine as soon as possible will help you to begin rebuilding a sense of stability in your inner world!

2. When the time is right, have a frank conversation to see if you can save the relationship!

From the message, it can be seen that this is the first time you have had a breakup talk, and the other party's farewell is full of reluctance and regret. So, in fact, some signals are being released here: this relationship did not end because there was no love, but because there was no more love because of tiredness. This is a great opportunity for you to reflect on what you want and need in a relationship. You have the chance to decide what you want your next relationship to look like.

In this sense, the relationship is more "sick" than "dead," which means there's still hope!

Instead of brooding and suffering, you can do something more constructive! Come up with ways to get along and communicate honestly with each other after a period of adjustment and self-reflection. You never know—you might find a way to salvage this relationship!

Give yourself a chance, and give the relationship a chance!

3. Be ready for the best and worst case scenarios. If the relationship can't be saved, you'll have the chance to move on and find something even better!

3. Get ready for the next chapter and give yourself time to celebrate the relationship you had!

Even with the best preparation and most honest communication, we may not necessarily get the result we expect. But that's okay! Because a relationship is always between two people.

If one party decides to let go, then the mourning of the changed circumstances is a natural and exciting next step!

It's totally normal to miss the person and have second thoughts. It's a natural "aftereffect" of the end of a relationship you've deeply loved.

Embrace the feeling of loss! It's a chance to learn to cherish in the midst of loss. And while loss can be scary, it's not the end of the world. You can live a full, happy life even without the person you love. So, give yourself a chance to embrace tomorrow's life!

So, when you're fully prepared for the worst and things don't work out, give it a go!

1. Give yourself a ritual farewell to the relationship!

2. Get the support of your friends and family!

3. Make sure you get out there and do the things you love! They'll cheer you up no end.

In short, do your best and accept what comes! If the relationship is still alive, a temporary goodbye is for the long-term cherish. And if the relationship is over, the good times you have had are memories worth treasuring in this life!

I'm not just exploring human nature, I'm also a therapist who cares about the human heart! I wish you all the best!

Greetings!

As a mindfulness coach, I believe that learning is the most valuable asset one can possess.

From your description, it is evident that you are experiencing a range of intense emotions, including shock, sadness, distress, pain, and a sense of being adrift.

The sudden dissolution of a two-year relationship is a distressing experience. In light of this, I offer three pieces of advice:

Firstly, it is recommended that an effort be made to gain an understanding of one's own self and to provide oneself with a degree of solace.

This will result in a slight alleviation of emotional distress, which will facilitate the formulation of a plan of action.

You indicate that you and your girlfriend had been in a relationship for two years and that it was mutually satisfying. However, she terminated the relationship abruptly, expressing distress, without prior notification. It is reasonable to conclude that you are experiencing distress. Indeed, if your situation were to be experienced by someone else, they would likely be in a similar situation. The act of breaking up implies a loss, which is inherently challenging for anyone to accept. Additionally, you were abruptly terminated without prior notification or preparation, which must be particularly distressing. Therefore, it is essential to understand yourself, provide yourself with comfort, and recognize the painful, challenging self within who is suffering but unsure of how to cope in the immediate future. This will provide you with additional mental energy to consider other matters, as otherwise your mind will be consumed by negative emotions.

Furthermore, allowing oneself to understand and accept oneself will facilitate the promotion of change in the current situation. This may appear to be a paradoxical assertion; however, it is based on the premise that change is contingent upon the absence of resistance.

Secondly, it is recommended that you adopt a rational perspective on your own state of mind.

Rational thinking can assist in developing a more nuanced understanding of oneself and one's circumstances.

In order to achieve a rational acceptance, it is necessary to undertake two distinct actions.

One must recognize that the dissolution of the relationship is a definitive occurrence, and that it is improbable that it will undergo a reversal.

Given the circumstances you have outlined, it is evident that the situation is beyond your control. It is therefore necessary to accept the reality of the situation, even if this entails a passive acceptance.

Secondly, it is important to recognise that the status quo can be altered, given the capacity for change inherent in the individual.

When one exerts their subjective initiative, there is a high probability of effecting a change in the status quo and thereby extricating oneself from a painful state of being.

When viewed from this rational perspective, some of the negative emotions may be resolved.

Thirdly, it is recommended that the individual focus on themselves and consider what they can do to improve their emotional state.

When one considers their situation in a rational manner, it is possible to ascertain the appropriate course of action. At this juncture, it is advisable to focus on oneself and strive to perform to the best of one's abilities.

As an illustration, one may choose to "express" negative emotions such as sadness and discomfort, or alternatively, utilize empty chair therapy, diary therapy, or engage in conversation with another individual, or engage in self-talk. Once these negative emotions are expressed, they may facilitate a healing effect, potentially leading to an improvement in one's mood.

Additionally, it is beneficial to allow oneself a period of time to gradually work through the sadness, taking responsibility for one's own life. When one permits oneself this space, it may also provide the motivation to alter the current situation, which in turn can lead to an improvement in mood.

When one is in a relatively good mood, it is also possible to reflect on the ways in which one has not performed well in the relationship. This kind of reflection can facilitate a better recognition and acceptance of reality, as well as facilitate personal growth. Furthermore, the sense of gain may also contribute to an improvement in one's emotional state.

One may also attempt to utilize diversionary techniques when experiencing negative emotions, such as engaging in physical activity, reading, or listening to music. These methods may assist in improving one's mood. It is essential to recognize that one has the capacity to take action to enhance the situation.

Once action is initiated, the various negative emotions that have been experienced will naturally dissipate, as action is often the most effective method of combating such emotions.

It is my hope that this response will prove beneficial to you. Should you wish to engage in further communication, you are invited to click on the "Find a Coach" link at the foot of this page, which will enable you to contact me directly.

Hi, I'm Strawberry.

From what I can see, the questioner and his girlfriend have been together for two years. In my opinion, that's a pretty good run. Maybe the questioner thinks you'll always be happy, even after you get married and start a family.

Last week, my girlfriend ended things with me. She was in tears. If she was already over me, she would have been in a better place to talk to me. After she ended it, I felt more hurt and sad. I couldn't accept this outcome.

Your girlfriend broke up with you in tears and told you why. From what the questioner said, though, it seems like you were too caught up in your sadness to think about what was going wrong in the relationship.

Has the questioner seen what his girlfriend was trying to say when she asked him to break up with her?

1. Figure out what's holding up your relationship.

From what you said about your relationship, it seems like your girlfriend feels like she's been wronged a lot over the past two years and has kept it to herself. It seems like she has certain expectations of you, but what she means by being wronged is that she rarely expresses herself or that she doesn't get a timely response from you after expressing herself.

When someone goes from having expectations to disappointment, they can end up feeling pretty detached. It can feel like too much effort to try to change the relationship. It's important to remember that relationships work both ways, and even people with similar interests can have different worldviews.

On top of feeling sad, the questioner can take some time to think about whether, over the two years they were together, they listened carefully to what their girlfriend said and tried to understand her thoughts. This will help her feel more secure in the relationship.

2. It can be tough to keep a relationship going if your parents aren't on board.

My girlfriend said that her family was putting a lot of pressure on her. Can we assume that her parents began to oppose your relationship after they found out about it? My girlfriend may have been trying to get her parents to accept you, and she hid her family's opposition very well, which is why you didn't know the extent of her parents' opposition.

It seems like she loves you, so she'd rather take the heat from her family on her own. She might also have been waiting for you to step up and show her you care. That could mean giving her a hug when she's feeling vulnerable, being there for her, and letting her know she can count on you.

Your girlfriend's parents may have a strong influence on her, and their views could be a factor in why she's not keen on your relationship. It's not uncommon for our parents' opinions to become part of our own beliefs, even if we don't consciously accept them.

However, if your parents are against it, there's a good chance that when you don't resolve relationship issues in time, your partner will think, "My parents were right to oppose." They've been there, and they see more than you do. This kind of psychological suggestion can lead to the breakup of many relationships.

3. Figure out if the relationship is beyond repair.

Once you've identified the issues, can you resolve them on your own? Can you persuade your girlfriend to tackle, confront, and adapt with you? If you're unable to do so, you'll likely revert to your previous way of interacting.

Two years is a long time in a relationship. If you still care about each other, it's important to try to change how you interact with each other. It's important for your girlfriend to see that you're committed to the relationship. Sometimes love isn't just about words, but about actions too.

Just because two people are in love doesn't mean they'll necessarily end up together. Some people appear just to make us better people. A relationship can help you grow, and that's what it's all about.

I hope my answer is helpful to the original poster. Best regards.

Hello, dear questioner!

Hi, I'm Yi Ming, your heart exploration coach.

After reading your question carefully, I can tell that it's really tough to accept that your girlfriend of two years has broken up with you without warning. I can see you're wondering what the reason is, and I also know it's hard to love.

I would absolutely love to chat with you! I'm here to comfort and inspire you in any way I can.

1. Give yourself the space to feel all your emotions and learn to calm yourself down.

It's totally normal to feel at a loss, heartbroken, and miserable when you face a sudden breakup.

This is totally normal!

You don't have to suppress yourself, just let it be.

It's so hard to believe, but the truth is that we can't really control our thoughts and emotions.

And try to reassure yourself that your girlfriend leaving you doesn't mean that you are bad, or that she is bad. It just means that there are problems in your relationship, which is totally normal!

If you're saying, "I wish I could fix it, I really can't let her go," then let's take care of our emotions and let them calm down a bit. Even if it's still hard, at least we can try to think back on this relationship. You talked to her for two years, and those two years were the best two years in the past 30 years of your life. And your girlfriend said, "She was wronged many times over those two years and held it all inside." Let's try to figure out what went wrong in the relationship.

I know it can feel like there's no hope, but there might be a way forward.

2. Every reflection is our growth.

No matter what experiences or setbacks we have, they can't bring us personal growth on their own. But reflecting on them can be a really valuable part of our lives!

For example, is my girlfriend someone who doesn't like to express herself? I'd love to know your thoughts on this!

Has she always kept her feelings to herself, or has she spoken up before, but we didn't realize how it affected her?

I just wanted to check in and see if you're aware of the pressure she feels from her family?

It would be really helpful for you to be able to sense her mood.

In this relationship, do you feel loved, while she feels like she could use more support and understanding?

It can be tricky to talk about love, can't it?

In Jenny Segal's wonderful book, Feeling Loved, she says something really important: we never lack love, but we might lack the ability to feel it.

I'm sure your girlfriend loves you, but maybe she feels like you don't show her enough affection?

In the book "The Five Languages of Love," we learn that everyone expresses and feels love differently.

Some people really enjoy words of affirmation, like feeling appreciated, affirmed, and loved.

Some people like "quality time," which means feeling like you're being accompanied wholeheartedly.

Some people like to receive gifts, while others feel loved through physical contact.

It's totally normal to feel happy and content in a relationship. But just because we feel this way, it doesn't mean our girlfriend feels the same way.

There's no need to be hard on yourself, my friend. Instead, let's look for the parts of the relationship that have escaped our attention.

I'd love to know what my sweetheart liked about what we did for her.

I just want to check in with you and see if you think her inner strength is sufficient.

I'd really like to know if she's willing to communicate actively.

Or maybe we sometimes forgot to listen to her feelings...

As you think about it all, you'll see why the relationship has reached this point.

I'd like to share a real-life case with you.

The housewife had been working hard for the family for 20 years, silently putting in the hard work, suffering in silence, never expressing her feelings. Until one day, she suddenly filed for divorce and ran away from home. It was a shock to her husband, who found it all very hard to understand.

It's so important to remember that in every relationship, no matter what, we're all responsible for making it work.

I wonder what would have happened if, right at the start, we'd been able to communicate in a positive way?

I wonder what it would be like if we could express and see every little discomfort?

Take all the time you need, my friend. Look at everything that has happened over the past two years, or try to see what has happened from your girlfriend's perspective.

Then, we'll be able to understand our girlfriend and ourselves a lot better!

Then, you might want to see if there's any chance of reconciliation.

If it really can't continue, take some time to grieve and comfort yourself, my friend.

And don't forget to wish each other well for the future and how to avoid similar situations!

I'm so sorry to hear that. Sending you lots of love and support.

I'm sending you lots of love and blessings!

Good day, my name is Qingxiang, and I would like to discuss this matter with you.

I reviewed your inquiry yesterday but was unable to respond due to time constraints. I have now had an opportunity to review the responses provided by other individuals, and I can appreciate the sincerity and concern expressed by all.

However, I have some additional perspectives that I would like to present for your consideration.

Please allow me to share my feelings on this matter.

I have reviewed the texts and messages you have sent on numerous occasions, and I have noted a gradual decline in your emotional state. Over the course of two years, spanning over 700 days and nights, a significant shift has occurred, and it is evident that this change is challenging to cope with.

I can discern your heartbreak, your grief, your sadness, your ever-deepening longing for her, and your self-blame, which is causing you further distress. You are unable to accept the situation.

I empathize with the difficulties your former girlfriend faced when she ended the relationship. She cited exhaustion as the primary reason for the decision, which she felt compelled to make.

Furthermore, I would like to share some additional information with you.

I am confident that the past two years have been the most rewarding of your life thus far. I have faith in the strength of your relationship and believe that you have built a solid foundation over this period. It is evident that your heart is filled with her, and her heart is full of you.

Your emotional state following the dissolution of your relationship, as well as the pain and sadness you are experiencing, demonstrate your reluctance to move on and the significance you place on the relationship.

From the moment your girlfriend terminated the relationship, I could discern her strong emotional attachment to you. She demonstrated a willingness to make significant personal sacrifices for your benefit, to remain in the relationship, and to endure the pressure exerted by her family.

Until she reached her limit.

This indicates that she still holds you in high regard.

This indicates that she once held a profound level of affection for you.

I am unsure of her current situation.

There is no need to be overly concerned with the emotional impact of this situation.

As the adage goes, a man does not shed tears easily, as he has not yet reached the point of emotional distress.

— It is acceptable to experience a range of negative emotions following a breakup.

There is no need to dwell on the reasons why you are unable to move on.

It is not necessary to deliberately choose to suppress your emotions and force yourself to be happy.

It is challenging to exert control over emotions through sheer willpower. Emotions have their own set of rules governing their onset and cessation. Attempting to hasten the departure of emotions through sheer willpower may, in fact, prolong their presence.

To some extent, allowing oneself to fully experience the emotions that arise is a key factor in their eventual resolution.

Furthermore, if these emotions are suppressed and buried, they may persist and have a prolonged negative impact on the individual.

When experiencing sadness, it is natural to slow down, cry, sigh, and feel weak. This allows for a period of reflection and recuperation, during which one can gather the energy to make changes.

Grief is a unifying emotion that allows individuals to rebuild and continue on with their lives despite experiencing pain.

Please consider the subsequent steps.

While the past two years have provided numerous positive memories, you have become aware that your girlfriend has also faced significant challenges.

I am aware of your desire to salvage the relationship, but I still hope you can take a moment to collect your thoughts on this matter.

If you were to reestablish a relationship with your girlfriend at this time, would I be a suitable choice for her?

(1) Are you able to provide the necessary care and support to meet her emotional needs?

Men and women approach situations from different perspectives. Men are more rational and direct, while women are more emotional and sensitive. The union of two people requires more than just a good heart; it requires real abilities. For example, the ability to control emotions, the ability to empathize with others, the ability to communicate effectively, etc.

2) Can you ensure the satisfaction of the remainder of her family?

She previously indicated that her family was exerting undue influence on her, and that her continued unhappiness was contingent upon the resolution of this issue. Even if you were to forcibly reunite the two of you, this matter would still require resolution.

I trust you are aware that marriage is not just a matter of two people, but at least a union of two families, or even two clans.

I believe that the most beneficial course of action at this juncture would be for you to engage with her family in a forthright manner, gain a deeper understanding of her familial circumstances, and secure the backing and support of her family members. This approach could prove instrumental in fostering a stronger and more resilient relationship.

If you have read this far, you may wish to consider how you can proceed.

People are essentially similar, so the criteria for evaluation are largely consistent. A positive relationship will create a favorable impression.

One option is to reach out to your girlfriend and begin a friendship with her. This could potentially lead to her family supporting you.

Alternatively, you could focus on enhancing your own skills and abilities. In the eyes of the market, a motivated individual is the optimal choice.

I support your decision and am available to provide any assistance you may require.

Your dedication and hard work will undoubtedly result in a transformed individual.

My name is Qingxiang, and I am writing to share some thoughts and suggestions that I have found helpful in the past.

I would like to take this opportunity to extend my personal regards to you and to express my appreciation for your contributions to our organization.

Hello, host.

From what the original poster said, it's clear that the other party is a gentle, kind, well-behaved girl.

She's not the type to tell the landlord everything that's on her mind. She's the type to only tell good news and not bad news. She's already accumulated a lot of grievances, or there are other reasons (influenced by her parents).

Those two years were the best two years, period.

She was only 23 at the time, so she didn't have to worry about financial pressure, parental pressure to marry, or her parents spoiling her.

"She said she was tired and no longer had the strength to love."

This sentence can be understood in the opposite way: she is not incapable of love, but is incapable of loving. At least she still loves you, as she once did, and still does.

Age may be a factor, but if you can make it work and distance isn't an issue, and if your parents are on board, then you've got this.

You must have the strength to protect her, meet her needs, and reduce her parents' doubts about you.

If a person is lazy and does nothing all day, there is no way their parents could possibly trust them with their daughter.

She is important, so prove the value of love. You don't want to lose her, so cherish her.

Hello, host. It's clear you've invested a lot of time and energy into this relationship. You've enjoyed the past two years with your girlfriend. However, her sudden breakup has disrupted the peace. You may not be ready to accept this fact. It will take time to adjust to suddenly having one less person in your life to keep you company.

Let's find resources together to help you get out of this dark mood.

☀️ First, let it all out.

(1) We are all ordinary people, and we do not have no emotions like saints. It is only natural to be excited and happy when you meet someone you like, and to be sad and upset when you leave someone you love. First, find a safe and comfortable space for yourself, and use a safe way, such as singing, boxing, running, etc., to release the pent-up emotions in your heart.

(2) You're in a bad state right now because this has all come so suddenly. One second you were in love, and the next you were dumped. You're in a daze. You came to the platform for help because you're trying to call yourself back to reason.

(3) Your girlfriend said that she has actually suffered a lot in the past two years and has also endured a lot of pressure from her family. You only learned about these circumstances at the moment of breaking up. If there were a "what if," you would probably really want to go back in time to discover these problems and solve them. So you have a lot of emotions towards your girlfriend: regret, self-blame, guilt, indebtedness, reluctance, etc. It is very difficult to let her go. You need to let these emotions out one by one before you can accept your girlfriend's choice to break up.

Let's explore the next goal.

(1) First, take the time to calm your mood and emotions. Don't rush into making any decisions or choices at this time. There are still many wonderful things waiting for us to discover in life, so after you've gathered your thoughts, you can think about what your next goal is.

(2) For example, you should salvage the relationship. There are no major issues between you, just a communication problem.

You didn't notice your girlfriend's emotional feelings in time, which caused her to feel aggrieved and sad for two years. It's clear that your girlfriend's parents don't approve of your relationship, which has put a lot of pressure on her.

You need to decide what you want to do about it.

(3) Review the relationship from a growth perspective. You were young for two years, and you've buried a lot of joys and sorrows. What have you learned from this relationship? Your communication style, your approach to things, etc. You will continue to work, live, fall in love, and get married. What will help you grow and become a better version of yourself?

(4) Focus your time and energy on work, improve your skills, and establish your irreplaceability.

Sort out and release your emotions, then let your mood ease up. Set a goal, focus on doing one thing, and you'll be back on your feet in no time!

Come on, the world and I love you! ?

Hello, question owner, I can tell you're reluctant. Let me give you a hug!

1.

She broke up with you in tears, but she doesn't want to let you go. She said her family is pressuring her and she's tired. She doesn't want to break up, so try harder to keep her!

2.

You said the past two years have been the happiest in decades. It seems like you've had few happy times, but she can help you. She's a ray of sunshine, so you can change for her! You can do it for yourself.

3.

In a relationship, there are happy times and sad times, togetherness and separation. You're 31 years old. Men put their careers first. When you become outstanding, you'll have more choices.

4.

You can find out why her parents are pressuring her. She says she is tired, but it seems that the happiness-of-being-an-older-unmarried-woman-how-to-adjust-ones-psychology-6156.html" target="_blank">pressure is not just from her parents. Have you given her more warmth and happiness? After figuring out these needs, ask yourself if you have tried to meet them.

5.

If you talk about it and give her some time, she is only 25 and can wait. A year or six months is not too long, and you will give her what she wants! If you can't satisfy her, you can choose to let go. At least you won't regret trying, and you will have given each other an exit!

6.

As a man, be flexible and firm. Tell her that you'll get through this together.

I wish you the best and good luck. I hope my sharing helps!

When an avalanche happens, every snowflake is an incredible force of nature, either charging bravely into the world or rubbing salt into the wound. Every snowflake has its own weight and thoughts. Some of the usual get-along, holidays, and pains would have been better expressed at the time, and there is no need to keep them bottled up inside.

Long-term depression can easily make a person lose their love and feel very helpless and unfulfilled in their current lives. But who wouldn't want to have a more stable life and cherish their current lives?

Guess what! Your girlfriend of two years just broke up with you!

♠You are 31 years old and she is 25 years old. Last week, she broke up with you in tears

♠She said she had been wronged many times in the past two years

❄️❄️❄️❄️ Break up!

❄️❄️❄️❄️ She was depressed.

There's another reason, too! It's possible that her family didn't approve of your relationship, which may have put pressure on her to leave you. This is a common reason why couples break up.

The dual pressure of perennial depression and family pressure

Speak up when you have something to say!

Your heart is in distress, but there's hope! You can find relief at any time.

This post-breakup situation is a great opportunity for you to discover new things about yourself! You may not have a clear idea of what you want to do in the future, because you once thought that your relationship would last forever. But you never expected the other person to just break up with you like that, so now you have the chance to find out what you really want!

After all, what kind of family pressure has she experienced, and what kind of suffocation has she experienced in the midst of a broken relationship? These are things that can be talked about! The usual repression and forbearance have made her extremely vulnerable, so she feels very tired and doesn't want to talk anymore.

You are already in a lot of pain. After more than two years of being in a relationship, you are left with loneliness. It is really indescribably painful. But you can get through this! If possible, it is best to express your current confusion through letters or text, and implore the other person to explain (1) what she has been specifically holding back over the years and (2) what specific pressures have been exerted by the family.

You deserve a thorough truth, not a squirmy, half-hearted answer! It's best to honestly explain now that you need a definitive answer. Then, you can hope that the other person can give themselves an answer, which will also lay the foundation for you to see through this broken relationship.

You have your own pain and your own potential trauma. I highly recommend that you talk to a counselor recently. Don't keep it to yourself or fall into negative thoughts. Things happen for a reason. See if you can make it right. There may still be some room for negotiation in this matter. Best wishes!

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Questioner:

Hello! We all know how it feels to be heartbroken. It's a sad, universal experience.

I can tell you're hurting. I can see your sadness and frustration. You thought everything was going well, but then your girlfriend broke up with you. It was a shock.

All this sadness is normal. Accept your emotions and release them. Think carefully: did your girlfriend ever say she had grievances she was holding in?

Tell me, has she ever told you about the pressure she feels at home? If you want to continue with her, I want to hear you say that you're willing to do anything for her.

There are undoubtedly other reasons for the girlfriend's breakup.

A two-year relationship is deep, and it will be painful to part. If you can't let go, ask your partner out and talk to her. Tell her you're sorry for neglecting her and explain what you're willing to do to make it up to her.

Find a way for you both to stay together.

If the other person has really given up and you have tried your best, then accept the reality! Love is beautiful, but breaking up is painful. There's no guarantee that love will end happily.

You need to ask yourself what you have gained from this experience. You also need to identify your shortcomings.

You can learn and improve. Take some time to reflect, learn, and grow so that you will be better equipped to face your next relationship.

Girls' emotions are more delicate, and mood swings can sometimes be more hidden. Boys are generally more rough and tumble and will not easily notice changes in their partner's emotions. This is a physiological difference. When a girl is having problems, you must first feel the other person's feelings and be a good companion.

Tell her, "If you're unhappy about something, tell me. I'll always be there for you."

The people and things we encounter in this world are here to help us become better versions of ourselves!

These are just my opinions, and I don't know if they'll help you. But I stand by them.

I am certain that the original poster will soon find what they truly need and have their wishes come true! Thank you!

My brother, I don't want to persuade you now because I know you have to go through this process and grow on your own. You'll only be able to pull yourself back together again when you've overcome this period of heartache. You have to accept that you and your girlfriend have broken up.

You were in love for two years and basically regarded her as your wife for life. Getting such a notification out of the blue must have shut down your heart and ended your love. You say that your heart is empty and look around with a vacant and lost expression. This is only natural, and you really were deeply in love.

I'm sorry for your loss and want to honor this relationship.

I was depressed for four or five years after my girlfriend left me after just one year and seven months, and I wasted four or five years.

Professional psychological books have shown that, generally speaking, it takes three to four years to come out of a sincere relationship, which is genetically determined. If someone can come out of it in the short term, I have no opinion on that—I'll reserve my judgment.

Sincere emotions are part of your personality, and you loved with all your heart. Accept that you've broken up, embrace this reality, and then take the time to heal over the next few years. You can still appreciate flowers, drink tea, and play chess, even as you move on from this experience.

When you feel at ease, you've truly let go. Best of luck! I believe in you!

As someone in their thirties like you, I empathize with your current feelings of anxiety, depression, and regret, which must feel overwhelming. However, due to the limited nature of your narrative, it is not possible for me to ascertain the reason for her leaving you. Therefore, I will simply share three points with you, which I hope will be helpful.

The past two years may have been the best two years of your life, but for her, they may have been quite different. Although your sharing was brief, I feel that you have identified a key issue, which shows that you now have a more comprehensive understanding of this relationship.

It is important to remember that relationships between people, especially intimate relationships, are not based on self-feelings, but on the feelings of the other person. I believe that in this relationship, she should also be happy to be with you and that she also loves you.

Perhaps it's worth considering whether there's been a tendency towards selfishness or neglect on your part?

It's possible that she has formed a negative impression of you due to a number of factors. It would be helpful to identify the areas where you feel you could improve.

Secondly, over the past two years, could you kindly share what signs you have observed that she may have been wronged and too tired to love? I would be grateful if you could reflect on whether you have been paying attention.

I believe that it may take more than one day to create a deep freeze, and there may be something you could have done differently or overlooked that you might want to reflect on. For example, a sudden change in circumstances could indicate a lack of communication or empathy between you, especially in terms of your care for the details of her life.

It's also possible that you gave her something she didn't want, and there were communication issues between you.

Third, you might consider finding a way to contact her, make amends, and salvage the situation. Alternatively, you could choose to learn from your mistakes and start over. People often learn to mature and grow from failures and setbacks. First, you may wish to reflect on your experiences, identify any issues or causes within yourself, and then consider her needs and suffering. You could then assess whether you can remedy the situation and contact her.

If that doesn't work, perhaps it would be best to simply move on and look for a new opportunity. There are plenty of other beautiful trees in the wider forest, and you'll surely find one that suits you, that you like, and that she likes you.

Due to the limited information available, I will conclude here for now. I wish you the best and hope you can overcome your depression and welcome a new spring.

I am looking forward to maintaining communication with you via my personal public account, which is called A Young Person Acting Like a Fake (ID: qingnianJIA2020).

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Hello, It's nice to meet you. You both care about each other and value the past two years.

You are confused, sad, and in pain. We are here for you.

I hope these tips help.

Contact and communicate.

Communication is sharing and receiving thoughts and feelings to agree and feel good. A two-year relationship ended suddenly for no reason. This is not good, so communication is needed to fix it.

Communication is a two-way street. If one party talks without considering the other party's feelings, communication is ineffective. Effective communication enhances relationships. Couples argue over trivial matters. Men are more rational, while women are more emotional. Women need comfort, but they don't say so. Men solve problems rationally, asking women what went wrong.

If you don't consider the girl's feelings, you'll never solve the problem. If you listen and understand each other, you can both express your feelings and make changes.

Master communication and you'll master love.

If it's not your fault, ask about her family or try to get her friends on your side. Their approval can give you confidence and more options.

Not all sudden departures are accidents.

It's rare to find a relationship that lasts two years in today's fast-paced world. If you're reluctant to let go, she's probably a girl who can understand you, take care of you, and be there for you through thick and thin.

Ask yourself, have you done all of the above? If so, pay attention to the little details. Have you caused your loved one to be disappointed?

Some say we don't choose people based on how good they are to us, but how bad they can be. A hurtful word or careless attitude can push someone who cares about us away.

I'm not accusing you. I believe you've done your best, but when we can't see the truth, we need to ask ourselves this question.

Try to make amends and don't regret it.

The emotions in a relationship are two-way and equal. If your girlfriend still cares about you, she won't ignore your efforts. You can make her feel good about you by looking back at your relationship and making a plan for the future.

The world is beautiful and connected to you. Everything will get better. I love you.

Good morning, host. My name is Xiang Er.

It is evident that you hold a great deal of affection for your girlfriend, and that you have created many fond memories over the past two years. Otherwise, you would not consider this period to be the best two years of the past 30 years. I empathize with your situation. Your girlfriend terminated the relationship without prior notice, which must have caused you considerable distress and reluctance to move on. Additionally, this abrupt ending may have left you feeling uncertain about the future.

I believe that everything happens for a reason, and there must be a reason and a motive behind all actions. Just as you became a couple, you probably started because you admired and loved each other. You were able to last for two years probably because after getting to know each other, your feelings slowly evolved from admiration to love, and you became dependent on each other. What caused the end of your relationship?

Have you attempted to ascertain the reason for the separation? Was the decision to end the relationship made without prior notice, or were you not informed of the circumstances?

Your girlfriend proposed a breakup. You were experiencing depressive symptoms and lacked the energy to pursue reconciliation. Did you attempt to win her back or fight for the chance to reconcile?

Have you already made the decision to go along with your girlfriend's wishes and end the relationship? Have you already determined that there is no value in attempting to salvage it?

Xiang Er offers the following advice:

It would be prudent to adjust your current situation. Consider this: would your girlfriend prefer someone with ideals and motivation, or someone who is always sad and depressed? It is likely that few people would choose the latter. What is your view on the matter?

My girlfriend has indicated that she has experienced a significant number of injustices over the past two years. Could you please clarify what these injustices are and whether you were involved in any way?

Is there room for improvement? Are you willing to make the necessary changes?

Is the pressure on his family financial or mental? Can this issue be resolved?

Before your girlfriend informed you of the situation, did you perceive that she was being treated unfairly? She was experiencing significant fatigue, both physically and mentally, to the extent that she felt unable to love anymore. At that time, she must have been in a state of helplessness and immense distress. Did you observe any of these indications?

Do you typically monitor your girlfriend's emotional state?

It is important to recognise that men and women have different needs in a relationship. Men typically require trust, acceptance, gratitude, praise, affirmation and encouragement, whereas women often seek care, understanding, respect, loyalty, recognition and comfort. It is therefore essential to evaluate whether these needs have been met over the past two years.

5. You have a strong emotional attachment to your girlfriend, which is evident. Should you consider allowing her the freedom to pursue other interests, or should you attempt to rekindle the relationship, work harder to manage the relationship, and address the underlying issues together with your girlfriend? If you wish to reconcile, it would be beneficial to communicate with your girlfriend again. It would be helpful to gain a deeper understanding of her needs, empathize with her difficulties, and strive harder to find a solution.

I hope the original poster can regroup. I'm uncertain if the above suggestions can help you win back your girlfriend, but every relationship should have a summary and review. Only by understanding the problem can you continue moving forward in a better state. Even if the relationship fails, you can learn from the experience, build on your strengths and avoid your weaknesses, and prepare for the next relationship.

Good evening!

At this time, I'm not sure what to say, but I'm excited to find out! I think the best way to express what I want to say is with this English sentence: "I'm sorry for your loss."

It's really quite simple! She doesn't know how to comfort you, but she wants to say something.

From your description of the problem, it seems like your girlfriend broke up with you suddenly and unexpectedly.

Like many men, when their wives mention divorce, they feel that their lives are not good enough and insist on getting a divorce in a pretentious manner.

This can only be said to be the case for you, and for many similarly divorced men: you have a lot to learn!

The quiet years you thought you had probably involved a lot of grievances on the part of your girlfriend. She may have expressed them to you, but you didn't pay attention.

You think these two years have been the best of your life, but for your girlfriend, there were many times when she suffered and held it all inside.

If she could persevere for two years, it is probably because she loves you dearly! Otherwise, she would not have suffered in silence, endured the pressure from your family, and stayed with you for two years.

But you didn't see her grievances. Maybe she did express them, but you didn't care, so she simply stopped talking about them and hoped that you would see her grievances one day.

But you didn't see it, and you didn't respond. One reason is that you really didn't see it, which is totally understandable!

Some people don't pay much attention to their girlfriend's emotions, which is probably related to their upbringing and life experiences. But there's so much they can learn and grow from!

Another reason is that they see it, but they think it's normal. This is especially true if their parents have followed this pattern, but still spent their whole lives arguing.

The typical response is, "How did everyone else get through it, and why can't you?"

You didn't say what you miss about your time together. Is it the good two years? I can only speculate, but I'm excited to find out!

If you want to save your relationship, you've got to look at the past two years from a new perspective! Think about what you did and what your girlfriend did, and see if there are ways you can make things right.

You can also find a female friend to help you understand the harm your actions have caused from a female perspective, which is a great idea!

You can also seek counseling. It's time for a fresh start! Take a look at your relationship over the past two years from different points of view. You'll be amazed at what you discover!

Then, communicate with your girlfriend honestly, regardless of whether it can be salvaged, to let her know that her grievances and efforts have been seen. This is an amazing opportunity for you both to have a truly honest conversation about what you need and want from each other.

As for the outcome, I'm excited to see what happens!

I am a psychological counselor who is often depressed and sometimes optimistic. The world and I love you!

I was instantly drawn to your title and envied young people in love! They're bold, decisive, and firm in their feelings.

From your description, I can feel your confusion and helplessness, and it has interrupted your romantic dreams. Those beautiful years have come to an abrupt end. If I were you, I would feel inexplicable too. And there is no reason given.

The answer is simple: she's tired and aggrieved! I've been in a marriage for 26 years, and I'm excited to share some of my insights with you.

First of all, there is no love without a reason, and there is no hatred without a reason. And there's definitely a reason behind a girl's decision to break up!

You've got to find a way to understand what's really going on here. If it's true that spending two years with her has been too much for you, then you've got to find out what it is that's making her so upset.

For example, you can discuss the cause and effect of a certain matter. Then, you can talk about feelings!

Second, find the points of difference between you. Girls are more emotional and also tolerant, which is great!

When she cares about you, she'll stick by your side through thick and thin. A girl with a positive outlook on life will never let a minor hiccup get in the way of her happiness. At the same time, I hope you can understand this tolerance of hers, and I hope you can also consider her thoughts and feelings!

Did you? It would be so great if you had!

So, the feelings that can make a woman give up are basically the decisions that have been building up in her heart for a long time and that she has let go of only when she is exhausted. She will not let go of her feelings because there is too much sadness and grievance behind it, but there is also the possibility that she will let go of them because she has found something better!

A woman is always ready to pay for love. What she wants is for you to be excited about her, to appreciate her, and to treat her with kindness and respect. She wants you to enjoy the good things she gives you while also treating her with love and admiration. You think she is invulnerable, but in her heart she is already full of holes.

Is that it?

And then, communicate well. Talk about your feelings and thoughts. After two years together, there should be a lot of trivial things in life. It's so important to ask her about these things!

It's so important to remember that in many cases of a relationship breaking down, it's not always the big events that cause problems, but rather the little things. So, pay attention to the seemingly small things!

And last but not least, you should definitely discuss some topics before marriage, which will also give the girl a sense of security! For example, the distribution of property, the city of residence, and the issue of supporting one's parents in their old age.

The best kind of love is probably this: you make my heart flutter, you make me feel at ease, you know my cold and heat, I understand your joys and sorrows. I admire you like a hero, and you love me like a child.

I also wish you an early resolution of your problems! Think carefully about what action to take, and I'm sure you'll make the right decision.

You've got to try to find out what the result will be! Go for it!

Hello question asker. I'm happy to answer.

The questioner has been dating his girlfriend for two years. She broke up with him last week without warning. Is the questioner just wallowing in his grief?

It's hard to feel this way when you're apart from someone you love. It's especially hard to accept a breakup without warning, especially when you've experienced the good things in the relationship. I hope I can give you strength.

It's hard to let go of a beautiful love. The girlfriend cried and said she'd been wronged several times in the past two years and there was a lot of pressure at home.

I don't know what the OP thinks, but I want to know what the problem is. Why didn't the OP's girlfriend bring it up? Does the OP know? Is the OP's girlfriend's family pressuring her?

In China, when a man and a woman fall in love, it is a family matter. Has the questioner met his girlfriend's family? What is the questioner's view of the future of this relationship?

Do you want to stay together or get married?

Has the questioner made a plan for the future?

We can't discuss everything in depth here, so I'll just give a quick analysis of the question.

Set a goal for this relationship.

What do you want from this relationship? Do you want to work it out or end it?

Should I keep the relationship? How can I win my girlfriend back?

Keep trying. Your sincerity will impress your girlfriend and her family.

If you don't want to reconcile, just be sad. Do something you like to distract yourself. If that doesn't work, see a counselor.

If you want to win back your girlfriend, here are a few suggestions:

1. Change your mindset.

It's sad after a breakup. Don't give up on yourself. If your girlfriend breaks up with you, you may be sad and upset. Some people even think about suicide. If you try to win her back while you're in a bad mood, it's unlikely to succeed.

To win back your partner, adjust your mentality and deal with the breakup calmly.

You must calm down, reflect on your mistakes, and apologize. Only then will your girlfriend feel your sincerity and accept your apology.

2. Think about what you did wrong.

After identifying the biggest problem with the breakup, we must reflect on our own faults. After reflection, you will understand this relationship differently. The questioner's girlfriend said that she has been wronged several times in the past two years. Find out which party is at fault.

Is it hers or yours? What's the problem?

Figure it out and correct it. Don't make the same mistake again.

3. Improve yourself.

Use this time to improve yourself. Work on your mentality, image, communication skills, and techniques. Make big changes so you're ready to reappear in front of your girlfriend. Many guys realize after a breakup that they had a bad image, weren't funny, or lacked skills.

If your girlfriend's family is pressuring her, be clear about your future plans. Wait until you see her again to make a good impression.

If the other person doesn't give you a chance, create your own and fight for it. You can still make changes.

I hope this helps.

Hello, question asker!

After reading your account, I can tell you're hurting. As they say, falling in love is never easy for men and women. It can be as close as glue or as distant as if they were apart. I can very much understand how you feel right now.

What should you do if your girlfriend suddenly asks for a breakup?

1. Take a closer look at the reasons why your girlfriend wants to break up.

Take the time to understand why your girlfriend wants to break up with you.

Is it because of your personalities or your circumstances?

Or is it because you're usually too negligent and don't pay attention to the other person's feelings, or do you also pick on her and demand a lot? Think carefully about the arguments you have. How does the other person usually "accuse you"?

For instance, after a fight, a woman might say, "You never care about my feelings. You only stand up for yourself at all times. I can't take it anymore..." What she's really saying is that she wants the man to pay more attention to her, to her emotions, and to think things from her perspective. She wants him to be more considerate and understanding.

Is it because the parents don't approve or because of other external factors? If the parents don't approve, you'll need to find out why they don't think highly of the man.

First, figure out why your girlfriend wants to break up with you, and then find the best way to handle it.

2. Stay in touch with your girlfriend and keep the lines of communication open.

Be open and honest with your girlfriend. Listen to her and communicate clearly. Based on how well you communicate, you can decide whether to break up or continue the relationship.

When you're talking to your girlfriend, it's important to be sincere. The main thing you're trying to do is clear up any misunderstandings and work out any conflicts so you can keep working together. So, when you're talking to her, be polite and sincere, listen carefully and patiently, and remember not to argue with her or shirk responsibility.

3. Take a good, honest look at yourself and make the necessary changes.

It's been said that in any relationship, both people are responsible for making it work. If your girlfriend wants to break up with you, it's also true that she's unhappy for a reason. You need to recognize your own shortcomings and make changes based on the situation.

Take a dialectical approach to the problems you have.

If something is congenital or an inalterable personal ability, then you just have to accept it. For example, some people are born disabled.

If you can fix it yourself and it'll help the relationship, then you should do it. It's not good to never think about yourself. When things go wrong, it's always someone else's fault.

4. Improve your overall quality and ability.

Become a more motivated and ambitious person, and strive to become more mature, responsible, and outstanding.

Sometimes the main reason a girlfriend breaks up with her boyfriend is that he's not good enough or mature enough, and she feels like she can't see a future with him. But nobody's born good or mature. It's a process. As long as you work hard and have a motivated heart, you won't be afraid.

So, a guy who studies hard, works hard, and constantly improves his abilities and qualities is attractive.

In short, couples don't break up for no reason. It's smart to identify the problem, face it, and deal with it.

Wishing you the best!

Good day, To whom it may concern,

It appears that you were unprepared for your girlfriend's abrupt separation and initially struggled to process the situation. You experienced a range of emotions, including confusion.

I appreciate that this has been a confusing and painful experience for you.

I am curious to learn more about the characteristics of your girlfriend and your own, as well as your communication style.

If you wish to gain insight, I suggest considering the following perspectives:

(1) It is not the last incident that causes a significant issue to arise, but rather the accumulation of previous incidents.

It takes more than a single day to accumulate three feet of snow. The circumstances that led to your current situation may have been influenced by multiple instances of communication from your former partner.

Your perspective was clouded by your own narcissism.

Please provide a rationale for your assertion that the past two years were a significant burden for your former partner.

There are two types of bias: cognitive and perceptual.

When interacting with each other in a professional setting, timely expression of feelings and needs is sufficient.

Does this signal to the other person that something is amiss?

It is unfortunate that you are unaware of the situation, and your girlfriend has chosen to interact in a way that is compromising and tolerant.

As a result, she became increasingly frustrated and eventually reached a breaking point, leading to a complete breakdown and the cessation of her efforts.

(2) Is there an opportunity for the girlfriend to accept the love you express?

Please allow me to present a fable for your consideration.

Once upon a time, there was a fisherman and his wife. The fisherman went out to sea every day to catch fish. He selected the largest fish each time.

They prepare the fish together for consumption by the family. He believes his wife prefers the fish head, so he leaves it for her to eat each time he cooks the fish.

Furthermore, the wife is aware that her husband prefers the fish body, and therefore leaves it for him to eat.

As time passed, the couple continued to age together.

One day, the fisherman was dying and said to his wife, "

Dear Sir/Madam, I am writing to request permission to sample the fish head, which I understand is a particular favorite of mine. Thank you for your consideration. Sincerely, [Signature]

I have set aside the remainder for you.

The wife then stated, "I am aware that you prefer the fish belly, so I have set aside a portion for you."

I have also left the fish body for you.

...

If a couple is unaware of the other person's preferences and feelings,

Do you believe that bestowing love upon another individual can become a burden or a source of pressure?

All forms of love have the potential to become controlling and hurtful.

(3) Is there a way to salvage this situation?

The potential for reconciliation depends on the strength of the love connections that still exist.

If you combine the characteristics of your personalities, interests, family backgrounds, worldviews, and many other factors,

If you examine the two circles between you as a single entity, you will be able to identify the areas of overlap.

The greater the degree of alignment between the two profiles, the more potential points of connection for a romantic relationship, and the higher the probability of reconciliation.

(4) How to Let Go

If your girlfriend has made it clear that she does not love you, continuing to love her is not a productive use of your time and energy.

This is an unproductive and self-indulgent approach.

Instead of expending energy in futile struggle, it would be prudent to consider how to let go, as only by doing so

There may be new possibilities to consider.

If you indicate that you are unable to let go, it is important to ascertain whether your reluctance is driven by narcissistic or prideful tendencies that prevent you from losing face.

Is it truly unfeasible to accept the abrupt departure of a close associate?

If the latter is the case, it may constitute a traumatic injury that requires a prolonged period of recovery.

Naturally, the period of recuperation may be shortened if you engage the services of a qualified counselor.

I am here to support you. Please do not hesitate to contact me at Yixinli.

Hello, question asker!

I read your words carefully, and I understand your feelings. Let me be clear: since your girlfriend broke up with you in tears, you have been living in the darkest days of your life in the past few days. You need hugs!

You must realize that the two years you spent with him were the most beautiful two years of your 30 years of life. Just imagine how beautiful it was, and then you will know how much your heart hurts now. This pain came so suddenly, like you said, it was really a bolt from the blue. I understand how you feel like a walking corpse during the day, and how you choke back your tears with thoughts of her late at night. I hug you again!

You were so absorbed in the relationship that you never imagined this would happen. You thought you and she were in it for the long haul. You were certain she was your one and only, and you were his one and only too. You couldn't fathom that anyone could change, let alone that she would change and that your relationship would change too.

But life is unpredictable. You can't represent her, and your experience doesn't represent hers. We're in this situation today, and we have to face it. We're in pain, confused, and helpless, but the truth is that it has happened. We're grieving, and as sadness turns into a river, we have to stay calm and rational.

I'm going to tell you how to stay rational and calm. I'm going to share my views based on my own experience!

Let me be clear: moving on is not easy. You must be prepared for this and face the situation with courage. This courage must first be directed at yourself. In other words, reflect on how you, 31 years old, got along with her, 25 years old, in this two-year relationship. When I read your words:

I was heartbroken. In that moment, I knew it was too late.

I was perplexed. Why did I give you this impression? I knew it was too late for everything. I don't know what my girlfriend said to you while crying, what she said about the situation at that time. But I just kept thinking, in a relationship where the two people quarrel and quarrel, break up and get back together many times, you two probably had minor arguments before, after all, it's been two years!

You need to understand why this time is so serious. You said in the title that you don't know why, but I think you should find the courage to find the reason for yourself. Don't let sorrow flow against the current like a river.

You need to find out why. You might think you know why, but you don't. You think that's the way it should be, so you get along. You don't know it doesn't suit her. Listen to your friends. Ask her out. She might have told you something during her tears.

Start with her grievances and her patience. Reflect on yourself. Use critical thinking. Talk to her again to see if there's a misunderstanding. Be more tolerant of each other.

Give her the strength to move on. Work out your relationship problems first, then face her family together.

I'll explain why I made this suggestion. I think your girlfriend broke up with you in tears. She still has feelings for you, but she's exhausted and reaching out to you for help in the face of pressure from her family and the way you've treated her. This is the only way she can save herself. She's resentful! (To clarify, I don't know how you two get along.)

This is how I feel, and I'm sticking to it.

As you said, the key is in ourselves.

I will make amends. I will not let her go.

If we just let it go and don't try to fix things, and if we really feel that way inside, and if we think that it was a good idea, then we must make amends for our mistakes. However, I need to remind you here that you must be careful not to go overboard. If you become obsessive, that would be wrong.

I also want to say that I really can't let her go here. Think about it this way: why can't you let her go? She's no longer under the pressure of leaving your family, and she's no longer suffering from the suffocation she's been feeling for the past two years! So, she probably left to pursue her own happiness. We're doing this for our own happiness. If we did our best, but things cannot be undone, then we're not a good match. We don't need to let her go. Do you agree?

Finally, we have been sad for several days. Get a pen and paper, or use your phone's voice-recognition software, and write down your reflections and what you plan to do in the future. Write everything down, from the beginning to the end. Thinking about it won't help. Only writing will sort out your thoughts. Recall the bits and pieces of the past two years, find clues to things that can move forward, and use your own power to salvage this beauty as much as possible. But I still want to caution that moderation is really important.

I wish you a wonderful love. You will find it! The world and I love you!